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okay when my hole sophomore year of highschool,i always talked to this 8th grader online..she seemd pretty nice n stuff and we got to be really close friends, but through the internet..she went to school like 5 mins away from my school and she was a friend of my (ex bfs) cousin who im REALLY close with..so yeah we alwaysss chatted online,we gave eachother advice, and told eachother everything...but remember this was ONLINE..i always told her that i would have her back when she comes to highschool, (because she was going to go to the same highschool as me the next yr)..so now im a junior and she is a freshman..and she goes to my school now..ive talked to her in person now, and she is the MOST ANNOYEST PERSON I KNOW. she tries to talk all ghetto, like she'll be like, WHUSSUP NIGGA and like oh shit wuss good giRlllll..and she tries and acts allll tough..she has like NO FRIENDS at all. she thinks i like love her and have her back, but really she is the most stupidest lil kid ive ever met..i never knew she was like this because be4 we usta chat only online so i never really really really knew how she was..i dunno how to like stop talking to her because she is some1 that i kNOW that i wouldnt like if i randomly met her at school one day without us talkin on line for that hole time be4..plzz help!!

haha damn...that must suck umm well try introducing her to some other freshmens or sophmores...yeah it might seem cruel but hey, they might enjoy her company. If she dieing to chill wit you, tell her your busy with homework and some other stuff...the best thing is to introduce her to new people....and let her hang around with them. girl good luck!

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there is this boy in my class and he is like the most popular in the grade/skool....i like him alot cuz hes a gentleman,nice and funny. i am the tallest one in my grade and im like a couple of inches taller than him. i want to go out wiht him...but i dunno kno how its gonna work. He like trys to make me laugh andstuff but im shy when i like someone and i am around them. I think to mayself mayb i have a chance with him then i c all the other popular girls hanging around with me. How can i get him to ask me out and like me w/ my height?(plz give me ur TRUE & BEST opinion)(i hate when u say "he has to accpet u the way u are")(ps..i am not the most popular person but i am wellknown and nice to evryone therefore im not unpopluar but im not really really popluar)
THanKz...sry its long

Well, if you want him to like you, you gotta stop being really shy...im not telling you to get all over him BUT you got to atleast talk to him. Think of it this way..if you dont talk now...some other girl will. Hmm about the height thing, well talk to him first of all...and if you guys do go out, go someplace where he'll notice ur personality more rather than your height...like the movies or just to a romantic restuarant...where your sitting down most the time. if he's interested, the height wont be a big problem...good luk

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Hi I am Renee and my hubby Ray is working this job and he says it is for a better life for us but he is never home and when he is home all we do is argue, well he has cheated in the past so you know that runs in the back of my mind all the time but I took him back because I believe in my vows and it was great. Well now he works with this girl that is around all the time, and he comes home all hours of the night. My question is how do I make things right between us and get my point across with out fighting and make him understand me? I love him and I think I can trust him but I don't know how much. Please help me and tell me what I can do?

Well Renee...I think that if you can't 100% trust him, then you definately need some repairs in your relationship. If he cheated on you once, what makes you think he won't do it again? And if you guys barely see eachother n when u do , u argue....are you even happy? Hmm...to make things right between you, maybe you should try making things work. If you guys are about to get into an agreement, just dont fight bak...agree with what he's saying...do that a couple of times and if he loves you he will obviously see how giving and understanding you are...and he'll realize that wow she really loves me and listens to me....and that will make him want to be sweeter with you all the time as well. good luk!

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I was dating this guy, and I was really starting to like him. We had "relations" and it became intense for a minute. But my best freind saw him in the mall, and every since then some how he got he number and they have been talking on the phone since. I stopped liking this guy because I felt he didn't respect me or my best friends friendship. Come to find out my best friend want to have "relations" with him and is talking to him on the phone. She really isn't telling me everything. We told each other that a man could not come in betwwen us, but I think in this situation it is diffrent. I mean I stop liking this guy because of her, and now she wants him. Is she being a friend or a freak?

Well if she knew you liked him and were getting close to him but she still flirts with him, that aint right...talk to her about how you feel, tell her "i really liked him..." and see what she says good luk....

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im going out with this girl but nothing really seems the same from what we started outwith.who do i know if she still likes me? because i really like her. sometimes she acts cold she sometimes dosent want to talk to me and durring our conversations online i ask 2 many questions and she getts annoyed really fast and i think that she is starting to not like me bacouse woe used to talk every night she'd call me but now she dosent and i dont want to call her bacouse the past 2 weeks shes been really sick and i think that thats the problem can you help me and tell me if she is acting like that bacouse she is sick or beacouse she dont like me anymore

Well if she's sick, then it's probably that. Sometimes when we're sick we feel annoyed at the smallest stuff, stuff that regularly doesn't really make a difference to us. Give her some time, and let her get better, then see if it was her sickness or if she really has changed. If she really has changed and seems to not be interested in you anymore, talk to her and tell her how you feel...its better to end a failing relationship early rather than try to keep it dragging...you don't want to end up hating eachother...you kno what i mean? good luk

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A big problem. Ok... I'm in student government at my school. Were freshmans and are shut down for our ideas... even our teacher doesn't support us. Well, we have connections with stores and radio stations- and we want to organize a fashion show. I mean it's a huge responsiblity and were worried guys and girls won't come, and where thinking of dinners and so on. Please, give me some ideas on how to work this thing.. how to organize, promote, ANYTHING! Thanks- I rate higghhh

Well, in my school, special organizations team up with the SGA to put together big stuff. IF you really want to do this, I think you should team up with another academic club(which also has freshmen's i guess..?) and put something tight together. good luk

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is there anyone that maybe could concider becoming my pen pal?I would like to have a boy pen pal and a girl pen pal.I would like to have another one by today if you guys could get me one.

hey listen.....even though having a penpal might be cool(i wouldnt know..) i know you probably already know this but im just saying, dont give out your info in a sec....actually i dont think you should give your real info out at all to someone online but watever, stay safe!

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Well these past few days I've been seeing guys that are totally hot at school!! Which is crazy beacuse I thought all the hott guys graduated. Anyway, the guys are probably like juniors and seniors...I'm a sophmore and I really really want to meet some of these guys. But I dont know ANYTHING about them. Their random guys that I think are cute and when I get the chance I'll probably tell them they are.(I'm not shy) But usally they smile or laugh and say "Thanks" and then I end up leaving. Maybe its because I'm young, or because I'm ugly...I dont know! I need help. How do I get these guys to talk to me???

Umm...well, after a cute guy your interested in says thanks and leaves, nex time you see around in the halls, whenever, say "hey,remember me? i'm ___ & i talked to u yesturday..so whats up?" If your outgoing and stuff, that shouldnt be a big deal right? If you want them to talk to you, keep in touch with them.

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the other day, i got a thing on my advice column frum my friend sayin he liked me..this guy is my best friend..and so i told him i liked him..he asked me to homecoming..well now theres this big thing..cuz the grl he used to like..call her sue.. told bob she liked him..so hes gotta choose hoo he wunts to go to homecoming with..i realy like him and wunna go to homecoming with him but i think hes gunna pick her..hes told me he likes me but me and sue were talkin and she told me all the stuff they had been talkin bout..me and sue are really good friends now..we've always been friends..but not like now..i want him to choose me and stay friends with sue..wut do i do?!?!

Awww...first of all. I'm not going to say DON CRY...because crying sometimes helps. If you dont have feelings for him, you most likely feel sad because once you have your mind set on something and then it suddenly changes, it's hard to cope with. YOU CAN FACE HIM and it's not that big of a deal, I think you should actually tell him, "I was actually looking forward to goin to homecomin with you, but its all good that you decided to go with her instead." YOu should still definately go to homecoming and have a good time with your friends.

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i have friends and sometimes i feel like they dont need me... i dont know why... i cant tell them about it because then they would obviously say that its not true. i have a bestest friend but shes not in the U.S. so i cant see her veryday and hang with her. please help me...

Listen, don't ever think no one needs you, you kno what maybe that even is true. Maybe no one you know currently exactly NEEDS you to do something for them, but they do need you as a friend. If they didnt need you as a friend, they wouldnt talk to you sweety. They would ignore you when you talked to them, and they wouldn't care enough to even mention you. Your probably just havin a low day, and thats fine cause sometimes, once in a while, I feel annoyed by the world for no reason at all! What you should try though is join clubs and activities to meet new people though, and call up your friends and make plans to hang out. Trust me, they do need you, and all your friends probably love you to death but just havn't been saying that lately because they don't know how you feel.

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hey hoes!

I have "microsoft works word processor" and I want to know if there is any kind of way on there that it will count all the words in my paper? because I need at least 1,000 words and it's impossible to count them all. Or does anyone know any kind of website that will count the words for me? I'd greatly appreciate it. Thanks

On the top of your screen, there options like FILE, EDIT, VIEW, and so on, click on the one that says TOOLS, third option down is WORD COUNT...peace.

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I have a friend, lets refer to her as Lonnie. Well Lonnie recently admitted to having a crush on our friend Steven. Steven had a crush on Lonnie last year, he even asked her out multiple times. She also said NO every single time. Seeing as she hated him. Now that he has moved on away from her she was happy with it. Now all of a sudden she loves him. She hates him, then she loves him. I am so sick of her little " I Hate Steve!" spells. I feel draggd in the middle cause he does nothing except treat her like shes so kind. She tries to control him. She does not realize it, but everyone talks abou ther behind her back. I am so sick of defending her when everyone is right about her. She needs to grow up a little. So my question is how can I tell her she needs to stop putting everyone else in the middle making them look so stupid? Please help!

Kasey

Honestly, I think if Steven has no problem with it, it doesnt matter. and if he has a problem with it, he should stick up for himself. Who cares what other people think, but if it really bugs you about how she puts you in the middle, next time she talks about him, be like, "if you hate him, you should go tell him and if you love him, you should still go tell him." Tell her its not right putting themselves out there in public like that because you dont want people talk about her cause she's your friend. good luck

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Ok im 15 f and i was going out with my b/f for 6 months and then we broke up,but like 2 weeks ago he asked me back out and i said yes.When i used to go out with him, i would go to his house and hang out,but since ive been going out with him again my dad and his g/f wont let me go over there. they dont trust me, but i have never given them a reason not to, its not like me and my b/f sit around and make out all day,ya know? They said if i want to see him he has to come over here.but i want to go to his house i miss it.lol and ive tried talking to my dad and his girlfriend but they dont understand and i just cant win.

Alright then, you know what you should do? Let your boyfriend come over to your house for a couple times, and DONT DO SEXUAL STUFF INFRONT OF YOUR PARENTS! Do cute stuff, like watch movies, play boardgames, or just talk you know? Once your parents see that you guys really do like eachother and dont do sexual stuff, then they will start to trust you back. Although, don't totally deprive eachother, when he's about to leave, give him a small peck so your parents know that your not just acting prude infront of them. Don't sneak over to his house, because sure you'll get away with it for a lil tiny while but your parents WILL eventually find out. And they will respect you more if they realize you listened to them. Good luck

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Hey. I have a question, well more like I need some advice. Okay. There's this guy Brandon who I met about 2 months ago. Before we met, we talked on the phone and he always said he loved me and would do anything for me. Once we met, I didn't talk to him for about a month. About 2 weeks ago, he IMed me online and said he liked me and all this other crap. Then he got mad because I wouldn't cyber with him. A couple nights ago, he told my friend that he was really sorry and that he wanted to go out with me.

What should I do if he asks me?

UMM definately SAY NO. Cybering? haha what the hell....obviously he's not into you but into freaky sexual stuff. Guys like this DO NOT DESERVE A CHANCE...don sell urself short sweety.. and if you havn't even met the guy and he's saying I LOVE YOU , he's definately saying it all to butter u up so that when you meet you will do sexual stuff with him because he "really loves you". Guys like this are pathetic, and trust me, u can get better! again, don sell urself short*

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okay im 13/f and me and my boyfriend have been going out for 1 month and like 9 days and we havent kissed yet and i want him to make the first move but i want him to do it and get it over with and like yeah and his friend said that i should just do it but im scared...what should i do?

Ok a first kiss needs to be special. Wether it's your first kiss ever or first kiss with him. Listen, do you really want to remember your first kiss as something you did to get over with? Don't you want him to kiss you when he really wants to and feels like, damn i really like this girl enough to kiss her. And if you've been together for a whole month and havn't kissed, HELLO this guy really likes you for who, he's not with you to do stuff sexually(WHICH ALOT OF GUYS DO!). Your actually lucky you have a decent boyfriend, but if you really want to kiss him because you like him alot and stuff, then yea go head, kiss him yourself. good luck

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ok my friend emily just told me that she thinks my crush that i have neva told anyone about might like me......she says that he treats me different than any otha gurl
like this one time that i didnt think was a big deal but he gave me gum wen i asked and no one else...oh and he let me copy 2 questions off his hw but wen my friend askd he said yea right n walkd away....
i dont kno wat to do ...do i ask him ..but if he says he dont like me people are gonna laugh at me......or he might lie and say he doesnt but really does..idk plzzz plz help me.....should i ask him or not

Yea he might be shy BUT getting gum from a guy isn't exactly a sign of stealing his heart. And if he lets YOU copy hw and not someone else, it might just mean that he likes you better(as a friend though..) or he just doesn't like that someone else that asked him. I wouldn't ask him if i were you until I had more realistic signs of him liking me. and don't worry bout ppl laughin at u, if anyone does...be like...."atleast i got the guts to say what i think punk" lol...take care

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well, im 14/f and im a freshmen also! well i have this problem, me and my ex-best friend charles (ever since this yr) were planning on going with each other to the freshmen dance, ever since 5th grade, we just talked about it in the summer too! but in school now we don't talk ever, i wanna talk to him, its just he has his own crowd, and i have my own, he talks to me sometimes, but when i asked him if he would still go to the freshmen with me he said. "no, im taken karissa" (some chick from a differ. school) its like, he used to LOVE me soo much from 2nd grade to 8th grade, but in the summer he stopped. and i liked him ever since well the summer, and we couldn't date cuz he liked karissa, its horrible i jus dunno what to do, i've told him how i've felt n stuff, what would u do? i really wanna go with him. i rate high thanks!

Hmm...honestly if he is taking Karissa even after you told him how you feel, understand this now: He's not into you. If he was, he would atleast tell you he likes you but he's taking Karissa. In elementary school, it's not love, it's puppy love. You guys WERE tight, but now, he's changed and he wants to move on. THe best thiing for you to do is find another guy who is into you, and really likes you for who you are. People change, and it hurts, but thats the way life is, it's best to accept that, rather than try to steal him away from karissa. good luck.

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ok well theres this new girl in our school and me and my best friend have known her sence we were in third grade and now we're in 7th and like shes a really big flirt and shes really annoying and like everyone talks about her and pretends to like her..and she flirts with everyone! like my boyfriend plays football..and everyday he has practice right after school cept on Fridays and like she'll walk home with him and shes been over his house and stuff and I'm afraid she is like gonna try to do something with him..like I've talked to her about it and stuff and I trust my boyfriend..(-she has a boyfriend to and I dont think he would like her over my boyfriends house-)am I just paronode or should I worry about it..please help!

Well, no matter how old you are, what school you go to, where you live, you will ALWAYS come across girls that will make moves on your boyfriend. The thing is, you have to decide if you really think she's a threat to your relationship, now if your boyfriend is loyal n all, then you shouldn't worry and don't be paranoid. You should talk to your bf and let him know even though you trust him, you know she has a bad reputation, and he will most likely understand your view.

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I really need to find out whats wrong with me. Im almost 17 and ive never had a bf or my first kiss. Not to sound conceited, but TONS of people talk about how "gorgeous" and "nice" I am. Some people WONT even beleive me when i tell them ive never had a bf. I always see these nasty, uglier, RUDE girls get ALL these guys. But ive never even had one. I guess maybe its cuz im shy around people i dont know, but if you talk to me im NOT. Ive became more outgoing and flirted with guys.. but i cant seem to find anyone im actually interested in. I just wanna know what it feels like to have a bf. (I dont just want one to have one.) I feel almost like im missing out on my teen years. Sometimes i even get depressed thinking im doing something wrong. Any advice?

Aight listen up gurl, i know gorgeous girls as well(some even older then you) that have never had boyfriends. One of my gorgeous friends, she's 18, and never had a boyfriend. If you see her, you'd be like...omg everyguy must be crazy about her, the thing is though that she's so decent & gorgeous at the same time, that guys actually get like intimidated by her, you kno what I mean? Either that, or the guys who don't get intimidated assume she's like not the kind of girl who messes with bad boys like them. I don't know if this is making sense but don't worry, you will find a guy who's not scared of talkin to you cause your so beautiful
& yeah the thing about ugly girls gettin guys is because, since guys dont like them alot, they find another way of getting attention(sexual ways..u kno what im talkin bout)...haha and don worry your not missin out on much..(except maybe makin out, havin a broken heart.....ect.) as long as you got your friends to experience your teen years with, its all g.

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ok a few weeks ago i got a hair cut and i got my bangs cut but they look horrible cuz my hair cutter did them all wrong does anybody no of a type of shampoo or a way to make them grow faster or simply just a way to make them look good

if it helps im 13/f and i have bright blonde hair

~!~Lizzy~!~

Well, there are shampoos and oils that help your hair grow...my friend uses AMLA OIL, she massages her head with it for about 10 minutes, then leaves it in for bout three hours and washes it off, your hair gets stronger and I guess grows faster. But if you really hate your bangs, i recommend that till they grow in, use those cute pins to pin them back on your head. You could wear a headband that doesnt show your bangs, or use gel to style them a different way so they look better.
Good luk!

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