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Hi,
Does anybody know any sites i can visit that have good Myspace layouts?
i rate high (link)
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Hey, there are not really any specifics for that. There's a good MySpace Editor you can use to help you out though. Go to: http://www.strikefile.com/myspace/reborn_3_4.htm
Also, to find the background you are looking for, type what you want into Google Images and she what you can find. Ie: Pink Stars.
For other tips on how to customize your MySpace you can try: MySpace.com/layouts and MySpace.com/backgrounds
Good luck. :)
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Hello.
How young is too young to be fingered?Please help...good anwsers I'll rate 5's..thanks lots! (link)
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It's hard to give a set-aged answer to this. But what I can tell you is that you shouldn't allow a guy to finger you if you are not aware of everything involved. For example: STDS, a change in the relationship, it might lead to more, rumors, etc. You should only do this with both you and your partner are 150% ready, willing, and aware. Often times young teens do it at an early age because it's a fad. I'd say at 16 you would be mature enough. But remember, relationships should not be based on sexual relations. :)
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Just randomly picked someone to ask this and you seemed like a nice person...What does it mean to bone a guy..if thats even the right word..please help me if you know...thanks bunches.. (link)
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That's just another way of saying to have sex with a guy. But at your age, my advice would be that you're not ready to be doing that yet. Keep that in mind, and if you do, be safe. :)
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can you wear a pad while swimming? or is a tampon reccomended.. can you not wear any? (link)
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Well, technically you can wear a pad while swimming, but it would be very visible and the water would most likely make the back of the bad lose it stickiness and it would float off into the water. A tampon is the best way to go. Generally, when you go swimming your period lightens up a ton-sometimes even takes a "time out". I wouldn't risk not wearing one at all though, because it could come anyways, or when you step out it all might rush out. There's nothing to it and you cant feel it in you while your swimming around. :)
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Q: what do i do if i feel like shit and down most of the time and do not give a care in the world about anything? what do i do? (link)
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What you do is: First, realize you're not ALONE. We have ALL been there during different times in our life to various degrees. Next, you should try and find what the main think you're down about is. Is it your weight? The way you look? Family issues? Etc. You should try working on these issues. Some things you could do would be to write your feelings in a daily jornal, talk to a trusted, knowledgeable friend or adult, pick a need hobby, etc. Just allowing yourself to sit there and make no progress is only going to overtime make things worse for you. As hard as it may be, you should try focusing on the positives. Get some faith. I'm not saying throw yourself to God or whomever you may believe in, if anything, I am just saying have faith in SOMETHING. For everyone it is different. Whatever you do, don't hurt yourself. I know you probably will hear that a lot, but trust me, it solves NOTHING. Ie: Don't become a cutter or turn to drugs. Surround yourself with positive things and people. The school year is just around the corner..get involved in some new groups, make some new friends. Get new clothes. Get a new hairstyle. Anything. Just mix it up. Obviously, leaving things the way they are aren't working for you. If I were in your position, which I can honestly say I have been..I would say the best advice is don't allow yourself to be vulnerable to all the wrong things. Don't turn to a guy or people that are going to mistreat you jusy to get a fake "high". I think you should start off with the journal idea..you could write it anyway you'd like. Poem, song, essay--your choice. Then, I would pick a new hobby. Like, desgin or something that suits you. I would also make a list DAILY of the things you have to be thankful for. In time, you'll see that as days go by you have more and more on your list. Also, I'd talk to someone abut your problems. That's the biggest mistake people make. We tend to hold it all in and then it gerts to be too much for one person and we blow. If you feel like there's noone for you to talk to, I'd be more than happy to talk to you or provide you with some help hotlines. Let me know and remember, there's always an upside to being down. :)
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does anyone know any good kinds of eyeliner for like oily eyes because when i put on eyeliner, it usually comes off
ps no liquid eyeliner, not very expensive and an eyeliner that i can get basically anywhere! thanks (link)
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Omg, I def. use to have the same problem. I think the best kind that works is Almay Amazing Lasting 16 Hour Eye Pencil. I use the Precise Black color. It lasts a long time and is around 6-8 dollars at drugstores. :)
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ive liked this guy for toooooooo long.
the bad thing is, i had him once. im not saying we're not friends anymore, because we really are. we usually talk daily or go places with each other (not alone, usually with other friends of ours). i dont think he likes me anymore but theres this little thing that tells me he does. he always talks to me about his situations, and i love it. just that he can open up to me, even a little, is awesome. when hes gone, i miss him to death. ive never really missed someone out of family / my friends that much. most of my friends know that i like him so im assuming he knows too. hes not aggressive with girls at all; hes not the one that asks girls out often. im young, and i hate being told to move on because sometimes it takes me years (yea, yikes, i know), but please be honest on this one. i really need help. (link)
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Wow, I have a friend that's totally in your position. That really stinks when you like a guy but "can't have him". I think it is good that the two of you are still friends. It's really great that he is able to open up to you. I can't tell you for sure whether or not the guy have more than friendship feelings towards you. It may be that he does, but at the same time he doesn't. These situations are sometimes hard to deal with because (you) get hurt. You're right, it is hard to move on. My advice to you would be to stay friends, and keep doing what you're doing. The think to not do woud be his friend with benefits. That gives him the wrong idea about you and you'll never get a real relationship back with him. Be friends. In the mean time, take notice to how he is around you. Is he every flirty? If he is, especially in front of other then maybe you're right; there might be something there. I am not saying to get your hopes completely up though. If you feel brave enough or you seem like there might be a good time to bring things up..you could be straight forward and ask "Do you have any feelings for me still?" The worst you could do is ask. If he does, then great..work from there. If he doesn't you are going to have to learn to accept that. You can't force emotions. So if that's the case, prepare to deal with him being with other girls..and you should go out and meet some guys! School is just around the corner..take advcantage of that. Live your life. :)
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I love your site u give awesome advice.
I have a question
im going to be Eris the goddess of chaos and the colors are purple and blck, besides dyeing my hair black and wearing a purple dress, do u have any ideas of how to make my costume sexy(im 13 by the way so it has to be"appropriate[parents]) an myserious.
thanks!
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First off, thank you. Okay now on with the advice: Instead of dyeing your hair competely one color you could streak it (not permenant) with purple, black, or both. Also, try really extreme macke-up. Like really smokey black eyes (done with eyeliner and mascara) and a purple eye shadow. You may also want to outline your lips with either of these colors. To make your outfit sexy itself, maybe have a black or purple dress that has like sheer or like different shredded layers. And shoes...how bout some really dramatic high heels! Uhm, if there's anything else, be a little mroe specific and I'll try my best to help you out. :)
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how do u get a backround and stuff for myspace>? (link)
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Hey I am not too good with that stuff..I only know a little HTML for it. But these two link on MySpace are GREAT for backgrounds and layouts.
Try: www.myspace.com/backgrounds and www.myspace.com/layouts
Good luck. :)
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ok so i got my period yesterday and it is already like done and usally it lasts for 3 or 4 days is this normal or ok?? (link)
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Yeah, actually that's nothing to be alarmed about. It is often that in the first few years of having a cycle, your period always is random or fluxuates in length. It is possible also, that your period may come back after a few days. Like maybe when you normally would be on day 3 or 4. So keep a look out for that. I would suggest wearing a thin pad or panty liner for the full 4 days just to be cautious. But in short, nothing's wrong with you. :)
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i have old books and i was wondering instead of donating them can i bring to the library to sell them? or should i bring to a bookstore to sell them? (link)
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You can donate books to just about anywhere. The library doesn't usually buy books from individuals though. Your best best would be to take them to a used book store like Half Price books or a local neighborhood bookstore. Sometimes you will either get store credit, points, or cash. You could also sell on Ebday or have a garage sale. :)
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I have a problem with spots, mainly on my chin, nose and forehead (T-zone?).
I also have large pores + blackheads on those areas.
Anything anyone can recommend to help with the problem? (link)
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This is a common problem for teens. So don't feel alone. There are a few things i can suggest for you to do.
-Go see a dermatologist and ask if he would recommend and perscribe a TOPICAL CREAM or GEL with benzol peroxide (sp) in it. Ex: Retin A Micro.
-Make sure take off all your make up before you go to bed. Studies have shown that not washing your face just one night sets your skin back 2 months.
-Try using an astringant to also clean your face (besides water and a wash cloth) Ex: Sea Breeze
-Try getting out as many of the blackheads out as you can. Use your two index fingers to "sqeeze" them out.
-If you have many that are on the surface, and not deep down into the pores, you could use something like Biore Strips
-And lastly, you may want to try getting an Acne Treatment facial. You can get these done at a salon near you. During this they cleanse your whole face, and take out any blackheads. However, these are costly. About 60-80 dollars.
If you need any other information on this, or want more specifics, let me know. Best of luck. :)
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wat do u think about dating online? (link)
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Welll, I think that with a question like this, everyone is going to have different opinions. Personally, I don't think it's the best idea. I know it sounds like preaching, or like I am acting like a parent, but it is really dangerous. On the internet ANYTHING is possible. I know, if you are already involved with someone online right now, you probably are sure that the guy wouldn't, but chances are he's lying to you. You're young. At 13 you have so much time ahead you to get involved in a real relationship. And even more so, 13 is a great age to start really socializing. You might later regret spending that valuable time sitting at home talking online to a "stranger". During this socializing time, chances are you are going to meet someone. Junior high is filled with cute new boys. The new school year is just around the corner. So, with all that said, I am not saying you shouldn't, but I'm also not saying you should. Just be realy cautious if you are going to. Also, online dating isn't part of the real world. It can kind of warp your mind and make you believe things that realy arern't true. And if the guy is older, make sure that he doesn't suggest for the two of you to do anything you don't want to. Be safe. :)
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hey! i'm going into 7th grade and i'm single but i really like this guy and he and this one girl wentout for about 2 months and they broke up on saturday...we were like really good friends this year and in the middle of the year, everyone found out that i liked him (people always find out who i like,i'm pretty popular)and then someone asked me out so i went out with him to cover it up that i liked him but now i like him again and i dont know how to let him know i like him!... what should i do?!?!?!?!
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Well I think that you're young. There will be plenty of times to put your focus on boys. School hasn't even started back up yet. There might be new boys that catch your eye. I think you should just keep having fun for the summer and live your life. I know it may seem like it right now, but junior high isn't all about how many boyfriends you can have. Cherish the time you have. But, to answer your question, when school starts back up-would be the best time for you to make it apparent to the guy about how oyu feel. Try talking to him a lot. If you have a class together, sit near him. Write him a note. Grab his attention. Stuff like that. Just remember to be yourself, just a little more flirty! He'll get the message. You don't have to come straight out and tell him how you feel, show him! :)
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my sister always wants my food! she is anerexic, and i tell her to eat something herself. she doesn't get it; i am eating it for a REASON. b/c i am hungry! and she is always like, "let me taste it" and i' mlike, "god you tasted it before!" and she's like, "omg you r so mean to me!" (she is older than me) and she frigging tells my parents (i'm a germophobe) and i tell them bc i was hungry!! and when i say, "no go get one urself or i'll make you one" she's like, "god i just watned to taste it..." like seriously, i would rather finish eating mine, go downstairs, and make one for her! uggh. can u give me some advice?? xoxo you have helpecd me soo much in the past 5 ALWAYS. (link)
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Okay, it sounds like your average teenage sister bickering to me. If your sister really is anorexic that is something that you and you're family need to help her deal with. That is a very serious matter not to be taken lightly. Your sister probably looks up to your or something even though she is older. Either that, or maybe she just likes annoying you. I know it sounds cliche, but if you acted like what she does doesn't really bother you that may be what is motiving her and she might be lilely to stop it. Next time you sit down to eat something, you may want to try making like two sandwhiches or something and take a bite out of each. I know it sounds weird, but then you can just let her have one of them and you can enjoy your food. I don't think your sister means anything by this except to annoy you. You could try annoying her with something and when it gets to her make a trade off nad tell her she's got to stop that and you'll stop. Over time your sister will grow out of this. I am sure of it. Just don't let it get to you and just show her it's not a big deal. :)
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In the beginning of the year, I met this girl that went to my school, but we were never really friends until in September of last year. Well, this girl, Monique*, is best friends with my second best friend, Amber*. Amber told me that she hates Monique, and that she only pretends to be her friend. Well, Monique is a TERRIBLE friend. Monique thinks we are friends, but I never know when she is mad at me, or when she wants to be friends. She often wants to get together with me, so I say, "Yes," because I don't want us to be in a fight. Well, the other day, Monique invited me to her house. And, feeling tremendous guilt, we promised we wouldn't tell Amber that we got together today. [ Both Monique and Amber get angry whenever the other one hangs out with someone else without telling them, but Monique gets more angry. Amber seems to mind, but isn't that angry about it. ] We had an OK time. Or, at least I did. Then, the phone rang, and Monique's mom picked upt he phone. It was Amber! Monique's mother had told Amber that I was over, and that she can comeover, too. As angry as Monique was, she decided to just ignore it, and get through the day as quickly as possible. Monique was being really mean to Amber. Monique's younger sister, being only eight years old, was not mature enough for the language that I was unintentionally speaking. Monique was getting very irate. I felt bad, and said I couldn't help it. Amber was being a little mean to me, too. Often, Amber would flash me looks like, "Ugh" (Rolling her eyes) about Monique. Monique would do the same thing. Amber told everyone that her mom would be so angry, because she said she had to be home by 6:00PM, when it was now 6:30PM. The phone rang, and it was Amber's mom. Monique answered the phone and said that her mom was SO mad at her! Amber was hurt, because she knew that her mom wouldn't care. She quickly left, angrily. And I felt aweful. Later, when I talked to Amber, she told me that her mom told her that she asked Monique if Amber was coming home (She lives right down the street from Monique, so she can walk) and that she didn't scream or sound angry. Yesterday, I put up an away message that said, "Went out...Amber - (I wrote an inside joke here) Monique & Amber - great times yesterday!" Monique OBVIOUSLY said something back to it, so she said, "Nice away. Amber was over for like two minutes!" Angrily. Amber, being closer to me than Monique, told me that Monique was talking to her about my away message. Monique said, "ew... (puts the inside joke here)? she thinks she's soo cool when she has like two friends". Monique often talks bad about me, but here is my problem. I think Amber is angry at me. I don't feel like I can trust her anymore. We used to be so close, but Amber later told me she was not angry at Monique anymore! I was so enraged. I don't not want to be friends with Monique, for the fear she will spread aweful rumors about me, but I do not want to put up with her AMAZING friendship skills! I try to ignore her, I even got a new screen name because of her (If I try to block her, she makes a new screen name, IMs me, and says, "wow, thanks (my name here) for blocking me" and signs off. I don't want to get her mad. Can you please give me some advice on how to approach Amber about Monique, and how I should be acquantances with Monique? Thank you very much. I have never been this detailed with my problem. * = Named Changed (link)
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Wow! You sure were detailed. I almost felt like I was reading a chapter to a teenage book. Basically, in a nutshell, the first thing you have to realize is that girls will be girls and there's always going to be drama. There's pretty much nothing you do to keep it from going away all the time. You can however try to be proactive and prevent it or speak your mind about how you feel on the situation (to them) so they know what's going on. I know, it may be hard and cause more drama, but the least you can do is try. If I were in this position, I would call up both Monque and Amber* and find a place where the three of you can all talk. Maybe like a park or something? Just be really open and honest and explain to them exactly how you are feeling about the friendship dilema. Make sure to key in on the things that upset you the most and make it very aware to them how it upsets you. Tell them about how you don't want all this drama and bitterness. Explain that you want to all be able to trust each other, live, laugh, and love together. You need to tell Amber WHY you feel like you can't trust her. You also need to try to tell them each about how it makes you feel in the middle when they both get angry, or even one more so than the other. Your friends are suppose to be there for you always. Now, I am not saying they are going to grow up to be your bridesmaids, but teens need their friends. It makes a world of difference in the growing-up process. I think you should also tell them that you'd like to spend time with the each of them individual and really have some good one-on-one time together. The key to all of this is to be real, honest, and sincere. If your friends don't take to this well and don't change or at least start trying to change, show them that you aren't going to take it. You've spoke your mind now the ball is in their court. School will be starting up again, so there will be plenty of oppurtunities for you to make better friends with even more people, so use that. You should never doing anything you don't want to. Who you want to be friends with is your choice. Monique and Amber* (after you all 3 sitting down) should and probably will, realize some kind of change needs to take place and will grow to be better friends to each other, and you. If they don't, you've done all you can. Don't surround yourself with drama and stress though over what you really can't control. Live. In the end, things will work out how they are supposed to..and I know that sounds cliche, but they always do. :)
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one of my friends is being so mean to me. and i can't talk to her. and my bff is like best friends with her and i think they both might hate me. i am really mad at her... she isnt my friend. god i loathe her. pls give me some feedback? like ignore her or i CANNOT talk to that MF... (link)
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Sounds like typical teenage friend relationship problems to me. I think the best thing for oyu to do would be to (hard as it may be) try talking to your friends. TELL them how you are feeling and how you don't like or appreciate how they have been treating you. Maybe you did something you aren't aware of? I understand how you could feel mad because you probably feel excluded and not wanted, but none of that can change for you until you take action. Just explain everything you are feeling. Then, give them each time to change their ways with you. If they do, then GREAT. Work from there. If they don't, just stop stressing because those aren't true friends. You deserve the best! Don't settle. :)
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i am sooooo bored! any ideas for fun? (link)
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Sure! There are a lot of things you could do.
-Call someone you haven't in awhile
-Go to bored.com
-Bake a cake
-Read a book
-Play a game
-Make something crafty
-Watch a movie
-Search Ebay
-Go out
Try something along those lines. :)
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does anyone know where I could get dashboard confessional or taking back sunday posters like what store or if not were online (link)
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Woo! Dashboard Confessional is like one of my favorite bands! SOMETIMES, not always, you can find their posters at places like WalMart, Target, Best Buy, and/or Fye. I'm pretty sure I have also seen a Taking Back Sunday poster at one of those places. And if you can't find it there, they sell them o their fan pages. Like (look through merchandise) If you are looking for the cheapest, try garage sales or Ebay. :)
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The boy I absolutly adore kissed my best friend Becka*. let me give you all a quick fill in- i like these two boys but they told me to choose,so one of them could ask me out watever.. I chose Bob* because Harry* liked Becka* too, so how am I going to go out with someone who likes another girl,and I got over Harry* and I really really started to like Bob* but about two weeks passed after i chose and I was like okay, why aren't you going to ask me out. and, then the day I got sick of waiting and was going to ask out Bob* he told me he likes Becka*.. and me both.. yeah DRAMA. Now, me and Becka ( my BEST friend ) aren't even like talking all that much like we do and hang out with everyone all the time together, but its so different, and so we we're hanging out at Harrys* house ( like everyone > our closest friends ) and I had to leave earlier than everyone 'cause of something, and my friend who was there, told me everything. and bob* had is arm around her and she was all over him, and he was like rubbing her leg,and then he kissed her on the cheek ( yeah I know, a kiss on the cheek not that big of a deal but it was major to me to hear all this.) I mean do it while im there not behind my back. I hate to see it,but they think I wont find out and it pisses me off, and he told me too just be more like flirty and outgoing like Becka* and he'd prob. like me more.. ahh-no not happening.. I mean -- okay let me stop another story coming.. I need advice badly, on how the boy you adore, is all over your "bff", and she is just the same back...and they dont give a f*** about my feeling, and how i cry. and they were all over eachother one night when we were all hanging out and i was crying and only one of my friends cared. i dont even think the rest noticed and they're were 6 people there. f**ked up I know.
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Okay, you're right this all is a bunch of drama. The best thing you can do is stay away from all this mess. Make new firends. You're young, don't concern yourself with all this nonsense. Go out and get a new hobby. Just enjoy being you; worry about boys and drama later. Live. Find a guy that likes you and only you and friends that will respect you. You deserve it. :)
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