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Hi! I'm thirteen years old, and I'm writing a love story about two girls. I'm currently working on the outline. The problem is, I cannot think of any new ideas.
I'm not the best at making up new ideas. For anyone on here who is an author, how do you think of ideas when you're writing an outline for a story?
Anyway, here is what the story is about:
The main characters are named Estelle and Irisa, and they are both gay. Estelle comes from a homophobic Catholic family, and she goes to a private Catholic school. Irisa comes from a tolerant family and goes to a public school. They sometimes see one another on the walk home, but they didn't pay much attention to each other until they saw each other at their favorite restaurant.
They start talking and start to become better friends. They also talk when they see each other on the walk home from school, and they start liking one another.
Irisa is also teased at school because she is out of the closet. Estelle is not out of the closet, but she cuts herself because she hates hiding how she really feels. One day on the walk home, Irisa and Estelle make a pact to help each other with their problems. They grow closer but don't realize that the feelings they have for each other are mutual.
One day, Irisa tells Estelle that she likes her. Estelle says she likes her back, and they start going out in secret.
That is the main idea of what I have so far. I would like any advice on how to think of more ideas for things that can happen next. Any suggestions on things I can do to complicate the plot, as well as suggestions for important events that can happen next, would also be appreciated. Thank you! And I'm sorry this is such a weird question. (link)
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Oh thank you haha:) yeah i hope that helped.When youre done message me so i can give you my email or something. Im not gonna post it in public but yeah haha
Oh I'm 16 and I love writing too. And yeah its pretty hard coming up with ideas. Inspiration can come from many things, sometimes there is a dry spell of when you can't think of anything and sometimes it just pops out of no where whether it's from tv or movie or the people and things that happen around you..just always be aware of everything and take everything in and you might find something that intrigues you that you can add to your story. And your story sounds very good so far. Some ideas are that maybe estelle has an older sibling who finds out about her relationship and threatens to tell their parents and the sibling becomes abusive and shames her and makes her feel like shit for what she is doing and Estelle feels sick and dirty and the sibling messes with her head so much that she doesnt know what to do or who to trust and begins self harming even more and falls into depression and doesnt tell anyone including irisa and she starts ignoring irisa. And then one night irisa sneaks over her house to talk and see whats been up. And right when estelle is finally opening up and telling her everything that has happened and how she misses and loves her and they have a deep convo, estelles sibling bursts in and they get into a huge fight and the sibling is cussing at her and pushing her around calling her names and irisa is trying to break it up and punches the sibling in the face and the sibling runs out to tell their parents about the horrible things estelle has done. While the sibling is gone they decide to act, to leave. They jump out the window and run and run and they run away and live their lives together and um yeah. Thats all i got haha sorry if those suggestions sucked but yeah. When youre done with your story id love to read it. You can send me a link of where youre gonna post it or a link to the document or something
And yeah good luck with your story!
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I am 15 and if i am myself im considered wierd and i cant get a popular cute boyfriend and now that im homeschooled its even harder help (link)
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Im 16. And who cares if your considered weird? Be yourself, those people don't matter. And having a cute, popular boyfriend doesnt matter either. Just be yourself, talk to different guys and just take your time. And btw dont be desperate, thats not cute at all. Just calm down and maybe youll fall for a boy you never expected to fall for. He doesnt have to be cute and popular. And tbh reading this was really shocking. I'm basically your age and I cant understand why youre so desperate for a bf. But yeah well anyway good luck
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I am a fail at everything I do. My whole family skipped a grade in math. I just took the test for it, I failed it. My twin brother almost aced it. WHY CAN'T I BE MORE LIKE MY TWIN BROTHER!!! My family is nice and supportive but I just don't understand. I don't WANT TO BE THE LOSER OF THe FAMILY!!!! I'm a girl, a preteen. (link)
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It's okay dont feel bad about it. Sometimes people are just good and better at different things from each other. It doesnt make you a fail, it just means you havent discovered your gift and what comes natural and easy to you yet or you havent tried hard enough in anything to become better at it. So just keep studying a lot and trying hard and trying different things until you find your thing. And dont be discouraged it you suck at something at first, everyone sucks at first. But thats okay keep trying and practicing things and yeah hope that helped a bit, good luck!
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I'm a fourteen yearold female named Laura and I have dreams of being a writer or an actress, but I have two things holding me back: Stagefright and my low self esteem.
Let's start with the self esteem issue: I never really feel good about myself because I'm so fat. I'm trying to lose weight but it's not easy. I get made fun of because if it. I also worry about not being good enough. I look at writer's like Suzanne Collins (author of the Hunger Games) and actors like Lindsay Lohan (in her younger years in The Parent Trap, not now of course), and I think "I'll never be as good as them.... I'll never have a nice body like Lindsay or skill as good as Suzanne."
Stagefright: I can't share my writing with anyone (not even my parents) or perform in front of anyone without freezing up. I am amazing in my bedroom alone, but when the time comes to show off or audition I'm terrible and shaky and quiet.
So what can I do to help myself? (link)
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First, you need to start loving yourself and feeling good about you. All those kids at your school are just stupid asswipes so don't listen to them. Big, curvy girls are beautiful too so dont feel like you have to be skinny to feel good. Just be healthy and stay fit. Eat right and work out dont do anything drastic or unhealthy to make yourself skinnier. And this isnt about what other people think of you, its what you think of you. Are you doing the best you can? Are you putting yourself into your work? You may not be the best or as good as other writers or actors but its okay, you just have to be the best you. I love to write too, and tbh i think i suck at it, but its okay im putting myself into it, my thoughts and emotions, making it how i want it to be. And for now thats all that really matters. As you get older and mature youll writing will improve. Just read and write and study your vocab and grammar and youll get better. You dont have to show anyone now, do it when youre ready and feel confident. Or post the story online as anonymous and see how people think of it then, theyre more likely to be honest about it. Theres websites like wattpad and fanfiction. Also for the acting thing, maybe you can join an acting class or camp and thatll make you come out of your shell. And yeah i hope that helped.And if you ever write a story id be happy to read it. I love reading stories from other young writers like me, its so cool. Okay well good luck!
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Hi, I'm a 14 year old girl who will be a sophomore in HS in the fall. I honestly think that I wasn't meant to have friends. As long as I can remember, even back in kindergarten, I've been bullied. Growing up, I would get invited to birthday parties by the parents, but when I got there the kid would say they didn't want me there. :( I've had years where I would come home and cry for hours every day because I was so miserable. Fast forward to the present. Everyone at my high school is so shallow that it drives me insane. Don't tell me to join clubs to meet new people, because my school has 300 people and everyone is exactly the same. I had a lunch table of people that I sat with this year, but I have nothing in common with them. They barely said anything to me at all this entire year. People think that I'm a nerd. I get straight A's without even trying because I've basically given up on myself. Plus, everyone likes to pick on me because I'm younger (in my town for some reason, freshmen are sixteen years old, but I was thirteen). I really hate my life. I WANT to be able to go out and have fun with friends, go on dates (I've never had a boyfriend and probably will never have one), and do stuff, but I'm just so depressed. I don't even feel fulfilled doing the things I used to like doing. My entire life revolves around regurgitating A grades to keep my parents happy. I don't want to live like this... Last year I started cutting but it didn't make me feel better. Thanks for reading this far. Help.... (link)
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Don't let these people get to you. Obviously none of them are worth your time and you just havent found the right person or people that are good enough to be friends with you yet. The truth of it is is that a lot of people are shallow and jerks and its right of you to not surround yourself with those types of people. What you need to do is just relax and stay positive. Everything happens for a reason and maybe this is suppose to a learning experience for you..(okay now wait just keep reading, this might not be total crap just stay with me)..this could be the time for you to really get to know yourself, try new things and become your own bestfriend. I know it'll be hard and theres always gonna be that desire to be with people and experience those things you do with friends as a teenager.. I know, I'm 15 years old and I'm alone most of the time with few friends and I dont really get to experience those things either. So dont feel alone and miserable. Stay positive and use this oppurtunity to become your best friend, build up your self confidence by focusing on the positive things about yourself and trying to improve or change the things you dislike. Don't let other people get to you because theyre not worth it and dont change for other people. Be yourself, be confident and try new things, experience things on your own. Go out for a walk, take in all the beauty around you, exercise, learn about new things, listen to music and sing and dance your heart out. Write about your feelings, draw, do photography, volunteer somewhere, pray, cook, just live and be you and enjoy life, you dont need those assholes to be happy. If you be you and love yourself and are confident, youll attract the right people into your life and will find someone. Itll be okay and if you ever need to talk, you can inbox me, ill always be there to listen. So yeah I hope this helped, stay strong!
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So i asked many questions about her, and decided to summarize everything. We are friends and we flirt sometimes, i tease her and she teases me also sometimes. But sometimes it doesnt seem like she likes me, there is a rumor some of her "friends" told us guys that she is in doubt between one of us guys, but he likes another girl, and me. But these are just rumors, so i dont really know what to do. I was planning to ask her out on my best-friends Facebook account since i dont have one and if she rejects me i can just pretend that i am my best-friend. What do YOU think i should do? (link)
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I think you should ask her out face to face, your way is kindof cowardly, sorry. But before you ask her out make sure you talk to her about her feelings and get it straight. So if she does like u, asking her out wont be as bad. Okay well good luck!
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Ok, so bascially I get on really well with one of my teachers, to the point that it borders on a crush. He's never actually taught me but he is the teacher who knows me best at the school and has done so much for me during my time at the school.
I'm 15 and he's in his late 20's so I know nothing can happen between us, but I genuinely love him as a friend and person. Things at school have been going really well lately and me and him have been getting closer than ever.
The problem is he is leaving at the end of the school year and I don't know how to cope without him. I was getting to the point where I was beginning to deal with it but then another bombshell hit today. He's not just moving to a different school, he's moving really far away and I will literally never see him again.
I really want to talk to him about it but I don't know what to say - he hasn't announced to the school that he's leaving yet... Please help! (link)
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Maybe you could find a way to keep in contact with him, like on facebook. I'm friends with old teachers on facebook and it's not considered innapropriate. You could talk to him about how youre going to miss and ask him if theres a way you could still keep in contact or see him, in a friend/mentor sort of way. You could email or message each other on facebook, asking how one another is once in a while and I wouldnt consider that innapropriate, ive done that before. Just talk to him openly about it and if you can find out ways to talk to him thatd be great. I hope everything works out okay and that you can still keep in touch. And maybe when you're 18 your relationship with him can be more casual and you could talk to each other more, like on the phone etc. Alright well good luck!
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I guess it's not very uncommon for a high schooler, but my friend seems to have big communication, self-esteem, and hypersensitivity issues. She can't handle any sort of conflict, preferring to let relationships go before confronting anyone. She's unable to face any sort of criticism or serious conversation without complete withdrawal or a breakdown. She refuses to believe in any compliment and hardly initiates contact in any of her friendship, but gets upset if her friends seem closer to each other than her. I first realized that she may have problems when during an 8th grade sleepover, we drew on her face when she fell asleep and she got angry because she felt ganged up on. She didn't tell us any of this, but instead acted perfectly fine. She barely spoke to us for a few days (which is normal for her), and we started getting angry. Later on, when everything was okay, I made a reference to the sleepover without much thought, when she started crying and admitted that she cut herself during that time because she knew we were upset with her. According to her other friends, she has cut before, especially during arguments with her family. Her parents have not been able to give her much attention, due to their jobs and the fact that she has two older siblings. She seems to take care of herself most of the times, making most meals for herself and hanging out until late. Although that may be normal, that seems slightly strange to me and my friends (or it could be that we're overprotected..). My friend always says stuff about her siblings having been the ones to raise her and them being the only ones who care if she comes home too late or something. My friend's mom and my mom have separately told us that the friend seems to have some sort of emotional problem due to a lack of affection/attention. Seriously, it's difficult to try and talk to her without her starting to sob. She seems to lack a lot of coping skills. I don't know if this relates, but she has been bullied? (I don't know the seriousness, but I don't think it was that bad) for a year in a different school and molested (she didn't reveal too many details, from what I gather it was a one-time thing and not really serious touching or anything) by a older guy when she was much younger. She doesn't speak of any of this as a big deal, though. It's been around a year since I last heard she cut, but I don't see a reason for her to have stopped. She's leaving to homestay in another country with a stranger in May and I'm worried that with the intensified loneliness and probable conflicts (because she's switching from a strict private school to a public school, where I know people are going to be meaner and blunter) she isn't going to fit in and she might try something drastic. I might be biased because I heard to many boarding school and homestay horror stories because my dad was a therapist for suicidal boarding school kids. Three separate friends have discussed with me about telling an adult throughout the course of my 7-year friendship with this girl. I'm convinced that even if she doesn't do anything drastic, she's going to lead a very difficult life in the future. I want to know that before she leaves, I did all I could to help just in case something DOES happen. However, I don't know if it's my business. I don't even what I would say, since I'm not even sure if she cuts anymore. Should I tell the school counselor? How much should I reveal? I think she may have some sort of emotional disorder...Also, what if she turns on me and spreads rumors or my secrets? Help! A friend and I are planning on talking to the counselor tomorrow. (link)
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Well first off you sound like an amazing friend to have, she's very lucky to have you. Anyway I think you should first talk to her, have a real serious conversation with her asking her if shes okay, that you want her to be okay and that you want to listen to her problems and just have her open up to you and feel like she can talk to someeone and just talk about it. Be like I know you have problems and I'm very concerned about you and I just want to help you before you go, I want you to be happy and feel good about yourself. And ask and let her tell you about all her feelings and everything and just be there to listen and then suggest she go to a therapist. I wouldnt use the school councelor, I tried that once and ugh they were just not helpful at all. Unless yours is like a real professional, and doesnt make you feel all awkward and says stupid crap then yeah sure. But I don't really trust schools so maybe just a real therapist seperate from school. & offer to go with her and if she cries or gets angry with you for suggesting such a thing, just be calm. Be gentle and tell her its okay and that you just want to help her and that seeing a therapist could be good for her. She'd get to express her emotions and be helped and learn how to handle things better. Maybe even suggest you'll go to therapy too so that she doesnt feel alone or like that its a horrible, weird thing to do but that youd be willing to do it too and that its okay. And when she moves, make sure she knows and has a way to be able to contact you or her therapist whenever she needs you guys so that she wont be completely alone or feel lonely. I hope this helped and I hope your friend gets better! If you have any other questions, feel free to inbox me:) good luck!
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Hello! I'm 14/F. The question is clear. ☆彡I enjoy writing. I find this other world I can look forward to when I write. I'm not the best writer, never will be. I've also never shown anyone my work except teachers and friends I don't talk to anymore. I just desire for some feedback on my writing so I can improve. But I'm doubtful. My older sister has been the writer of the family, and she's really good. She has good stories in mind and is just better than me. I'm left feeling discouraged. (_ _).｡o○ Is there a way where I can feel comfortable showing my work? I keep thinking others will be bored with what I'm writing, so that's another reason why. Thanks! (^o^)/ (Also sorry if this is rather long) (link)
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Um if you post it on a website somewhere you could post the link on my wall?
Ah I know what you mean. I love writing too! And well if they are close friends or relatives you want to show it to then I'm sure they wouldnt mind reading your stuff, if you're really unsure then ask them their honest opinion if they really like it and if they really wanna read it or not. If they don't , don't be discouraged. You're still young and you will improve and get better and you want honest opinions if they arent always what you like dont worry, just try again and strive to get better. If you want you could make a fanfic or go on some website where u could post your stories or excerpts of your stories and it would be anonymous. And people could read it if they want and then make comments and make suggestions and you'll know what you could improve on. But don't worry or be self conscious or discouraged youll get better and even if your first drafts and stories are boring, theyre just your first works. Its okay! I hope that helped. And I'd love to read your stories if you dont mind you could post a link to them or something on my profile. I like reading other young writers stories as I am one myself:) good luck
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All I think about non stop is the past and regrets over the past. All I keep thinking about is "I wish I had did this or I had done that" or "I wish I had talked to that person or that person" or "I wish I had participated in this or that activity". That is all I think about. Hell, next year from now, I will probably be thinking the same way about right now! how can I stop regretting over the past or longing for the past and focus on now? I just can't do it. I am 21 year old by the way (link)
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Everyone has regrets and wish they couldve done more, trust me theres so much ive wanted to do. But you know what its okay cause youre still REALLY young! Its your time to start doing something now. To start taking risks and doing all the things you want to and the way you want to so that you dont have to say oh I shouldve done more...when you could be doing it right now. You know how you feel when you know youve missed out on oppurtunties and didnt do anything , why make urself feel that way again ? You'll always have regrets but when you have the time, you should start doing things now so one day you can look back and say, damn im really glad I did all that. So stop worrying about the past, you cant get the back. Just focus on today, what do you want to do today? Where do you wanna go? Who do you wanna be with? And when you figure that out you go and do it and have the time of your life and your life will be better than ever. All those mistakes and regrets are supposed to happen so we learn from them and try not to let it happen ever again, so why r u letting it happen again??? Do something! Be happy! Do all the things you want to do. Go make stuff happen for yourself and then just think about those things and how youre happy about how youre doing things that you wanna do now instead of torturing yourself over the past. You have that power to do what you want..go do it! Hope that helps
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I am a 36 year old female...married but have recently been feeling some sort of way for another guy. This man is married as well and it has been brought to my attention that he is feeling the same way about me...the way we feel has not been acknowledged but we are quietly aware. We have a mutual friend that we both "confide" in and she feels sorry for the both of us. She is an older lady who works with us..oh yes he works with me. He makes it a point to come to my office daily just to see me and say hello. We have NEVER done anything together but talk...it has also been brought to my attention that our chemistry and connection is noticeable. This feeling that I have for him is driving me crazy and I want to tell him something so badly that will make this stop. He has told our mutual friend that he doesnt know where this feeling came from and he doesn't understand why this is happening and I honestly don't either. I love when he comes by to say hello to me, I enjoy seeing him but I wish he would stop...but not really. Again nothing has ever been done or acknowledged its just a huge huge elephant hanging out in the room. So what should I do, I want to talk to him, get these feelings acknowledged and figure out how to stop or end this situation before something starts. (link)
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Yes maybe you should acknowledge and get it out in the open and make it known that nothing can happen and maybe just not be around each other for a while so this feeling can go away. However, what if it never does? What if this is not just a crush? And its true love? What if you both feel more connected and more love towards one another than towards your own spouses? If this is true maybe you shouldn't say that nothing can ever be done, what if this is the one for you? You can't let that slip through your fingers. Or waste time with someone else who you don't feel as strongly towards and vice versa. What if you always ignore these feelings towards your coworker and stay in your okay marriage and youre never as happy as you couldve been and your spouse and his spouse will never had had the chance to find someone who they truly love who truly loves them too? I think you need to talk about this with him and you need to test this and analyze this to see if its just a crush or something way more than that. Spend some time away from each other, spend more time with your spouses, see if its the same connection, if you feel strongly towards your spouses than towards each other ,If you realize you and your coworker just liked each other and that it was just nice to have someone at work who noticed you. If thats not the case if you both know in your hearts that this is real, you should be together. And you should give your spouses the chance to find true love like you guys have. If you have kids this might be more difficult. But I believe that if you have found someone you truly love and connect with, that you should be with them. You can figure something out, get a clean divorce, be friends so that you can take care of the children and have them you both have a healthy relationship. You can live together while raising young children but be legally divorced so you could be with the one you love. I know it sounds crazy , but true love is true love and you cant avoid it once youve found it and yeah. Good luck
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Well the school dance is TODAY. and I haven't decided if I want to go. My friend really want me to go because she doesn't talk to anyone else. But I don't want to spend my money and it not be a fun dance. But it seems that EVERYONE is going this time but when I went to the dance most of them didn't go. So the poin is I don't want to waste my money if it's gonna be a bad dance and I don't want my friend to be by herself.
P.S. I didn't do my extra credit that my dad wanted me to do so I also feel guiltily for goin to the dance without doing my extra credit. (link)
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Well I hope its not too late to answer this, idk when youre dance is going to start. But first, before the dance maybe you can do some of your extra credit, or just do it tomorrow. And itll only be a bad dance if you make it one. You need to get hyper and get happy, drink some monster, listen to some music and get pumped and then you go in there with your friend and dance your ass off! Sure it might be awkward at first but when you get into it its fun. Just go crazy with your friends and have a good time. I think itd be worth it to go just make sure you go all out or go home. Or else it might suck. So yeah make it awesome, but if you really dont feel like going then just ask your friend if she wants to hangout with you instead and you guys can go to the next dance if youre up to it. So yeah have fun
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I am deeply in love with my teacher, I am obsessed with her and crave her immensely. She is such a beautiful and perfect lady and I know she likes me as a person and student.
She is about 26 or 27 and I am 16. I fantasize about her all the time, I go out of my way to walk past her room or see her, check out her Facebook page all the time to see her pictures, and I can't stand the thought of not being with her.
I was thinking of one day staying after class at the end of the day for help and then when no one is around just grab her and kiss her on the lips and caress her body. I will also have my sister and one of my friends stand outside near the door so he can look out if anyone is coming. Also to immediately close the door when I go for it and then open it again after.
another way of doing this is this way. Disguise myself with a mask and change of clothes. Rush in and blindfold her and then start kissing her. However, this seems like more of a risk than the first way since she won't be so surprised if I come in as myself and talk to her normally first
some reasons why this can work
If she tells anyone about it I will just say she did it to me and they will likely believe me since I am the young one and still considered a child so what could she possibly do?
I hear just a claim from a student would immediately cause a teachers career to be over.
And would she really want to spend money on lawyers and crap with her teacher salary? And also have to go through a whole investigation and her name being everywhere?
. She can also be kind of flirty sometimes with her male students so therefore it won't be hard for people to believe she is the one that came on to me if I need to tell that story.
I'm also not the type of person people would believe would do anything so rash.
Also, if she goes against me without any proof she might look like a bully.
Also, I won't tell anyone anything unless I can tell she is thinking about telling someone first
some have made some counters saying the plan won't work, I think though these criticisms have no weight
-they say that they would believe her and not me. But the thing is though she will have no EVIDENCE, or witnesses. So I find this hard to believe they will automatically go after me just on her word. If this was true, what is to stop any teacher from telling that a student did something inappropriate and getting them in trouble?
-they say the police will be called in to question me and make me take a lie detector test. First, I don't think it will have to go that far since again there is no evidence. Also, I already know that lie detector tests are considered unreliable and are not used in court.
-they say she will be more than willing to go through with pressing charges and getting lawyers and stuff to defend herself. But the thing is if she doesn't tell anyone then she won't have to in the first place. And it is not just the money, she will have to deal with the whole investigation and publicity and having this all being gossiped about
I will also make sure there are no cameras or anything in the room in advance, and if there are I will call this off. Also, I will make sure there is nobody else around so there will be no witnesses. We will take a look at the area and plan everything in advance. I think this is a fool proof plan. I wish it didn't have to be this way but I am too obsessed with her to the point where it is affecting my life and can't stand the thought of not doing something with her, it is killing me, my heart pounds just thinking about her (link)
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Wow so youre going to force yourself upon her and then get her in trouble if she wants to get out of it. How is that love if youre threatening her or if youre thinking about all the ways you can get her in trouble instead? Wow just wow. Maybe you should talk to her about it, tell her youre feelings.. I mean if she doesnt wanna be with you she won't but geeze at least give her a chance to tell you so. Instead of making things difficult for her by giving her no choice or else she gets in trouble. And blindfolding her ? Are you serious. Bro c'mon , be a gentleman and tell her your feelings and let her decide what she wants to do instead of forcing her into it. Thats real love, being considerate to their feelings not to just your own. And not to making it look bad on her if things dont go your way. And maybe you should wait till your out of school and of legal age to approach her. You might have a better chance then, and then you wont have to be worried about all the legal stuff. Ya know? Well good luck I guess..
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I remarried 4 years ago, my daughter was 4. Her dad and I shared physical custody...in a half week there and half week with me and my husband. In the 4 years that my husband has been her stepdad, she has been unable to have a true bond with him. She will ignore him at times, not say hello, ignore his questions. She will pull away from physical contact with him and is generally very disobedient to him. My husband has the added pressure/issue of having PTSD. Well, the other day he snapped and told her to go to her dad's house and not come back. Their relationship, to me, is no longer healthy. He has too much built up resentment to love her as she needs/should be loved. But, I still love her very much and want to remain in her life.
My only options are to either be a mom from afar or to leave my husband.
I don't know if I can forgive my myself for hurting her like this. I'm also unsure if I can forgive my husband for doing this.
Right now though, I need to know what to tell my daughter. My husband wants me to pack up all her stuff and take it to her father's house.
Please help. (link)
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Well first off, you should talk to your daughter. Have a serious, long talk with her, but be gentle in approaching her for she might shut down about talking about it. Ask her whats wrong , why she doesnt like your husband, etcetc. And explain to her that hes not there to replace her dad , hes there because he loves you and you both make each other happy and that its important to you that they get along. And that they both have to work things out and you have to find out what the real problem is and try to help her through it. Your husband shouldnt be so cold, she might be going through a rough time adjusting to him , accepting theres a new man in her life, or maybe her dad talks badly about him and because of that shes mean to your husband. So just talk it out and figure out whats the problem and how it can be worked through. And you need to explain to your husband that she might be going through a rough time and needs to be supportive. If that doesnt work then maybe she should stay at her dads for a while so you can figure things out with your husband. Do you want a man who does this to your daughter? But if you divorced and got someone else, would your daughter be the same way to them? Maybe you need to put your foot down and tell him not to treat your daughter that way and that she can stay when she wants. And theyre just gonna have to figure out a way themselves. Sorry I couldnt be much more help. Good luck though!
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My bestfriends name is Kaci, she's like a sister to me. Over the summer I basically lived at her house and I call her parents my other mom and dad. Recently our friend Katie got her license, she's not the best driver. Me and Kaci were in the car and she brought up Katies driving and was talking about how she shouldn't have passed behind the wheel , I agreed and said I feel like I'm teaching her when we are in the car. The next day Katie and Kaci didn't say a word to me, I wasn't sure why so I asked around. My friend Anna said at dance class they were upset about me saying something about Katies driving.. I asked Katie the next day and she told me Kaci said I was talking bad about her and blamed everything that was said on me. I told her what actually happened and everything was fine until Kaci found out she had been caught lying. So now they are both mad at me.. Is it worth trying or should I just walk from the drama? (link)
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Walk from the drama. Its really not worth it, it just wastes time. I used to have a friend who did that crap but once I found out about all the lies and all the crap she started , I left her. Friends are supposed to support each other and have fun with each other and go through life helping one another. Not lying and starting crap. Drama is stupid and you dont need someone in your life causing it all the time.
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i want to live and enjoy seeing my kids grow up.i have been married for 10 years and i loved my husband more than anything he is my world he runs into my veins i got marry to him when i was only 16 i worship him like my only god but all he does to me is hurt me physically and mentally he call me prostitute,bitch.i am deseprate but deseprate for him to hold me tight every day and night and love me just the way i love him but insted he hates me he hits me sometime i perpously retaliate i know its gonna make him more angry and hes gonna hit me even more but one day he might show some sympathy and hold me tight and kiss me love me but i guess thats never gonna happen the way he gets angry and say stuff to me make me into someone im not i would never do any wrong to him i just want to give up on my life now because the one person apart from my kids i love my surjoooo but am no good for him im not as educated as he would like a women to be hes always on the facebook talking dirty to other womens being flirty and having a laugh but i always upset him and make him mad..i dont want to live anymore please tell me how to die at home quick and no pain (link)
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You need to get out of that marriage. He is abusive and doesnt deserve you and youre love. You cant make him change. And I know you love him but its not worth it at all. You deserve to be happy and treated with respect and be love. Hes not going to give you that , and I know you love him but itll be okay. You need to get you and youre children out and you need to leave him. You can't commit suicide, you shouldnt. Youre worth than so much more than a shitty relationship. Yes youre going to be heartbroken and sad for a while but in the end its going to be worth it and way better than staying with him. Dont leave your kids, if you die , theyll be stuck with him. You really want youre kids to be emotionally and physically abused AND have to deal with the horrifying grieve of losing a parent? A parent who voluntarily chose to leave them? I lost a parent, but he was terminally ill. He couldnt help it, but I was still so devastated and felt horrible for years. But having a parent kill themselves? Thats probably 100000 times worse. Please please please listen. Get out of youre marriage, and focus on being there for your kids. Youll find someone better, someone who'll love you to pieces, and treat you with respect. Someone thatll never dream of doing all those things your husband does. Itll be hard for a while, maybe for a long time. But itll be worth it. Don't commit suicide, for your kids, and for a chance to find someone else. And don't settle for anything less than being treated with respect, faithfulness, kindness, and pure love. Please..stay strong.
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Hi,
I think I may have a sleeping problem... Like last year and sort of this year I've been noticing how tired I am after school. Usually when I get home I would eat supper and try to go straight into homework, but whenever I do try, a few minutes into it I start noticing that I get even more tired and then the next thing I know I am sleeping throughout the whole evening and all through the night until the morning, and like when I wakeup, most of the time i do not remember myself going go sleep. It's such a bad habit that my body has developed cause its sorta starting to effect my grades and dedication to school. And I swear I try not to be lazy but I just can't fight it, it's like once I'm tired I'm like in a haze and I can't control it. This sometimes happens on and off, but for the most part, it's been happening more frequently now .. What is wrong with me What should I do ? Should I go see the doctor ? (link)
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It sounds like narcelepsy ( idk how to spell it). You could go to a doctor and get the medication for it but it has some bad side effects, no appetite, dry mouth, having a bad crash when it wears off. There are supplements and vitamins you can look up and take to keep your energy up..but depending how bad it is you might have to take a lot every hour or few. But its worth it cause its natural and it works. Just look them up and order different ones and try them in different combinations and amounts at certains times and see what works for you.
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tell me cool and fun places in philadelphia :)) (link)
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Well im sure theres a lot of great historical places you can look up. Sorry this answer isnt that great, I thought you meant PA in general.
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Hi,
I was in a long-term serious relationship with who is now my ex for 8 years. We own our home together and planned to spend the rest of our lives together. In January of 2012, he confronted me about my spending and told me to quit and not use my credit card anymore. We had a very heated discussion, lots of crying, etc. and agreed that I had one year to get my act together or else he was done. I immediately quit spending and was on the right track. However, I noticed that he changed. He was stressed about his job and his new boss and started going on guy-golf trips and he quit going to our lake house with me. Mid-summer I guess I sort of snapped and bought a few things using my credit card. Later, I panicked and couldn't sleep at night realizing what I did. I vowed to stop. All the while, without me realizing it, he looked through my personal things secretly and he also pulled my credit report. We spent a great Labor Day weekend together, entertaining his family at the lake and the day after when we were back in town, he confronted me with my credit report. He told me he was done, that I had lied and broken his trust. He kicked me out of our house, turned cold and started traveling for work back-to-back so that he wouldn't have to deal with anything. It's been 5 months now; I had to get an apartment and move on my own, all the while distraught. I love him immensely and can't imagine my life and future without him. We kept seeing each other each week during all of this and he would kiss me or hug me and he told me there was hope so I kept hope. Then he dropped the bombshell on me and told me he couldn't do it anymore and that he couldn't get past the hurt and lack of trust so he didn't want a future with me. He still wants to be friends and we are working on our financial settlement. He has also started immediately dating a co-worker. I don't think I can exist as friends. I'm hurt, devastated and angry at myself and him. How do I get past these feelings and how do I earn his trust back? (link)
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Well thats not a very good reason to break up with someone. I think maybe you just need to have a long talk with him. Tell him youre so sorry and that you love him and that you know you made a horrible mistake but it shouldnt ruin a relationship of 8 long years. Tell him how you were feeling when you did what you did and how you just snapped and how you know it was wrong but that everyone makes mistakes and everyone breaks sometimes. And that you will try to never do it again (and then actually try really hard to kep your promise). Ask him if theres a way you two can work it out and that youd do anything to have him back..to get a second chance. That you want to spend the rest of your life with him and you dont want to be just friends. Tell him youll work to pay off everything you bought and that if you ever break again, youll be the one responsible for it and that he wont need to worry about it. And ya know he shouldnt have been going through your stuff without your knowledge.. I don't know if youd want to bring that up cause it might start another fight but remember that you both did something you werent supposed to and that things just happen but that you two need to get over it and be together again. Just try your hardest to convince of that and then prove it to him that youll never do it again and that you really do wanna make up for it. I hope that helps, good luck!
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hi im a 14 year old girl. ive been really sad lately and i think its because of this guy. i think im in love but i never been in love before but ive never liked a guy this much. how do i get over him ? its been 3 months since we ever talked . i just want to move on. can u please tell me how ? (link)
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Well I know what youre going through, the same things happened to me and tbh I'm still not really over him... However, u can try looking for another guy to move on to and to like. Whenever you think about him quickly think about something else and try to distract yourself with other things. As time goes on and the less you see or talk to him, the more youll forget about him. It might take a long time though but just dont let it get you down and enjoy life. And even though you miss him, at least you had those times together and made memories together and that one day youll find someone else and someone better. Maybe youll never get over him and always have that feeling whenever you see him...but you just look for other guys and enjoy your life and dont dwell on him because theyll be other guys and yeah. Hope that helped!
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