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I really don't want to lose my best friend over this... any advice?
me and my best friend are both 17/f. she and her family are currently living with me as of 3 weeks ago. we've had our differences before. It was mainly about boys. I'd never lose my friendship with her over a guy persay, its just different. I expect her not to flirt and be all over the guy that i like; However, she does it anyways. she's a flirty person and she says she doesnt know that shes flirting with them, but that's bullshit to me because she doesnt flirt with any ugly guys. and you have to KNOW that you're flirting. seriously, i know when i flirt with guys. anyways, we have this friend. all i did was ask her to control herself and NOT ruin the friendship by going after him. what she does is she likes them for a short time, then dumps them. i really wouldnt have a problem with her going out with him if i didnt know how she already was. this has happened so many times that its hard for me to count. anyways, the problem i have is that i just cant stop being a bitch for some reason. im just so tired of how she is. and our friend comes over all the time just to see her. it just pisses me off how i ask her ONE time to do something for me and she cant even do it (no, i dont like the guy btw. but i dont like how she is with it either). you cant control your feelings huh? bull. all she is, is just a player. and i just dont know why it pisses me off so much. i mean i probably shouldnt get so mad about it like i do, but ive tried talking to her about it. it really DOESNT work. i just dont know what to do. i really need to do something soon, either get away from her for a while, find some different friends that i can hang out without her being there or something. id never drop her or anything but i CANT stop being a bitch to her, and i really dont want to lose our friendship over this. i just need some good advice.. help??
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Living in the same house makes it hard to get space from her. But it's obvious that she doesn't really care about how you feel or what you say.
AND JUST SO YOU KNOW!
yes sometimes you can tell when your flirtin with someone. but sometimes you don't even realize you are. (happens all the time to me). She does seem like a major player. and you get mad because it's against what you think and believe. and no you can't control your feelings,. but her feelings she might just be playing with these boys and just using them as chew toys.
You want a friend that has similar likes/dislikes and that will respect your wishes. Maybe it's time to grow some space between you too and move on from her petty little games. your better than that. doesn't mean you have to stand around and watch her hurt guy after guy.
Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*
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I'm wondering did you date any guy that your friend liked in the past? Their seems to be some type of jealousy in her part, that she needs wants to make a point.
I say that if you talk to her about the incident, and she's not changing then it's time to move on..It is good on her part to understand the way you feel, but it seems that she isn't listening.
I know it hurts to loose a BFF, but she has to understand that she needs to respect what you want or have.
Hope things get better for you, and that this friendship doesn't end.
Try to talk to her and make her understand how you feel, and hopefully she'll make a change :)
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