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Many of my friends say that I am a good listener and advice giver. Because I have experienced many good and bad situations, I know what it is like to feel down or confused. I am a mother, daughter, sister, girl friend, and friend. And if I can't figure out how to answer a question, I'm sure I know someone who can. And I've come to notice that most of the questions people ask they already know the answer to, they just need a little reassurance. But I will warn you that my policy is, if you ask a stupid question, you will get a stupid answer. But i will say that it is my joy to help anyone with a real problem, so ask away!




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okay.. whats the difference in making out.. and french kissing and normal kissing? sorry... but i honestly dont know..

i rate

kissing is just like kissing on the lips. french kssing is when you stick your tongues in eachother mouths, and i always thought making out was the same thing as french kissing.

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hey guyz i just had sex for the first time but it totally didnt hurt! n the guy was pretty big so i was expecting it to. it was just like uncomfortable but didnt hurt at all. um i was wonderin if i could have still popped my cherry ? kk thanx

did you bleed. if you bled it popped. if you didnt, it didnt yet. but your still not a virgin anymore either way.

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Alright well first of all.. I'm 16/female.. if you needed that info to help me out or whatever

Well.. last night I was over at my friend caitlin's house and we got bored so we walked around the corner and met up with some friends(rachel,chrus,anthony,katie) and we were hangin out talkin and what not.. and then we decided to walk back to rachels house.. so we're walkin and talkin and I'm a smart ass.. and someone said somethin stupid so i made a remark about it.. ya know? but chris stares at me and laughs.. like nto staring bad way.. just staring.. but yeah.. then we're back at rachels and chris wanted to swim so he strips down to his boxers and jumps in.. hah it was cute.. but anywhos.. the whole time when we're all sittin out there talkin I would look over and catch chris lookin at me.. I mean it feels like there's somethin there.. but I don't know.. I mean.. he's an awesome kid.. I'd like for there to be somethin there but I don't know.. I mean he's a grade younger than me.. but he's not immature and sldflk I don't know.. I wanna get to know him better to see if there is something there and everything.. but he's not one of the people that I hang out with all the time.. so what do i do?

Thanks a bunch

i think you should start haning out with him more. especially if you would like there to be something.

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I'm 14/f. Yesterday I found out that one of my closest guy friends likes me in a romantic sense. Let's call him "Jordan." He has liked me for possibly a year. We have been friends since we were 2 years old. I have just recently, a month ago, started liking him in a romantic sense. My problem is that I did like another guy let's call him "Dave" for a year and a half. I fell hard for him. I only saw him once over the summer. I have since stopped liking Dave as much as I used to. Possibly because I haven't seen him, and possibly because I have just gotten over him. I don't like Jordan as much as I used to like Dave. Jordan asked me out and I am afraid to say yes in the event that I see Dave and fall head over heels for him again. I like the friendship that me and Jordan share. I don't want any awkwardness between us. I get EXTREMELY nervous around guys that like me. What should I do? Should I go out with Jordan and hope for the best? Or should I say I want to stay friends? I feel that knowing that we like each other is enough and that it also leaves the possibility open to dating and a relationship. I should also mention that I have never had a real boyfriend before. Sorry this is so long, but I could really use some good advice.

go out with him and hope for the best

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does drinking lots of water actually help you lose weight? and if yes, how much should u drink?

yes. you should drink atleast drink 64 oz a day. thats 8 glasses.

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My husband is almost 40, I am just 34. We have been married 10 years but have known each other for 18 years. Sex was always good between us. Lately we haven't had any. I keep asking him if there is someone else in his life because a man can't go as long as he does without it. He says no, he just doesn't need it. I do and have considered leaving him because he doesn't meet my needs. When we do have it, it's almost like it's a chore for him. How can I deal with this? Is it possible there is someone else?

there are several other reasons your husband may not be having sex with you. dont just jump straight to cheating. as someone else told you, depression or stress can be a reason to not want to have sex. also, you have to remember, a man is in his exual prime from like 18-30, women just get into thier prime at about 30. being that you are 34, you may be at the peak of sexual prime, and have a higher sex drive then he does. so being that he is 40, and saying that he really doesnt need it all the time, may be him being honest, because he past his prime. isnt that a bitch? men and women have sexual peaks at different times.

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hey yall. if i do 32 sit ups 32 squats eat fruit and veggies um..i dont eat lunch when i start school i hardly eat breakfast. but anyways and i use a bike thingie were u just sit and pedal haha and walk everynite after dinner and i excersize after every meal how long would it take to lose 100 pounds? also what else can i do to lose weight? thanks so much i love you guys lol.

how much do you weigh? like do you really need to lose 100 lbs. thats alot. please hit me back up in my inbox, and let me know how much you weigh. so i can help you better.

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Has anybody heard of gender identity disorder? it's when you are born one gender but with the opposite gender's body? example, you can be a guy trapped in a girls body. I think I have a friend who has this. She's more than just a "tomboy." She dresses like a guy, acts like a guy, does manly things, talks manly, denies that she has or ever will get her period, and she duck tapes her boobs down. what do you think of this?

yeah she probably has gender idenity disorder, or esle she is just not comfortable with herself. but hey its not too mich of a big deal. shes your friend, and you should like her for whatever she wants to be. as long as she is happy, then who cares about all that stuff.

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i'm on my sister's advice name, but im a guy and i have really hairy arm pits. is it weird to um...shampoo it? does anyone else do this? thnx

no there is nothing wrong with shampooing them... if there is alot of hair, sweat ans shit gets in there and it gets dirty and it stinks. and even if it didnt, they are YOUR arm pits, if you feel like shamppong then do so, who cares what other people do.

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ok i just broke up with my boyfriend and i mean we havent been goin out too long wow like 10 days whoo hoo! well ne ways i got really annoyed cause he kept teling me he loves me but i know he doesnt (cause we r only 14 and dont know what love is... he also told all his ex's that he loved them... one of my best friends is his ex) ne ways... i always told him that i loved him so he didnt feel bad when i realli dont love him... he also kept bringing up some other hypethetical girl and it made em feel uncomfortable... well so i dumped him and i still wanna be friends with him but he wont talk to me... i feel realli bad he kinda made me feel reallyy bad... what should i do to not feel so bad? (check out my advice column im x27pixidust27x )

you shouldnt feel bad... this guy is a weirdo. hes 14 and tells every gf he has he loves them and then brings up other girls too. id lose interest as well. dont feel bad, you made the right choice.

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ok I think I'm fat but no1 else does..are they lying to make me feel better or am I just not fat? I'm 4'8 and I weigh 76 pounds

girl you are not fat! you are under weight! you need to see a councelor or something, i think you have apperance issues. and you need to get your weight up, cuz your not healthy at all.

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uh i liked this guy, (like recently) and he also liked me but we wernt goin out or anything, then one day he just tells me that he doesnt really like me any more, but i could tell he was sorry when he had to tell me cause he was really sweet about it and all, but i still like him, what should i do, ill rate high!

well atleast he was nice about it. and most likely if he was sincere about it, it was cuz he was telling the truth, and just isnt intrested in you anymore, but doesnt want to make you feel bad. i suggest you juts get over him. no sence in chasing someone who wont let you catch them.

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Me and My boyfriend have been going out for awhile but we haven't seen eachother sence we started going out because I had cheerleading and he had football..we talk on the phone all the time but I wanna do something together with him..should I just ask him one day on the phone to do something or wait till he asks me?

go ahead and ask him to do something. chnaces are he is thinking the same thing, and just waiting for you to ask.

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what r some ways to get rid of cramps

i always lay in a hot bath. it really relaxes your muscles. and if that doesnt work, i take pamprin or ibuprofen.

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i'm kinda depressed cuz i'm not captain of my sports team senior year and i think i would've been really good at it and i was just hoping somebody else could relate to me or boost my spirits a little :) thanks

so yeah you're not the captain, but look on the bright side... you are the team, so make the best of it. im sure you will still have a great season. juts have fun! :)

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wut can you do to make your butt bigger..im 13 and i want to make my but bigger im 100 pounds and i got a nice butt, but it can be bigger..plz help..i rate..and i dont want andy bullshit about how i dont need it to be bigger i'll just give u a 0!..haha

i rate!

do sqauts or something i dont know. there really is no way. you just either have a big butt or you dont. and its really not a big deal. this is a really pointless question. grow up.

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i have a question. what is oral sex? i hear about it but am confused on wut it is

its when you give someone pleasure on thier private parts with your mouth. ex: sucking dick and eating cootchie

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ok this may seem stupid but i keep trying to change the background on my column. and everytime i get it the way i want it. i submit and save or w/e. but it just stays the same. can anyone help me?

yeah sometimes, this site is down, and shit takes a while. just try again later.

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ok do u think its bad like if u go with ur best guy friend 2 tha movies like kuz hes datin a a grl and she alwayz brings a friend so wuld it be wrong if he invited me and went i mean she knos were bffz and all but i jsut think she might get mad but im not 4 sure like if it wuld look bad or wutnot...??

no not if you guys are just friends. why dont you bring a date along too.

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i just got a blender. what are some good recipes...you know like smoothies or something. thanx!

ooo... this is always fun! for smoothies, try one can of Dole tropical fruit, your fav flavor yougurt, a banana and ice. they are really good.
milk shakes are good, one cup ice cream, one cup milk and blend. if its chocolate, or strawberry, try adding a little bit of that kind of syprup, thats really good. or add oreaos or your fav candy, like eminems or reeses. yummy!

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