im a cutter. i have scars all up and down my arm. only 2 people know about it. but every time i see my boyfriend i have to cover it up, and make sum sort of excuse. i HATE lying to him! i feel like i should tell him, but i dont want him to think im crazy and dump me! but like.. i cant stop cutting. its always been my way of calming myself down...
My fiance was a cutter before I met him. Eventually it led to suicide attempts. Finally his parents couldn't take it anymore, and they took him to the doc, and he has a chemical imbalance in his brain. The only way he could be relieved was to actually feel pain. He's on meds now for the imbalance, and he's learned other ways to let out stress. Talk to your parents. Maybe you should see a doc, too. Remember that there's nothing wrong with asking for help. Lots of love.
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Ok my boyfriend and me had been going out for about...2 months...we had been pretty close friends for like 5 months before that. Well, he really was a sweet guy, but I kinda cheated on him with this dude...well not exactly, the guy kissed me. anyways, my boyfriend forgave me. but today he was like, "i think we should take a break. im not breaking up with u exactly, but i just think we should take a break for a while. i will probably want to get back with you in the near future." what do i do? wait for him??? im just confused right now.
Sort of wait for him. Don't go all out and sit by the phone until he calls. Go out and hang out with people and if something comes along, go for it! I wouldn't go out looking for something else, but I wouldn't avoid something if it came along either.
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I'm a female who is 15 years old. I'm going to be a sophomore in high school starting September. My question is, I can not seem to ever find a guy that is worth my time. Don't get me wrong, I'm on pom squad, I'm not a geek or anything. I just can't seem to find a steady boyfriend. I usually date older guys but I'm trying to find someone more my age. Any ideas on how to become more approachable to guys?
Just be yourself and don't worry to much about guys. The reason you can't find a guy worth your time is that most (but not all) guys your age aren't worth your time. Just try to hang out and have fun and enjoy being 15. If a guy that you have interest in that's worth it asks you out, then cool! But try not to worry about it too much.
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Hello, i am an 18 yr old grl dating a 28 yr old guy. See i have this thing with me not going to have sex till marriage which is not a bad thing... right? well my b/f knows this and knows my limits.. but see everytime we get alone and stuff he always tries to stick his dick in me. He almost did about hmmmm should i say 5 TIMES!!!!!!
Its not easy to remain abstinent but i tell you what its not FUN EITHER!! Its like your head is telling you go for it and grab the fuckin condoms but yet your heart is like wait a fuckin min. do you really know this guy or is he just using you for sex?? see the 17th is our 5th month anniversay
but yet i knew him for a few months before we started dating. so my question is to you all is what am i supposed to do. He promised me he would never do it again but yet he said that last time. I told him hes lucky b/c usually its like a baseball game 3 strikes your out!! but yet i've given him 5 chances so far and this is the last chance. So what should i do?? let him try and screw me or what?? See I love him to death but as you can tell i am not ready yet! I need help and need it bad! Plz someone help me.. i really need it!!
Wow, you've managed to go a really long time! Keep it up! I really wish that I had, and so does my fiance. You have an admirable goal, and I think that you should stick with it, especially if you're not ready. Don't do anything until you are ready. You will feel so much better about yourself if you at least wait until you are really comfortable with it.
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ya guys hey its me samantha again well yep im pregnant and um ya i way to scared to tell my travis and i defently way to scared to tell anybody else cause my parents said that if i got pregnant id get kicked out of the house and id have no where to go! so what should i do...
Also one more thing is my moms getting married the 23 and i relly dont like her going to be husbad he doesnt like me doesnt listen to me and i dont know what to do...
*x*samantha*X*
I got pregnant when I was 17 (I'm 19 now, and my baby is 7 mo. old). My parents always told me that I would get kicked out if I got pregnant, so I waited a long time to tell them. When I finally told them, the only thing that they were mad about was that I hadn't told them sooner. Yeah, I got a lecture, but I didn't get kicked out, so it worked out ok. Things didn't work out so well with the guy I was with, but I found someone better after we broke up. My advice, don't wait too long to decide how you're going to tell them, because they're going to find out eventually anyway. I wish you the best of luck, and I hope things work out ok and that you don't get kicked out.
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hi. i got my belly button pierced already but i REALLY want my tongue pierced...my mom keeps telling me 'no way..never' but i really want it done soo bad but she wont give in. i know she'll probably still keep saying "no" but any really good ideas on how to get her to say yes? (besides begging her for HOURS at a time) lol. ILL RATE U!
-X Lissa X-
If it's something you really, REALLY want, and it won't ruin your relationship with your mom, even though she said no, then go ahead. However, it is probably more worth it to wait until you are out on your own if she is really opposed to it. Try having an intelligent dsiscussion with her. Get her point of view and find out why she really doesn't like it. Be ready to give her your reasons why you think it's ok. Try to give her something more than "because it's cool" or "because it looks good." Hopefully you can win her over this way, or maybe this will lead to you being able to work out a compromise. Good luck!
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hmm where to start.. well gee its fair time where im at and last year i was with this guy.. lets say his name is * steve.. well i had my first kiss with steve there.. and wow it was all so good n sstuff anyway things ended and min en his friendship faded.. but then we hooked back up .. he cheated on me once.. but i got over it and me n him always messed around.. but really n the end i was being used.. and i fell n love with him uh.. and then like we got n this fight and didnt talk 4 months.. well eventually me n him became friends again .. and we messed around again.. but c he uses alot of girls and alot of my friends have been all depressed over him.. and its so bad i mean i got used to b his friend but then he kisses me n it all changes he so perfect for me he just doesnt c it i love him so much and friendship meant alot to me.. but c me n my friends had this thing kall'd game plan where i was supposed to lead him on then leave em haha yeah it was so mean so i didnt do it but he found out about it anyways and now he hates me (again) and i saw him tonyt at tha fair and he hates me he told me all nyt and to fuck off and he wuldnt ride anything with me and kept sayin shyt and weve been thru so much i just wish i culd tell him .. i juss need some advice =/.. thanx
It sounds like he uses a lot of people. If a lot of people are depressed over him, then does that mean he's been doing this to a lot of people? Don't worry about him. Find someone better. If things suddenly get better when you kiss him then it is probably mostly a physical thing, and you should get away from it. Just stop seeing him, and eventually it will stop hurting. I went through something similar with my ex-fiance, where he kept breaking my heart, but he's kiss me and it's be all better. Well, he ended up cheating on me, and I ended up pregnant, and he left. DON'T MAKE MY MISTAKE!
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ok i gotta ask this now..i heard someone say something bout there bf bein bipolar..what does that mean? is it like split personality?! also..my ex was really mean and called me hoe and stuff then like the day before that he was like baby i love you ill never leave ur side..is that bipolar?
Bipolar is more extreme than most people think. A lot of people call their depression a bipolar disorder when it is not. People who are bipolar are usually in therapy and receiving treatment of some kind. They don't just go from being happy to sad without warning. They go from being amazingly perky, frienly, and energetic, to being incredibly depressed, sad, and dark, not wanting to talk to or see anyone.
I don't think your boyfriend is bipolar, but he should definately not be calling you a ho.
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hey...
i'm really shy around my boyfriend most of the time ... how do i stop being shy?
I was always really shy around my first boyfriend, even after we had been together for six months. I thought that it was just me, but after we broke up and I started dating someone else, I found out that maybe it was him. I'm always outgoing and talkative around the guy I'm with now. If you're just starting out, give it some time. If you've been together for a while, take a good look at your relationship and find out if it's him or you.
Other than that, try finding things to talk about. Watch the news to get up on current events, watch movies or TV shows that he likes, or find anything else that you can talk about while you're together. Then take a deep breath and give it a try. Remember, he's your boyfriend, try your best just to relax and have fun!
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