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First off that's my special man friend with me way back from high school, and been dating now for almost four years now. Yeah he's pretty spectacular, and I love him to pieces, and that's all I have to say about that. I'm a full time college student and working on my gen ed, but I would like to get my bachelor's in gerontology and eventually get my nursing license. In fact I work at a nursing home now as a CNA and I love it so much. Anyways ask questions if you want. I'll try to help you out anyway I can. I love helping people after all. :)

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What are some of your favorite movies? I would like a bunch. The genre doesn't matter, just tell me your favorites!! Please tell me good christmas ones too pleasee!!!

-The Christmas Story
-Borat
-Team America
-Idiocracy
-August Rush
-Shallow Hal
-Miracle on 34th Street
-Sweeney Todd
-Sleepy Hallow
-Wizard of Oz
-Little Miss Sunshine
-Juno

Lol loads more but that's enough...
A few Christmas ones for ya.

Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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What is your favorite quote?

"When the power of love overcomes the love of power, the world will know peace." - Jimi Hendrix

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i was just wondering, how long does it usually take before couples talk about sex? do they even talk about sex? cause i've been dating a guy for almost 4 months...hes such a great guy...the farthest we've gone is making out...but we havent had a "sex talk" yet...and how do you bring it up? i don't really feel comfortable talking about it but i like him so much and i feel so comfortable doing anything but that talk with him....any advice?

I would say do it in a setting you are comfortable in. There is nothing wrong with just talking about it. If he likes you, he'll be ok with it. But as I was saying, I wouldn't talk about it over the phone. It's better to talk about these things in person. Maybe hanging out at his or your house watching a movie ALONE. Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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19f
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6mo. I love him with all my heart and we've talked time and time again about how we want to stay together for a good long while/forever. When we first started dating, we began messing around(sex). A couple months ago we decided to renew our faith and decided that we would no longer have sex. Problem is, it seems like we slip up ALL THE TIME! We both want to stop, bc we both feel that itll be best for us to wait til marriage, but everytime one of us will think about it, then we both get caught up and end up doin it again. Have you or anyone else been through this? If so, how did you stop? We've tryed saying we'd direct it into another way such as working out, but that doesnt seem to be too successful. Any ideas or suggestions on how to handle this? Thank you for your help!

Go out and do something fun. Like go see a movie or shoot pool or something. I know it sounds silly but if your actually out doing something, your a lot less apt to just have sex. Just get to know each other more and experience more things together. It will also make your relationship stronger. Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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this is weird.
but i like the smell of my morning breath haha.
is that weird? does anyone know why?
i also like the taste of it.
but not anyone else's. gross.
hah?

That's really gross. Hopefully you brush your teeth before you go out in public. That's a really random question and this site is ment for more noral questions... Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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what are some good things to say when you want to like talk dirty to someone? i just thought itd bring some spice to me and my boyfriends relationship haha.

thanks!

Don't brush your teeth for awhile and then just say whatever. It really works. =) Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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ok, my boyfriend gets an erection just about everytime we make out, is it normal for that to happen every time? thanks

Yes it's normal. It means he likes you so don't worry about. I would be worried if he didn't get that way because then he might be gay. Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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Okay, you know those huge jumbo remotes that they sell?
If I get one, will it work for all tv types? I have a Samsung television.

Is there a certain kind I should get?

Thanks!

It should say whether or not you can on the back of the box. It will say universal remote. Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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My boyfriend and I had sex for the first time and I was in a lot of pain.. I expected losing my virginity to hurt but, this pain was incredible. He could get his dick in to a certain extent but once it was at a certain point, I want to say his dick was about 3/4 in, he'd try to go further and the pain was excruciating. I don't know what is wrong.. What is my problem? What is holding back from him going further? (I already popped my cherry at an earlier date.) Is it as far as he can go and I am just trying to push it further? I really don't think it's as far as he can go. I am really confused. The pain was so bad, I would literally push him off of me cause he'd go too deep. Will it get better? I am so lost..

It is normal. You have nothing to worry about. And yes it will get better. The more you do it, the more your vagina will get used to it. Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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I just saw the movie Juno for the first time. Juno is a 2007 movie about a 16 year old teen girl, Juno MacGuff, who gets pregnant by her best guy friend, Paulie Bleeker. Juno is played by Ellen Page (also played in X-Men the Last Stand as Kitty Pryde) and Paulie Bleeker is played by Michael Cera (also played in Nick and Norah's Infinite Playlist as Nick, Superbad as Evan, and on Arrested Development as George-Michael Bluth).

Anyway, the movie has a lot of slang in it, like:

Rollo: "That ain't no Etch A Sketch. This is one doodle that can't be undid, Homeskillet."

Juno: "This is not a food baby all right? I've taken like three pregnancy tests, and I'm forshizz up the spout."

I know most of the slang so I wasn't very confused except a few parts when Juno says, "Pork Swords." What is pork swords? Is it a really gross food or something because she keeps calling guys (like the Dancing Elk Track Team) this name.

I just didn't get it, I guess, and I've never heard anyone else but Juno call people this name. What is a Pork Sword or what are Pork Swords (whichever one is right)? I don't want to look stupid in front of my best friends if they say it like Juno did!

Can anyone help me understand?
THANKS!

A porksword is a man's penis. Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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Hey, I'm 15 and I'm a girl. I have not had sex yet.

This is like.. embarrassing..

So, when I shave down there.. afterward it always looks irritated. There are like little red bumps, and sometimes they hurt. Sometimes though when I shave, like I don't even know what happens, it starts like bleeding little red dots. I even have scars.. Is there something wrong? Like, I want it to stop, haha. It's embarrassing, there's always like little red scabs and if I shave over them they start to bleed and it just makes my vagina look disgusting. This only happens on the surface of my vagina and a little like around it on my thighs almost. It doesn't happen underneath though? Has this ever happened to anyone else? Is there something wrong, or someway I can stop it? Thank you so much, and sorry if this is long.

Instead of shaving down there use clippers. They have ones that are ment to just trim in places. The cuts are razor burn. If you really want to shave then I suggest using shaving cream and shaving the opposite direction your hair grows in. Be more careful next time and good luck. Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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My boyfriend's cat goes outside, and I guess she caught fleas. While I was there over the weekend Im pretty sure I brought them home. Ive been itchy for the past couple days and its driving me insane. Theyre more than likely in my house now too. What do I do to get rid of them on me, my pets, and in my house? Is there anyway without a bomb?

Wash your hair with dawn dish soap and get flea killer for your carpets and no more fleas.

Hope I helped,

xoxo,
dottie4

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I lovee The Kooks and Arctic Monkeys. Does anyone know other bands that are silimar to them? Thanks! :)

There is a lot of really good music out there. I love The Thermals, The Kings of Leon, Fiest, Grandpaboy, Lucero.

I would try thelastfm.com

They have a lot of really cool music on there.
Just type in the name of your favorite band and they'll give you bands just like them.

Hope I helped,

xoxo,
dottie4

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i hate stretch marks. i have them on my waist and on my boobs. there so ugly and the ones on my waist are VERY noticeable! how can i get rid of them?

Cocoa butter can help a lot. It also helps with scars. It will take a while so don't expect results over night. It can take up to a few weeks to see any results at all. If that doesn't seem to help, you could see a doctor. They can give you a perscription to heal it up faster. Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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i really like my new boyfriend but when i asked my friend to hang out with us he was really mean to them. he's nice to my pther friends so i don't know why he wasn't nice to these friends. they've been my friends for a long time, but my boyfriend makes me very happy. they both told me they hate each other. i think sooner or later they're gonna make me pick sides. so who's more important? my friends or my boyfriend?

Only you can make that decision. However if it was me it would all kind of depend. How long have you been friends with them for? Or, How long have you dated him for? Maybe your friends have said ignorant things in the past or maybe your boyfriend is mean to other people behind your back. I really think you should talk to your boyfriend about the situation. If he offers a good reason then take it if not then he's not worth it. But there not really your true friends if there going to make you choose, same with your boyfriend. Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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i've been dating this guy for a month and hes absolutely amazing and i know he really cares about me. the thing is that he doesnt go to my school and i only get to see him like 2 or 3 times a week. i constantly want to be with him all of the time and when im not i get upset...is this normal? i havent told him that i love him yet because i think a month is too early but i think i seriously do because i always wanna be with him...what does this mean? is it normal? is it bad? any advice?

Yes it's normal. You have nothing to worry about. Especially since he doesn't go to the same school as you, of course you'd want to see him more often. And it's cool you haven't told him you loved him. You really need to go out with him for a little longer before you tell him something like that. This means your normal and you really care about your boyfriend. Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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Ok, here gos.
My Bestfriend "Jess" go dumped by her boyfriend "Frank"... for his Ex girlfriend... like a month ago or something.

"Jess" still really likes him. She talks about him all the time!

When they were going out, he was tellin me things like: "I really like you!" and "If I wasnt going out with 'jess' I'd totally go out with you."

I didn't even like him then...
But I really like him now!

But i know if i go out with him, "Jes" will get really angry.

what to do?

P.S: Sorry this is so long!

I've went out with a few of my friends exes. It's not really that big of a deal. I think that after two people break up, it's fair game to go after what you want. I don't really understand why some people things it's a big deal to date your friends exes... If it's really bothering you, tell your friends the feeling you have for her old boyfriend. The only reason most people are hurt is that you may not tell them about it. Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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okayy so im 15 and a female.. well i know for a fact, 100 percent that i want to wait until marriage before i have sex and i know that in the future guys will respect you more if yoou werent out and about being a little whore..but right now i feel like i cant get a boyfriend.. at all bc im just not like that idk im not ugly and im not shy but it feels likee every guyy just wants to have sex like all the time or something. idk what to do..is this just how they r at this age??

Yeah sorry to say but a lot of them are like that at your age, but not all of them are. I deffinetly respect your choice. You sound like a very together girl who highly respects herself to not just let any guy do it to her. There is so many teen mothers out there, including some of my friends. I promise you will find the right guy. Just don't be in a hurry and let it him come to you. If you go chasing a guy or are in a hurry to get into a relationship I can almost gurantee you it won't work out. But I have a lot of respect for you so keep up the good work.

xoxo,
dottie4

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14/M. I have dandruff. Any tips to get rid of it? All advice is appreciated.

Yeah i have the same problem. I use this stuff called Selsum Blue. It actually helps a lot. A lot of the time dandruff could be from not getting the soap all out of your hair though. That's always the case for me because usually I don't have the time to but if you do make sure it's well worth it. Also make sure your hair is dry. If it's not you could also get dandruff that way.

xoxo,
dottie4

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I have oily skin. VERY oily skin. I'm looking for a makeup that works. Stays on. Controls shine. Doesn't turn orange. Doesn't cake up. Doesn't gather around pores. Lasts more than 30 minutes.
I can honestly say that my all time favourite is CoverGirl clean Oil Control... but it appears they've stopped selling it in Canada?
If you've trie that one, anything similar? Or, anything really worth it?
Anyone tried Vichy Normateint?

No but I use foundation called Neutrogena Blemish control/ Oil control. If oily skin is your only problem they also sell oil wipes where all you have to do is take it and wipe it on your face and it will remove all the oil. Just be sure to clean your face at least twice a day. Anything by Neutrogena is good to use.

xoxo,
dottie4

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