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My name is Kristen, and I'm seventeen years old.

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Okay, first of all, I'm 15 and a freshman in high school.

So, last year in eighth grade, this new guy came to our school and joined band (which I am in), playing the trumpet. Him being new, all the girls but me immediately jumped all over him, wanting to date him because he knows nothing of their past. Well, I decided that I wasn't going to do that. I quietly said, "Hey, what's up?" one day in the instrument room and gave him my Yahoo! IM screen name (after we talked for a while). I didn't realize that I liked him then.

Well, a few weeks after his arrival I started liking him. He's cute, sweet, and has abs to die for. And he's my age (always a plus).

Well, he didn't ask me out, and I was way too shy to ask him out. So, I lived with unrequited(sp?) love until close to the end of the year.

One day, before a band performance, we were riding around picking up various band members with our director. It was then that he told me that he'd liked me since he met me.

Well, I was sitting with my best friend one day after school, waiting for our ride, eating ice cream that we just bought from the store, when lo and behold, here comes Tyler (that's his name). Well, I decide that since I only live a block away from the school, I'll let Megan go home and I'll stay and talk to Tyler. So Tyler and I share the rest of the ice cream and start talking. Innocent things at first, and then it gets deeper. I told him more about my life than even my best friend Megan knows. And he told me all about his.

Well, somehow, we ended up making out on the picnic table. And then we got up and made out by the brick wall. Then the next day, we made out in front of the band room. Then he came to my house and we made out. And then we made out one last time by the gym. We never spoke of it again.

Now, close to a year later, I can't stop thinking about this! We never dated, even though we both wanted to. It was too close to summer and we both thought we were moving. It turns out that neither of us did, but we still haven't dated. Now I have a different boyfriend, and it's killing me that I can't stop thinking about Tyler! And Tyler and I are now close friends! What do I do about this? I still like him, but I don't know if he feels the same way! :(

Talk to Tyler. See if he has the same feelings for you. You don't have to come right out and say it, just sort of ask if he's seeing anyone or something along those lines. If he isn't, maybe you should think about breaking up with your current boyfriend. If you can't stop thinking about him, it must mean something, right? Send me a message if you need anything else! ♥ Kristen

I'm really scared bcus i'm only 14 and i've found out i'm pregnant. my ex doesnt know bcus we had a really bad fallin out and my mom wud totally freak if she found out. Wt shud i do. i'm scared to tell enyone even by best friends! i just act normal but i can nevva take my mind off it!

you're going to have to tell your mom before anyone. you just have to sit her down, take a deep breath, and tell her. she can help you and give advice. if you need anything else, come and talk to me, either on IM or send me a message! i'm here for you! ♥

Hey guys, our Sadie Hawkin's dance is coming up, and I want a creative way to ask my guy. We're dating, and I don't really have to ask him, I just kinda want to. Lol. Some ideas have been:
Balloons
Puzzle
Cake (but that won't work because I can't bake...)
Um...I think that's all my friends have thought of. If you guys think one of these ideas is great, tell me, and lemme know if you have any other ideas! Thanks =)

i think you should do a scavenger hunt! with little notes leading up to you asking him out. or.. put a note in a box of chocolates! hope i helped ♥

ya my friend all of a sudden ignores me and barely talks to me anymore..and she ditched me and ditches me in the halls..and forgets bout me..and we use to be bffs till xmas break..and then she talked behind my back..what should i do..

don't bother with her! a real friend won't treat you badly or talk behind your back.

however, if you feel the relationship is worth salvaging,you both need to sit down and talk about what happenened. good luck! send me something if you need more help! ♥

hey! i really want to get highlights in my hair. but i dont know what colors to get. can anyone help me? i have dark brown hair, fair skin, and hazel eyes. thanx!

i think you should get a goldish color... like caramel!! good luck! if you need anything else just send me something! ♥

i am sort of stuck in the middle. my mom lives in michigan and i live with my dad in california and now that its getting time to go to college i choose 2 really good schools from both states and applied to them and surprizing enough i got into all four ... no problem right wrong i have friends in both states each wanting me to go to the college in their state and i dont want to make anyone feel bad and say NO im not going but im still a little unsure about what i should say to them beccause i dont want to hurt their feelings ???

you have to do what you want to do. just tell your friends you chose another school. you will see them over breaks and things like that, and you will defininitely keep in touch in between. if they're upset, oh well. you van't please everybody.

14/f...theres a girl in one of my classes and she'll sit there the whole class period and talk about me loud enuff for me to hear..so she obviously wants me to. Shes so mean and i've told her to stop and shes just like "I'll do what i want" and the thing is...she seems like a nice person but for NO REASON she hates me..when i asked her y she hates me so much shes like "the question is why wouldn't i" so she doesn't have a reason..theres this one guy thats her friend and always sticks up for me whenever she talks about me and its really nice and i think it'll eventually stop bc he always tells her too and she'll get bored saying everything when he just tells her to stop talking about me. but the stuff she says is mean and sometimes she IMs me outta no where to say how weird i am or i have no friends (which is not true) any advice on thing is can say bak to her when shes talking about me?? I RATE 5'S SORRY SO LONG!!

just ignore her. she's looking for a reaction and attention, and you're giving her it. don't give her the satisfaction of knowing she succeded in annoying you. if worst comes to worst, get your seat changed. she's being immature and you dont need to hear that in your class. if you need anything else, send me a message!! ♥

do you know any excercises i could do or any diets

charmed-cherry21

i'm not really sure of anything exact.. i guess do crunches, 50 in the morning, 50 before you go to bed.. but i'm sorry i couldn't help more!!!!! send me something else if you have a question ♥

what matches? i am sooo bad at putting matching things together. its so confusing. like does light blue pants and a pink shirt match? when i wore that some people were like that doesnt match and others said it matched really wear! i just want to know some combinations that match together well! ill rate! thanks

light blue pants and a pink shirt match. try black and jeans or khakis, light blue with dark blue,...um.. if theres anything else you want to know matches or not, send me a message!!! ♥ Kristen

okay crazy hair day is friday and i dont kno wut to do i am a guy and my bangs are past my nose and my hair goes to the bottom of my neck and is about 5inches long wut shud i do with it besides spiking it?

Hmm.. try ponytails all over your head, or curl it.. hehe

Hi I am 13/f, I am about 5'3", and I weight 152-153 lbs. I was wondering if anyone knows a way I can lose 20-30 lbs by May or June? Like any excericises, diets, and if its an excercise tell me how to do them. If it's a diet please give me a site that gives you the guidelines. Also is there anyway to lose like 1-5 lbs a day?

X♥X♥
Charmed-Cherry21

Give up the junk food and soda, exercise(you could go on walks or run) and drink lots of water. Try to cut out the snacks, and try not to eat alot after around 5 or 6, because you don't burn the calories off very well after that. Good luck, and if you have any questions, ask me! ♥ Kristen

this friday I am goin to sleep over my friends house and she has her bf sleeping over too. I dont have a bf and their probably gonna make out and other stuff. I'll probably be WICKED bored! Should i invite someone for me or just be bored?

ask if you can invite someone over. that way she and her boyfriend could have some alone time, but you won't be bored. if she says no, i guess bring a game or something to amuse yourself, even though thats not very fun... or you could consider not going.

Does anyone know where i can find coca cola or Dr Pepper Bedsheets?

try google.com or ebay.com.. good luck!

ive never had my period but ive been having a lot of white discharge. i s this normal when your 13 years old?thanks for your help

Completely normal. It usually means your period is coming soon.. send me something if you need more help. ♥ Kristen

Well to start off.. My mother left a week before Christmas and I miss her so much.. My dad is go crazy because she left all of us.. She don't call or even write to us. I need so help to know how to help my dad through all of this pain.. Thank you if you write back... I really do need as much help as I can get.... **** Thanks Heather****

I'm so sorry about everything you're going through. Try to take his mind off things. Help around the house, make dinner for him. Maybe he just needs someone to talk to right now. If you need anything else, feel free to send me a message. ♥ Kristen

Hi, I'm 14/f and I've been in dance for 9 years. The only thing is, I really suck. I'm not just saying this, I really do. I'm one of the worst in my class, and I get cruddy parts in my recitals. My teacher plays favorites, and I'm not one of them, because I'm not good. A lot of the people who are really good are huge snobs about it. They're like, obsessed with themselves. My other friend is in the same situation. (we go to the same dance school). We want to quit, but we can't, for a number of reasons. We'd be leaving some of our friends. We might as well just wait until we graduate, because that's when most people quit. (when someone quits before they graduate, my dance teacher talks badly about them, and all the snobby girls laugh). Our moms would get mad. Also, they both say if we quit, we have to join something else, but we don't like anything else. We're not good at sports. I don't even like dancing because I'm not good. And even if I was, I don't think it's really my thing. But don't tell me to quit, because I just can't. I just need help. I want to get better, because I think if I get better, I'd feel better about my self. (I'm very self concious about my dancing) But my teacher doesn't like me and my friend, so I can't ask her for tips. (like, if we're doing something wrong, she just says that's wrong and doesn't tell us how to do it) Does anyone know any exercises to get your leg higher in your arabesque, get your feet in 5th position, do splits, have balance, etc.? Thanks, I really appreciate your help. Sorry about the length, but I really need help. Thanks. I rate.

You just have to keep practicing. Observe other people in your class and ask them how to do certain things. Dancing is hard, and it takes dedication. I know how you feel, sometimes I don't feel very good while I'm dancing. If worst comes to worst, maybe you should research other schools in your area, as hard as that may be. You deserve a better dance education than that. If you need to talk some more, feel free to IM me or send me a message.
xox Kristen

me and my friend have decided to get eachother presents. well, we are like best friends so i got her something special that took me a long time and trouble. it coct about $30 but she is my best friends, so she deserved it. today she said she would tell me what she got me if i told her wat i got. it turns out she got me a $3 key chain!!!!!! i smiled and said "thanks, can't wait to see it!" but inside i was screaming. she already knows what i am getting her so i can't return it and she said she was so excited it was a great gift. im mad, is that wrong? what should i do? i dpn't wanna hurt her feelings but c'mon! please help, i rate high.

it's the thought that counts. smile and be happy when you get it.

F/13 me and my sister was talking today and I told her I started my period to day. She told me she never started. (she is 16) Is that normal?

perfectly normal. everyone starts at their own time.

is any way to find out who has veiwed ur advice column? like an html code that tracks whose been there? and if i or any noe else were to click on it it wud give a list of people who have been there? love alwaiiz, aLi

no there isn't

Im 13 years old and I just started jr. high. I'm in the 7th grade. The problem is that I have no friends and I don't know how to make any. I've tried to be social, but no one seems to want to talk to me. I'm in all honors classes, and the girls in the honors classes are all rich and white and popular. I don't really like them anyway, but i have every class with them. Thankfully, i have 1 really good friend I met this year. She dosnt have friends, either. How can I make friends? I want to be the popular girl i was in elementary.

you have to be yourself. try to get to know them through projects,walking through the halls. don't judge people so soon, they could all turn out to be friendly.

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