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your really good at advice.and I really appreciated your help about my boyfriend. so I decided id ask you another question cause there's still a bit frusturatng me. like his neighbor I guess suposedly likes him.and he ditches me at lunch to walk to the store to eat with her.and he waits for her after school so they can walk home.what do I do? cause this of course is when my jealousy problem comes in.and we always get in fights because ill refer to her as his "girlfriend"and he gets mad cause im his girlfriend not her.and she startd coming to school like on monday. I know she isn't new cause I've seen her before like in middle school or something.well she's in my 1st and 4th period and she's always staring at me. what do I do about her? I don't want her coming between me and him. I like him waay too much! thanks in advance!
I hate to say this, but there isn't really anything you can do about her. The only thing you have control of is how you act, and there are no guarantees. 1. Know this-girls are always more interested in a guy that is taken, so you are going to be dealing with this kind of stuff for the rest of your dating life. 2. Remember-the only thing you can control is yourself. the more you try to control your boyfriend, the more you are going to push him away. 3. She is just as jealous of you as you are of her, which is why all of a sudden she is making a play for your guy.
Be a smart girl, then, and control the situation. There are two things you can do. You can be friendly to her or you can just completely ignore her. If you ignore her, don't do it rudely because then you will look like the jealous girlfriend. Be nice and polite to her, but when you are alone with your boyfriend pretend she doesn't exist. If he wants to talk about her then you know that he is playing games, too, because he is trying to make you jealous, and he's getting a kick from all of the attention. Another thing-you say that they are neighbors. Maybe they really are just good friends, and have been for a long time. How would you feel if you had been good friends with your neighbor for ten years, and then all of a sudden some girl he's been dating for a little while says you guys can't hang out anymore. You'd be like, "what up with this chick, and who the hell does she think she is?" If that is the case, you really can't blame her for looking at you funny. So---Tomorrow, say to your boyfriend, "you know what, I really shouldn't get mad about you hanging with her (even thought it sucks you ditched me at lunch) and it wasn't fair for me to try to get in the middle of your friendship," even if you don't mean it. See what happens if you try to be friendly. If she's rude, you know she's after your man. The beauty of it is, if she's rude, you know you're the one getting to her instead of the other way around.
Well, I'm 14/f and I just started going out with this AMAZING guy a couple days before Christmas. So we've only been going out for about 2 weeks or so. Already, I feel this strange connection to him that I haven't felt towards any other guy. I like him a lot...enough to call it love. So I love him, but I'm not IN love with him. Well it's weird, because no matter how much I want to see him again and just hear his voice, every once in a while I just find myself not answering his call or text just because. I mean, this doesn't happen all the time, but every now and then I'll just look at the caller Id and just not pick it up :/ Is this normal? I mean, I love him to death, but sometimes I just feel like some down time... does anyone else feel like this? Thanks!
Good for you! Believe it, or not, the fact that you are not sitting around waiting for him to call is going to make him want to be with you all the more. So many girls get into this mindset that they need to talk to their boyfriends all of the time, and they end up pushing him away. He is going to like the fact that you have your own life.
Can anyone tell me how to tell if a guy friend is a boyfriend or just a friend? Or...if he's neither or a little bit of both, what do you call that?
OK, there's this guy you really like and you're trying to figure out where your relationship stands. He is probably wondering the same thing. What kinds of things do you do? Do you hold hands, kiss? Is he flirting with other girls, besides you? I wouldn't consider a person my boyfriend unless we both specifically said so, because you cold be thinking things are more serious than he thinks they are, which can hurt you. If you think he really likes you, one day while talking ask him if he likes any other girls. If he says that he only likes you, tell him you only like him, and see what he says.
ok so my bf and I have been togethr since xmas eve. well he doesn't really treat me like a gf. like it seems like were just friends. we've only held hands like once.and he hugs me hello and goodbye. we haven't had our 1st kiss yet. (but im not rushing that). I tried talking to him about treating me like a girlfriend.and it didn't really do anything.he's always talking to other girls and it makes me jealous. so yes I also have a jealousy problem.and im pretty sure the last 2 days he went to lunch with this girl. that's his friend. but it makes me mad cause he nos it makes me mad! and he started actng really immature like goofy aftr we started going out.my mom said its probably cause he doesn't know how 2 act. well my question is what can I do to make him treat me more like a real girlfriend. and how can I get over my jealousy problem? thankyou in advance
Your mother is probably right that he doesn't know how to act. It seems like he is comfortable in his friendships with girls, so with you he is sticking to his comfort zone. You might have to be the one to show him the ropes through your actions. If you want to hold hands, you be the one to grab his-etc. It sounds like you have a mother who is cool-so invite him to your house or somewhere that there isn't a ton of other people. He might be a little shy about public affection. As far as the jealousy thing...Jealousy is good in one way because it is nice for hm to know that you like him so much you get jealous of other girls, but on the other hand, if you start fights with him about it, or forbid him to have other girls for friends he isn't going to want to be with you. Every time you see him with another girl think about how jealous they must be of you. They obviously think he's cool, and he picked you over all of them. Imagine the conversation they are having. He might be asking them for advice about you. You certainly don't want him saying to them, "My girlfriend is so jealous that I'm hanging out with you," because that will just give the other girl a pat on the back. If you really like this guy, don't make it a big deal when he is talking to other girls because that is the quickest way to get rid of him, and he's really not doing anything wrong. He really liked you, which is why he wanted to be your boyfriend, so now don't go and change everything. Be the same person you have always been. Have fun with him, and don't tell him all of the things he's doing wrong all of the time. Think of how you would feel if you just started dating a guy and he started telling you who you could and could not talk to, and then he started telling you that you weren't a very good girlfriend because you don't know how to act like a girlfriend. your head would be spinning. You would be like, "what happened to that fun guy I liked. Where did he go?" You don't want him to think, "wow, I wish I never asked her out because she changed."
i get acne around my chin/mouth area and i wonder if its from making out with my boyfriend because ive never really had it this bad until we started making out alot..
It could have to do with getting wet and drying again, like chapped lips, but chances are it is just a coincidence. You are growing up, and your hormones are changing.
Hi I am 16.f. My boyfriend and I have been together 9 months. He is my first true love, and everyone says 'youll never forget your first love' and everything, like our relationship will never last. But what if I TRULY think he is the only one I could ever be with. I know I am young, and of course I wouldn't get married now, and I have time to think about it but on one hand I can't imagine a future with anyone else, but on the other hand EVERYONE seems to think that just because I have never loved anyone else means I wont last long with him?? Is it possible that I just happened to find the perfect guy right off the bat? Has anyone had an experience like mine??
I think the thing that is really bothering you is you feel as if everyone is downplaying your relationship as if it doesn't really mean anything. Here you are, so in love, and everyone around you is like "big deal." Don't feel as if you have to justify your feelings. If you and your boyfriend love eachother, tomorrow doesn't matter, and neither does what anyone else thinks. I have to be honest-of all the couple's I know there is only one who are still together since high school, but they have a great relationship. The trick was, they didn't take on too much responsability early on. They didn't have kids until they were older, and they really got to know eachother.
Well I was talking to this girl for a school semester on and off. She's 14 and I'm 16. Everything was going great and we were closer then ever. But one day after being back together for about a week. She told me for I dunno the 5th time that she's scared to hurt me. So I told her how I felt about her " I know what I want and I I've found it in you" " that's how I know I won't hurt you". Then she said that she's trying really hard to find that something in me. After that i told her I haven't been completly myself around her I meant that I'm kinda more outgoing when I'm with my friends. And that I really like her and that I want to be with her and I asked her if she wanted to be with me. She told
Me that she doesn't want the same relationship that i want. So we ended it and i stopped talking to her. The next day at school she told me that she was sorry and what she really meant was that she doesn't want to lose me if she messes up. We talked later that night about figuring out what she wants she told me all the things she wants her bf to have out of about 10 things I had all but maybe 2. So what my question is is what do you think? Am I not good enough to meat her standards or does she really not want to lose me? She said she wants to be best friends but right now were more like aquantences (my choice). 1 more question tthis one is for girls what do you look for in a guy?
It sounds like she really wants to be your friend, but you can't do that because you want more. You can do two things. 1. You can decide that you like her personality and want to be her friend. 2. You can't hang out with her because it will be to hard to be around her without being her boyfriend. You told her how you feel, and there is nothing else you can do. The one thing you shouldn't do is pressure her into dating you, or make her feel bad. Women are fickle, and you may just find out that the more you get over her, the more she gets into you. If you do hang out with her, be that outgoing person you are around your other friends, treat her like a friend, and don't let on that you are still into her. If she approaches you and says that she wants to be with you, but not lose you if she messes up, tell her that sounds like code for she is looking into other guys and you're not into it. Don't bend over backwards, or give her this idea that you will be waiting for her, or that she can see other guys and still be with you. It sounds to me that she likes another guy, and is kind of holding on to you in the meantime while she figures out where this other thing goes.
There are two different answers to "what do girls look for in a guy" because girls look for one thing and go after another. All girls say that they want a guy who is cute, nice, etc, but what they really want is a guy that they can repect. If you are going to change your personality, or build your schedule around her, she is going to think you aren't worth it. If you think highly of yourself, and hang out with your friends, and have a life outside of your relationship, your girl may complain, but she won't go anywhere. We all have this weird desire to have what we can't really have. When you and this girl first met, she was probably muchdifferent, huh. When she was wondering if you liked her, she was in to you. Once she knew for sure, she set her sights on the next guy she wasn't sure she could have. Play her game back on her, and don't be so open with your feelings.
OK well I'm 16/f and I have a new boyfriend who I really like and both of us are really happy to be together. The problem is that we don't go to the same school so that really limits the frequency of us being able to see eachother. I wish I could see him more, but the fact is that I can't because there are certain things, like going to his house alone, that my parents are probably not exactly okay with. I haven't told them that we are dating, because I don't know how they will react. I'm not sure if that would make them more reluctant to letting us see eachother because they'll think something will happen between us, or if it will give me more freedom to date him. My parents are reasonable but still strict. The thing is that my boyfriend is really missing me and making it clear that he really wants to see me. I don't want him to be really upset that we can't see eachother more. I just need some advice on how to make this work in the long run, for both of us. Thank you :)
The other advice about the crowd date was good, but I wanted to bring up one more point. Your boyfriend misses you! This is a good thing. Some people get to see eachother all of the time and they don't even appreciate it. He appreciates every time he gets to see you. It is like you are a goddess, in a way, because he is probably thinking about you all of the time. Maybe not seeing him so much is the best thing for your relationship. Just let him know that you are missing him, too.
k so i have this reaaalllyyy good friend that used to have a gf and i had a bf so we didn't hang out that much then i broke up with my bf and started hanging out with him A LOT like almost 4 5 times per week. oh yea his gf lived in another town so they never see each toher ..anyway we became really close friends adn then she broke up with him so we started going out even more frecuently...one day we finally started kissing...then hooked up and we've been like that since almost 2 months ago and he broke up with her prolly 3 ago ...anyway ..so i once told him i didn't want us to make out anymore or go further because i really really liked him, ( meaning like if he is not looking for a relationship with me dont make out with me anymroe cause i was serious about him) and he was like we've been close friends since almost 3 years and you know i wouldnt do that to you (kiss me and all if he didn't like me ) i wouldnt be doing that to you i like you too. so that was okey..but its been a month and a half of that!!! thats like 2723 hang outs . and 2324 times making out.
and i get confused cause one day we make out and the next day we go to the movies or somethign and just hang out as friends!and kiss goodbye on the cheek..then the next day we hang out and we're making out and kisses me goodbye on the lips ..i mean like wtf is he thinkin??? i¿d prefer getting a guys opinion about this..cause he said he wouldnt hurt me or anything (like using me blabla ) and it just seems to me like he's doing it by treating me like we're dating one day and the next we're just friends then like we're dating blablabla ..like i dont know where we're standing. and i feel like i dont want to ask him cause thats what i mean when i told him i didnt wanted to hook up if this was meaningless to him i dont want to look like im rushing it to be in a relationship with me or somethign ...i was just wondering ...do you guys find this normal if you where dating someone?cause its like we're "dating " in an intermitent way i guess
thanks in advance
Guess what? You're a lucky girl. You are dating a guy who likes to hang out and talk with you as much as he likes kissing you. At least you know he's not only interested in one thing. You guys have been friends for a long time, and there's no reason to forget about that important part of your relationship because that is what will make it so strong. Most girls are complaining that their boyfriend only wants to mess around, and you are one of the lucky ones who has a guy who wants the complete package. He started liking you because of your friendship, and all of the stuff you talk about, and the kissing is a plus.
ever since me and two girls who i used to be close with got in a fight, ive been feeling very down about myself, very ugly and unwanted and almost like ive lost so much of myself. these two girls are part of a group of friends I once was part of, but once we werent friends anymore, I am no longer friends with that same group of friends. I have recently been sticking with another group of friends, even though I only like 3 or 4 people in it..I do have a few other friends in my school, but not a lot. I had a lot more last year, but now I never see those people anymore because I have new classes. The begining of the year I had at least 1 person to talk to in every class. now ever since I lost those two friends, I dont have any friends in two of my classes. and I feel like the biggest loser and social outkast. I absolutely cannot stand it. and no, i cant do anything about it. No matter how many times people tell me I can just make new friends in those classes, I really cant. and I know it doesnt seem like a huge deal, being 2 classes and all, but to me, it is a big deal. one of the classes being gym. I hate my gym class. And on top of that, i SUCK at sports. except swimming, which of course we dont do. and like ugh i just hate it. i litterally have nobody to talk to in there. im waiting for 3rd marking period, because 3 of my friends are switching into my period, but not in my class. but i guess thats better than nothing..and on top of all of this, over the weekend i had guy problems with this kid i met like a month ago, and we hung out at my friends house because he wantedme to come but hes an immature freshman and barely talked to me he flirted a little but then acted like he didnt like me and kept doing that. it was just hard. and then i went back to school and had a bad day..feeling like a loser..i know im not a loser. i know im not. but sometimes..i think i am..i have a decent amount of friends i guess..but i just cant deal with this anymore, im so overhwlmed. i also havent been doing my homework in weeks. i have Fs in two of my classes and probobly a D in another. i have 3 essays i never did and a lot of homework i have to makeup, by TOMORROW. i, am in so much stress. its tearing me apart. with school, and feeling like a friendless loser, with this guy who doesnt like me anymore but told me he did and wanted to do stuff with me on saturday but it never happened, with my grades going down the drain. i just want to sit and cry. ive been running away from everything. ive missed 3 days of that gym class, pretending to be sick, just do i could avoid going and feeling lonely and embaressed. i hate this. i almost want to say i hate my life right now. i dont even know what im doing for the summer. i have no clue. all of my friends are already doing things. my mom says i cant sign up for driving school until i get my grades up. i. want. to. go. cry.
i also hate the fact. that i have ZERO self confidence. i have so many insecurities with myself, i dont know what to do anymore. i walk through the halls feeling like a complete ugly loser. but i know im not ugly..and i know im not weird..because im not. but the people around me make me feel so intimidated. i told my friend about that guy thing over the weekend and she said she was going to the mall to meet up with her boyfriend and his friend and she invited me to come to meet that guy thats gonna be there and i just didnt know what to say. i said id come but honestly, im the worst at meeting people and knowing what to say. especially with guys i feel like..i hate this. i honestly can say i hate myself. i dont like ANYTHING about myself. some people think im funny, i dont think i am most of the time. im not that pretty. i mean im not ugly, but people around me make me feel that way. i think im nice but i dont know. i just hate this. i hate this so much. i hate myself. i used to be normal when i had so many friends the begining of the year. now i only have a few friends and a broken heart from this immature freshman and terrible grades and i honestly just want out. i dont want this anymore. but im too upset and broken down to do my homework. or fix anything. i cant pretend anymore. ive finally cracked. i just wish i could like myself and feel confident. i hate myself and everything about me ive never really liked my self, i remember that. at my sleepaway camp last summer our bunk went around in a circle and we had to say one thing we liked about ourself and one thing we didnt like about ourself. when it got to me i said i hated the fact that i got upset by a lot of things, but i said i didnt like anything about me. everyone else said there had to be something i liked and i said nope. nothin. and then this past summer we did the same thing, when it got to my turn, i said the same things. because its true. how can i just stop this. i think i need professional help
It is like a snowball getting bigger and biger as it rolls downhill. You have so many things on your mind right now, you can't focus on any one of them, and even if something good does happen, you have the rouble of your grades to worry about.
First thing you need to concentrate on is doing the homework you have now, I know there is a bunch of stuff to make up, but it won't do you any good if you have to make up new stuff because your so busy making up old stuff. Worse case scenario is that you start next semester fresh. Also, a late paper with half the effort is better than nothing. Once you start making progress, you will be amazed at how much you feel better. Tonight, do your assigned stuff, and finish one make-up. You might want to also talk to your teachers and lret them know you do not want to fail-what can you do.
I know you feel as though the homework is the least of your problems, but when you get behind it can tend to focus all of your energy. Sometimes, in order to avoid things we don't want to think about, we make up other things to occupy our mind.
A lot of your problems are a normal part of growing. You have hormones doing all kinds of mixing and jumping around. Whenever you start feeling like you are not normal, or ugly, or any negative, try to remember that your hormones are controlling a lot of your feelings, and there is nothing you can do but ride it out. As far as professional help, it always helps to have someone to talk to, but don't expect any miracles. Most women(even the cocky popular girls who can put on a good show) don't really come to appreciate themselves until they are a little older and wiser(say 30). The rest of the time they are faking it.
I can tell you one thing that is good about you. You are deeply committed to your friends. The upside is that you are a good person, but the downside is you get hurt when there are problems. You had a good groove going with your old friendships, and now your whole life seems different and lonely. Maybe it is time to try to make up with these girls if they are not total b#$%$%.
I hope things work out good for you, and I'm sorry that there are no magic answers to your problems, but if you list all of your problems, then go over the list and cross out the ones you can't do anything about it may help you to start taking care of the things you have control over.
Don't give up! Believe it, or not, one day you are going to look back on these years and remember them as the best of your life. When you get a little older things will be so different. Think of it like a learning experience that will only make you a stronger woman.
I know a lot of girls think that their vaginas smell kinda funky but I actually heard that guys like the smell and taste. Also, i always have like white kinda chunky stuff on the sides of my vagina where the labina minoras are(i think) and it smells really bad. any idea what that is? it doesnt hurt or itch or anything. any comments/advice is appreciated. thanks
There are two different kinds of very bad smell. There's the kind that is not really so bad, but horrifying because it is coming from you-and then there is the rotten meat kind of very bad smell. If it is the latter, it could be some sort of infection.
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erm i realy need some adice , erm theres this lad ive been meetin up with for 6months and i realy like him he nos how much i want him but i think he just using me for sex, i met a realy nice lad recently he likes me i like him but i ant stop thinkin about the other lad i love...i lost my v to him aswell so it makes it harder he cares about me but i dnt want to get wit this lad just incase the lad i want , just need time i done want to do the wrong thing i stopped everything just to try to get him ive asked him out he dont say he dont like me he just says i done like realships, ever since ive been meetin him i did get around well givin few lads head all the time coz i felt like i was wanted if that makes sence.. but coz of him he made me stop ! anyways , do i let go and move on and see how it goes with this lad or what ?
You should appreciate that the guy you like is honest with you, because he could be the type thatled you on. You should return the favor to this new guy. Tell him that you are flattered, and you like him, but you're still kind of hung up on guy #1. Guy #2 may decide you're worth the effort and prove himself to you. If guy #1 says he isn't into relationships, he won't have a problem with you dating someone else. Who knows, once you start talking to other guys he may decide he wants a relationship, after all. PS-Don't have any kind of sex with guy #2 until you are sure you want to be with him.
so i have this friend 'jane'
&&her mom does && does && does for her.
she does everythinq she says.
i mean i quess you could call her mom a sort of 'push over?'
then my friend [13years old) starts screaminq && pouts.
im like wtf dude?
i tell her to chill out ; butt she acts like thats okay for a thirteen year old qirl to do.
its almost like when you see a qirl in a movie yell at her mom.
she trys that butt she looks ridiculous.
what do i tell her so she can stop makinq a complete fool of her ; her mom ; && me in public?
You can't do anything about the way your friend treats her mother, but I'm wondering if maybe you are so aggrivated by it because that's the way she acts with you, too. Do things always have to be her way? Is she a demanding friend? Do you feel as if she gives a crap about what you want. If she is a good friend to you, don't worry.
well I have a bf.he askd me out on xmas eve. I liked him sooo much. nd even before he askd me out and I still do.well he has A LOT of friends that are girls. and I get super jealous when he talks to them or something. I talked to him sorta about it over texting.and he says he understands the "I don't want to be hurt" but he said not to worry cause he isn't going to break up with me and for me not to be jealous.well my question is how can I get over my jealousy? cause it always leads to us arguing I don't want us to break up. please don't say "just don't think about it.just trust him" cuz we do trust eachother we went over that.and I trust him just not the other girls.and if you gona say "talk to him" I have a couple times. so if your gona say that then at least give me some pointers on what to say! please and thankyou in advance!!!
Think of it as a compliment. The girls are obviously talking to him because they think he's a good guy, and they know he's your guy. Every time you see him talking to another girl know that they are the ones who should be jealous of you. He wants you to be his girlfriend, not them.
Hi ive been having this brown discharged an i havent ever had my period and now theres a little bit of blood is this the start of my period? And im not sexually active
by the way im 13!
Thx in advance
I think it is probably the start of your period. In the beginning, it can come for a few days, then go away for a few months. Don't be embarrassed! Every woman gets her period. Check in the bathroom to see if there are any pads, and if there are none you might want to make a trip to the store. You would be surprised-nobody will have any idea you have a pad on. The ones with wings protect your underwear the best.
i think im dependant on my boyfriend. and i think its driving a wedge between us.
last time we dated, i think i drove him away, even though he swears i didnt. he wouldnt call for a day or two and id freak out and start bawling all the time and get these nervous pains in my stomach and i couldnt eat or sleep.
i mean, last time i saw him or talked to him was 2 days ago, and im already a wreck. im afraid hes already losing interest in me and i CANT lose him again. maybe someone whose already been married for a few years will understand. because when i love someone, i love DEEP.
i cant call him or just show up at his house because i dont do that. its against my philosophy. i forced myself to think that if a boy doesnt call me, he doesnt wanna talk to me. and if he doesnt wanna talk to me, then i shouldnt call. at all.
and since i think like that, if my boyfriend doesnt call me, i think he doesnt wanna talk to me. ive thought like this for years and i cant just change it.
i mean, maybe im just being paranoid, but how do i talk to him about this without scaring him shitless or driving him away even more? i cant lose him again. i wanna fix this for us.
someone PLEASE tell me what i should do! im desperate!
thank you to anyone who actually answers without calling me a psycho. O:)
Here is the best advice I can give you about dating--Try to look at things from the other person's point of view. Think about the things you say to him, and wonder how you would take it if it was him saying it to you.
Remember that love is supposed to be nice, especially when you're in deep. Things can be as good as you want them to be, so enjoy things. You may not be the most confident person, but that doesn't mean you can't fake it til you make it. Force yourself to do other things besides waiting around for the phone to ring. He will realize that you are independent, and you will seem all the sexier.
One more little thing...Usually guys will call more than once every couple of days when you are in a relationship. I don't know your boyfriend, but I would say he is avoiding you for one of three reasons...
1. He's getting a kick out of all of the attention you give him when he is playing hard to get.
2. Every time he calls, you nag at him and argue, so he doesn't want to talk to you because he knows it is going to be a pain.
3. He is wondering why he is always having to chase you and call you.
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i work at mcdonalds (have been for ages..my coworkers are my best friends), and i like my manager.. i am 16 and a half and he just turned 20 which is okay, and hes not store manager or anything.. he always makes fun of me as a joke because im really clumsy and trip over alot, and he tells people i laugh alot and get embarrased easily. we were messaging each other last week and he asked me what qualities i liked in a guy and i told him, and then he replied saying "It sounds like youre trying to drop a hint..I can get fired for fraternising with crew" and i replied saying "Ha dont flatter yourself :)" and then he replied saying "I never do, but is it just coincidence that i loosely fit what you just described?" and i said: "I guess it is a coincidence because i dont know much about you" then he said "Well i say that rules are there to be broken, you just cant get caught" and i said "Yeah true"
does that mean that he rejected me in a nice way..?
at work he acts the same as before but he always puts me on the position i like to do most and he kept looking at me and staring.
i texted him on new years saying "best wishes for 2009" but he didnt reply, and he didnt reply to the message i sent asking him how long he will be staying as manager for.
does he like me ?
thanks
In the begining, all secret relationships are great. It is exciting stealing looks and trying to pretend there is nothing going on.
The fun doesn't always last so long, though. I'm not saying that this will happen to you, but there are other things to consider.
1. How are you going to feel if you see another coworker flirting with him? You won't be able to say, "Hey, back off...That's my man!"
2. What if things go bad? You like this job and your coworkers, so would you be willing to give it up if things don't work out?
3. How are your friends going to feel? Is it going to piss them off if he is constantly favoring you?
4. What will he do if the secret gets out? Deny everything? Make you out to be some desperate school girl?
He is 20-which is a lot more mature than you. It will be hard to keep him from playing games with your head.
1 where is the original book "the diary of anne frank"?
2 if anne franks father published it does that mean that he didnt die before her? where was he?
3 how come her nationality was german but she was jewish, sorry im new to this i dont get stuff..
I THOUGHT GERMANS HATED JEWS. SORRY if i offend anyone im just interested in learning these stuff
thanks.
Anne's and her family were discovered in the attic and taken right to a concentration camp. She left her diary behind. When they went to the concentration camp, the men went one way and the women were taken another. Remember, at this time most of the men had jobs while the women stayed home to take care of the children. This meant that some of the men who were taken into the camps had some skill that could help the Germans. Anne's father may have worked. Either way, he survived the camp, while the women, including Anne, did not. When he was released, the lady who owned the home where the hideout was, gave him the diary. It must have been heartbreaking for him to read it.
Also, Anne can be a Jew and a German in just the same way that you can be a Catholic or a Jew and an American. Anne lived in Germany and practicd the Jewish religion.
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OK so I have been with my BF now (we're gay) for 2 years nearly and we live together in Sydney, Australia. I emmigrated from London in 2002 and since then I have not been back to see friends or family. This year (in June) I am desperate to go back for 3-4 weeks as a reunion and also to meet my cousin who I have never met.
The problem is I want to do this trip on my own for these reasons:
1) I will be staying with family/friends and it wont be possible for us both to stay (not many old people are really happy about 2 guys sharing a bed etc)
2) I am short on funds, in that I can really only afford the flight, some spending money, but I certainly couldnt afford to stay in hotels for 3-4 weeks.
3) I will be going round to friends i havent seen, some in 10 years or more, and we will be discussing things/people/teachers/events that he would have no idea about - it would be v boring for him.
4) As its my 1st trip back in 7 years, i kinda wanna be selfish - i dont wanna be constantly worrying about what he also might want to do. The time is limited and it probably wont happen for a long time and so I really just want to do what I want to do.
5) We tend to argue a lot during normal day to day life - travelling overseas with someone can be stressful and I dont wanna have to deal with arguments with someone constantly while on holiday.
The thing is that he REALLY really wants to go... he said he wants to see my heritage, the people/places i grew up with etc etc. He said that we could stay in hotels but first of all I WANT to stay with my family and also i dont really think he has the money to cover all of that, even though he said he does. This has caused massive fights and neither one of us are able to back down.
I think the main reason he wants to go is that he is quite insecure and couldnt handle not knowing where i was or who i was with or what i was doing. Also there is a bit of envy involved maybe.
Does anyone have any advice on how I could handle this situation?
1. You have given him undivided attention for an awful long time now, and the point of this trip is to spen some time with your family, not introduce him around. The only thing that you can do is to recognize that he has a right to feel a little jealous, but draw the line and enjoy your time. He is being selfish in feeling as if this trip is about him getting to know your heritage, etc. It is about you reconnecting with your family. If he really wants to go and learn about your life, you can do that together at some other point when it isn't about you and your family. Many people want to have their parter all to themselves, and he has enjoyed the luxury for a long time now. Do not feel guilty, or allow him to call five hundred times a day while you are visiting your family. These are memories that you will treasure for the rest of your life, and your boyfriend should be excited for you.
so i'm 18 years old, female!
so around guys, i'm usually funny yet sarcastic. i think i'm pretty and i know other guys think i'm pretty because when i'm with them they always stare at me and touch me which gives me confidence but i think i get too cocky. i've never had an actual boyfriend, call me a tease? maybe. still a virgin, and when guys hear i've never had a boyfriend and am still a virgin, they're always like yeah right! get out of here, i think its funny though. i think that around guys i say stupid things that pushes them away. like this boy i like right now, i'm trying to keep his attention but i tend to try and make him jealous by saying like "oh so and so is texting me ;)" and he will be like, sweet? and then he makes me feel stupid. how can i be confident but not cocky, and not come off as somewhat of a bitch and like i dont care about others. i tell the truth, and most people think i'm a bitch because of it. they're always like "oh my god, thats so mean" and it makes me feel stupid. and i just say, well its the truth? or someone will be talking about a guy and i'll be like, ew not for me. for instance last weekend i was with my guy cousin and a friend. this guy texted me asking what i was doing that night and i was talking out loud and was like oh josh wants to know what i'm doing? well obviously not hanging out with him, ha. and my cousin is like maybe you could actually get a boyfriend if you were nicer! it just comes out of my mouth. i'm really a sweet girl, but i have high standards. i'm nice to people i'm still not attracted to though, but when they flirt with me i back off because i'm not into them. i hope i don't lead guys on. how can i actually keep a guy without pushing them away? does it even help to make a guy jealous, or does it really push them away? how can i get a guys attention without them just using me for my looks. i feel like guys just want to get with me because they think i'm pretty, which does suck. i don't do anything with guys though. this does give me problems and major trust issues because i'm afraid to let any guy in because i feel like they only want me for one thing, and that they're just trying to use me and if they tell me thats not true, i still cant believe them which makes them mad.
You don't have to try to make any guy jealous. If other guys are checking you out, he is going to notice, too. If so and so is texting you, be honest, but don't make up stories. There is nothing wrong with being confident, and even cocky as long as you don't hurt anyone else's feelings. When you dump on another person to advance your own status it will backfire and make you look bad. Also, I hate to say it, but how can you worry about some guy only liking you for your looks? It seems as if looks are pretty important to you, too. You can't expect any person to look any deeper into you than you are willing to look into them.