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**** I've been gone quite a long time. However I'm still breathing though it's touch and go. Don't expect me to answer or check in much. ****Welcome to the junkdrawer that is my brain! I know something about many things, and I if I don't know it, I admit that I don't know. That I am constantly finding things I know nothing about and correcting that ignorance keeps me busy and happy. More junk for the drawer.
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For the past week my hands have just been ice cold. My guess it is do to poor circulation. I work on a computer all day, so it is not like I am not moving them. Does anyone have any ideas what causes this, and what I can do about it? It is very uncomfortable.
It's most likely a sign of carpal tunnel. Go to a neurologist. I'm an analyst and crunch numbers all day on a computer. I have it and when I wear my splints I can feel the circulation in my hands improve instantly. It's all about the proper positioning of the wrist. You'll be surprised at the improvement. I rarely need my splints anymore, and I've never had to miss work for the condition. Get it looked at before it can cause permanent damage or disability. Good Luck!
How Do You Know If You Found The Right Person You Want To Spend The Rest of Your LIfe With ????????
Can you tell chaos is head over heels? God bless her that this guy's the right one, it sure sounds like it.
I personally don't know. I thought I did, but I was wrong. Life is like that. You have to be willing to take a chance on breaking your heart. But like Judge Mabaline says, "Look deep before you leap!" Luck and love!
My husband and I were talking the other day and he said that if he died he would not want a funeral. I was shocked. Of course he should have a funeral, it's a great way for family and friends to say goodbye. I feel it is more for the family of the deceased anyway. He disagrees, and is shocked that I would not respect his wishes. Who is right here? And if he did die, what are we as a family suppose to do? I would like the love and support of my faamily.
He's right because it's his death. For your death demand he have the proper blow out funeral you'd want. IT's your death, you'll be right. Besides just because he doesn't want his corpse gawked at, doesn't mean you can't have a get together. Just plan a reunion in his honor after the burial or cremation. Who says he'll die first anyway? There are much better to argue over. Try the TV remote next time.
ok. the other day my one friend went and sent me a link that said xanga and a couple other links that said buddy4uprofile and all so i thought they were all her info stuff. so i clicked on them alll and it came up that they were a bunch of porno sites and 3 of em i think were lesbian sites. I clicked outta them as soon as i realized wut they were and yelled at her for it. Well, today my mom woke up and yelled at me for them becuz she gets emails telling her what i go on. Well, now she thinks i am a lesbian even tho she says she believe me i kno neither of my parents do becuz my dad always. and i mean always says he loves me when he leaves to take her to work and he didnt until i said i love you too. I know they think im a lesbian and that they hate me even tho im not. i hate this and i dont want them thinking this. I told them a hundred times what happened and theyre like, "wut did the advicenato people tell u to say that." what do i do to make them believe me?
Show them your question. Parents believe the worst, always, because that's all they hear about. The statistics are always how many teens are homosexual, not how many aren't. How many smoke, not how many who did have quit. How many died in alcohol related accidents and AIDs and the list goes on and on. They're being stupid, not just to be stupid, but because they've been trained to think their kids are lying and doing all this stuff. Show them your question. Big hug and lots of support!
My brother is gay and a lot of people will always mention about it. They make fun of me because he's gay.. They keeps sayin Ohhh Your brothers GaY!!! and sometime's it doesn't bother me.. but other times it does. Surprisingly, most people are cool with it and say he's the coolest person they ever met.. what should i do!?
Next time it does bother you, stop and think about it. What particular situation are you in? Who said it? Who is near you? Was it said to tease or to hurt? Hurt you or your brother? When you know when you get upset sometimes and not others it will make it easier for you to decide if something needs to be done or not. Luck.
My mother bought me a beta fish (a Japanese fighting fish) and I have no idea how to take care of it. I got a book on how to take care of it, but you have to decode it (meaning I don't understand a word of it) The local veterenarians don't really know how to take care of these fish because not alot of their clients have fighting fishes. Does anyone on Advicenators know ANYTHING about these fishes? Do you know any sites where I can find information?
They are Siamese Fighting Fish, not Japanese. Go to http://www.bettacave.com on the net. This guy breeds them and has great info on them. I used to breed them in college, but... Anyway they are real easy to care for. Enjoy!
In school, I always feel like people are judging me. Only the popular ones though (because I'm not popular, I'm just average). I always watch what I do, to make sure it's something the popular kids would "agree" with (I guess?). It's not that I want to be popular (because, believe me, I really don't), but I just want to feel comfortable around them. It's kind of a weird topic, but I want to get it off my mind. I hate not being myself and I want to stop, but it's hard. I want to know your opinion on this. Thank you so much
In order to stay popular, MOST, not all luckily or I wouldn't believe in God, popular people feel the need to find faults in others to try to hide their OWN shortcomings and insecurities. This is the only superioirity many of them have. It is their job to keep the people around them feeling "unworthy" of their presence. Even people they call their friends. I am talking the 90%. The 10% who aren't posers don't need those kind of games. but it's really hard to get close to them with so many posers in the way. Don't worry that you feel odd around these people. Keep trying to be yourself. Grade school popularity really only counts in grade school.
my little sister is 8 years old and she just got sick today and no one is going to be home for a week so we cant get to the hospital but she has a temp of 103 degrees and its not lowering at all, does anyone know anything i can do to help lower it or make her feel any better? thanks!! (I rate on how well you answer)
Call 911!!! She needs immediate medical attention!!! Any extended fever that high is causing brain damage!!
My friend and I hatw this teacher and as a joke we made this odd screen name and sent him e-mails. It was the worst dissoin of my life. I sent one that was like "I hate your class I am so glad I am in highschool now". But my friend HATES that teacher so she sent and e-mail like" teacher you hurt me so the hammer is coming down...have fun in hell" I didn't mean for it to go this far. Now the police are in his room for a long time like every day. Thankfully I deleted that screen name! They made an anousement on the intercom about it and ever since I have been shaking and I am so scared/screwd. If I get caught it wont be for the one I sent, it will be for the one my friend sent. I was thinking of sending an e-mail to my teach saying like sorry it was only a joke but I'm not sure... help! I am so scared but I know for sure I am not going to tell any one but I need to know what to do!
With the awful things happening in schools these days your teacher is rightfully fearful. They don't know you did this and clearing your computer temp files and stuff is a good thing to do. You need to talk to your friend and explain what Hell they have put you through with their idiocy. If it makes you feel better, go to the library or someplace you don't have to pay or sign a login and send your apology. Make sure you point out that two people were responsible for the emails. Tell the teacher you just wanted to call attention to the bad feelings they engendered in their students, and that you had no intention of any threat. If nothing happens for a while the cops will stop coming around. They just don't have the man power to keep it up. It will take longer than usual because of the school involvement. If you get out of this unscathed thank God and your good Karma.
This is a question to all advicenators: What makes you want to give advice to other people?
Mainly, because I hate knowing other people are in pain when I can ease it. Hide sight is 20/20 and I have LOTS of that. If I can tell smoeone something to ease thier current pain and prevent more, I feel it's my duty to say something. Even if it requires saying more about my self than I like. Plus, my brain truely is a junkdrawer. There are all kinds of info rattling about up there.
Can you get pregnant from pre-cum?
Yes, you can get the same things from that that you can from the full business.
my dad is such a jerk. i'm not going to try to make this sound any worse than it is. ok well he, i guess, "verbally abuses" me. he doesn't treat me like a daughter. the other day he called me a slut, which i'm not, and he cussed me out because he doesn't trust me. i haven't even done anything. he thinks im a druggy too. he tells me that i'm just a mistake. it hurts so bad. i want to run away, but i'm trying to stop myself. im just really afraid he's going to hit me. he jerks me around, but not too bad. i need advice. dont tell me to talk to him about it.
I think a teen hotline would be a good place for you to start. You don't need to be in an environment like that, but running away will just put the law on your father's side and make you look bad. I know you have a strong, and it seems well earned, distrust of the adults in your life. In your situation that's normal and even good. Unfortunately the only way to improve your life is to find someone to trust who has the information and influence to help you get out. A hotline is designed to help you find that person. If the first person doesn't seem right, ask for another. Keep going through the options and whatever coucelors they have until you find one that you feel comfortable with. There should also be places on the net you can find for info. Big hug and good luck!
I have a business plan to do and I'm opening a nail salon. Should I name it "Paint" or "Tips and Toes"? thanx for your input
Tips and Toes! I love it!
Okay usually i don't mind when my boyfriend does stuff with me but not in class! i already am failing that class and i have to get my work done..plus i don't want people talking about me in a bad way like i think they were today. Today i was sitting by my boyfriend in class and he kept going down my pants and rubbin my back and ass and shit and trying to make out with me but i kept telling him no not now! But he wouldnt listen and it was really buggin me i couldnt get him to stop even when i moved my chair away he'd pull it right back by him it was annoying. So my question is: What do i tell him when i don't want him to do that kinda stuff to me? Because obviously telling him to stop doesn't work. He's usually really respectful but i don't know what to do. Thanks so much!.
I've discovered that an elbow to the ribs works wonders at getting a man's attention. However try talking to him ahead of time. Like over the phone. It sounds like there is someone in the room he is either trying to warn away from you or make an immpression on for some other reason. Let him know you'll embarrass him just as badly as he's embarrassing you if this keeps up. Elbows work nicely. Also a thump to the ear, and let see... biting's sometimes good, but is harder to hide from the teacher. MY grades went up dramatically. Good luck dear!
my relationship of 5 years is going down the drain. we have a one and a half year old. today he got upset because he could not find me. he was at work and i went to school to do some papers. when he got off of work he called me a bitch and a whore and he did not believe me that i was at school. i was about to go back to school for class so he hid my makeup, messed up my hair, and threw laundry around the house. then he followed me to school with his bright head lights on. my son was crying and i told my boyfriend to change his diaper and put him to sleep while i go to school cuz he was fussy. his reply was he was not going to do shit. i am stuck as what to do. i do not work much cuz i am a college student. is it ever ok to tolerate this kind of behavior. it is becoming regular. what should i do and how can i do it? i am bad at making decisions, especially the right ones. thanks for listening.
Here's the thing, you have a child. What you WANT is no longer an option if it puts your child in harm's way. Your first resposibility is to him. This relationship is getting progressivly more abusive and your little boy is the one hurting the most. Protect him. Even though you are not married, you can still get child support and daycare expense. This will help until you get your degree and a good job. Check with your state's childcare resources department and see if they have any programs in your area that can help you make a new start. NO, it is not alright in any sense to put up with that kind of behavior in a partner, but as an adult to have the right to try and work things out. You do not however have the right to subject your child to that environment. If you can work things out, it needs to be away from the home. Pull you boy out of it. Much love. Good Luck!
i am being forced to move from my home in texas, to the cold and mean streets of chicago. my mother got a new job, and she is carting me up there in february. however, my father lives here in tecas. i have the oppurtunity to live with him, but i never have, and we arent very compatible. should i go with my mom, or stay with my dad?
I love Texas myself, but I'd choose your mom. Either way you go you'll be uprooted and have to get used to a whole new situation, but trying to do that and find footing with your dad would be like tap dancing in a mine field. There is nothing that says you can't visit your dad is there? Plus if the Chicago thing doesn't work well you have an alternative for the future. Just don't burn your bridges with your dad.
Ok. Who is the potted fern guy? Or is that just the most idiotic question...
My ex-husband. Yes, that was a true story. High school and alcohol just don't mix.
I have no idea what to get my boyfriend for christmas. I don't want to get him cologne or a CD so I don't know, please help.
Most people have an obsession with something. What does he talk to you about most? Is it a particular sports team, a type of car, a musical instrument? Think of what you know about him. Some people don't want you to spend a lot of money on them, and some feel that the more money the more you care. Which type is he? Does he worry about you spending too much? Keep all this in mind when you concider what to get your boyfriend. Also think about what colors and symbols he likes, ex. one of my friend's favorite colors is purple, my sister loves hearts and crosses. Hope this helps you with some ideas. If not, give me some more information and I may be able to comeup with a specific idea. Good Luck!
i have a boyfriend rite...well ne ways i went to a party and i kinda got drunk and things went to far with this boy...umm i should say his best friend and i really dont kno how to tell my boy and i really want to tell him but then again i dont want to tell him because i dont want to lose him...i will feel bad if i dont and i will feel bad if do. what should i do
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One way or another you loose in this. If you don't tell him, chances are his friend will for the same reasons you're agonizing over. Then there are the other people at the party. He's going to find out. I'd personally tell before a complete "well meaning" stranger does. He's going to be hurt by your betrayal, and you will probably loose him. But you'll have a much better chance at winning him back if you're upfront than if he finds out on the sly. Situations like this are why I don't get drunk. I once saw a friend of mine propose marriage to a FAKE potted fern. He was serious. The boy had decroative moss in his mouth from trying to kiss his "fiance." IT may sound funny in retrospect but I was truely worried for the blitzed idiot. At least your temp love was a real person. Hug and support, Sweetie. Good Luck!
Hi,
I don't know where to begin. At the moment I am in a state of flux, I seem to be either terribly depressed and generally fed up, or just downright angry. I've been with my partner for approx 8.5years, and like most we've had our ups and downs. He's a good deal older than me, however i've never saw that as an issue, apart from when his kids have tried to split us up. All his kids are now over 16, however he has one adult son, who's now 30, who for want of a better phrase is just a bad lot. He is periodically in and out of jail and until a few months ago, his father had little if no contact with him. However his girlfriend has just had a baby and it's all changed, again i seem to have been pushed aside and I resent it like hell, particularly when the baby has now been taken into care and the son has been proven to be up to his old tricks again. I can't cope with this, I just feel so unloved and miserable and constantly seem to be picking fights with my partner. It's stressing him out, it's stressing me out and I think I'm turning into an alcoholic to boot. I hate him (the son), it's irrational and nasty but i can't help it. He tried to split us up years ago and I just can't understand why his father can't see through him and understand how I feel. I try to tell him but just end up losing the plot, going off on one and then berate him (my partner) for even breathing. I think if he would just take me away for a few days and just get us out of this enviroment it might help, but it's like talking to a brick wall trying to get through to him. We don't even get 5mins alone at home as his 16 year old has moved in after getting into bother whilst living with his mum. I'm just sick of it all and realise I'm pushing my partner away but don't know what to do to stop myself from doing it. we've just had a noher fight and I've said some terrible things and to be honest I think this might actually be the last straw for him.
Love, you two will not last if you don't get into some serious family counceling. I can tell you love your husband. It's in every frustrated word you've typed. No one should have to go through what you and he are being put through. From an outside perspective I can see that he wants to be responcible for all of his family, and he doesn't know how to balance that and help himself or you. The both of you are being sucked dry and the only way I can see of helping you is to find an outside source of balance, a coucelor, not a bottle or heart shielding anger. You seem to be trying to harden yourself for the end, even if that's not what you want. I don't think it's hopeless yet, but my God you two are still in for Hell. Look, even if he will not agree to couceling, go yourself. It will help you make sense of the situation and may keep you from relying totally on the bottle for relief. If you can't help him find a balance and the marriage fails, you need to have enough of yourself left to make it alone. Please find a reliable councelor before you're all lost! Hugs and luck!