I go to HHS and I really like this guy Named Derrick problem is I dont really know anything about him and he doesnt know anything about me He doesnt even know my name I just really really like him for some reason We all hang out at lunch And my friend said he wont go out with me unless I talk to him But IM afraid to what should I say to him Ive never talked to him before in my life except I said HI once Im a really shy person when it comes to guys I like so someone help me Please I need to talk to him 2 morrow
well, i don't think talking on the computer at first is a great idea..i think you should talk to him face to face because it's a more sincere thing ya know? What you need to do is just face your fears, if you really like him you'll just do it without even realizing your scared and just say hi, derrick. And go from there, talk don't just walk away after saying hi and make sure you look him in the eyes, it's more real and true when you do that. After that you should get his phone number or sn so you can talk to him all the time. Good luck lemme know how it works out. hope i helped ya!
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ok, my friend has liked this guy for two years... and i have liked him for two weeks... he asked me out and i told him that i would have to check with my friend.... and shes like i dont care... but she looks so sad... then my other friend just dumped her boyfriend of 7 months and i kind of like him..... i am so lost plz help me... what should i do?
okay, now since your friend said it's okay i'm gonna assume you are now going out. k? well, your friend had her chance to say, no i don't want you going out with him. She didn't take it hun so whatever problems she has with you and him, are her problems cuz you gave her the chance to say no. I really think you should stick with this guy cuz hey he could be quite a catch..as much as you might wanna go out with 2 guys, you really can't and actually be..decent. I think you should stay away from the other guy cuz him and his g/f just broke up and it was a pretty long relationship so, i think it's best to stick with what you have and if you find there isn't any chemistry then break up with him and go with the other one..but make sure to give the one you have a chance. I hope everything i said made sence and i hope i helped. Good luck..let me know how it works out!
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Hey. I need some advice and you seem like you like helping people out so here i go:
I'm a sophomore and ever since last year, I have liked this guy in my high school and he has liked me back. However, this guy is a player. He goes out with many girls at the same time. He gets over all of them, yet he's never been able to get over me. He always asks me out and I always refuse him. Who would want to go out with a player and get hurt? He promises me that he'll change. Sadly, I caught him making out with another girl the day after. I was devastated. I sent him a letter that told him how I felt. In it I told him how stupid I felt for liking and caring so much about him for such a long time. I also told him I was sick of lies and false promises. I ended it by saying "don't write back or talk to me anymore...leave me alone, you've hurt me enough." That day I came home and started crying. I should feel better now that it's over, but I don't. The thought that he'll never talk to me again makes me sad. Even though he's broken my heart and played me from the very start, I can't help but keep liking him. Should I talk to him again? Should I keep trying to make "us" work out? Please let me know your honest answer.
Well, hun that's sad he's like that. I think your choices have been very good and steady all through this and it shows me that you are very smart but you can't help how you feel about people. I truly believe it's time you got over him. He hurt you once and if he hurts ya once he'll do it again. Now don't go thinking you can't change guyz cuz it is possible for a guy to change but some of them you just can't and he seems like one of them. If this is the way it's ended it seems like he's not for you and you should try getting over him, get involved go out with friends and try to go for someone else. But, if you do go out with someone don't try to find him in others cuz that's very unfair to that person. It's natural to keep liking him, but you can't forever because this isn't the way love should be. It's time to forget him. Hope i helped and good luck. :)
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well i have these two friends. in fact they are my best friends. we are all bffs and so there is one girl named alissa and the other one is micheal. well alissa went out with micheal for a while and then they broke up. then alissa went out with micheals best guy friend, dan. then they broke up and like now alissas mom told her she couldnt have a bf. well now micheal is the only guy that alissas mom likes so she said that micheal was the only one alyssa can go out with. now i just know they are going to go out. i mean it is going to ruin everything because like i sorta like micheal but he only thinks i do as a friend...and i am not going to tell him that i do because i just cant and that wouldnt change anything beetween us or anything so yea. they havent gone out yet but like i kinda am getting the hint from both of them that they are so idk...someone plz help me. i dont want them to go out. i am second choice. i even know it! alissa told me that micheal said that and now im just so...not really jealous but jealous...if you know what i mean. any advice?
The beginning sucks..just keep reading.
Now, what i would do is the cowardly thing, not say a thing, have my heart ripped out, watch my best friends together when i think it should be me. But you SHOULD NOT DO THAT! You need to go to Micheal and say, you know i really feel uncomfortable with you and alissa going out cuz i really like you as more than a friend. Look him in the eye when you say this and then well you have 2 choices, walk away and see if he comes after you to talk this out or stay there and see what he says..personally i'd walk away and then see what happens. Make sure if you do stay, to look him in the eye the entire time..if he looks away try to catch his eye so he knows ur serious. Don't look away it's hard i know but DON'T.
I know this will be hard on alissa if anything changes from ur doing this so if anything does change your favor (or for the better for you) then you should talk to her about ur feelings. Trust me, if she's your best friend she'll step down. I've stepped away from guyz for my best friends and never regretted it cuz they are now soo happy. Good luck with whatever happens. Keep asking questions, love giving answers.
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Hi JennaRESPECTS i am really upset. Im really worried that my best friend is avoiding me. I dont want to ask her because i dont want her to get mad at me. But i dont know what to do to find out if she is or not. what should i do? Help me please.. she means ALOT to me. I love her alot. Thanks so much!
Sincerley,
Confused and Worried.
My real name is alli.. but thats how i feel
Hey my name is alli too sept its spelled ally. Anyway, what you need to do is like ask her if she wants to do stuff with you, like come to your house or go to a movie or something and if she says no to the majority of it, then yeah she prolly is avoiding you so you then need to ask her if there is anything wrong. She could be mad at you, something could be going on in her family, anything could have happened if you find out she truly is avoiding you. That's why you need to confront her to see if she's alright. just say hey, are you okay? We haven't been hanging out much lately and i was wondering whats up? Don't just burst out ur avoiding me. That will get her upset. Good luck.
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i dont know wat to do. It seems like everything is falling apart. I jus feel like everyone hates me for sum reason. I used to be friends with one of the most popular kids in the whole grade, but she hardly talks to me anymore. She says i've changed, alotta people say that. Is there anythin i cud do to make them stop hating me?
p.s.wen i stopped trying to fit in and actually started being myself, people started talking to me WAY more then they did b4.) PLease dont delete this. Thank u!!!
then it's obvious you just need to be yourself. I mean nobody likes a fake or a phony. Come on let people like you for you! you don't want people liking someone you arent then you show ur true self and they hate it. Be who you really are and if they still don't like you forget them they suck. You just need to be you cuz nobody else has the pleasure of being you. It's always fun to be different i think. Good Luck. Keep asking questions I'm always here.
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ok well my friend Christine says stuff about me and my other friend behind our backs and we hate it so we asked her why and now she says she didn't say anything when tones of pplz tell us she said stuff what should I say to her to make her spill out the truth or should I stop being friends with her??
if you know for sure it's true i think it's time for ur friendship with christine to end. She's obviously not a very good friend and doesn't deserve to be treated like one. Don't stoop to her level, don't talk about her behind her back just...well it's time to stop being friends with her. Friendships come and go. Good luck with what you choose to do. Ttyl
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im 13 in the 8th grade and ive never had a b/f. the guy that i like keeps on saying that he dosent like me.
is there something wrong with me?
no. you can't force people to like you. it's not a big deal if you don't have a b/f just be happy single. I'm 14 and going into high school and i've never had a b/f either and i'm completely content. You can have a good time without a b/f. There is definitly nothing wrong with you, guyz just aren't interested in you. Once you start high school then you'll see guys are more open minded and go for other girls. Until there's a guy that likes you back, be happy with your single self. I've heard it's a lot easier being single than taken. Good luck.
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ok heres my problem. i met this guy like.. awhile ago in a class that was for high school but he doesnt go to my high school. and i liked him but i stoped cuz i decided i would never see him again. well tonite i saw him at.. at r county fair or what ever u call it. and we talked for a lonng time. and i started liking him again. his friend.. said that he wanted to keep hanging out with us,(me and my girls) so they did. we talked for a longg time. and i really like him. he is so nice hot funny.. my only problem is.. i have no clue if i should keep likng him. we go to different high schools. and i dont think.. we will ever see eachother very much. even though he said he wanted to hang out with him. when i say i like him i mean i really like him alot. it realy bugs me because- i dont no what to do. he makes me smile. he gave me his aim sceen name n we chat it up n stuff but i realy dont no what i'm getting my self into// i like this boi alot.
HelP PlEaSE?
You know what? You should keep liking him. There are all kinds of people I know who are dating guys from other schools and their relationships work out so well sometimes and sometimes they dont. Go with it, have fun with him and keep liking him and hey if it doesn't work out then you'll know better than to like someone from another school but you can't ignore these feelings. You have to follow your heart. Good Luck.
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my b/f and i have dated for 1 year and 2 months and i feel like i want to have sex with him and well you know guys they always want to but i'm not sure. How do you know for sure when you are ready to have sex? i'm 15 if that helps. I rate!
well 15 is very young to be having sex but it's none of my buisness. A good way to know if you are ready is if you love the guy, you are 100% sure he loves you, you are 100% sure you will NOT regret doing it, you are not have ANY second thoughts at all beforehand, and that you are ready for w/e comes with the sex (pregnancy, STD's, etc.) If you do have sex, use a condom and birth control wouldn't hurt either. If you are having second thought just don't do it. Good luck with w/e you choose.
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hey...i'm 17 and my b/f and i have been dating for 4 years. We really truly love eachother. I know it's true and i know he respects me. When we were 15 he wanted sex but i said no and he hasn't bothered me with it ever since. That's how i know he respects me. Also, i know he has never cheated on me so i know he's serious about this relationship like i am. I love him and i know he loves me. I guess my question is, i can tell he wants to have sex now and it's making me antsy. He wouldn't ever force me too but i'm afraid that he'll crack any second if we don't have sex. Should i have sex with him or should i stick with my morals and say no if it comes up. I really love this guy..what should i do?
Wow the lucky 4? Not many relationships last that long around them ages. You must really truly love eachother. I think it's the right time to talk to your b/f about sex and talk to him about why you arent ready to have sex and that you just arent ready. Make sure he knows you love him and that won't change. I know if he loves you he will keep from getting what he really wants. If he's been with you this long then it's definitly you he wants it's just that sex sometimes just seems right after a certain period of time to guys. They don't understand how precious virginity really is to girls. Just talk to him about it and stick with what you believe and if you believe you shouldn't have sex then don't do it. You know you'll regret it. If he loves you which i'm sure he does, he'll keep on respecting your wishes. Good Luck with the relationship he sounds great. Wish i had a guy.
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whats the biggest difference between high school and middle school?
That's the easiest question in the world. Everyone in high school is sooooooo nice and they all really stick together and they don't back stab, spread rumors, make fun of or anything. They are just the sweetest people you could ever meet. Then there's middle school which has mean horrible people spreading rumors, back stabbing, bullying and a lot more drugs, alcohol and smoking and crap. Also, in middle school all people really care about is who is going out with who. In high school that changes and people actually worry more about their grades for college and worry about activities. It's so much more fun high school is. Trust me.
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okay i knoe alot of ppl are havin sex and all and i used to want ta have sex really bad but i was talkin to my friend and she really explained to me that its a really good idea to wait for mariage. so thats me new plan. but c i talked to alot of guys about having sex... and now i dont knoe how to turn them down..?? i mean will they think im dumb if i say i wanna wait till marriage??
It really doesn't matter what they think. If they want you to have sex and you say no the only reason you need to say is because it doesnt feel right or you arent ready or you just don't want to. It's your choice and if you have sex with them it's because you said it's alright and it's not their fault. So, if someone asks you, you don't have to say i'm waiting until i'm married just say i don't want to or it doesn't feel right. I guarentee i would say that and walk out the second the guy tried anything. I'm waiting til i'm married too. That's the only time i'll be for sure it's okay if you don't plan a pregnancy or something. Just say no. And that's all they should need but if they need an answer tell them something i've mentioned. Good for you for waiting it'll be so special when you do it with the one you love and Good luck with whatever you choose to do.
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Ok, this is going to be kind of long because I need to give you all the details. I haven't always been overweight, but when I was finally aloud to stay home in the summer by myself, I started to get bigger. I couldn't go anywhere when my parents were home, so I sat and watched TV and ate constantly. Well, the big problem is that was about 6 years ago! Every year I say I'm going to finally lose weight, and I still haven't. Now I'm at least 30 pounds over-weight, and even though I love playing sports and being active, I also love to sit at home and eat the "tasty" foods. I am going to be a junior, and it is so hard to be an over-weight teen. I know all the stuff I need to do if I want to lose weight, but I just can't find my motivation to do it. Do any of you have advice to try help me? Please, I would really appreciate it.
I'm in the same situation as you. I am definitly overweight and it sucks but lately the pounds are decresing. I started marching band so that's my excersise..what you should do is just get out of the house everyday..do something if it's a short distance walk there. And when you are home eating a meal, don't have seconds or large portions and don't eat anything else until the next meal. If you just ate meals, and went out with friends to do stuff that includes a little excersise that should help you a bit. Also, it wouldn't hurt to go running or walking after eating to kinda burn off the food. This i've been doing for about 2 weeks and i've lost 8 lbs. Good Luck.
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Ive been with my gf for about 9 months
were both 16 weve talked about sex and im not sure about it my worry is my penis is not that big
and im not sure what she'll think does it matter to girls?
Well, that would be the last of my worries...but I have heard that girls talk quite a bit about it. It shouldn't matter considering she's been with you as long as she has. Just use protection if you are gonna do it and make sure you truly want to do it and that you won't regret it. I'm sure it won't matter to her since considering the time you've shared. Good luck.
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Ok well i been wid mybf for over 9 months and i have been thinkin bout"IT" lol well i wanted to wait till i was like 16 but i dont think im gunna b able to wait that long cuz im 13 now turnin 14 next month but i feel im conforablen stuff n im almost definately positive my bf iz!! lol so my questions iz do u think i should or do u think im to young?!?!?!?! plz help!! thanx
~*~ Should I?!?!? ~*~
well, in my opinion you are totally too young. But, it's also totally not my place to tell you that. If you love this boy and you know 100% he loves you and you definitly know he's not using you and that you really want to do it..then do it. Don't do it cuz everyone else is, don't do it cuz he wants you to, don't do it because it's the IN thing. But, I really think if you do it you'll regret it but it's your choice. Think about everything before you do it and make sure you use protection if you decide to do it. Be careful and make sure what you are doing is right. Good luck.
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Ok, well i have this friend who always tells rumers about me! i hate it and i always tell her how i feel, but everytime i tell her she goes and tells another rumer! what should i do?! help me please!
signed.
Losing a friend?
if she tells everything you say to her then she's obviously not a good friend. You need to be careful what you say to her. Talk to her sure but make sure you are always cautious and make sure what you say to her is something you don't care the rest of the world knows. I'm going through the same thing as you are. If you wanna stay friends with her then do what I do. I don't like losing friends so I just keep being their friend but am different in how I am with them. Watch your back because any thing you say or do could be used against you. (in a court of law. haha cop shows)sorry about the joke..lightening things up. Good luck.
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i just started going out with this guy i meet at cokemusic playing the matching game thing there. well i dont know what he looks like. he says he has hazel eyes and blonde hair. he sounds really cute. well he doesnt have a scanner and cant give me a picture. he told me his name and age etc. before i told him mine. im pretty sure its true {{the info. he gave me}} well i want to know what he looks like and i really dont know what to talk about. all we talk about is cokemusic.com so i dont know i think i need more to say to him and stuff. im 13 and he just turned 14. im going to turn 14 november 16 2004. well i dont know what to do someone help!! he sounds sweet. i know i dont know him that well but i want to. im really confused.
Okay..you met him on the computer? Well, this is time for my lecture i'm sorry to say. This same thing happened to this person in my town. She talked with this guy on the computer who was "the same age" as her and they started e-dating. Then, her curiousity got the better of her and she asked what he looked like and he told her and then said he couldnt send a pic..same situation as you, remember. Okay she was really pretty sure he was telling the truth about everything and then he invited her to meet him at an airport to go across the world to another country. She snuck out against her parents wishes and she went and it turned out he didn't lie about his looks but he wasnt the same. He lied and it ended up he raped her. So you see, he could be telling the truth..but he could be lying. I dont think you should compeletely trust someone you met on the computer cuz even tho you are "pretty sure" you just cant ever be 100% sure. You need to be careful. you dont wanna end up like that girl in my town. I hope you do the right thing and be careful at what you tell him from now on. you dont want to get hurt. If he asks you to meet somewhere in person dont go and make sure to block him. Never ever do anything that you don't know for sure what's going to happen. Do the right thing and be careful. Good luck. :)
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ok theres this guy i've liked for a while and he knows that. well he always wants to hang out and be friends with benifits. well i told him that i actually want to have a relationship with him. he told me he doesnt want to rush into getting a gf bcuz he just broke up with his old one. but they broke up like 5 months ago. so he said lets hang out more. is this guy just using me? is he scared to have a relationship with me? i'm clueless.....please help me
Okay. This guy could be doing anything. If he wants to be your friend with benifets then i really dont think you should be with him because he said he didn't want a relationship. That's technically what a friend with bennifets is. I'm sorry but i really think he's just using you for some "fun" for himself. If he just wants to be friends then maybe his old girlfriend really hurt him and he is scared to open his heart. But from what i can see from your story..i'm thinking he's just using you for...well "a little fun" for himself. I hope i helped a bit. Good luck. :)
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whenever a guy and a girl makeout, why do the guys always asked if the girl liked it?
Well, guys are strange people when you speak girl. Hmm...well i've always thought that the reason they ask is becuase they want a good reputation and for a guy reputation is one of the most important things. If that's not right boys then let's get this straight and you answer this question.
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