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i wrote b4 about how my friend gets really frustrating and annoying, and every1 told me that i shoulldn't be friends with her, but its not that simple. one, anybody who just outright says ur so annoying she doesn't take seriously and just thinks they're joking, even after they tell her they aren't, and two, if i just go up to her and be like: i dont think we should be friends, we dont get along, etc etc, that would be really mean, and i have most of my classes @ skool with her, sitting right next to her, and i wouldnt be able to do it anyway.is there some other option?

Try writing her a note and tell her that she really is annoying and maybe she'll get it. If she doesn't take the hint, ignore her or don't laugh or anything when's she's being stupid. Good luck!
Happy New Year!
♥ Erin

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this is kinda long but i seriously need help...my bf of 4 months now who i really love and things are going GREAT...well his ex is trying to talk to me now. she IMed me this morning and said hey you dont know me but i know derek, how are things going with him? and then we just started talking....she said he broke her heart and she loved him and he was her first kiss and all this shit. and she said he told her he loved her too. and shes like yea we hung out all summer..does he ever mention me? becuse it was a crazy summer! and shes asking me to talk to derek ( my boyfriend, her ex) and asking him to just be friends with her. because they dont talk at all now. shes really nice..but i KNOW she still has feelings for him...shes saying how she just wants to be his friend now and if i could please talk to him for her but im afraid if i do...shell try to take him away from me...what do i do about this? im getting really jealous and i told her i would talk to him abuot her and stuff..im trying not to be that jealous overprrotective girlfriend...HELP

♥ JaDe

Ok, what you need to do is tell Derek what's going on. Tell him how his ex is acting, telling you to tell him stuff. Tell him that you think she still has feelings for him and wants to take him back. But I don't think you have any reason to worry. It sounds like you both care about each other very much, and I don't think he'd let his ex get in the way of that. Good luck!
Happy New Year!
♥ Erin

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I'm 16/f, and I have 3 friends who always do stuff withought me. I feel like i'm never included in anything they do. And I always feel like they're talking about me at theyre little get togethers. I'm always sitting at home while they're out having fun and they don't even bother to call me. I also think they're parents hate me as well, which sucks even more. My question is, what should I do when they DO call me and what should I tell them?

I say get new friends! That same thing happened to me a few years ago. The best thing to do is forget about them and hang out with new people. That's what I did, and know I have lots of friends who I do things with! Good luck!
Happy New Year!
♥ Erin

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I need a way to dump this guy im going out with but like not, its not you, its me thing cuz thats soooo old, anyway..just plz ill rate high if you give me a way to dump him and i just wanna it to be the way it was were we were good friends..but i odnt want it to change when i dump him and i dont want him to hate me!
Thanx in advance
xoxo
-confused

Tell him your mom doesn't want you dating anymore because it's taking time away from your schoolwork and stuff. Then ask him if you can still be friends. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
Happy New Year!
♥ Erin

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I want to get a cell phone. My mom says if I can pay for it I can get one. Where can I get a inexpensive pre-paid flip phone? Right now I have like $30-$35 dollars. I know that isn't enough but I'm going to keep saving.

I have Verizon and the calls are free after 9 on weekdays, and totally free on weekends (I think Friday night to midnight Sunday). And it's also free if the people you call have Verizon. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
Happy New Years!
~*Erin*~

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My friend told my other friends that this kid likes me, but i don't like him. I like someone else. I don't want to hurt his feelings because i know how it feels. What should i do?

Just go up to him and tell him that you don't have the same feelings, and you just want to be friends. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
Happy New Years!
~*Erin*~

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I am sick with the flu and my grandmother want to give me some medicine that they used to use in her childhood days.Viniger and greentea.how can i get out of this?quick i am getting my next treatment in 30 minutes!

Just be honest with your grandmother. Tell you don't like it, and if you take it one more time, you'll throw up. Tell her you want to take something else. She'll understand. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
Happy New Years!
~*Erin*~

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I have brown hair a little past my shoulders, and I was wondering what are some cool haircut ideas? Does anyone have any pictures?

What you could do is when you get out of the shower, use scrunching gel and scrunch your hair. That looks so cute! Good luck!
Hope I helped!
Happy New Years!
~*Erin*~

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Okay heres the deal, I have this huge crush on this guy and he already knows and since hes known hes been extra nice to me (i guess hes trying to make me feel special or something which is nice but whatever)anyway he got mad at me because my friend called him like a millon times when I wasnt looking on my house phone and he knows my last name but thats all cleared up now because i talked to him and now were friends again. I have his cell # and home phone # so Im asking....Is it okay if I call him? ~Jacki

Go for it! He'll have that warm feeling like, "O yay, someone wants to talk to me!" Lol. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
Happy New Years!
~*Erin*~

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Ok there's this girl she's my old girlfriend and i still like her but i don't know if she likes me and i like love her should i ask her back out or just let it go

I'd ask her back out, but just remember why you broke up in the first place. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
Happy New Years!
~*Erin*~

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I really really really hate my moms boyfriend and everyone thinks he's so nice and that im crazy but im not. It's hard to explain but what should I do! Im thinking of moving with my dad is that the right choice? I've talked to my mom but its like she wont listen she always tells me to be open minded but shes the one who need to know that I cry every night and I'm really hurt inside because I dont like him. please help!

-moms boyfriends a jerk

Tell your mom exactly why you think he's a jerk. If she doesn't understand, move in with your dad. She shouldn't be choosing a guy over her kid. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
Happy New Years!
~*Erin*~

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if you have "pin worms" can you just let them stay there??...must you get meds or see a doctor, waht if your too embarassed,,how dangerous are they? how do you know if you have a bad or mild case? HELP HELP HELP!
-silvia

Even though it's really embarrassing, you have to see a doctor.
Hope I helped!
Happy New Years!
~*Erin*~

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is it normal to have little alive white worms in your ass?? im not trying to be sick but i have worms like little tiny white worms, that live in my ass. they make it itch and feel irritable. not to gross anyone out
-silvia

Uh, it's not normal at all. Go see a doctor.
Hope I helped!
Happy New Years!
~*Erin*~

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My husband and I of 1.3 years of marriage got into a huge fight yesterday and he hit me several times, twice in the head. He kicked my butt real hard, threw something at my leg or my arm-can't remember which over something that was really stupid. I did say somethings I know I shouldn't have like I didn't love him, hated him and wanted a divorce. But does my saying those things warrant him hitting me? And that wasn't the first time. He normally hits me real hard on the legs when he gets real mad or he feels I've pushed his buttons.
Last night, he went to a motel with his son to get away and he would not talk to me at all. I didn't even know if we were going to be together. I was hurt and upset about the whole situation and did something real stupid. I filled out one of those eharmony personality profile things. I didn't chat with anyone or nothing like that. I just did it, don't know why. I was depressed and I did pop a lot of pills as I have tonight to try and sleep. None of it his an excuse. He found the eharmony thing today when he came back and now he won't have anything to do with me. I love him and want to work it out and I know I have to change also, not just him. All the times he's accused me of doing things I never ever did, I guess I just filled out that eharmony thing out of spite. He has called me a slut and a whore and that I'm so big now vaginally wise that no man could do me any good. I have apologized for filling out that personality profile. It was dumb of me. How can I save this marriage and convince him that I don't want anyone else, PERIOD. I love him and want to work this out more than anything in this world. Help me please.

I know it's hard, but you have to leave him. He hit you. That's never ever acceptable in any relationship.
Hope I helped!
Happy New Years!
~*Erin*~

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okay im sorta new at this and i really need help so anyone that can i need to know how farr is too far on a first date?

Anything other than kissing is too far. Have fun on your 1st date!
Hope I helped!
Happy New Years!
~*Erin*~

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Okay , I like this guy, and he just told me that he likes me too, we have a problem. Me and him arent sure if we should start dating because Im friends with his sister, and his sister will NEVER buy the fact that me and him were dating...and we wouldnt be able to tell our parents because we wanna have sleep overs and stuff, but i mean we dont plan on doing anything at the sleep overs, we just wanna see each other because we live an hour away from each other, but anyways, my question is, should we date behind his sisters back or tell her with the fact we both know shes not gonna buy the whole thing...???

help :(

I rate everyone a 5

I would just tell her. If you don't, there could be a huge mess. If she really seems like she doesn't want you to go out with him, don't. A guy shouldn't ruin your friendship. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
Happy New Years!
~*Erin*~

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Ok well theres these 2 twins and they are both REALLY cute! at first i liked one...lets call him..will. so i liked will at first and then after talking to his brother a little...i started to like him! lets call him...joe!Ok well joe is funny, has a sence of humor,sweet, and if he accodently hurts ur feelings he'll apologize right away. Will is nice, kinda serious in a way (mature), funny (when you get to know him), and reallly caring, sweet. They are both kinda pervs. but they are still realllly sweet and i just cant choose. i heard one of them likes me(will) and i like him too. But i also like joe and he just broke up w/ him gf and he acts like he likes me. So now im realllly confused on what to do. I like them both a whole bunch. please help me...thanks :-/
Luv
-beyond confused-

I would just be friends with both of them. I know it might be hard, but they both like you, and if you went out with one of them, the other would feel bad. Or maybe press your luck, and go out with both, haha. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
Happy New Years!
~*Erin*~

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i have liked this guy for three years now....he knows i like him..and i want 2 go out with him....really bad! hes also who i got my first kiss from..which made it even worse for me to try and let him go...n hes never answered my question whenever i ask him..will we ever go out..ever...or my question do you like me more than a friend?? what does that mean...he hates me...just wants to be friends????what?? please help me!!

I'll rate u a five if u ask me a question and rate me fairly...

If he doesn't answer it, he just wants to be friends, and doesn't want to make you feel bad by saying no.
Hope I helped!
Happy New Years!
~*Erin*~

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This guy is like in love with me and he always sends me all these poems and qoutes on how much but im wit a guy t hat i already love and he rele gets sick of this other guy telling em how much he loves me..how can i get this guy to leave me alone i mean ii wanan still be friends with im but..i dont want him to love me anymore..

Love,

WAnt HiM To mOVe On

Just tell him how you feel. Tell him you're flattered, but you really just want to be friends. You're happy with this other guy. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
Happy New Years!
~*Erin*~

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Okay, i've been using photobucket for a while and just recently my pictures stoped working. I'm pretty sure it's because too many people direct linked to me. Does anyone know how I can know whos using my stuff, and also when my graphics will start working again? Also are there any better sites you know of to use? Thanks if anyone can awnser this.

Try www.picturetrail.com or www.fotki.com. That's all I could think of. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
Happy New Years!
~*Erin*~

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