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My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 4 years and I love him alot. Things are pretty good in our relationship, we don't really fight or anything.

Anyways, he recently got a job and he got a cellphone. I was putting my parents phone number into his phone and noticed there were two girls numbers in there that I've never seen or heard about. As I was doing that, he got a text message from one of the girls. And it simply said "Hey". Then the next day I went to use his phone to text message my sister and noticed that his inbox had been cleaned out. So of course, I get the feeling that he's hiding something..

Basically, it this harmless text messaging that's going on between them or should I be concerned? It's really none of my business who she is, but I'm curious as to where he got the number. I don't know if it's my place to ask him, let alone even know how to approach him about it.

Any advice/help would be great!

I think you're maybe just over-analyzing and reading into something that isn't there. I clean out my inbox sometimes too ;) It doesn't mean anything. You should trust your boyfriend until he gives you a real reason not to.

If you really want to know about the girls in his phonebook, then ask him. It's as simple as that. If he's not hiding anything he'll tell you, if he gets defensive then maybe he is hiding something.
But they're probably just some of his friends.

Remember, communication is really important in a relationship, so don't be afraid to bring this up in a conversation.


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I was just wondering if you hand your head for a certain amount of time, could you die?

If so:

Does it hurt?

Does your head really explode?

Maybe you would die after a couple of days of hanging upside down, but I don't think a few minutes, or even hours would do anything besides turn your face red and give you a major headache. Your head wouldn't explode.


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How can someone go from being very popular to totally unpopular, to the point where people don't talk about them anymore ? What do you have to do to become very unpopular?

Well sometimes people think they have to like a person because they're popular, but soon figure out that if no one like them then why bother pretending to like them.

OR...

You might be popular because of your looks, but then you might not have a very likable personality and people eventually stop talking to you because they realise although you're really pretty you're not someone who they like much.


It could be because of a lot of different reasons.


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Can someone help me translate this??please?


Circe
Ulixes nunc omnia praeter (except) suam (his) navem amiserat.

Haec (this) navis ad insulam Aeaeam venit, quam Circe, maga (witch) potens (powerful), regebat. Eurylochus ab Ulixe insulam explorare iubetur. Ubi Eurylochus homines in regiam mittit, Circe cibo certo nautas in sues mutat. Miseri, rogant, " Qui sumus? Quid sumus? Quis in hoc modo edit?" Tum sciunt et exclamant "Sumus similes suibus! Sed sumus homines! Eheu!" (Alas!)

Eurylochus, qui in regiam non iam processerat, ad Ulixem, cui omnia narrat, maturat. Ulixes ad homines statim procedit. Deus Mercurius Ulixi (dative) herbam magicam, quae eum (him) servabit, donat. Ergo (therefore) Ulixes in suem a Circa mutari (to be changed) non potest (is able/can) .

Nautae in homines imperio Ulixis mutantur, et Ulixes cum Circa multos menses manet. Tum, nautae Ulixi (dat) rogant, "Possumusne (are we able) excedere? Ubi excedimus?" Ulixes navigare parat. Circe eum (him) Ulixem de periculis quae invenient monet.

Thank you in advance!

I doubt anyone on here speaks Latin fluent enough to Translate this, but I ran it through a translator and here's what I got. All of the words aren't translated but it may help you a bit.

Round Ulixes now omnia past ( to take out suam ( by these navem amiserat. This this ) ship to island Aeaeam came , how Round , small tents witch ) able powerful ), he was ruling. Eurylochus counting from Ulixe island scout to order. When Eurylochus homines upon to be ruled to send , Round food for animals to contend sailor upon sues change. Wretched rogant , " Quae are? What are? Anyone upon this now the publishing of a book? " At that time discerning and to shout " are similar suibus! But are homines! Eheu! Alas! ) Eurylochus , quae upon to be ruled not now processerat , to Ulixem , in which omnia to make known maturat. Ulixes to homines instantly to go out. God Mercurius Ulixi dative herbam more , which he him ) being saved , donation. On account of therefore Ulixes upon suem a Round change to be abeo ) not power ( this able can ). Sailor upon homines imperious Ulixis mutantur , and Ulixes when Round by much mind morning. At that time , sailor Ulixi ( gives rogant Possumusne are we able ) to exceed? When excedimus? Ulixes voyage prepared. Round he him Ulixem about hazardous which to come upon he advises.


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The guy that I like doesn't like me back. No surprise, that happens a lot, right? But there's a big story behind this, if you feel like reading a lot:
I got my friend C to ask the guy I like R's friend M if M could ask R about me and stuff. I really wanted to know if he liked me back or not, but I'm guessing now that I wish I didn't. So basically, M, C, and I are having this huge rendezvous and R knows nothing about it. All R knows is I like him.
What M told C, when he asked R what he thought of me, is: She's really cool, but we don't talk that much (e.g. we don't know each other that well). And after C told me that, R's been saying "hi" to me in the hallways and stuff and he usually doesn't. But he doesn't like me. I really don't understand...

If that's all he said then you can't be sure that he doesn't like you, because that's not close to what he said. It sounds like he may like you a little, because he's making more of an effort to talk to you/get to know you now that he knows you like him.


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okay.
so me & my boyfriend had sex, for the second time. He went in like 10 times and pulled outt cause he didn't wanna [ cum ] in me. so he pulled out and stuff. when he pulled outt my " stuff " was all over his thingg. Maybe a day or two after that i've had serious migranes, heat sweats out of no where, and veryy tired and weak. Now its supposed to be my time of the month. All my friend have got theirs and i usually get mine kinda close to when they do. I havent got it yet but i'm having like all the syptoms of getting my period. do you think i'm pregnantt? i am so scareddd. i'm only 14. i don't know what to do. sometimes when i'm stressed and stuff my period doesn't come but thats rare. & sometimes it comes at diffrent times. i keep feeling like i'm gonna get my periodd but its just discharge. GOD i've been crying for about 5 days straight. i can NOT talk to my mom about itt, or my 16 year old sister. so theres no way i can get a pregnancy testt. whats the deal? please please please help meee ASAP !!
thank you so much, & be honest please.

I honestly can't tell you whether you're pregnant or not. That's why you use condoms, the pull out "method" doesn't work. There's a little thing called pre-cum. Look at this website, check the symptoms and go take a test, you can get them at drugstores or any other place like Walmart or Walgreens.

http://www.americanpregnancy.org/gettingpregnant/earlypregnancysymptoms.html


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not sure if this is the right category but yah..


say this guy has a girlfriend and he lets another girl like give him a hand job but it wasn't really a hand job because he still has his pants on and the girl is just rubbing his dick from the outside of the guys pants,


and then the guy rubs the girls vagina but outside the pants..

is that considered cheating on the other girl?

Yes, by most people and myself included it's considered cheating. If I were this girl I would dump him...anything sexual with another peson is considered cheating.


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because it would be wayyy easier then this ; and i already have like 5 other myspaces ; so i think i should just make a myspace advise colum ?should i ?

If it would be easier for you to make an advice column on myspace then go ahead, but a alot of people don't have myspace or aren't aloud to go on my space...

People wouldn't know about your column and you wouldn't get as many people on your column unless you find a way to advertise it.

But if that's what you want then go ahead, it already sounds like you've made up your mind, I don't know why you're asking a question on here. Do what makes you happy.


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Is The Host going to be an Adult Novel because according to Stephehenie Meyer, her book in the spring will be an adult novel. Is that true!? She said the book is coming coming up spring and The Host is coming out this spring; is she talking about the same thing?


This is the video where she says about the adult novel coming out in spring.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jUE_jcSeE_Q

The Host is an adult novel.

http://www.stepheniemeyer.com/thehost.html

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What page is when Edward and Bella kiss the first time?

I've read that book like five times, I couldn't remember what page though...I'm pretty sure it's page 282.

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if you eat too many skittles...like eat them everyday all the time could something bad happen to you? like in the future or something

You would gain weight...that's about the only bad thing that would happen. So don't worry about it, but remember that skittles all day every day is not a good way to stay healthy.

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Apparently red lipstick is the shade this winter. I always follow the make up must-haves but im really stuck on this one. My skin tone is about kelly rowlands or june sarpongs and my lips are full. What shade of red would you recommend?? I live in london by the way...
thanx xxx

Go with the darker shades of red, they look better with darker skin tones, avoid bright reds and you'll look great.


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so me & my boyfriend had sex for the first time last friday. and also saturday. & we used a condom & since it was our first time, we didnt do it too long since he popped my cherry & it hurt the second time. now im wondering if i could be pregnant? we used wasted 3 condoms & filled each with water once we were done with them & there was no hole, so the condom was good. so is there any chance of me being pregnant? i doubt it , but i just want more opinions.

There's always a chance of getting pregnant...whether you use a condom, or birth control, or shots. I wouldn't say there was a good chance, though, since you did use a condom. If you start displaying some of the early symptopms of pregnancy you should take a test.


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Ok at Wal-Mart, I bought 'Sally Hansen- Hair Remover Wax Strip Kit'

is it ok if i wax my arms?

You could, but I wouldn't. The hair will grow back thicker and coarser then before. You'll never be able to stop waxing...

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okay im a natural flirt and sometimes i dont even know when im flirting just my friends tells me that im flirting and such and when i like someone and they like me back i always back off or my feelings for them starting to fade away and stuff why is it like that? i never had a boyfriend do you think i have a commitment issue? even though they are hot and cute and all i lose interest if they likeme back what does it mean?

It probably means you're only in it for the chase, you like flirting and chasing after guys to see if you can get them. As soon as they start liking you, you've got them and you lose interest because that's what you wanted. There's nothing wrong with you, and as soon as you find a guy you genuinely like...once he likes you you'll still like him.

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Today my boyfriend and I had sex (with protection) we went on for about an hour, maybe an hour and a half. Like really into it and stuff. i not trying to be very detailed i just want to get as much feedback as possible in return. After we were done my stomach started giving me this really weird pain that lasted like an hour, is that normal after sex?
Thanks soo much!

Here; read this. It answers your questions, and don't worry, you're perfectly fine.

http://wiki.answers.com/Q/Is_lower_abdominal_pain_after_sex_normal

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I hope a lot of people read this, because I need a lot of advice. My boyfriend and I have been dating for four months, and it's been the happiest four months I've had in a long time. Well, what happened, was before we started dating, him and his girlfriend at the time had just broken up. So, I'd log onto Myspace & she'd send me a bunch of crap saying how I was fat and ugly, and how I stole him from her. I ignored it. Honestly, I think she's insaneeee!

Anyways, I told Alex, my boyfriend when we first started dating, that I didn't mind if he talked to her, because I didn't want to seem possessive. But, like a week into them talking, he told me the stuff they were saying and I just told him he had to choose either her or me. I just didn't think it was fair, plus it made me really sad because she would constantly say how horrible of a person I am, to my boyfriend. So, he listened and stopped talking to her, then everything seemed okay, until..

randomly out of the blue like two weeks ago she sent him a message that says, "I miss you! I'm so sorry that I was mean to YOU! you have no idea how bad I feel. Please just talk to me." Alex said he wasn't going to respond to it, and that made me feel really good.

Yesterday, he had me log on to his e-mail account to send an e-mail to his teacher, I was bored so I clicked the "Sent" folder, and saw he had sent her an e-mail, and it said, "Hey. You've been trying to talk to me, so I'm assuming it's important. I can't talk to you on Myspace because Amy [ME] will see, so get on AIM sometime and we'll talk."

I told him I saw it, and he apologized like crazy, but I don't know, if I'm just getting mad for a stupid reason or what. I just really need to know, if I'm blowing this way out of proportion.

Even if you don't give me advice,
thanks for taking your time to read this.

He was wrong to not have told you, and you do have a right to be mad. Maybe he just wanted to talk to her so that she would leave you two alone, maybe he felt guilty about it and decided to hide it from you, and maybe he still has feelings for the girl. I suggest you talk to your boyfriend and ask why he hid it from you. I think that ther's a possibility he just needed closure, and didn't want you freaking out over nothing.

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What are some sites where i can find good sex or rape storys?

How old are you? Anyway try google, you can find anything on google, and I doubt anyone on this site will give you a website for sex or rape stories.

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I'm 15/f a sophmore. Ok, I'm not here to complain how I don't have a boyfriend (though it would be nice) However all the relationships I see in school are mostly based on if the girl "puts out" or not. I'm friends with mostly guys and I hear them talk about girls as if they are only sex toys it's disgusting. I think I'm decent looking and I wear jeans and a t-shirt everyday, but... is that the reason I don't have a guy, because I don't put out my body for everyone to touch and see?

Thanks in advance,
JJ

If you try to find a guy by wearing less clothes then you'll only attract a guy that's interested in your looks and your body. Unfortunately, a lot of guys are jerks, but don't subject yourself to that. Dress how you like, be who you are, and eventually you'll find a great guy who really likes you for you.


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hey guys :) 15/f.

I'm an extremely humble person. If somebody complements me and tells me how good I played a song on a piano or something, I'll just shrug it off like "nahh..I'm not good at all. You're better than me :)" And if we were to take a test, and I got a good score, people would be like "You're so smart :O" My reaction: "No no. Hah, I'm not smart at all. :]" And when I do this, I really do mean it! I don't think I'm good at these things at all! And I don't think I should be complemented..but instead *I* should complement people.!

I really hate this. I do it EVERYYY time somebody says ANYTHING nice about me or complements me. It's not bad or anything. I mean, I'm nice to people. But...How can I overcome this stupid reaction? >_>

Thank you very much :]

When you don't accept compliments from people it makes it seem as if you're just fishing for reassurance or more compliments. So just try saying thank you, anyway to break a habit is to just watch yourself and make sure you don't do it.


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