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Lost my best friend
Alright So..
Me and Alexis have been best friends since 5th grade. And all of a sudden this year shes changed.(we're in 8th grade now) . Like she hangs out with Seniors(Um Ew?. Thats like hanging out with my brother) And she has smoked and drank. And it bugs me. Like we still do sleepovers sometimes and talk at school but its all differant. And now Alexis, my friend Karie, and my friend Holi have this thing called "KAH" which stands for their names and they think their the shit. it pisses me off.. and now i feel like i dont have a best friend..
please help <3
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Wow. The exact same thing just happened to me, with those initials and everything. Two of my best friends completely ditched me for someone who is so bad to hang out with, so I get where you're coming from. If you've already tried talking to Alexis about drinking and such, and she hasn't changed, then you might as well let her go. Look, I'm sure that's not at all what you want to do, but I did that and I feel much better now. I got away from these girls because no one likes them, and there had to be a reason. Don't completely ditch Alexis though because you don't want anyone to hate you. You don't want it to be awkward. Also, I'm sure you have other friends who share your interests and don't think drinking and smoking is right as you. You'll be much happier if you stick with your other friends and make closer friendships with them. I hope this helps, it worked for me.
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Jeez, you pretty much just said my life story right there. The same exact thing has happened to me last year in 7th grade. I guess the only thing I can tell you to do is, well, maybe find new friends? That may be terrible advice, and I'm sorry. But if your friends are leaving you out of things, then they don't really sound like real friends. Do they to you?
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Not all friendships are meant to last forever. Sometimes we grow out of our friends and the things we used to have in common just aren't there anymore. That doesn't mean that you hate eachother or that you no longer care about eachother, it just means that one or both of you have changed. This will happen throughout your life, but probably more so now because you're still becoming the person you're going to be. I really believe that 8th/9th grade is a time where people really start to define what kind of a person they're going to be. Alexis and her little girl squad have decided to do whatever it takes to be considered cool and popular. You sound like a great friend and you deserve to have friends who will treat you like you would want to be treated. I know it hurts right now, I've been there too, but i promise you will find a new best friend. Be true to yourself and never compromise who you are, because who you are is pretty great.
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That is such a typical teenager thing. Trust me I know. Seems like everyone thinks they are cool. They just want to be cool, and they think they are by doing all of that. I know that is such a cliche thing to say, but really she is just trying to be cool and fit in with the "cool crowd". I know people just like that, and I used to be like that. But eventually I came to realize how stupid it was. I think that you need to find some new friends to hang out with. Have you talked to her about her problems and how you feel about it? Because that is probably be a good idea. But if you have already tried that, then I think that you should just not hang out with those girls, because you may get sucked into doing the same things. So you should deffinately get out while you can, and find some friends that you can hang out with, and aren't drinking or smoking. Maybe Alexis will realize that she is losing her best friend ,and will come around. But till then I think you just need to leave her right now, and find some better people.
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Sounds kind of Ewwwww...to me too. I know in 8th grade it's important to have a best friend, but being treated right is more important. You don't need the stress of having a friend like that. Of course you feel sad because your friendship (and your friend) is changing. It's easy to miss any relationship that is moving apart, but as time goes on you will find that this type of thing will happen over and over again. For now try to make new friends and invite someone over that you haven't given much thought to before. Join something that this old friend doesn't belong to--such as a club or sport. You'll find a new best friend or maybe even 2 or 3 friendships that are valuable and important. Personally, I have several good friends, but none that I would qualify as a best friend. Whatever works! Good Luck to You!
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