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ok, so i'm 15/f and i have never gone out on a date, been asked out, kissed, asked to dance, anything. I'm pretty -sort of, not extremely outgoing, but not totally shy either, i can be a bitch sometimes but overall i'm nice, i'm kinda crazy acting though, anyways I think my problem is confidence, i think that the only way anyone would ever like me is if i were amazingly beautiful and skinny, is this true? i think it's hurting my self-esteem because everytime i like someone i think, well they can't possibly like me back because i'm not as pretty as so-and-so.
what should i do?
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Hi,
I am 15/f and i have never been kissed either..so, i know how you feel. Its not because your not pretty enough or skinny enough. Maybe the right gy hasnt come along yet. When you are near or around your crush act flirty and if you have a class with them wear something that will make them notice you...
Trust me it works for getting asked out...the kissing thing is all up to you
Good Luck,
Neverbeenkissed
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this is going to sound incredibly retarded.
buuuuuuuuut, the way that I made my two best guy friends who I love very much (as a friend at the moment) is by giving them gum.
haha, like in math last year i think they asked me for a piece of paper or something, so i gave them both a sheet of it. they're probably the funniest person you'll ever meet in your life, so i would always crack up laughing at everything they'd say. obviously, i guess guys like that. cause everytime they'd say something funny & i'd turn around, laugh, & smile at them then they'd look at each other & smile or something.
i always chew gum, so i'd turn around sometimes & ask them if they wanted a piece or something & they'd say yes. i also wasn't like incredibly smart or anything. i guess you could say i suck at math -- haha -- so the one who liked me was on the smarter side & i'd always ask him for help.
so, you can act clueless -- i didn't have to ACT though, i seriously was clueless. -- & turn around & say simple something like..
ughh, i don't get this. can you help me?
or something that's a LITTLE bit of a conversation...
god, i hate this class. i don't understand any of this crap. haha. do you get it?
*wait for him to answer & if he says yes..*
oh, can you help me?
here's what happened to me & how i got MY confidence.
my NOW best guy friend was talking to some other kid & they were listing the hottest girls in the class & i was third. (haha, i think they were just bored. i have no idea.) So, that made me confident enough to know that i didn't have to feel like i was ugly or that he would think i was weird if i started a conversation with him.
Get one of your friends who knows a guy you think you sort of like or think would be easy to make friends with what they think of you. If it's good, just go up to them and start talking.
Just start saying hey whenever you see some guy you think would be easy to make friends with.
oh & if you're wondering why me & the kid never went out, i didn't really want a boyfriend at the moment & when i was finally ready, he decided to be homeschooled for some gay reason. but for you .. it'll work out i bet.
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If you think that negatively about yourself, you won't get anywhere. And trust me on this-the time will come. Maybe in a week, a month, 2 months. I don't know. But you have to give it time. I can tell you right now that guys can be shallow, yes, but, not ALL of them will have to have a girl that's really skinny, and amazingly beautiful. If a guy likes you, for who you are, he will think you're amazingly beautiful-on the inside. Just give it time, honey.
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first of all, i would say don't worry about the age thing, i know plenty of 15 year olds in the same situation as you, and there's nothing wrong with them... in order to get more guys interested in you; start conversations by asking them about homework or for a pencil or something... and that will probably progress on too friendship, same as girls.. only with boys friendship can lead to love.. obviouslyyy. and just act the same around your guy friends as you do around girls, don't be shy or too goody or anything, because then they'll think of you as two-faced when really you aren't. hope this helped <3
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No, you dont have to be perfect for a guy to like you. You have to let them see the real you and eventually guys will realize how you really are and they will start liking you. Like you said it takes confidence :]
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