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My boyfriend and I had sex for the first time and I was in a lot of pain..
My boyfriend and I had sex for the first time and I was in a lot of pain.. I expected losing my virginity to hurt but, this pain was incredible. He could get his dick in to a certain extent but once it was at a certain point, I want to say his dick was about 3/4 in, he'd try to go further and the pain was excruciating. I don't know what is wrong.. What is my problem? What is holding back from him going further? (I already popped my cherry at an earlier date.) Is it as far as he can go and I am just trying to push it further? I really don't think it's as far as he can go. I am really confused. The pain was so bad, I would literally push him off of me cause he'd go too deep. Will it get better? I am so lost..
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It is normal. You have nothing to worry about. And yes it will get better. The more you do it, the more your vagina will get used to it. Hope I helped.
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Pain during sex can be caused by a lot of things. If you are not relaxed enough or there isn't enough lubercation in the vagina or on the penis, pain can happen during insertion. This can be remedied by using a waterbased lubercant or more foreplay before penetration.
However, painful sex can also be caused by other conditions such as: (1) vaginal infections (like yeast infections); (2) pelvic inflammatory disease (PID) where the tissues deep inside become badly inflamed and the pressure of intercourse causes deep pain; (3) problems with your uterus (maybe fibroids and/or Endometriosis) which can cause deep intercourse pain; (4) problems with your ovaries (maybe due to cysts on the ovaries); (5) problems with cervix which can cause pain with deep penetration; and (6) an Ectopic pregnancy where a fertilized egg develops outside of the uterus.
If lubercation and more foreplay don't immediately solve the problem, please consult your OB/GYN or health care professional so you can find out if there is a medical reason for your pain and get proper treatment.
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You may still have some of your hymen left, despite saying you "popped your cherry" at an earlier time. Also, you may not have been aroused enough to have sex. If you were tense, that may also have contributed to the pain. Taking some deep, relaxing breaths should help. Also, make sure your boyfriend understands to go slow and gently so he doesn't hurt you too much. If he's just trying to ram it in there, you're going to be in pain.
Also, try lubricant. Have your boyfriend put some lubricant on his condom before entering. That may ease entry. You can buy it at any drugstore where the condoms are.
Finally, it can take a little time to get comfortable with sex. It's new and your body will take time to get used to it.
Next time you start, have your boyfriend begin by giving you a relaxing massage, and make sure you're feeling aroused before he goes in. Let him know what you need. It will likely still be uncomfortable this next time as well, but hopefully these things will make it less painful.
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