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your really good at advice.and I really appreciated your help about my boyfriend. so I decided id ask you another question cause there's still a bit frusturatng me. like his neighbor I guess suposedly likes him.and he ditches me at lunch to walk to the store to eat with her.and he waits for her after school so they can walk home.what do I do? cause this of course is when my jealousy problem comes in.and we always get in fights because ill refer to her as his "girlfriend"and he gets mad cause im his girlfriend not her.and she startd coming to school like on monday. I know she isn't new cause I've seen her before like in middle school or something.well she's in my 1st and 4th period and she's always staring at me. what do I do about her? I don't want her coming between me and him. I like him waay too much! thanks in advance!
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I hate to say this, but there isn't really anything you can do about her. The only thing you have control of is how you act, and there are no guarantees. 1. Know this-girls are always more interested in a guy that is taken, so you are going to be dealing with this kind of stuff for the rest of your dating life. 2. Remember-the only thing you can control is yourself. the more you try to control your boyfriend, the more you are going to push him away. 3. She is just as jealous of you as you are of her, which is why all of a sudden she is making a play for your guy.
Be a smart girl, then, and control the situation. There are two things you can do. You can be friendly to her or you can just completely ignore her. If you ignore her, don't do it rudely because then you will look like the jealous girlfriend. Be nice and polite to her, but when you are alone with your boyfriend pretend she doesn't exist. If he wants to talk about her then you know that he is playing games, too, because he is trying to make you jealous, and he's getting a kick from all of the attention. Another thing-you say that they are neighbors. Maybe they really are just good friends, and have been for a long time. How would you feel if you had been good friends with your neighbor for ten years, and then all of a sudden some girl he's been dating for a little while says you guys can't hang out anymore. You'd be like, "what up with this chick, and who the hell does she think she is?" If that is the case, you really can't blame her for looking at you funny. So---Tomorrow, say to your boyfriend, "you know what, I really shouldn't get mad about you hanging with her (even thought it sucks you ditched me at lunch) and it wasn't fair for me to try to get in the middle of your friendship," even if you don't mean it. See what happens if you try to be friendly. If she's rude, you know she's after your man. The beauty of it is, if she's rude, you know you're the one getting to her instead of the other way around.
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