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I have a good friend (Amy), who've been going out with my best guy friend (Jon) for awhile now. Me and Jon do a lot of things together, we're always hanging out. This leads to Amy being jealous of us. Now she's saying we're "together behind closed doors", otherwise, he's cheating on her with me. We both think she's totally crazy, because it's not true at all. She's being super controlling over him. He's not just going to stop hanging out with me, because we've been bestfriends since we were one. He doesn't know what to do, nither do I. He doesn't want to dump her, because he really loves her. But what should we both do to help her realize we're only friends and that's all we'll ever be?
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well he kold tell her that you and hem are only frends and if she dos not stop being julis than he will brak up with her than mbe she wll stop
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The spice girls said it best "If you wana be my lover, you gotta get with my friends" youre a part of his life and she needs to accept that. wether she likes itor not it really doesnt mattter she should take the bad with the god ims ure theres stuff about her he doesnt like
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You and Jon are going to have to talk to Amy. There's no solving anything without having all three of you guys there to talk. So, maybe one night you could all get together and make her realize your only friends with Jon. You've been friends for too long. Your right. He's not going to ditch you, he can't, friends are the most important thing. But try talking to her. Tell her that you both care about her. If she doesn't have trust in you guys, she won't have a friendship or a relationship. If she loves you both, she'll understand and will accept the fact that you hangout, because your friends.
♥ Krissy
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you need to explain that you two have been friends ever since you can remember & that that`s all you are, friends. if she doesnt beleive you. maybe try yo include her in some of your plans to show her that there is nothing going on.
xO--sara
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This is very hard on her I can see that. Nonetheless you have to sit down, the three of you, and explain what you just wrote to her. Make sure that you butter her ego up a bit, because right now it is badly bruised. Tell her how much she means to you, have her bf tell her he loves her etc, and in between explain the nature of your relationship. Tell her its not fair on you for her to ask you to cut a friendship off. You wouldnt ask it of her, and she shouldnt ask it of you. Also keep bringing up the concept of trust, remind her that trust is what makes a friendship. Have her bf point out that if she cant trust him now, the relationship will have similar problems later. All the while tell her that the two of you trust her and ask her to have the same faith in you.
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