So okay i really want to but some like new bras and more thongs and underwear from victorias secret. But the thing is my mother is always like "nice thong"(sarcastically)when she hand me my luandry. My mom is kind of old fashioned and like really werid about that kind of thing and i am not sure why. How do i buy the things(online) i want without her being all werid.
Thanks XoX T
I think the reason she is wierd about it is that she associates atrractive lingerie (ie: anything not boring plain cotton) with sexuality and maybe even promiscuity. Maybe when she was growing up, "nice girls" didn't wear things like that and certainly
not until they were married. Assuming that you're not buying lingerie for sexual purposes, maybe you should just let her know why you like them. You could explain to her that you wear pretty lingerie because it makes you feel good and it's a little treat just for yourself. Or, explain to her that wearing thongs eliminates a panty line and has nothing to do with looking sexy in your underwear. She may not like it no matter what you say or what your reasons for wearing it are but at least you tried to help her understand. Good luck!
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Me and my boyfriend have been together for alomost a year & a half. We are (were) supposed to get married next month. Last night we were talking and he told me something that he had been holding in since last summer that he wanted to get off his chest. I was pregnant last summer and miscarried, he told me he doesnt believe I was ever pregnant. This has hurt me so much, we are not little kids, in fact I am older than him (21 & 23) I would not make up such a horrible story, I was crushed when it happened and still cry at night sometimes when I think about it. He says he cant marry me till he has proof. Getting "proof" isnt a problem, but i feel now as though I cant marry him becuase he doesnt trust me and Ive always been told if you dont have trrust you dont have nothin. I Love him more than I could ever say and the thought of losing him upsets me to no end, but at that same time i feel so betrayed by him like im some kind of monster that would make up a story like that. What should I do? please help Ill rate!!
You're right, without trust you have nothing to base a marriage on. It would be one thing if he had expressed his doubt and asked you whether or not you lied in the past and believed your answer when you you told him you didn't lie. It's a completely different issue when he doesn't believe you are being honest with him now and demands proof. If you give him his proof, he doesn't have to trust you because you've provided evidence. He might claim that once he sees you aren't lying he will trust you but I don't think he really will. That's like asking him to submit to a lie detector test and then telling him that if he passes, you will trust him. Trust isn't something that can be gained through evidence and proof, it's gained by really knowing someone well enough to know their heart and their character. He may have some trust issues and this may just be who he is. I don't think this will be the last time he questions your honesty and you deserve to be with someone who believes in you as much as you believe in them. He probably does love you but he really just may not be capable of complete trust and you need to decide if that's something you want to live with for the rest of your life.
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Im Doing my Junior Paper on OCD and i need to write a thesis I am having so much trouble on this and ive been at it for 2 hours.
If you Guys wouldnt mind helping me out here either giving me a sample thesis dealing with OCD.
I'm not asking you to do me homework so no rude advice. thx :)
There is a lot of information about the origins of OCD, and the basic debate is whether it is cause by you brain chemistry or by environmental factors. Most doctors today believe it is entirely genetic but that it can be exacerbated or diminished by your environment. However, although it is a popularly held belief that OCD is genetic is has not been scientifically proven to be a fact. There is a lot of inconclusive research.
Others believe that it is partly genetic but can be controlled through behavioral therapy. There is evidence to suggest that behavioral therapy can be as effective as medication, so is medication the best way to treat OCD or is it possibly harmful to the brain? Another current debate is the possible relationship between a certain strain of strep throat and the development of OCD in children. If that relationships does exist and that strain of Strep can cause OCD is the cause a genetic susceptibility or did the virus somehow alter the chemistry of the brain?
Whatever you choose to argue, construct your thesis like this:
In this paper I will argue that OCD is blah blah blah(whatever your argument is) because ... and list your three main reasons that you think it is true.
I hope that is helpful! Don't spend too much time analyzing everything just start writing what you do know and worry about the organization of your thoughts later if necessary. Good luck!!
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15/f
ive always been the type of out going person that you ever saw frown. i was the type of person that got along with EVERYONE. but that kinda changed when i started hanging out with my new best friend for the past 2 years. she is sorta well emo i guess you can say shes always depress and stuff now depresses me easy i wish i could be like i used to but i feel like im turning more into my friend and i wanna be the old me again. idk if i need to stop talking to her or what. i mean lately i havnt been talking to her as much just because she like always gets on my case about grammer in stuff and im like wow your not my teacher your my friend geese but yah beside the point i was jus wondering what you all would do about this. i want to be the happy person i used to be, instead of the person i am now that snaps at any minute :-( i hate it
Misery loves company, it's a cliche, but it's a cliche for good reason..it's true! I'm not saying you friend is purposely trying to make you feel miserable but people who are down and negative about life tend to want others to feel that way too. They don't want to hear the sunny side of a scenario, they want you to agree that everything sucks. My advice is that you spend less time with her. It's fine to be friends IF you really enjoy her company and she is a good friend to you, but don't let her problems and negativity consume your life too. In other words, branch out. Encourage her to hang out with you in groups of friends. If she doesn't want to then that's her choice.
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My bf is best friends with a guy that is just plain creepy. For one thing, he is 38 years old and still lives with his mother. He is also a pedophile, and only goes for very young girls. My bf has even told me that he's a pedophile, so I'm not making it up.
The thing that bothers me is that I've caught his friend staring at me inappropriatly at parties, and he's even winked at me. I had to give his friend a ride home once (because the loser doesnt have a car ) and he told me he liked me for a long time and told me to kiss him. I told him no, and after I dropped him off I told my bf what happened. My bf just laughed and didnt seem to take it seriously. I also heard a story that his friend used to stalk a waitress.
I really don't understand why my bf is still friends with this creep. Sometimes I feel that he'd rather be friends with him than me.
Should I give my bf an ultimateum and say it's either his creepy friend or me? Or would that be too controlling?
The kind of company a person keeps speaks VOLUMES about their own character and values. The fact that your boyfriend is not just friends but best friends with this creep is not a good sign. In fact, I think it's a massive and waving red flag that you should not ignore. It would be one thing if you boyfriend didn't know what a sicko this guy is, but he does know and it's okay with him even when it concerns his girlfriend. Any guy who allows any of his friends to behave in the way you described with his girlfriend should be kicked to the curb pronto.
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ok there is this guy that i used to like alot and we were talking for a long time and it seemed like we were dating but he never asked me out then he just stopped talking to me. and now its been about 4 months, and he just broke up with his girlfriend, sence he has even said one word to me and today everytime he saw me he came talk to me and even moved from the other side the class and came sit by me. i was wondering is maybe starting to like me or is he just trying to be friends??
I wouldn't give too much thought to what he is trying to do because I don't think he is someone who is deserving of your friendship or anything else. His past behaviour is an excellent indicator of his future behavior as well as his character and I think he is a rat. He blows you off, acts like you don't exist, and expects everything to be cool now just because he decides he feels like giving you the time of day? I don't think so. You teach people how to treat you by how you allow them to treat you, don't let this guy treat you like some forgoten toy that he plays with when his new one breaks. You deserve better in a friend and in a boyfriend.
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I cant stand my dad any more. He drives me insane! i have this problem with people making noises when they eat, talking when im doing homework/reading/watching tv and then blowing their noses like in the living room. All of which he is WELL aware of and he keeps doing it. I cant even stand to be in the same room as him anymore. Is this a sign of OCD or something like that? How can i learn how to chill about these things?
Thank you! I'll rate high
I don't think you have OCD, but I do think you are very sensitive to noise. Some people just have very good hearing. I am the same way about noise, I notice every little or not so little sound and it can drive you crazy!!! I really don't think that your Dad is being loud on purpose, he's just living in the same house and doing normal things that people do such as blow their nose. It's not reasonable to expect your Dad to tiptoe around you. It would be one thing if he were blaring music or something obviously loud and obnoxious, but from what you said that doesn't seem to be the case.
All you can do is go somewhere such as your room to do homework and read or maybe try listening to classical music with headphones to block out noise.One other thing to think about is whether or not there is something else about your Dad that is bothering you. If so, it's possible that subconciously you are looking for a reason to be irritated with him. Just a thought, you may just be super sensitive to noise.
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I am not the type of girl to just have any kind of boyfriend. He has to be my "boyfriend material". There is this guy who everytime I talk to him I get this smile that WON'T go away. Everytime I think about him I get so happy. But the thing is he is known to cheat on girls. So I know if I went with him there is a high chance of him cheating on me. And I don't want that. Oh yeah he likes me to (he says that to me, his friends, & my friends like everyday) So I guess I want to know why am I having feelings for someone that I know can hurt me and how can I stop or is it just one of those things you can't help?
Bad boys have a certain allure don't they? They tend to be attractive, charming, and complete jerks all in one pretty package. I think a major reason you are so attracted to him is that you feel special that he likes you too. Maybe you like to imagine that you will be able to change his ways and that would make you feel pretty good about yourself. You're absolutely right to think he wil cheat on you. My suggestion is to distance yourself so you won't be tempted to allow him the chance to make you another name on his list of girls he screwed over.
If you want to stop liking him, stop allowing yourself to think about him. When you start to think about him, tell yourself that he is a cheating player who isn't worthy of your affections and keep telling yourself that over and over until it sticks.
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I don't attract guys at all. It's been said that I'm a lesbian (which I'm not), and I have an extremely brutal (but with purpose...I don't just say "Fuck the world" for no reason and think it's funny) sense of humor and wear all black. Are these turn-offs? But I'm a nice person. Though I can be a little morbid, I'm generally pretty friendly, I consider others' feelings, and I try to make friends, but nobody at my school wants to be around me. It's inevitable someone will say "Marian, I REALLY wanna sit next to Joe Shmoe. Can you move over?" at least twice a day. I just hate that. Whenever we have to choose partners/teams in gym, I'm always the last person. I feel so lonely, I cry sometimes in the locker room when nobody is around. There's only 1 friend of mine that's a guy who actually appreciates me for who I am, and I now have such a huge crush on him. I don't want to sound conceited at all, but I think I'm a nice-looking person, so that eliminates the idea that guys might not like me because of my looks. Does anyone understand? How can I make more friends? Even though he doesn't like me back in the same way, should I tell this boy I like him, and if so, how?
It's not easy being different at your age (middle school,high school)because just about everyone is desparately trying to fit in. It sounds like you've been labeled by your peers as "wierd" and right or wrong that is going to make others hesitant to be your friend. For the most part, at this age no one wants to be associated with someone who is wierd or their "friends" might decide they're wierd too. This is called immaturity.
If you want to make more friends, I think it will help if you stop wearing all black. While it's true that real friends will not care what you wear, it's also true that your clothing and appearance do send out a message and all black is not sending out a positive vibe. Also, people like to be around people that make them feel good about themselves. Without overdoing it, compliment people, everyone wants to be liked. Smile, even though you think you are friendly, your body language may not be.
As far as telling your friend your feelings is concerned, you have to decide whether or not you want to take the chance that doing so may ruin your relationship. If he's your only true friend right now, I think it's a bad idea to risk losing him.
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ok.. so my boyfriend looks at porn. ive never had a problem with porn with any other guy ive been with, but lately its been getting to me. I just cant bare the thought of my boyfriend fantasizing about other women. even worse; their bodies are perfect && mine are far from it and i just dont want him comparing me to them. So my question is:
-Is it ok for me to feel this way?
-Is looking at porn considered cheating to some people?
-Should i say something to my boyfriend
-If so what?
(hes very stubborn)
It's sad that women even have to wonder whether or not it's okay to be bothered by porn. Just because people watch it and it's legal, doesn't make it right. You should be glad that it bothers you, it should!
My advice to you is this, tell your boyfriend how it makes you feel but fully expect that he will try to justify it and say that it doesn't mean anything. I would try to avoid this sort of argument that centers around why it is or isn't okay, because that's not even the point. The bottom line is that he is doing something that is hurtful to you and it needs to stop.
He'll probably try to pin it on you and say it's not his fault you're insecure. DON"T BUY IT! This isn't about you and don't let him make it about you, it's about him having sexual fantasies about other women while he is supposed to be committed to you. Everyone probably has fantasies about someone else at some point and that is human nature, but it's not something he should conciously CHOOSE to do over and over which is exactly what he does when he watches/purchases porn. It's not like he's just having a daydream once in awhile and goes with it, he intends to do this on a regular basis and the worst part is that he's not even ashamed of his behavior and he should be.
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i strighten my hair all the time. Almost every time i wash it which is evry 3 or 4 days, does anybody know any good shampoo's, conditoner's, sprays, serums, mousses, anything that will help. I want the cream of the crop, not just anything so be sure it works
If your hair is thick and dry, buy Redken So Soft shampoo and conditioner and use Sebastians Laminates straightening gel. If you want to make an investment that I think is well worth the money, buy the Chi flat iron. It's pretty expensive but if you want a good one they're going to run at least $100.
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well first off let me say that im 16f going on 17 and he just turned 18. Ok well lets see, theres this guy that i met through a friend. Well my best friend actually and she's his bestfriend to. She kinda put us on the phone together and he kinda told her that he wanted to talk to me or whateva. So ok we started talking and i grew to really like him and i guess he really likes me too. Last weekend we went out to the movies and my friend invited the guy im supposed to be talking to and her boyfriend which also happens to be the guy im talking to's best friend. Everything was going fine or whatever and me and this guy got to be real cool and like i said i really started to like him like seriously. Then the next day i was talking to my best friend and she told me that he told her that he didn't really think that we would hit it off as well as we did and he is starting to really like me but there is this other girl that is trying to talk to him at his school(we don't go to the same one)and i guess he kinda likes her too cause he told my friend that he doesn't know what he's going to do. You know whether he is going to talk to me or her. Now like i said i really do like him and all but he lives kinda far and i don't know how often i would be able to see him, and being that the other girl goes to his school he would be able to see her more. But he does have a car and if he really wanted to he could just come and see me when ever he wanted. I don't know. Well i guess my overall question is do i still try to talk to him and eventually make him choose or do just be like i don't want to cause any drama or stress in making him choose and tell him to talk to the other girl.
Relax! Let things take their natural course and see what happens. Since he's not your boyfriend and you're not his girlfriend, you're both free to talk to whomever you choose. If you enjoy his company and he continues to call you, ask you to hang out etc, then keep on getting to know him. Unless you two get serious ie: he asks you to be his girlfriend, then there's no need to ask him to choose between you and this other girl. If you start asking him those sorts of questions now it will come off as needy and that is never an attractive quality. As a general rule, the more a person clings, the faster the other one runs away. If you feel like he's pulling away, give him space and see what happens. But most importantly,relax, if it's meant to be everything will work out.
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i am writing a thesis paper in History, and I am writing about the Hollywood Blacklist (dealing with McCarthyism). I have done ALOT of reasearch about my topic, & i know a great deal about it, but I am having trouble coming up with an actual thesis. i guess i want something to do with mccarthyism influencing entertainment/
theatre /plays (like arthur miller's the crucible, for instance), but i really don't know how i would write this paper (would each paragraph be a different play that was indluenced? if you have any knowledeg of this, i greatly appreciate it thanks!
i know that this is not a homework help site & none of you can actually do my homework for me, so i would just like to note that i am not asking you to do my homework...i'm just asking for a bit of help.
Your first few paragraphs should:
1.introduce your topic(give some very brief background info) which is the Hollywood Blacklist/McCarthyism
2. Tell your reader what your theme or argument is. For example, "McCarthyism had blah blah blah impact on the entertainment industry which in turn influenced our media and culture"
3. Tell your reader how you are going to support that argumentin the paper.This is your thesis statement (for example) " In this paper I will prove that McCarthyism had blah blah blah impact (or whaterver you argument is) because of the themes reflected in this play, that play, and that play.
The Body
Each play will (as you suggested) be a separate paragraph(s) and for each play you will need to prove that the themes in the play are a result of McCarthyism.
I hope that is helpful!!
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I need some help deciding what classes i should take my junior year (next year).
i know no one here knows all the courses i have at my school but most schools ussually have very similar classes!
I want to be a kindergarden teacher when i grow up and ive already taken all the classes that are like child care based or whatever so there is nothing about kids left for me to take but i dont know whats next.
i was thinking like taking something like socialogy but i dont know what kind of classes will help me most!
I hope I'm correct by assuming you're in college and not high school. First, you need to make sure you've taken all the general education courses that are required to graduate. Second, you need to make sure you've completed all requirements within your major which I seriously doubt is possible if you're still a sophomore. If you are just looking for an elective that will somehow be relavent to teaching, I suggest you take a psychology course.
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so me and cody have been dating for like 20 days. and me and him are as close to perfect (probably not the best word to get my point across) as a couple can get, until it comes to hangin out. like at school hell talk to me and well hold hands and he doesnt care what his friends think. but we had vacation and we made plans 3 times to hang out, HE made them, HE broke them ..
friday he said to call when i woke up, so i did and his mom said shed have him call me. well 6 hours later .. he hadn't called .. so i called and she hung up on me .. cody NEVER called to apolgize or say he couldn't. now hes in maine till vacations over. and his fones off ..
i left him a voicemail sayin it kind of hurt my feelings (he ignored my call, like it rang and he pressed ignore, so i know he had his fone, so i know he got he voicemail) and to call me. its 2 days later and he hasn't called. but he'll call me sunday before school and apologize and have an excuse .. he always does .. and i always believe him ..
everyone says dump him .. but i cant. i love him .. i just dont know what to do without messing it up and gettin him pissed off .. HELP?!
One of two things are going to happen:
You break up with Cody because you recognize that Cody is a wimp. He is a wimp because he is trying to get you to dump him because he doesn't want to..too much effort on his part.
OR, Cody dumps you. It's your call, but I think the signs are pretty clear that he is not in love with you. Most importantly, I hope you believe that you deserve better than Cody!!!
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how can i tell what people in the world are honest and good?
and why is everything always about sex lately?
its so fckd up.
i rate high. :]
I'm assuming (which is always dangerous) from your question that you seriously misjudged someone in the character department recently. After a lot of personal mistakes in character judgement, I've concluded a few things:
Really good liars are hard to identify without some time to observe their behavior. Really good liars talk a good talk and are extremely convincing when they're engaging in their craft of verbal deception!It's only through observation of their behavior over time ie: their actions, that dishonesty becomes apparent.
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Hi, I'm Erika, and this is the first question I'm asking on Advicenators. For my HS, we're doing an AD Sweep downtown. My teacher says we need to dress nice, sophisticated, and casual... and I'm not a very businessy type of person, so is there anything I could wear that would be, you know, "sophisticated"??? Also, we can't wear pants.
It sounds like the dress code is nice/casual with an emphasis on the nice. Since you can't wear pants, I think choosing a skirt is a good place to start. I suggest that you keep it simple and choose a skirt in a solid neutral color such as brown or black. A hemline that is one inch above the knee is flattering on almost everyone and will not be too short for the occasion. For your top, wear a long sleeve button up blouse with a collar and wear a long sleeved v-neck sweater that is lightweight over the blouse. Wear heels and have fun!!
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What are some reasons why a man would stay in a bad marriage? A friend of mine is married to an older woman who is mentally and financially abusive to him. She tries to control his friendships and won't let him talk on his phone to some of his friends. She has also isolated him from his family. She is a very bitter, jealous, vindictive woman. She is extremely unnatrractive because she's been smoking since she was 12. Her teeth are stained and her face is all wrinkled. She looks 20 years older than her real age (54). That part shouldnt matter except her personality is just as ugly. They have no children together, but she has two grown kids from her first marriage. They are both heroin addicts, and have stolen in total 6000 dollars from my friends credit card.
They use to run a cafe together and lost customers because they fought like cats and dogs. I heard they would scream at each other. I don't think he loves her, atleast not anymore. He's even admitted to customers that he hated having to put up with working with her everyday. I doupt they even have sex anymore. So my question is why do you think they are still together? Do you think he's afraid of what she might do to him if he left?
It sounds like you have possibly come across a very rare and exotic species that has become almost extinct!!!!!! Your friend may have actually taken his wedding vows seriously!!!
Or, maybe he does love her with all her faults for reasons only his heart can understand. Or,maybe she's blackmailing him! Or, maybe he just hasn't found someone else he wants to leave her for...
The possibilites are truly endless.
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i didnt know what to put this under so oh well lol.
ok, i have acne, but its not bad. its mostly near my eyebrows and nose and stuff. but i can't find any makeup that works. i have the true blend pressed powder, and that doesnt seem to really work at all. my skin is always blotchy, and its really dry now because of the cold. i was wondering that there was any makeup that would work. i cant stand liquid foundation though, because it feels like im putting paint on my face. i hate it. any suggestions?
thanks
Please try Prescriptives liquid foundation, it feels like you don't have any makeup on at all. You need the moisture of a liquid foundation if you want to wear makeup and have dry skin. Also, I suggest using Lancome creme concealer that comes in a little pot to cover up especially red areas of your skin. It's expensive but it lasts for at least 6 months and it is worth every blessed cent.
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Alright So..
Me and Alexis have been best friends since 5th grade. And all of a sudden this year shes changed.(we're in 8th grade now) . Like she hangs out with Seniors(Um Ew?. Thats like hanging out with my brother) And she has smoked and drank. And it bugs me. Like we still do sleepovers sometimes and talk at school but its all differant. And now Alexis, my friend Karie, and my friend Holi have this thing called "KAH" which stands for their names and they think their the shit. it pisses me off.. and now i feel like i dont have a best friend..
please help
Not all friendships are meant to last forever. Sometimes we grow out of our friends and the things we used to have in common just aren't there anymore. That doesn't mean that you hate eachother or that you no longer care about eachother, it just means that one or both of you have changed. This will happen throughout your life, but probably more so now because you're still becoming the person you're going to be. I really believe that 8th/9th grade is a time where people really start to define what kind of a person they're going to be. Alexis and her little girl squad have decided to do whatever it takes to be considered cool and popular. You sound like a great friend and you deserve to have friends who will treat you like you would want to be treated. I know it hurts right now, I've been there too, but i promise you will find a new best friend. Be true to yourself and never compromise who you are, because who you are is pretty great.
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