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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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so a close freind of mine got raped
(police were notified everything is under control)

by the way 13/f

i heard my freinds saying that least she never got her period before and her cherry was poped that she wont be able to have kids.

is this true??

No, that's definitely not true. Some women are infertile yes, but it has nothing to do with their hymen.

Don't worry about it.

i hvae been in a lot of fights at my new school becasue people say im mean and insulting. I dont really know what it is that i am doing. My old school wasnt a public school, but everyone was mean and snooty and i had public school friends, not saying that public schools are bad, but my frends were just mean people.

The people at my new school have always been in perfect litttle catilian rich people everyone is secretly mean to eachother enviornments, where i have been raised[[incluiding mine and my old friends familes]] in mean bitchy enviornments. The girls at my new school are used to being treated like princesses everyone being nice to them, no one even saying sumthing mean as a joke. they just DONT get it.

ive been trying my hardest to not be mean, but people even still tell me that im mean, and i dnt understand, ill say the stupid, meaningless thing, that i say in a VERY sarcastic way, that anyone would be able to tell that i was joking, even if i was sorta serious, but not letting anyone know. BUt everyone takes it WAY too personally, and they dont understand the fulmeaning thats its a JOKE!

like i said try to be nicer, but i cant seem to get that meaness out of me. I have frends, but i dnt want to loose them because im mean, so what should i do OTHER than trying, because everytime i try it doesnt work.

I agree with ammo. There's a right time for jokes, and a right time to be serious. Some people can't take jokes, and those are the kind of people you might not want to be so silly around. If that doesn't work & they still think you're being mean, then maybe you shouldn't hang out with them. It's hard to get people to accept you & like you, and if they don't, well then that's their problem, not yours.

Talk to a friend about it & see if she gets where you're coming from. She probably will because everything's new to you, and you need time to get used to it.

Just be silly around some people, but not around others.

i want to start using make-up.
well, more make-up, 'cause i already use black eyeliner to line the bottom of my eye.
you can see what i look like here: http://www.myspace.com/dixiencoco
[feel free to add me if you have one yourself]
anyway, in some of those pictures i'm wearing eyeliner, and in others i'm not.
[mostly the older/first ones have me make-up free]
i do have glasses and i'd like to [for now] stay away from things that would make my nose or wear my glasses sit oily, because its hot in florida at school and i tend to sweat a bit making my glasses slide down a bit much.
and um, anything else i'll add later.
'kaythanks.

If you don't wear mascara, try some of that. It brings out your eyes like mascara does. I don't know much about coverup since I don't wear it, but maybe try some of that.

I have this best friend, well she used to be my best friend. we haven't been friends for a couple of weeks. but we were friends since first grade, now in 10th. ever since her family came into money she's been acting like a snob, like she's better than everyone. and she's been really spoiled and bitchy. she doesn't even know the words please, thank you, or sorry and she thinks that everything is always someone elses fault. It got on my nerves to the point where I don't sit with her at lunch and don't talk to her. But we've been friends for 10 years and I don't want that to get ruined... by bitchyness. what should I do???
Thanks in advance ;)

Talk to her about it. She might not realize that she's doing it. And if she does realize it, then she's lame for being such a horrible friend. Tell her that the money is getting to her head, and she needs to learn some things before she can go & befriend someone else. If she understands, then cool. Look for some changes & if none happen to be occuring, then stop being friends with her.

whats a good website, with cute purses? but arnt that expensivee? well, i mean i dont want a cheap purse, like 10 dollars. but like 50 or something..

Macy's & JCPenny's usually have super cute purses.

so im trying to loose some weight in 3 weeks. i dont expect to have a perfect body or anything like that. just to feel better about myself. i mainly want to loose weight & get in shape in the hips thighs & arms area. My thighs touch, & thats one of the things im most self concious about.I will be swimming laps for an hour every mon thru friday till then. so any tips?

For your thighs, try running. Swimming helps too. If you don't wanna run, maybe walk a lot & then move up to jogging & then running.

For your arms, try to lift some weights. Nothing major. Start at 5 lbs & then work your way up. =)

As for eating, this is important as well. Start eating healthier. Cut all junk food, sweets, sugars, candies, fast foods & sodas out of your life. They no longer exist. Healthy food like vegetables, fruits, meat & grain do. Drink 8 glasses of water a day, and 4 glasses of milk. Never eat or exercise before bed.

Good luck.

19 f
ok so me and my boyfriend had sex last night and he went in really deep. im just curious if its normal for a girl to look bloated like the day after

Well, did you use protection? If not, there could be a slight chance of pregnancy. Try the day after pill if you're worried. If you used protection, maybe see a doctor because I've never heard of that before. Might be normal though.

i need some new songs NEW only pleasee mostly rap some rock would be okay too =] thankss

Song on the left, band/artist on the right.
For Rap:
The Way I Live -- Baby Boy Da Prince.
Mr. Jones -- Mike Jones.
Throw Some D's -- Rich Boy.
I Luv It -- Young Jeezy.
I'm A Flirt -- R. Kelly ft T Pain.
Outta My System -- Bow Wow.
Doe Boy Fresh -- Three Six Mafia.
Don't Matter -- Akon.
Shawty -- T Pain.
Ooh Ahh -- Grits.

For Rock:
Never Good Enough In Truth Or Cliche -- Escape The Fate.
Girlfriend -- Avril Lavigne.
Never Let This Go -- Paramore.
We've Got A Big Mess On Our Hands -- The Academy Is...
Thnks Fr Th Mmrs -- Fall Out Boy.
Flathead -- The Fratellis.
Insurance -- The Higher.
Say This Sooner -- The Almost.
False Pretense -- The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus.
The Curse Of Curves -- Cute Is What We Aim For.

[15/f] i keep gettin my period really late a lot lately. like i always know when im gonna get it but lately its like way outta wack. is it cause of stress? [i've been getting a lot of shit from my friends lately and there's this huge thing going on between me and my exbf.] plzz plzz help. thnx.

Well, it depends. How long have you had your period for? If you've just gotten it, then it's going to be irregular the first couple of years. If it's already regular because you've had it for a while, then it could be from stress. And if you're not sexually active, then you're not pregnant.

i'll take any answers but i'd like guys opinions too.
for guys, if your at the mall, how do girls normally catch you attention ?

and for anyone, how is a good way to get a guy's attention at the mall? like if its a guy you see there alot but never talk to him but you know he's noticed you before?

Say hi to him & strike up conversation. He's noticed you, you've noticed him, why not act on it?

do guys like *it* shaved or not. like do guys kno that girls should shave down there? and how do yu make it stop itching? thanks

It depends on the guy. Some guys like it, and some guys don't. Basically, just shave it until a guy tells you otherwise. And when you shave, always use a new razor, lots of cream, moisturizers & lotion. =)

http://photobucket.com/mediadetail/?media=http%3A%2F%2Fi153.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fs209%2FRiku_716%2FEmo%2F652776568_l.jpg&searchTerm=hot%20guy&pageOffset=11

who is he?

A really, REALLY hot guy. =)

how come my left boob is killing me and my right is just fine? my left has a little ball in the front and it hurts bad.

You need to get that checked out. Something could be wrong, and the best bet would be to see a doctor.

What is the fastest way to lose weight?
I need to lose at least ten pounds by the end of May at the latest.
I've been dieting for a week (which pertains of eating all healthy foods no junk what so ever) and trying my best to jog for at least an hour w/ sit-ups (becuase a lot of my weight is in my belly).

So two questions
The best way to burn fat around you middle and tone the inside of your theighs
And the quickest way to eat and lose weight.

It's possible to lose this amount of weight by your goal, but you'd need to do a lot of work for it.

Keep jogging & eating the way you are. Make sure sodas are cut out too, along with fast food.

The best way to burn fat would probably be cardio.

The quickest way to eat & lose weight would be to just cut everything fatty out. No junk food. No sweets. No sugar, no candy, no chips, none of that. No sodas either. Drink water, and milk.

Good luck.

Hey! I'm 14/f from Maryland (if that's of any help). I was wondering which stores sell birthday wearables like crowns, wands and sashes (I'm especially looking for sashes). Do stores like Party City, Claires, Target, Walmart, Kmart, etc sell them? I can't order it online b/c it will take longer to get here, so if you have some stores in mind that would be great!

Party City would definitely have it. They basically have everything, so your best bet would be going there. =) Good luck, and Happy Early Birthday, I guess.

I'm 5'3, 160 lbs.
I know i need to lose weight, and WANT to for that matter :) i have the diet part down, but i'm at a plateau.i can't seem to lose any more weight. i want to add outdoor activity such as jogging to my lifestyle, but i always feel l ike when i run down the street everyones watching me. i don't know how to get past this! im after to go after school when i get home because if a school bus is by me that means kids on the bus might see me! .. idk its really not a big deal, but its kinda an anxiety for me, and its what is holding me back to go jogging.. does anyone have any ideas? i would go jogging w/ my friends. but they dont live near me. and i have a brother but hes way more in shape than i am and i wouldnt be able to keep up with him.

Just go out jogging. If people say shit to you, then they're lamer than they were before, & you just need to learn to ignore them. Just don't pay any mind to them, and go jogging. Bring your ipod with you so if there's a chance you seem them & they say something, you won't be able to hear them. Going with your brother would work too. Just ask him to slow down a bit because you won't be able to keep up with him.

I got my period on April 2nd or 4th (There was spotting so it was one of the two days). I took the day after pill like a week ago and it said I might get my period sooner and cramps might be worse. There are no signs I will be on my period any time soon.

Now to the point: If today is April 29th. when can I take one of the "5 days before your missed period" pregnancy test without it being too early to get a false negative?

You obviously haven't gotten your period, so anytime would be the best time. You should probably get to the market sometime today to pick one up.

ok i am 13/f
i am always very mean to boys. like move it. your hopeless or get off my back. or you have a brain of a paramesium.. you get it.. right? well, natrually they don't like me because of that. it is just natrual for me to do it to them. i actually very nice to evryone else. What shou;d i do? i don't want to get so nice at once because they might think i REALLY like them now.any suggestions? (they call me mean things back, but i always get them back with somwething better)

Try being nicer. They don't do anything to you so there's no reason to be rude to them. If they start something with you, then it's okay but just think before you speak.

(i ask this question before but i forgot to put more info)

i send these messages to my friends and only one replyed. 1st message was "luv you, i'm partying with angie but i'm partying for you cause its your brithday. I love u always" that was to my friend A. and the other was "luv you, im partying with angie" to friend B. Friend B send back saying " R you drunk?" "yes but still luv ya sister" i send. but friend A didnt send back till the next day but send something elus "I'm sleepy!!!!!!" so do you think friend A was freak out by the message or new i was drunk and silly?
just cerious cause they both always send back a good relpy. but friend A didnt.

EDIT: Friend B was at work and she couldnt go plus she isnt a drinker.
and
Friend A was out of town on her Brithday (that really sux, cause i rather party with her)

i didnt mean to show off, i was drunk and worryed, and i send luv text just cause.

I think friend A really was sleepy, and she probably didn't think anything of her message bothering you.

Just don't worry about it. I'm sure she doesn't even care. But if it still bothers you, talk to her.

i thought you got banned....

I did, but bans don't last forever, and they end eventually.

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