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Hey so me and my boyfriend are both in 6th grade and we have been going out for 4months and havent actually kissed yet like I've kissed his head(on accident) his neck and his cheek. But we have never actually kissed lip to lip if you know what I mean. And I need help on how to kiss him lip to lip for the first time because he doesn't pick up the hints of when I'm ready. ANYTHING helps thank you. :)
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Well it doesn't need to be rushed or anything. Like pretty much what I'm saying is that when the moment happens, it happens. Kisses aren't usually planned or anything so when you feel ready, then just kiss him.
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now my girlfriend is going through this and she is in the hospital uncouncius she had thrown up blood and passed out now she has been out since 1130 last night but doctors stabled her but they dont know if any of her organs failed they need to wait till she wakes up i guess is that true and how does this work like the whole anerxia thing and how would i go about getting her help? where should she go for help and if she doesnt want it what should i do to convinse her? and what are her chances of surviving? i am a 15 year old boy and im really hoping you will answer. (link)
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I think the best thing for you to do is be supportive.
I'm not an expert on anorexia or anything so I don't know what her chances of surviving are. But since she's in the hospital they will get her the help she needs to get over this eating disorder. She probably won't want it, a lot of girls don't want to get help but what you can do in your position is make sure she knows you care about her and be supportive of what she's going through.
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Okay, so I have started to talk to someone I meet @ a birthday party. He gave me his number and everything, so we started to talk and it has gotten kind of serous. But the (one) problem is that he lives a hour away. I only see him like 3 times a year. So we have decide to wait to date for a couple years. until I am 18 and can see him whenever i want. But the thing is that one day he acts like he really likes me. and says he loves me which I think is way to soon. but then he says he is talking to some one girl but its nothing serous. which i don't understand? I feel like he is maybe lying to me or leading me on...I guess what i am asking is should I just stop talking to him. To not waste my time or should i keep talking to him. I really need some advice. Please help I am starting to fall for him.. (link)
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Actions speak louder than words.
The thing with long distance relationships, especially yours where you're waiting to actually get into a relationship, it can end badly. You guys hung out at a party and figured out that you guys are attracted to each other, but that's about it. You don't see him in person, you don't see how he is with his friends or family, you only know what he tells you. What if you wait however long till you're 18 to date him and not date anyone else and turns out that it was an awful decision because he really wasn't what you thought he was or you guys just don't get along too great in person?
Also, like Dragonflymagic said, trust takes time to build and it's ten times harder to do that over texting and the computer. It doesn't make it any better that he's talking to another girl.
So think about what you really want. If you think it could work out and you can learn to trust him and expect him to wait for you like you'd wait for him, then go for it. It's fine to talk to him, but if you think you'll get swept away with your emotions with him if you continue talking to him, then don't do it.
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My bf and I are both in 6th grade and have been dating 4months. We both want to kiss and he keeps asking me what kind of kiss I want it to be and I say traditional with a little French and when I ask him he always replays with French for our FIRST kiss!!!!! Im not sure if I should just please him or try to keep him out of my mouth?!?!!? Also I REALLY want to kiss him because I've had my first kiss already and hasn't and we both want to but I'm waiting on him to make the first move but he is waiting on me. Who should make the first move. I've tried to give him hints that I'm ready and he just doesn't pick them up. Also we hold hands a lot now and he has put his arm around me a few times. We also tell eachother that we love eachother is that too soon? Anything helps thanks:).
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The kind of kiss you guys have for your first kiss is completely up to the two of you. There isn't really a "right" one to go with for your guys' first. But the thing is, you're not sure if you want your first kiss with him to be a full on french kiss and that's totally fine. You should never, ever do anything that makes you even a little bit uncomfortable with a guy. You don't want to do things just to please him that will make you feel uncomfortable. I mean your boundaries need to be set somewhere or else you'll be pressured into doing even more.
So just sit down and tell him that you're not comfortable yet with french kissing so you'd rather just have it as a traditional kiss.
As for who should make the first move. It doesn't really matter. My current boyfriend kissed me first, but I kissed the last guy I was dating first so it's really about who has the confidence to do so. But most don't plan a kiss, it usually comes natural so don't over think it.
And telling each other you love each other? It's different for every person. My best guess is that it is a little soon for being in 6th grade and only dating for 4 months. It's different for every person but that's just my opinion.
So in the end, just tell him what you're comfortable with it and stick by it. Don't be pressured. If you want to make the first move, go for it.
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I have a friend he is 16.we have been friends for a little while.We were talking a day then he said he liked me.then a week after he said he loved me .I told him I loved him too but everytime we talk that's all he say..I dont know what to do..I told him about it and he said he just loves me too much..I'm glad but conversations get boring at times...he comes by like once a week and we spend 1 hr and he talks only about me..btw I'm 15 (link)
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Well obviously, any relationship will fail without communication.
So if you don't tell him how you feel about the situation, it can't be fixed.
Just tell him what is bothering you and what you would like to change. Tell him you don't only want to talk about yourself, that you want to talk about other things too. If he can't do that, then there is no point because it will go no where and you won't be happy.
So talk to him and get it fixed. This is a learning experience for you, it's a good way to learn to communicate.
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Hello, I work with guy at college and he's super cool. I had a friend crush, if you will, on him so I got his number from his roommate who is my best friend and we've been talking. We text each other quite a bit and it's 50/50 who texts each other first. Sometimes when I'm working, he'll sit with me and keep me company. He has the same class before me and he usually texts me after and tells me last minute things to know for the exam. We text about a bunch of different stuff, things happening in school and sometimes it's random, like if my roommate and I wanna go to applebees with him and his roommate. One week, I texted him and asked if he wanted to go to applebees with my friends and I, he said he had a lot of homework so he was gonna stay in. My friends and I went that night and saw him there with some friends. He was trying to get my attention, waving his hands around but my friends told me not to pay attention. A few minutes later, he texted me promising that he didn't want to go, his friends just wouldn't leave him alone until he said yes and finished by saying "it's nothing against you, honest." Today we were talking about his best friend and my roommate trying to get them together, he's been having an off day so he was being a little sassy with me and I told him that. He said back "yea, well, I've been told that I'm sexy when I get like this" and I told him that I beg to differ. He didn't text me back and a few hours later, I saw him at dinner, he didn't say anything to me. I smiled at him and he just looked at me and nodded like I genuinely hurt his feelings. I do genuinely like him, he's a cool guy with great morals and always makes me laugh.
My friends thinks he likes me because he texted me that night apologizing about applebees. I even made sure to have my roommate and his roommate check their phones to see if he texted them and he didn't. I just don't know what the whole "I've been told I'm sexy like this" thing was about. I don't know if he was trying to be pompous like oh, you should like me like this or like cute, ya know.
It isn't much but what do you think about the situation and him and what should I do?
Thanks.
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He sounds like he's interested in you. There is a very, very good chance that he is.
He was probably just being flirty when he sent you that text.
So I'd just see where it goes. Hang out with him some more, get to know him, ect. If he acts weird, then ask him whats up with it. You won't really know what's going on unless you go straight to the source. Everyone else will just be guessing.
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i dont like the boy and how can i say no? (link)
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You just say no. You don't have to be mean or anything, just tell him that you don't feel the same way as he does.
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Hey guys, I'm 19 and female. My best friend is 20 and male. I went out the other night to a party (please spare the whole speech about that). I texted him and asked if he wanted to meet me at the party because I just wanted him there, he said definitely so I told him the address and he met me there in about ten minutes. He called me to let me know he was there and I went outside to get him, I hugged him to say hi and he hugged back. I brought him inside, he got a drink and we were hanging out. He went off to talk to some guys for a bit and when he came back, I was making out with some guy. He let it happen and everything but when I get drunk, I get a little emotional and I'm going through some weird stuff right now so I'm known to have panic attacks. So, I started crying. My roommate told me that he was the only one who could get me to stop crying and having a panic attack. When I did stop crying, he would take my hand and just be there for me, talking to me and telling me everything was okay because he was there. My friend that I went out with that night has a GoPro and he likes filming parties at school because he's making a montage video of his freshman year. We were later looking back at some footage he took and there was one that I don't remember but my best friend was just holding me, I was in his arms and his hands were down on my waist. It looked like, to us, that we were the only two people in the room. My roommate also told me that he had to carry me out to the car when we left because I couldn't walk. (I was a shit show that night, I already know, don't judge me). He then walked home because there wasn't room for him in the car and when we got back, he was waiting there and got me inside and upstairs.
Now, all of this, you might be thinking "wow, girl, he totally loves you." Well, he's got a girlfriend.. yea, weird, huh? I was talking to him the other night and he told me that he didn't tell his girlfriend anything that happened that night because she is already intimidated by me and he doesn't want her to get upset at what happened and he said out of common courtesy to me, he won't tell anyone that wasn't there to see it themselves.
All of my best friends said that night was so weird, I was with him all night and when I wasn't, I'm told that I was asking for him. They said it was weird, too that he was the only one that could make me feel better. My best girl friend has diagnosed anxiety so I know she would be able to talk me down from a panic attack but for some reason, he's the only one that I wanted that night and he was there for me all night.
Aside from that night, he still is always there for me. We hang out in my room all the time, we have weekly applebees dates where we go for karaoke night, we also have weekly tv dates where out favorite show comes on and we can't fathom watching it without each other.
Please, tell me what you think about this. My friends and I think it's weird that he wouldn't just explain to his girlfriend that I got drunk and he took care of me. They also think it's weird, like I said, that he was the only one to make me feel better and that when I did need him, he was there. I even texted him the next morning that there was no amount of apologizing that I could do to make that night better and he said "you did nothing wrong, you were fine, I had fun, the night was great, don't even think about apologizing." My friends think we exceed best friend behavior but even if we do, he has a girlfriend so, it's like, nothing can go beyond that.
Please tell me what you think. Thanks. (link)
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This is difficult to answer since we don't know either of you.
Of course there is a chance that there is something between you. Believe it or not, people do have feelings for someone outside of a relationship.
Maybe he's just a really, really good friend that truly cares about you, but maybe he might also see you as something more.
It's just hard for me to exactly tell you because I don't know his feelings. Your friends see you guys though so their judgement is better.
As for him not telling his girlfriend. He probably doesn't want her to feel threatened by you. Girlfriends do get jealous of other girls who are close to their boyfriend. He probably doesn't want to make her upset or start a fight with her.
Anyways, if you really want to know, then ask him. But it really could be either or.
And I second what the other two said about the whole too many people in one car thing. People need to be smarter about that.
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There's this kid who picks on little girls, (mostly physical), tried to kiss my friend, tells off teachers, annoys kids in my grade by pushing, biting ,punching (he punched my friend in the stomach for not letting him touch a button in a book), and was sent to the princable's office countless times. Why don't they just expel him? When he's mad he shakes. I find it weird. Why is he like this?????? It's crazy. (link)
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There is most likely something more going on with him. He might come from a really bad background or have some sort of illness, who knows. No matter what though, it's never right to bully and harrass people or be rude to anyone.
Whenever he hurts someone, tell a teacher and tell the principal. If he does something to you, make sure you say something and be sure to tell your parents and your parents can also call the school. If you keep this up, they'll have to do something more about it because they won't want complaints from parents.
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I'm not new to relationships, I've been through six; They were ALL deeply serious but ALL collapsed because it was deeply LIMITED as well. By "Limited" I mean it had limits like she's not allowed to talk much to boys, or have many boy contacts or or or...endless limits and jealousy of mine I know I had them living like she's in a PRISON cell..which is probably why they ended up.
Now, I'm in my seventh relationship. It is the TOTAL OPPOSITE of what I'm used to! It's VERY difficult for me, you simply can't imagine how hard is my consciousness torturing me! She's allowed to go out with all of her friends no exceptions, she's allowed to do whatever...because I'm convincing myself for once that "since she loves and wants me and I'm sure about that then no need to be jealous and set limits and useless stuff that will ruin the relationship" I'm really finding it hard to do so. But nothing is really bothering me much besides ONE thing. Her PHONE. Not only am I used to seeing my girlfriend's messages and calls, but I'm used to even taking her phone away for an entire day! Now I'm not allowed to even TOUCH her phone. Surprisingly, the only thing that can't get out of my head is me getting myself a hold of that phone. I want to see what she always hides on it. Ugh now I'm talking like a creepy jealous freak that I always was...
I'm seriously lost and need advice if I should trust her or not, take into consideration ONLY the phone. Do you think she's hiding crap on it so I shouldn't get my hopes and trust too high in her? Or no just trust her and be careless about the phone?
High Fives to ALL
The least I can do is thank you for your time♡ (link)
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Well first I'll start off by saying that it's good that you've finally learned not to control your partner, for the most part. You've finally let yourself stop controlling who your girlfriend can hang out with and talk to.
But she's not your property. Just because you guys are in a relationship, it doesn't mean you can tell her what she can and can't do. That's not a relationship.
Relationships need trust. You don't seem to have that.
I really, really hope that I read this wrong or didn't understand it the right way when you said that you used to take your girlfriends phones away. That is ridiculous and if that's true, you need to seek help. It's not normal for a boyfriend or girlfriend to take their partners phone away from them. It's not yours, it's theirs.
Just because someone doesn't let you see their phone, it doesn't mean they are hiding something. This is where you need to go seek some help. You have some problems that are going to take some time to fix.
You don't seem to trust her. If you did, you wouldn't be so caught up in trying to see her phone. You shouldn't care about what's on her phone. It's her business, not yours. People do cheat, but you can't watch every thing they do because it will end up ruining the relationship.
You need to trust her and stop obsessing over this.
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My friend is scared of her dad (link)
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Why is she afraid of her dad?
If it's about abuse, then she should talk to a teacher, counselor or any other adult.
If she won't talk to someone, you should talk to someone and get her some help.
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okay so im a virgin but my boyfriend isn't... I want to have sex with him im just worried that his dick will be to big and wont fit... (im very tight) we cant even fit two fingers in and he is kinda big.... what if it doesn't fit then what do I do? (link)
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I agree with Kittenlover. Once you have sex for the first time, it'll loosen you up and it'll be more enjoyable after that. If not, keep using fingers and eventually it'll get easier for you two to have sex.
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okay so im a virgin and my bf isn't.... I want to have sex with him but I don't know what to do.... I am not scared im very excited.... I just need tips on what to do? any advice please???????!???!!???!!!!??? (im 19 btw) (link)
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What you need to do is just have good communication with your boyfriend. For your first time, you're probably not going to be doing any complicated positions or anything so you just need to be relaxed and confident with your boyfriend.
Make sure he uses enough lubricant and definitely make sure you guys use protection. Also, make sure you're on birth control. You don't want any accidents.
As long as he's careful and gentle, you'll be fine.
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OMG. Okay so I kinda like this guy and I think he might like me but I am not sure. We act like we hate each other but like once I was winning a race and stuff and he put his hands over my eyes. Isn't that like boy for "guess who I am" or something like that! And then he told me kinda jokingly at frozen yogurt that I was gonna go down where the devil lives if I got a purple spoon! WHAT DOES HE MEAN. Then I had this dreamish thing and we kissed and he said "I have been wanting to do that for a long time" and remember this is a dream so what does that mean for me!?!?!? I am so confuzzled. Can you gimme some advice!!!
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Sounds like he's just flirting with you. Like Dragonflymagic said, guys won't usually touch girls unless they're flirting.
With dreams, it's your subconscious. So since you kinda like him, that could be the reason why you had that dream.
So since you like him, I'd suggest talking to him, flirting with him and letting him know that you're interested in him.
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Today at the 5th grade pizza party he stared at me dancing,I mean, I'm a good dancer because people were clapping for me and taking videos… but when I looked at him he looked away. He does a awful lot of staring and flashing smiles at me… but never actually interacts with me… every now and then we have a short conversation… I'm not the type to babble like an idiot when talking with a crush, and he seems a little shy about it… I'm not sure how to approach him, how? And do you think he likes me? (link)
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There is definitely a possibility of him liking you. I mean when someone stares and smiles, it's a good sign. I mean you don't normally stare at someone unless you like them right?
So since he might be shy, you can go ahead and make the first move if you feel confident enough.
Do you guys talk? If not, then I'd suggest talking to him. Get to know him and maybe start subtly flirting with him and see how he reacts to it. It helps to make them feel more comfortable.
So I'd say start with flirting, see where that goes and try to see how he reacts. Eventually you guys can become close enough to hang out and if he agrees, he's most likely interested in you.
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I may be pregnant after making the mistake of having sex. He used a condom and it's been 11 days since and I've experienced sore breasts, fatigue, and major boost in appetite. I started bleeding today but it's extremely light and not like my normal period and it's been off and on. Could I still have a possibility of being pregnant? I'm 15 (yes major mistake I know please don't lecture me)... (link)
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To answer your question as to could you have a possibility of being pregnant? Yes.
Most people will use condoms and birth control, just to be extra safe.
Condoms can fail when they aren't used correctly, broken during sex, manufactured improperly, or expired.
So once it's been two weeks or so and you haven't gotten your period, then go to the store and take a pregnancy test. If it comes out positive, go see a doctor and make sure. If it comes out negative, then you're fine.
If you decide to continue being sexually active then make sure you get on birth control so nothing like this happens again.
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Im 13 and my boyfriends turning 14 soon and for.his birthday we want to have sex, but we have no place to do it. Im never trusted to leave the house so im always inside and hes not aloud inside my house. We really wanna try even though were too young. We just need help about when and where we can do it. I thought about school but they have cameras everywhere and i live next to the school so i cant just go somewheres else. Im really stuck and i need help asap. We may be young but we just want to try. Any ideas? Im open to anything. (link)
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Well if you don't have a place to do it, you obviously can't. Plus you really shouldn't do it somewhere that's not a bedroom. You're not old enough to get a hotel room either so I don't think you have any other options.
Besides that, I doubt you'd want to remember your first time having sex in a school or some other lame place. Have some class :)
Also, you're 13. I'm guessing you're not on birth control? You don't want to get pregnant so if you actually do go through with this, which I advise that you don't, you need to be on birth control. You don't want any accidents..especially at 13.
I also think that you won't enjoy it since it will hurt like crazy for you. You're 13 so you're body is just barely developing. That means that it will definitely hurt.
So it won't be that great of a memory, you'll probably regret it, and it'll hurt a lot. So reconsider until you're older, have protection and actually have a place to do it.
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So I'm a girl bringing another girl to prom and I need to know some things
1.We're both wearing a dress. Mine is probably going to be yellow so should she get a dress that compliments mine or is it not a big deal?
2. She's older so she obviously doesn't want to spend a lot on a dress. If she gets a cheap but nice looking cocktail dress would she stick out too much? (My dress isn't going to be extravagant anyways)
3. I get her a corsage, but do I also get one for myself? And how do I know what corsage to choose?
4. Is there usually a coat check at prom? I don't wanna carry a cluth and phone everywhere (link)
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Well I'll give you advice from what I experienced at prom.
A cocktail dress wouldn't stick out too much. One of my friends wore one and I saw other girls who did as well.
As for what color she gets, that's up to you guys. It's really not a big deal but I wouldn't get the same color. Maybe if you wear a yellow dress, she can get a yellow corsage. Then whatever color dress she gets, you can have that color corsage.
I'd say she would get yours. But just talk to her and figure that out. As for figuring out what to get, look at the yellow ones and pick which you like best.
At my prom, there was no coat check. I had my boyfriend carry my phone in his pocket. I'd just say bring a clutch and leave it somewhere nearby where you can see it when you're dancing, or leave it with a friend who isn't dancing.
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So there this really cute (in my opinion anyway) guy on a sports team that I go to for school (our middle school and the local highschool practice together for diving/swimming). Problem is, He's a sophmore, and he may/may not have a girlfriend. Here are a few minor signs that he may like me, in chronological order:
1. When we first met last year- for the same sport -he and another guy were asking me and a friend what grade we were in. They guessed 8th and we laughed, responding with the fact that we were in 7th. They both said, each of them referring to one of us, but the one I like was looking at me, that they wished that we were in 8th so that they could be with {hang out with} us 'next' year.
2. At our first practice this year I was a bit late so I ran up, and when I sat down in the group circle I made eye contact with him and he very slightly nodded his head up and smiled at me.
3. At the same time one of the other higschool guys was asking for our (the middle-schoolers) names, and then the guy I like noted aoud that the only people he already knew were the highschoolers... and me (It made me kinda happy because that must mean he remembers me, right?)
3. At the end of that same practice I was talking to my coach and he kept looking over. Eventually I took notice and watched for when he would look over again. So within a few seconds he looked over, realized I was looking, then smiled and looked away.
Okay, I know I'm getting my hopes up, but I have a serious crush on him. My guy-friends, who have known him through other sports, say that he's cool and nice, but he used to be'kind of a jerk'. I just want to know, what are your guys' and ladies' impressions from this, and do you have any advice for me?
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My impression that he is at least interested in you. He could possibly either see you as a friend or possibly wants to get to know you. If he stares at you enough, he's probably attracted to you and would like to get to know you as more than a friend.
So try getting to know him. Talk to him some more and see how he is. By talking you'll also find out if he has a girlfriend or not.
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Why do people say there is no perfect ten person. I know a lot of guys who say that Im a perfect ten behind my back. And these guys are not at all alike. Its really weird because I don't that much effort in my appearance. So is their a perfect ten guy or girl society holds to that status? (link)
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In reality, no.
I mean if people really wanna rate each other by numbers, then it could mean different things. Like looks, personality, ect.
Why do people say there is no perfect ten person? Well because there really isn't. Everybody's taste is different. Some guys like skinny girls, some guys like bigger girls, some like brunettes, some like blondes, some like tall, some like short. Some people can be pretty on the outside, but not so pretty on the inside.
Then of course the tastes are different in personalities, lifestyle, ect. So there is no perfect ten person. There might be one to a certain person that fits every description of their "perfect" person but even then, doubt it. Everybody has flaws.
Society is just stupid and likes to rate people.
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