|
i am sort of stuck in the middle. my mom lives in michigan and i live with my dad in california and now that its getting time to go to college i choose 2 really good schools from both states and applied to them and surprizing enough i got into all four ... no problem right wrong i have friends in both states each wanting me to go to the college in their state and i dont want to make anyone feel bad and say NO im not going but im still a little unsure about what i should say to them beccause i dont want to hurt their feelings ???
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Work & School category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Colleges & Universities?
At the end of the day, college is about growing up and moving away from home. Even if you are in the same state as one of your parents, you'll still be living away (I'm assuming). Part of growing up is making the absolute best choices for you - it's not selfish to want to go to the college that is the right size, atmosphere, and has the right classes for you.
The most diplomatic way to break the news to the unlucky parent it to explain why the school you have chosen if the best for you. Every parent wants the best for their child, and if one university gives you better advantages and opportunities, they'll want you to go there.
Colleges have long breaks and shortish semesters, so you'll still be able to see both parents. You're not deserting anyone - you're being true to yourself.
Good luck.
]
just go to whatever college would be best for you. if they're really your friends, then they should acknowledge that you had to go to the college that would be best for you, and you could still visit them at times.. its not like they'd never see you ever again.
]
Well hun I really think you should listen tohow you feel, where do you feel most happeist you can always keep intouch with your other friends! But you shouldn't worry too much about hurting poeples feelings at this stage i think you need to think about what you want, just explain to your friends and I'm sure the'll understand!! Good Luck, *Joolz*
]
Well whatever offers you the best then go to that college and just explain that you want whats the best to offer. You need to make sure you get a good college deal. -trix
]
dont base your decision on whos feelings you will hurt base it on the actual college that is the reason your going. so pick which college is better and go that way.
]
You can't please everyone.. but you know that already. Don't pick schools on whose where, do it by which school you realllllyyy want to be at for 4 years. Your friends know you love them, and they love you too, so just tell them," I think I'm going to ---- college" They might be a little upset at first but you can still see them, and talk to them. Just pick carefully and let the others down easily. They can't be mad at you for doing what's best for you! Good luck!
Hope I helped (a little)
~Lana
]
First of all college is the time to be selfish. It is a personal decision that you should make based on YOUR interests and YOUR plans. Granted friends have an impact on where you want to go you will make new friends wherever you end up and i'm sure your parents will support your decision either way. Really tho this isn't about "hurting their feelings" its about taking the first step in what you want to do with your life-stop trying to please other people and just do what you think is in YOUR best interest.
]
ok im telling you this and it might sould mean but im thinking of you since your not. who cares what they want ITS YOUR FUTURE and your worried about peoples feelings!!! go to the college thats better for you
]
you have to do what you want to do. just tell your friends you chose another school. you will see them over breaks and things like that, and you will defininitely keep in touch in between. if they're upset, oh well. you van't please everybody.
]
More Questions: |