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Q: I've read a bunch of places that if you put mayonnaise in your hair it works great as a deep conditioner. I was wondering though if it leaves a bad smell once your hair is dry and everything. If you've tried it, has it worked and does it leave a bad smell in your hair the next day?
Okay, this is dumb question. No, I wouldn't suggest trying it. It won't damage your hair, but it will make it greasy. (I haven't tried it, but answering this is out of common sense). Maybe you should check what sources you're getting this information from.

Q: I have a serious hate for people where I live. They use labels constantly & it's annoying. I don't get what joy they get out of degrading someone else for their music tastes & clothing choices.

What's the deal with labels? And why do people use them? I don't get it. But labels should die & so should the people who use them. Nobody's a soup can.
Okay, I just answered another question like this. People will be people. And people will label other people. Everyone has a right, and they seem to believe that it's free will. It's just how our society works. There's really nothing you can do except just to ignore the bastards who label. I agree, it's annoying. I'm kind of goth/emo, whatever "genre" you would like to title me as. But no, seriously, I think labels should die too. As much as I hate being labeled, I know better than to turn around and do it to somebody else.

Q: This is the deal; I'm a prep.
Flat out, okay... but, in my school prep's are targeted. BIG TIME. Teachers make us write papers on how bad cliques are, and in class room meetings we disucuss the groups and every time people bring up prep and look at me. I have a certain group of friends and I sit with them, but i get along with almost anyone. Just beacuse someone has on all black and chains comming off their pants doesn't mean i hate them... I DONT ! BUT EVERYONE THINKS THAT?
Is anyone out there non-prep can you explain to me why people would assume that? they dont even know me.. and its not that im mean or stuck up in any way.
Okay, me on my brutally honest side: people are gay-asses. The reason I say that is because everyone has a right to dress however they want: goth, prep, skater, whatever. And, I don't label. Don't believe in them. But, just from hanging out with "goths", they don't like preps too much. It's just a typical stereotype. Everyone has opinions, and they're entitled to them, unless the person is being just downright mean/rude. Anyways, there are people out there who judge and label and stereotype, and there's really nothing any of us can do, except just to ignore it.

Q: I'm really bored.I like to try new things and start fun projects like combining archietecture,photoghraphy and sculpture into a single art work.I just want to have fun.Please could you think of something fun for me to do.Any suggestions are appreciated.
Well, maybe there's a local community group that could fulfill that. You could always call your local community service number, or there may be something at least around the area you live in that offers something like that.

Q: i used to be extremely social at home..always calling people..always wanting to talk to my friends on aim..but lately i just feel like sleeping or listening to music in my room and when i get on aim theres only a couple people i ever even want to talk to and when im on the phone im usually wanting to get off (besides with one guy) i dont even call people often anymore because i never feel like it..could this be a sign of anything?
Well, I have moments where I'm like that, sometimes even for days or months. Now for me, I'm diagnosed with depression, with more symptoms. Now, I'm not saying that's what you have, because it's different for other people. I think maybe you should talk to your physician about it, just to be on the safe side. Just my personal opinion, just to make sure you're alright.

Q: 13/f
ok well i just recently started getting my period a few months ago...i've had like 4 or 5 so far. and whenever i get it, i constantly feel like i have to pee. that might not sound so bad but its like painful...theres like a pain in my bladder and vaginal area, ussually i have to sit in the restroom for hours for it to go away...i've even had to come home from school it's gotten so bad.
is this normal? and is there anything i can do to either make it go away faster or all together?
thanks!
I used to get that to, maybe just not as bad.
I suggest going to your doctor,
because since I am not one,
I don't want to give you the wrong information.
But, honestly, get to a doctor as soon as possible.

Q: does anyone know where i can get a part-time job? i'm 15 yrs old, i live in new york. Or, does anyone have any ideas where 15 year olds could work, like in a library or something? thanks
Try your nearest mall. See if there are any job apps at stores you'd be interested working at. I'm not sure if the library would hire you, because usually it's volunteer work. Work at local ice cream parlors (Baskin Robbins, etc.) Tim Hortons may be hiring. Fast food places might also be possible, but sometimes you need a high school diploma. You could also try a beauty salon, and they could let you sweep, and what not. Also, bussing at restaraunts. (Not the funnest job, though) Or, you could always stick to babysitting.

Q: does anyone know how much they pay part time workers?

thanks
I don't know for sure, because personally, I'm not a big fan of those kinds of stores. But the easiest way to find out is actually going to the store and asking someone, the manager, or someone.

Q: H0W D0 YOU PUT A PiCTURE FOR A MYSPACE CAPTi0N
I'm not exactly sure what you're question is, whether you're asking how to post a picture, or a caption. But I'll answer both.

How to post a picture:
If you have a digital camera,
just load the picture on the computer,
resize it using IrfanView,
and go to Add/Edit photos at your home profile page, and post :]

How to post a caption:
Go to Add/Edit photos,
and click 'Add Caption'.
Then it will redirect you to another page,
and on the bottom,
type your caption, and click 'Submit'.
Then, for confirmation, click 'Post Caption'.

I'm sorry if I couldn't answer your question fully or I didn't comprehend it, because it was kind of confusing.

Q: i just woke up this mouring and my left ear is muffled. im scared that im losing my hearing and i have a cold. what is my problem
No, you're not losing your hearing. You just have a cold! A cold affects nose, ears, and mouth.



Feel better!

Q: Hi,

I've just discovered that two of my friends take mitdol and when i asked one of my friends what it was and what it did she looked at me like i was freaking phsyco and she was like umm..what do you take. And I just kinda sat there..like..um nothing? and she just thought i was crazy. so my question is what is mitdol and why are my friends taking it? should i take it? I mean i hear then complin aobut cramps and all that other crap but i never really get that.

btw were all 15/f
Midol helps with menstrual problems. (Cramps,etc.) If you don't get them, I wouldn't suggest taking it.

Q: its okay to cut the hair 'down there' right with just like a siccors once a month or so because i'm scared to shave "there"
Yes, it's fine.

Q: So im the type that always gives all my friends advice and now im the one in need.

My boyfriend and I had a fight 2 days ago.
And he emailed me saying he loved me and he was sorry.
And i dont want to lose him.
But im scared maybe this might be it.

what do i do?
I need him.
It looks to me like you're not going to lose him if he e-mailed you saying that. But, you're going to have to try your absolute hardest to not fight with him like that. (I don't know what the fight was about, though)

If you guys continuously fight like that,
I think you two should take a break.

P.S.
Does that mean you DO have to take a break?
No. It was just my opinion.

Q: 13/f. when i babysit in the evening from like 6 to 12 or so i get really nervous when it turns dark after i put all of the kids to bed. even though the people i abysit for arre right across the street from my house i still get nervous. im parenoid that a burgular is going to come or something. im scared that i want be able to defend myself. how can i get not so parenoid?
This is normal. Know that you really ARE safe. After the kids are in bed, call one of your friends, occupy yourself so you're not so worrisome.

Q: ok, so i'm 15/f and i have never gone out on a date, been asked out, kissed, asked to dance, anything. I'm pretty -sort of, not extremely outgoing, but not totally shy either, i can be a bitch sometimes but overall i'm nice, i'm kinda crazy acting though, anyways I think my problem is confidence, i think that the only way anyone would ever like me is if i were amazingly beautiful and skinny, is this true? i think it's hurting my self-esteem because everytime i like someone i think, well they can't possibly like me back because i'm not as pretty as so-and-so.
what should i do?
If you think that negatively about yourself, you won't get anywhere. And trust me on this-the time will come. Maybe in a week, a month, 2 months. I don't know. But you have to give it time. I can tell you right now that guys can be shallow, yes, but, not ALL of them will have to have a girl that's really skinny, and amazingly beautiful. If a guy likes you, for who you are, he will think you're amazingly beautiful-on the inside. Just give it time, honey.

Q: theres a guy had a crush on me in like september..i think he still likes me cuz he like flirts with me and stuff but not as obvious as he used to so i just want have someone else's opinion if he still likes me.
There's probably a good chance he still likes you. But honestly, there's no REAL telling if the guy still likes you.

Q: Should I be worried if one of my spacers fell out before my braces go on in 4 days?
Just to be safe, call your orthadontist (sp?) and let him/her know. I don't think it's a big deal, though.

Q: I was to easy
and i gave a guy what he wanted.
Yeah, he pretty much used me and screwed me over.
He said he hated me for a good amount of time because everyone found out about what we did.
After a good 5 monthes, he told me he didnt hate me anymore and he was being nice to me again.
I like him alot, and i always have no matter how mean he was to me.
And I know he doesnt like me like that, but i'm pretty sure he would want to do that stuff again and the thing is, i dont want him to use me and screw me over but i really want to do that stuff again too.
We havent really talked in about a week, but im just so confused
help? please
This is a pretty common situation, but yet simple. It was generally your fault for giving in to him. Okay, we both understand that. Moving on. It's perfectly fine being his friend and what not, but I'm sure you wouldn't be comfortable if you gave in to him again, so, DON'T. Now, if you wanna be the way you just are, and do whatever you did with him, you shouldn't even be asking for advice.

Q: I dont know what to do. Music has taken over my life. Its basically taken over any kind of life I have. I really dont want to see my boyfriend or friends anymore because I want to play my guitar. And another thing, everyone makes fun of the music I listen to because its mostly old stuff. I cant help it! Thats just what I like. What do I do?
Who the hell cares what other people think. Personally, in my opinion, music equals my life. And I'm being honest. I mean, sure, don't cut yourself off from your friends, or your boyfriend, but there is nothing you have to do. Be who you are.

Q: How do you get a guy to notice you that doesnt know you exist?
Okay, number one, your question is in the wrong category. That annoys me. (Nothing personal against you, by the way) Anyway, there's nothing you can really do is be yourself. Try talking to him.

And just a suggestion,
don't stalk him.
It isn't a good idea.

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xcheerbabex108
Heyyyy, I'm jess. I love to help other people, no matter what. I've been through enough bs to know when to just stop and walk away. I don't judge; feel free to ask me anything. I have quite the temper. But, what makes me a good advice-giver is that for the most part, I'm genuinely empathetic and willing to help.
(:

I've had a lot of experiences with piercings, bullying, family problems, and even sexual issues (no std's)- but with the emotional part of it. I love music, so I give good, basic advice about that, too. Also, I deal with severe anxiety and depression, and have been in treatment numerous times. On top of that, I have OCD (Obsessive Complulsive Disorder), and because I've been around people addicted to drugs, or cutting, I can help! Just give me the chance.

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