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I'm not perfect. But the heartbeats add up. As well as the life challenges. And I'm only 25. So I'm here. To help those I can. Try and make a difference in someones life.to better somes life by being someone that's there when they have no one.
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I have ONLY had protected sex (condoms) , but im concerned that I am pregnant. The only time i had a broken condom, he only had precum and i took the morning after pill. He has never came on the outside of my vagina, and he always pulls out. If a guy doesnt cum into your vagina, what is the likelihood that you will get pregnant? Like, does the sperm have as much of an effect if it is not "shot" up the vagina? Most people can go by a missed period, but my period is very irregular. I have not gotten it, but for me that doesnt mean too much. I've taken pregnancy tests and they have all been negative, but should i trust them? Any ideas about anything would be helpful. Thanks (link)
first off how late are you? as in 2 days a week?

second off. please get of the misconseption that sperm is 'shot' up the vagina.. very false.
Sperm is released whenever the male cums. Including precum. It then 'travels' thru the woman into the vagina. not shoots it to the vagina.

Even if your period has not came and is extrmely late. i would definetly check with your doctor as multiple negative pregnancy tests might only mean that you don't have enought pregnancy hormones in your body for it to pickup. so ifyou don't get it with in the next week and a half i would definetly tell your family doctor.


i dont know what to do i find myself looking at his pics still even though he was a complete and total jerk to me and pulled nasty tricks i still find myself curious about him. I really dont like him at all ask my friends they would tell you i hate the kid ughhh he drives me nuts what song should i listen to that would help me get off of him? (link)
jar of hearts - christina perri

i don't like - done with dolls



my friend who is married for 3 year has 2 kids is now getting divorce. She’s asking a question ‘’ why his husband is pushing her away'’ why he does not want to see her nor talking to her he told me, she think her husband still lover her but she dont understand why he is so horrible towards her. She even told me that the family of her husband told her that she deserve such cruelty! I knew she is so complicated during this time because she wanted to fight back her husband. And keep telling us that she never close her heart to her husband and that the divorce was not her decision. So anyone could answer her question why the husband is hate her that much? I, myself and one other friends of her dont understand why. could be it’s true that the husband still love her?
before the divorce, she has a very good job in europe and in good salary. But the husband is not. Now that she stop working because her contract end, she then start nugging the husband to and start telling him that his salary is isnt good enoght for thier family. the answered, ( life is better for her without him ) The divorce is here she then start blaming everyone specially his parents by encouring thier son to go ahead the diyivorce. She is not trying to get the husband to be out of the parents control because she think there is a possibility that the husband would see that he cant take care thier kids and therefore he realize he needed her and possible back together. only if the parents is out of influence on him. Do every one think that it could be possible? But I can see is rather complicated since she is provoking it so with the procedure of thier divorce by making it so conflict because she hope so much of winning her husband back. (link)
Because your just the friend looking in on the marriage you will never know the real stuff going on between them only the he said/she said stuff. If she really doesn't understand,. then she just needs to talk to him, ask him those questions and tell him she doesn't understand what went wrong or what happened for him to be pushing her away.


18/f
Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a little over a year now and we have a pretty good relationship(: The only thing is that he friend requests a lot of girls on facebook. It bothers me that he does this but i see it when i get on his facebook sometimes. If he isn't trying to get with other girls, then why does he keep adding them? He friend requests them. (link)
First off.. Why are you going onto his facebook?
Like do you mean signing into his facebook? or do you mean looking on his facebook page.
Because if ur signing into his facebook. That is very wrong. you shouldn't be checking on him like his mother..

And also. don't be so worried.. he may be adding these people because he knows them? or he met them.. I wouldn't be too concerned..

Ps. you don't add people on facebook just to get with them..



I'm helping my friend with recording and I'm looking to get a new computer tower. I'm getting it mainly for music recording, rapping specifically, and I was wondering if there were any good ones out there with sufficient memory space, etc.? I'm hoping for something on the cheaper side as well.. any suggestions or advice?
Thanks (: (link)
From my friend Intaflex:

First, get a silent power supply, and a low-noise fan. Second, most any computer will do, you can get a tower for $500. Put at least 512 MB of ram in it, that should be about $200. That'll get your computer ready to record. You'll need a mixer, and they go for about $150. You need one with at least one XLR output, that's for the mic. Then you need a mic, I reccomend Apex. Shure is industry leading, but they cost $600. Then a mic stand, shock mount, pop filter, and XLR cable will get you your gear. Then you need software. Most people use Adobe Audition, which has a price tag, but it's what I use, and I taught myself how to use it. Very friendly. My first setup cost me $2000.


Hope this helps
~Jasmine*


how do you know when sperm enters your vagina? do it seep back out?. if sperms is on the outside of your vagina can you still get pregnant? (link)
wow... sorry to the other guy. But he's an idiot.

You can not always feel when the sperm is entered into the vagina. There is pre-cum there is also orgasming.
When you orgasm your sperm is relased into the condom or the vagina. But there is always pre cum which in fact can still get you pregnant.


I have been in a relationship with my girl for a year now and known her for 5 we get along really well always have. I am a single parent and a couple of months ago she found out she was approved to purchase a home and she asked me to move in with her I have a lease and it is not up she recently moved in to her home but talk of us living together has changed at first it was us and our and so on but my lease is up in dec and I am not so sure anymore I told her when she asked mee and my chold that I wanted her to be sure she said she was and now she says she wants to make sure and get to know me and so on. I do understand and dont want to regret but I do love her I let myself believe she was ready and never pushed her for comitment at all...so what do i do now do I just move forward with my own life and plan for myself and child do I wait what do I do (link)
You want to be able to provide a life for you and your child for sure. that is number one. and by the sounds of it she is not ready for the move in to a house together commitment. I would honestly renue your lease or move to a different place or which ever you choose. But also keep her option open as still dating her. She has to understand that when she accepts you in to the move in the house commitment it includes your child. Maybe just give it a few more years or months.


What do you do when your crush gets a girlfriend and it's your best friend (link)
Honestly,. Don't take it to hard,. it is just a crush and you will find someone so much better. who will treat you as a princes..
and i agree with the other advicer. even if down the road they do split up. it is very against girl code to date a friend's ex.


I have been dating my bf for over three years. I love him, I really think I do. Most of the time I know I do and have no doubts about him. Is it bad though that I still have the ability to form close friendships with other guys and can sometimes even see a potential future with them? I feel badly about that bu I can't help it. Lots of my friends with boyfriends can't even see anyone else but that is not the case for me.

I also slept over my best guy friend's apartment two nights ago because my roommate was sleeping with his roommate. WE shared a bed and it was completely innocent and it was okay with my bf becaise they are friends...but i has a sex dream about him when I was sleepIng next to hkm in his bed! I can't control my dreams but do I have some subconscious thing
Goin on and what could it mean? (link)
First off,. You think you love him..

Like the previous advicer,. if you loved him you wouldn't have to guess or think about it. It would be yes i love him. No questions asked. But the fact you are thinking about other guys as potential future hubby's well that's a very very bad sign.

You should take some time and think about weither or not you actually want to be with your bf and not becasue you don't wanna be alone or for the fact that you want someone to have on the side to turn to.


How can i move on after things ended with the person i love the most in this world? I cannot move on and i need advice on how to. Also, my ex somehow has completely wiped me off from his life, yet we spent 4 years together. How do i move on? (link)
Moving on may take a very very long time. Sometimes one ex-partner can move on alot faster than the other. It honestly just takes time and you will eventually stop thinking about him as much., you will eventually stop dreaming of him as much.
Occasionally you will get reminders of an event that happened like a date at a certain place. Just give it time,. i know that is sooo cliche. but it's the truth.

I still think of my ex that i only dated for a month and it's been over a year. Sometimes connections can last longer than we want them to.

I wish you the best
~Jasmine^


hi ;am 13yrs;am frm nigeria i av dis boy in my sch and he is very cute.we sit next 2 each other and wen ever we re alone i feel like kissing him.thou i don;t av his num and i really like him but sum times i don't like him cause i feel he is not intrested in me.But wenever i see him i get so confuse.He is driving me crazy.Pls wat should i do (link)
Honestly i think you have a crush on him. you should try hanging out with him more,. ask him to have a study session for a test coming up or go to the movies or mall or go for a walk or something and see if he returns the interest.

Hope this helps:)
*Jasmine^


So I have been in plenty of relationships before, but never have I made out with a guy yet. But now I have this really amazing boyfriend, and I don't know what to do! We have been dating for like three months now, and I know hes going to try to make out soon, but I am SOO nervous. I dont want to do anything wrong because I really like him. Can someone pleaseeeee give me advice!! Oh and I am female and 15. (link)
Aweee cutte :P

Just breath hon,. it will be perfect for the little fact that it will be with him. Don't worry about it just let it happen. it will be very cute. and will be at the perfect moment.

hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*


ok so im 13 and this guy asked me out but i really really like this other guy too who is very seems very sweet and nice and charming and funny but the other guy seems nice and cool and flirty with me so i dont know what to do? (link)
Who do you like more. You want to make sure you don't play either guy,. because that is so not fair to the other. just take some time to think about it. and figure out which one you like.

Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*


I have a bump on my vagina?
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See your doctor,.


Okay so i'm 12 years old and i know my body isn't finished developing but all the other girls in my class are and fully chested and curvy and im a pencil and flat chested! I even get made fun of about being tall and skinny. Any advice because i seem to think about this quit often and i feel confident with my body at home but the second i hit school EVERYTHING changes! Please help thanks bye! (link)
Just because you haven't developeed as quickly as the other girls doesn't mean anything. You shouldn't compare yourself to the other girls,. each and everyone's body is different and grows at different paces. So i wouldn't worry about it too much hun

Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*


i have a lot of body image problems and struggled with eating disorders in my late teens. i've been getting better and i've realized that no body is perfect. but, it's not all better. recently, i went to the beach with some friends (sorority sisters) and we took some pics. sometimes, when u sit down, u look worst than when your standing up (lol), and i really want pics of me from the internet removed that i'm not comfortable with. it's not anything bad. i just feel like i look fat and i'm not comfortable with these pictures on the internet for the wold to see. how can i ask her in a nice way to take them off without coming off as mean and without revealing all my body image problems?

thanks
20/f btw
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Just say,. I'm not comfortable with certain pictures on facebook,. Would you mind if you took them down?

Or you could untag yourself in the pictures?

~Jasmine*


me and my best friend are both 17/f. she and her family are currently living with me as of 3 weeks ago. we've had our differences before. It was mainly about boys. I'd never lose my friendship with her over a guy persay, its just different. I expect her not to flirt and be all over the guy that i like; However, she does it anyways. she's a flirty person and she says she doesnt know that shes flirting with them, but that's bullshit to me because she doesnt flirt with any ugly guys. and you have to KNOW that you're flirting. seriously, i know when i flirt with guys. anyways, we have this friend. all i did was ask her to control herself and NOT ruin the friendship by going after him. what she does is she likes them for a short time, then dumps them. i really wouldnt have a problem with her going out with him if i didnt know how she already was. this has happened so many times that its hard for me to count. anyways, the problem i have is that i just cant stop being a bitch for some reason. im just so tired of how she is. and our friend comes over all the time just to see her. it just pisses me off how i ask her ONE time to do something for me and she cant even do it (no, i dont like the guy btw. but i dont like how she is with it either). you cant control your feelings huh? bull. all she is, is just a player. and i just dont know why it pisses me off so much. i mean i probably shouldnt get so mad about it like i do, but ive tried talking to her about it. it really DOESNT work. i just dont know what to do. i really need to do something soon, either get away from her for a while, find some different friends that i can hang out without her being there or something. id never drop her or anything but i CANT stop being a bitch to her, and i really dont want to lose our friendship over this. i just need some good advice.. help?? (link)
Living in the same house makes it hard to get space from her. But it's obvious that she doesn't really care about how you feel or what you say.

AND JUST SO YOU KNOW!
yes sometimes you can tell when your flirtin with someone. but sometimes you don't even realize you are. (happens all the time to me). She does seem like a major player. and you get mad because it's against what you think and believe. and no you can't control your feelings,. but her feelings she might just be playing with these boys and just using them as chew toys.

You want a friend that has similar likes/dislikes and that will respect your wishes. Maybe it's time to grow some space between you too and move on from her petty little games. your better than that. doesn't mean you have to stand around and watch her hurt guy after guy.

Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*


Hi, I'm 19 and female. I've seemingly got myself in a big mess. There is this guy. Let's call him Jack. Jack is 26 and we have been good friends for 3 years. How would I describe him? Tough guy with an extremely sensitive side. Very responsible, reliable, trust worthy, honest and caring. Best guy I know by far. He can also he ill-tempered. Random spurts of anger are quite common although he would never so anything to hurt a woman. A man on the other hand would be completely done if he ever angered him.
Jack's last girlfriend and him were together for 5 years. He thought they were going to get married and live the fantasy life. That did not work out and he is still very tormented and bothered by it. He basically refuses to open up his feelings to any girl unless he is sure she is the one.
I have a boyfriend but lost my virginity to Jack about two months ago. Yes, I cheated on my boyfriend and beat myself up for it.
Whenever him and I are together, something just seems to click. We laugh, joke around and we're just extremely comfortable around each other. The morning after we first slept together, he had my favorite coffee waiting for me when I woke up. Last night, we had sex and I stayed nude because I was comfortable. He ended up falling asleep on top of me (more of a military sort of position) and I also fell asleep. I woke him up this morning for work and he kissed my forehead and said "you and my ex are the only people I have ever fallen asleep on. Something about you drives me crazy."
He then dropped me off and went to work shortly after.
My thing is, I believe I'm falling for him but I'm telling myself I'm not because I'm afraid of getting hurt. We agreed to be strictly friends (I guess with benefits). He's not looking for a relationship and he did recently say that he doesn't know anyone he would be interested in dating.
I don't know what to think. Advice? (link)
The fact that he was with her for 5 years and it went sour,. clearly destroyed his sense of view on a relationship. He may start to like you.

But STOP messing around with him.
I say that because
1. If he starts dating you too soon,. Youu could only be a rebound and it might ruin your friendship.
2. YOU HAVE A BOYFRIEND... WIth that you ahve to think about do you actually love your boyfriend and want to be with him. Because if you do love him then you wouldn't be fooling around with someone elsee.. if you don't well then you shouldn't be with him.and should let him down easily.

3. Friends with benefits never work. One person ends up falling for the other,. and if the feelings are not given both ways it could hurt.

I would make sure you give jack time to heal his heart. and make sure he actually want to be with you and not as a rebound.

Sorry if this was mean hun. just tryin to help


So there's this guy is my chemistry class in college. He is kinda cute and I want to get to know him. I've noticed him look at me a couple times, and he always asks me whats up, and never does to anyone else. (in lab) but in lecture, he doesn't sit next to me there either so i only catch him looking at me here and there and i quickly turn away. I want to tell him i like his smile but do not want to come off as a creep and plus i am shy? i also don't know how to strike up a conversation with him, or flirt. it's like i'm in middle school all over again but i have never had a boyfriend. he might think i'm weird if i smile at him too much or even at all. or i might come on too strong and then it pushes him away. this class started 3 weeks ago and we only had oneish convo, and he only asked me whuddd up twicee? pleassse help.

annashae (link)
Side comment,. That's a real sweet name:
annashae,. Luff it:P

And for this boy.. sounds like ya might like him a bit.. Smiling is key! you can never smiley enough when he looks at you instead of looking away,. smile at him for a few seconds then look away,. When he says what up say ntm youu and when he answers say awesomee haha,. and say what did you do this weekend or what are your planns tonight,. that shows interest.

Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*




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