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friends and drugs
My social life is like a roller coaster. Sometimes I won't have any plans for a month, and then other times I'm hanging out with people twice a day and then again at night, but every time I fall into a slump I find myself turning to drugs as a way back into the social scheme. This is how things go most of the time. I'll have more or less no friends. Then I'll buy some weed or something, talk to some folks and they'll want to go get high with me. Some of my other friends will see me hanging out with people again and want to go downtown or to a movie with me, then im done with the drugs. With my social life back on track I usually meet a girl and then I tend to get really caught up in that and the rest of my life suffers, when the relationship is over i find myself back at the start and thinking about doing drugs again. Even when I don't meet a girl something usually has the same effect, sports, school, something like that. Anyone have any ideas of how I can keep my social life on track without having to resort to drugs?
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NEVER EVER RESORT TO DRUGS! Drugs can kill you. You should stop now! Try and make friends with all the different kids in your school, then when you don't have some friends to hang out with you can resort to the new friends you made. Or you can even hang out with a sibling or a family member, they're just as cool. But please, never resort back to drugs!
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Well,first of all,you're soooo not alone!We all experience some slumps in our social lives at times.The key is learning to enjoy a little alone time,spend some time on positive things you enjoy.Maybe writing or video games,or a certain sport,drawing,anything productive you like to do.It sounds to me like you tend to overload yourself with things,whether it's things to do or emotions you have.Also,any friends that keep encouraging you to do drugs or only want to hang out with you when they see you do drugs,are not TRUE friends at all!!!Drugs are definitely NOT the road you wanna take!!!!!Surround yourself with positive things and people that make you happy and keep your mind off of drugs.And that keep you from wanting to turn to drugs as soon as some stress enters your life.If you find yourself unable to stop thinking about or doing drugs,or unable to cope in a tough situation w/o them,then as much as you don't want to,it might be time to seek some professional help!!!I wish you all the best and I'll be thinking about you!!Please check back with me and let me know how you are!!!!
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Don't let it stop. If you get in this slump everytime your social life gets a little low, then simply don't let it stop. Grantid, you're going to want to take a break from things every once in a while, but maybe if out of your group of friends, you found a BEST friend, one of them who you'll want to spend most of your time with, who hangs with "the group." Doing drugs definatly isn't the right awnser to things at all, face the problem head on, without using the drugs. It seems like you may overhwelm yourself with things. Like the whole girl thing, like you said you get caught up... it's probably the same with hanging out with you friends all the time. You're having so much fun and you're in the moment, you don't want it to end, and then boom, it does. I don't know you so I don't know exactly what to say but... When it ends so fast like that, when the track you're on just stops, it might feel like you don't know what to do anymore. Maybe...Maybe if you kept in mind that these hanging out with your friends 24/7 thing usually come to a stop at some point, like maybe if you just rememberd that, and tried not to get too caught up in the situation with your friends, you wouldn't resort to using drugs afterwards. I'm not saying don't let yourself havea good time, by all means do that, I'm just saying don't make it your entire life and just make it seem like that'll be all there is to do, and then when it stops get overwhelmed and then go back to drugs. It's hard to describe what I'm trying to say in words but that was the best I could do, well I could go on more but that would be one big ol' response, if you want me to go into it more just hit up my advice column. I really hope you can find a better way than using drugs...
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It sounds like maybe you over-do it some days. Maybe instead of hanging out with people all day long and then again at night...spend only a few hours with them. Then tehy will hang out with you on other day also. I think that maybe you wear out your welcome, even though you don't mean to.
About your girl problems. Just know when you date a girl, this is not the girl you are goign to marry. You are still young, and you should date differnet people untill you find "the one". Don't let them get you down b/c you are your own individual person and you shouldn't need the support of other people to keep you from being depressed.
About the drug thing, think about it this way. After you get high, you moe or less get friends. If you have to get high to get these people to hang out with you. What kind of friends are they? maybe you should try and find friends that will always be there for you, and that won't let you do drugs..they will help you stop doing them.
Hope I Helped........Alina
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