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im a cutter. i have scars all up and down my arm. only 2 people know about it. but every time i see my boyfriend i have to cover it up, and make sum sort of excuse. i HATE lying to him! i feel like i should tell him, but i dont want him to think im crazy and dump me! but like.. i cant stop cutting. its always been my way of calming myself down...
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Cutting doesn't calm ANYONE down. It hurts you so bad and it hurts everyone around you. If your boyfriend would call you crazy if he found out he's doing it because he cares, think about it I mean he would be alll "oh big whoop you cut yourself." Please talk to someone about this before you go very deep to the point you cut your veins and you die. And who knows, maybe he could help you if you told him because I'm sure he loves you with all of his heart. Seriously, cutting doesn't help what so ever. I don't know why you think that =/ Do you think scarring yourself and making yourself bleed and hurting yourself and people that lovee you feels good? It doesn't. I hope you make the right choice and I think you should tell your boyfriend.
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you should calmly tell your bf and seek proffesional help also tell your parents they can help trust me!
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Continue cutting your way to calmness till you die of razor infections and blood loss.
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dont werry about it find sumthin else do to but cut...lke find sumthing else u can cut besides u. on the other hand maybe u should tell ur bf. just to let him no n im sure he can understand that ur hopefully gunna try to quit that habit. because meny times it can only get werse
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cutting is not a good way to calm yourself down. there are many other ways to cope with whatever you are dealing with!
now the boyfriend situation, tell him. if he really likes you and cares for u then he will still stay with you and try to help u stop cutting etc or whatever. he should be supportive!!!
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YOU NEED PROFESSIONAL HELP!!! Tell your parents or an adult you trust...plz just get help! You dont have to tell your boyfriend about it until after you get help.
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First... I think you should seek professional help with the problem you have. Not trying to be critical or mean at all. But a person that does self-mutalation for a way of self-assurance is dangerous. It's a redundant way to "calm yourself down." Maybe try writing or drawing. Find a SAFE way to express your feelings when you're down or what not. Anyway... with the boyfriend thing. I think you should tell him. Any realtionship is based on trust. If he loves you, he should be there for you and be concerned; not dump you! Hope all goes well, sweetie. :]
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you should tell him and also get help before you seriously hurt yourself or hurt yourself extremely bad
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u need to stop and tell ur parents and get help... i hope everything works out good, but seriously thats a big problem and u need to tell someone that can help u... i hope u alright!:)
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You need to tell a trusted adult that you're cutting yourself. You are not the only person in the world with this problem believe me. You need to get help and stop now before this gets any worse. If you don't feel like you can do it for yourself, then do it so that you won't have to lie to your b/f anymore. Please take this advice, because it's the only way that you can help yourself and be true to your b/f.
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hun...I know where you are coming from. Cutting is scary and it can be very embarrassing at times. Some people just don't understand where other people just want to help and be there for you. I think you should let your boyfriend know what's going on. Don't just blab it out...but kind of ease into the issue. Tell him that you have been depressed and hte only way you have ever been able to deal with anxiety and depression is by cutting. Let him know that you didn't tell him earlier because you didn't want to scare him. If he "runs away" or breaks up with you then he is not worth your time. He's not good enough...if he's your boyfriend and a good guy...he should stay around and try to help you out. I know it's scary telling someone about cutting...but my boyfriend knows about me and it has helped are relationship become stronger (as weird as that seems) since now we both feel we can be completely honest with each other. Hun, if you ever need me, if you ever need any advice about anything else...you can ask me. I know from more of a personal level how this all feels...just know that people are out there that do understand...good luck hun!
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tell him, if he is okay with it, hes a KEEPER!! thats how you can always tell if hes worth your time, sooner or later hes gunna find out, soo... x3 gl!! x3
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hey okai mii freinds a cutter..u shood tell ur boyfriend nd if he did think ur pshyco which ur not then hes not worth it..if ne thing he shood b there for u ya kno..u shood try nd get help tho becasue mii friend did it soo bad ta where like she lost alota blood nd now she hasta go to the doctors alot..good luck xoxo *jessi*
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Cutting and other methods of SI (self-injury) are often accompanied by other mental disorders such as OCD and anxiety.
You are not a psycho. The people (below) who tell you this are cruel, misunderstanding individuals who are apathetic to what they dont know.
Get help for this. See a psychotherapist and there are hospitals that are all over.
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there are other ways to calm yourself down! ruining your body like that isn't a good or healthy way to relieve stress! please stop hun! i hate it when people do that! talk to me about your problems n leave one in my inbox..or IM me. attitudechick777
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My fiance was a cutter before I met him. Eventually it led to suicide attempts. Finally his parents couldn't take it anymore, and they took him to the doc, and he has a chemical imbalance in his brain. The only way he could be relieved was to actually feel pain. He's on meds now for the imbalance, and he's learned other ways to let out stress. Talk to your parents. Maybe you should see a doc, too. Remember that there's nothing wrong with asking for help. Lots of love.
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i used to, but i didn't lie to my boyfriend...u HAVE to tell him, that way ur not lieing anymore, and no matter what even if he dumps u at least you would have told him the truth...look if he leaves u because he thinks ur crazy that's not love, and if he stays then it means he really cares about u and he will help u through it...i also think u should tell a parent or a guidance counceler or even an adult u TRUST, someone older needs to help u, go to counceling, trust me, u'll slow down and be able to stop...please help urself...and stop thinking about what other people will think, email me tosietins99@yahoo.com
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instead of cutting yourself, try letting your anger out in writing or scream into your pillow or do anything but cut yourself- vent to your friends or something. Then you won't have to deal with lying to your boy friend. Either that or you will have to tell him the truth if you can't stop, and maybe he'll try and help you out. You definitely can't go on lying to him like this. That is the wrong thing to do. I hope I helped!
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ok, do ur parents no about this problem? if not u shud tell them immeadiatley! this cud cause serious problems. u need 2 get help be4 itz 2 late. if i were u i wud try 2 avoid telling ur bf. i mean im sure u hate lying but u no who news like that spreads and u sure wudnt want it all over the skool. but plz, TELL UR PARENTS! thanx and try 2 stop that habbit. instead when u feel stressed, jam ur music or excersise or somethin! u cud also get therapy 2 help u with stress. i go 2 a councelor once a week and it helps me so0o0o much! THANX! :)
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