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Q: I can't seem to figure out whether i love my best friend as more than just a friend or as a bother and also vice versa i don't no whether he thinks of me more or just as his little sister. We spend nearly every day with each other and look out for each other no matter what. But recently we've started swimming and his attitude towards me changed. He has always hugged and kissed me but the other day he was doing it in the pool but it seemed lyk in a more flirty way. I can't seem to figure out whether he wants something more and whether i like him or not. He started liking my best friend for a while but even at that it was over and done with very quickly and i think i was a bit jealous. I don't no whether i was jealous of him and hers relationship or whether i was jealous that he'd spend more time with her than me. I'm so confused . Any advice would be greatly appreciated x

Even if you just care for him as a friend it is normal for you to be jealous when he begins spending time with another girl. He is YOUR best friend and you would feel like someone is trying to take him away. As for figuring out if you like him or not, I think you should ask him how he feels about you. You seem like you do kinda like him in that way and it seems like he is flirty and things so ask him about it. Let him know you may be interested in moving to the next level, but don't do anything you are uncomfortable with. Good Luck.

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Q: 16.m

i had a gf that lasted over one year. she said she just didn't want a bf anymore so i was cool with it. i also asked her, if there was another guy. she swore there wasn't.

i kid you not, 2 weeks later,she kissed my best friend, and told another one of my friends she liked them. both like her back.

i have no idea what to do with myself. i want to stop talking to her, because i hate her SO MUCH.

yet, everynight i still call her out of habbit and we talk like nothings wrong, i mean, it's almost like we're going back out, kinda talk.

but then the next day always come and i find out she's hanging out with 1 of 2, or BOTH of my best friends and is cuddling with them, and carrying on. and she still has the nerve to tell me she loves me, and cares about me.

i'm so frustrated, so mentally drained, so stressed it's ridiculous.

i know things will get better in time, but right now, everything just sucks.

Just because she is interested in other guys doesn't mean that she still doesn't care about you. She is comfortable with you and feels close to you which is why you both still talk to one another and say I love you. You dated for almost a year so you can't just expect to drop her, it is very hard to get over someone and live without them after that long. Even if you do move on you still miss their company and talking to them.

My ex and I dated for 3 years then broke-up and to this day we are still good friends. Being friends helps alot because neither of us have to give up that connection an relationship we had. Yes, its different but at least we can still talk and that makes everything alot easier. I think you should talk to your ex and let her know that you are uncomfortable with the whole situation. Tell her that you think you should kind of grow apart while she is talking to these guys. Unless you feel like you want to continue the relationship it would probably be easier to let go for a while.

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Q: well i like this guy and i have reason to believe that he likes me to. but its weird because when i am around him and my friends are there its like he feels a little out of place because he doesn't know them that well. but then when i am just with him we have so much to say. i mean its just so easy to talk to him. i want to get to know him better but if we are alone together it seems like a date or something which is weird because dates kind of freak me out. we hung out today with a group of friends but it was just better when i could sit down next to him and just talk. what should i do to get to know him better? thanx

A date would probably be your best bet, because that will be the best and easiest way to get him alone. It is very normal for guys to be awkward around their crushes friends, because they feel like the girls are judging them kind of. Maybe when you go out on these group dates just kind of pull him away and talk to him. Or call him, txt him, whatever makes is easiet for you two to get to know one another in a comfortable environment.

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Q: say someone was pregnant and they were going to get an abortion.. should you tell the babies father?.. you were never going out with him but he lead you on and you got pregnant and now he had a girlfriend and its not you... should you still tell him your pregnant or just leave it alone so you wont cause drama..?

That is really up to you. It is your decision to get an abortion and its your choice whether you tell him or not. I probably wouldn't tell him, because if he wasn't going to be involved anyway then it really isn't any of his business, but thats just my opinion. You need to decide what you want to do and go with your gut feeling. It probably will cause some drama and you will probably get called some names along the way, I do warn you of that. Good luck with your decision.

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Q: I recently gave a ride home to my ex-boyfriend and he invited me into his house to show me something. While we were joking around, he started hitting on me. I didn't think anything of it until he pinned me down on his bed and tried to hook up with me. I told him no because I love my current boyfriend and I can't cheat on him. He then told me it wasn't cheating because we were just having fun and we're teens. It doesn't mean anything and he really misses kissing me and feels empty inside. I left his house and i left him really upset but i couldnt stay there anymore.

What scares me more is that part of me really did want to hook up with me and I feel in a way I cheated/was disloyal to my current boyfriend. MY friend told me its just a thing with ex's and sometimes she feels that way around hers even tho she wouldn't do anything.

I don't know if I should tell my boyfriend about it and how much I should tell him. I'm losing sleep over it because its bothering me so much but I don't want to ruin what I have with him now.

Please help

17/female.

Well your boyfriend should be very proud of you because you left the house without acting, even though you may have wanted to. I think you should let your boyfriend know, because relationships are built on trust and without it they will crumble. Tell him that you went in and he tried to make a move on you, but you refused him and told him you loved your boyfriend. I'm sure your boyfriend will probably be pissed at your ex, but he will be so happy that you turned him down and told him that you loved your boyfriend. Tell him if you want to though, do what you believe is best.

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Q: I have a boy friend, we've been together for a while, in my eyes he's close to perfect. I love him so much and I know it everytime I look into his eyes or even just hearing his voice when he calls me on the phone. When I'm with him I don't think about anyone else.

But there's this other guy in my college and he's a really cool guy, and I find myself attracted to him and thinking about him, I wouldn't make a move, but I find myself daydreaming about what it would be like if we could be together...

Part of me feels guilty, because I love my boyfriend and I agreed to be in a monogamous relationship with him, and with that promise, i would NEVER cheat on him or anything.

But why do I still feel this way for someone else?
Am I a bad girlfriend for it?

Almost every person in every relationship ends up daydreaming about other people and most feel as long as you don't act on said impulses you have done nothing wrong. You are always going to probably feel a small attraction to people, but as long as you still feel that feeling you described in the beginning of your question for your boyfriend then I think you have nothing to worry about. You know you love him and you know you want to be with him and as long as you are sure of that then you will probably make it.

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Q: My boyfriend and I had sex (WITH A CONDOM) about a month ago and I realized my period was late. I mean I was stressed about A LOT and sick on top of that so I realize those could be a factor to it being later than normal... therefore I didn't panic too much.

But I kept getting normal stomach aches... not exactly cramps but I felt like my period was about to come. Although it was a few weeks late it eventually came, although it was extremely light... should I be worried?

I mean usually my periods don't completely end for an entire week. They start off kinda heavy and gradually lighten up... but it's like this one started kinda light and then stopped completely within 3 days...

I heard periods can come right after you have sex sometimes, even if you are pregnant. should I be worried? I mean my next period shouldn't be coming until the end of this month but I'm concerned that somehow something in the condom could have seeped through and entered me.

Do you think I could be pregnant? Or is this normal? I mean my periods been late before but not where it's been extremely light like this.

are there any symptoms I should look for?
My breasts haven't been sore
I haven't been having morning sickness
I haven't been having cravings out of the ordinary...

but I have been having vaginal discharge. I get that every once in a while anyway but I mean is this a sign of pregnancy? It's creamy and white but I mean I seem to be getting it more than normal...

please help. thanks.

There have been a few cases where pregnant women have still had their periods, but they have been alot lighter than normal. Here are some early symtpoms of pregnancy: Delay/Difference in menstration, fatigue, headaches, backaches, frequent urination, nipple coloration[they may become darker], and food cravings. I think your best bet would be to get an at home pregnancy test, because there could be a chance that you are pregnant. Get the test and then go from there.

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Q: Well whats the definition of thrash? n can it be caused because of stress? thnks a dozen!

I think the disease you are refering to is called 'Thrush.' Here are somethings that can cause the thrush: small amounts of the candida fungus are present in the mouth, digestive tract, and skin of most healthy people and are normally kept in check by other bacteria and microorganisms in the body. However, certain illnesses, stress, or medications can disturb the delicate balance, causing the fungus candida to grow out of control, causing infection.

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Q: hi this questions is for the girls, i would just like to know how old you were when you first gave oral sex

I was around 14 or 15, but keep in mind that you need to do it when you feel comfortable with it, not just because thats when everyone else did it.

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Q: i was just confused cuase you said that if it is brown or old it is ok it is just cuase you are getting off it of cuuase you are about to end it . well i just started mine and it was brown from the start .what is that ? what dose this mean amnd it is nothing at all . not heavy . not like it is im going to stop but just begun.
please help me
destiny

Older blood turns brown so whenever the blood is brown it will either be at the beginning of your cycle or the end. This is perfectly normal and very common in many women, it's just "old blood" and tends to either precede or follow the red blood. It tends to be light, not heavy.

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Q: okay so i like this guy ALOT..and he always flirts with me, like calls me every night gives me rides, and his sweatshirt, tells me im pretty, and i deserve better than my x (long story) lol. but hes dating someone and i dont know what to do!!
help me please =/

It does sound like he likes you, but it also sounds like he is confused. I mean he flirts with you like crazy but has a girlfriend. I think your best bet would be to talk to him about it. Let him know that you like him, but that you aren't going to keep doing this while he has a girlfriend. It may lead up to you losing him, but you deserve better than that too. You deserve someone who will treat you like that and be with you not with some other girl.

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Q: Well, the other day I was talking to my boyfriend and he asked me "how far I wanted to go". To be honost, I really don't know. I had planned to stay abstinent until marriage, but I know that as I get older, I might lose my current, or future, boyfriend if I don't want to do very much sexually. I mean, I don't know. I'm only 14 so I think i'm to young to be "sexually active", but it seems as if everyone's doing something like that.... I just don't know what to do...are guys going to pressure me to do this stuff when I get into highschool? I guess i'm just afraid of being the last person considered "prude". Thanks, any advice welcome.

Okay first of all I think it is great that you realize and think you are too young to be sexually active, but do not let what other people are doing change your opnions. Being a virgin is not something for you to be ashamed of. You should only decide to have sex if you are ready for that commitement, its a big responsibilty. You also shouldn't decide to do it just because thats what your boyfriend wants you to do, if he is going to push you into something then he isn't worth it.

Yes, guys are going to push you when you get to highschool. Peer pressure can be really hard to work with, but you just have to realize that you have to do what you have to do.Don't compromise yourself for anyone, stand strong with what you believe in and if anyone tries to push you out of it then they aren't your friends and the guys don't really care about it. Would you rather be called a whore than prude, no[[sorry to be so blunt]]. Stand strong with what you believe in and once you decide you are ready then and only then should you give in.

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Q: how do you get over a guy?? i broke up with my bf and he and i were best friends and i just dont know what to do!!! please help. im at the point where im really realizing and understanding that its OVER and its for good. its so hard and hurts so much and im pretending like it doesnt but it does and i dont even know why. i just dont understand and im moving soon so its so hard cause right now im preparing to leave everything and i was counting on 2 more months to spend with my bf and now its over. please help im in high school/female

I totally understand what you are going through, I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years and knowing that it was over was the worst part of it. But I knew that it was the best thing fo rme to do. Now he and I are still good friends, yeah we don't get to hang out as much as often but having him there to talk to helps matters alot. Though it does sometimes cause problems with my current.

If you want to get over him then the best thing to do is to spend time with friends, they are a big help. But if you feel like you want him back and you made a mistake then you should let him know. It sounds to me like you weren't ready to let go of him and thats perfectly okay, it sounds like you don't want to hurt him when you move, but you should cherish this time you have with him until move. Then worry about that when the bridge comes, things will work out. Maybe once you move you could break-up, but still stay in contact.

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Q: 16/m
Yesterday i aksed this girl out that i realy liked her so finally i asked her and she said yes. well now everytime we are together shes always quiet, im always doing most of the talking, I dont want our relationship to be plain i want to connect with her but she quiet even with her freinds they told me she was just as quiet. I just want to know how to gain her trust so she can talk to me more, i dont want to lose her please somebody help!!!

Getting into a relationship with a friend often changes how the person acts around you. Most people get embarrassed by the label, almost every girl I know gets quieter when she begins dating a boy. Talk to her and tell her that you want to connect and you want to be able to talk to her and be closer to her. Talking to her should help because then she will know how much you care about her and she should release a little. If not then just give her time she should relax after a while.

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Q: so i have this friend..lets call him A. A and I are really good friends. in fact i would call him one of my best friends. i know him really well. hes a guy and im a girl. like 2 weeks ago he told me he liked me, and before he told me i thought kinda liked him too. he said he didnt want to date though because we were such good friends and if we were to break up then it might ruin our friendship. but i kinda want to date him and i dont think it would ruin our friendship at all. i have been talking to him on the phone everynight for the past 3 weeks. (btw he knows i like him too) then last night we were on the phone and he said he was texting the girl he kinda likes. i asked him who and he said he cant tell me because he knows i dont like her. so honestly i didnt want to know. i knew if i knew it would break my heart. i asked him how many girls he liked and he said 2. i asked who they were. he said it was the one he was texting and the other one i already knew. so of course that one is me. then he said that he doesnt realy like the one hes texting a lot. which gets me confused because he plays with my heart and i dont think he knows it. hes such a good guy though. when we got off the phone i texted him to see if he still liked me and he said idk. and i asked him what that means and hes like yeah idk ever since i liked a girl who ripped the insides out of me i really dont know. (that girl is his ex from last year but he doesnt like her at all anymore) but i really like him alot. ive gotton to like him over the past few weeks more and more. and now for some reason i get really jealous whenever he talks about people asking him out or things like that because a ton of girls ask him out because of the way he looks. i like him for his personality. i dont even know what im asking. like what should i do? i have never liked a boy like this. im not kidding. (ive never had a boyfriend either) i really want to MAYBE date A. i like him so much. =\ hheeeellllllllp!!! thanks in advance and sorry it was long.

I am sorry this is happening to you, but it is a very commong situation. As a matter of fact this same thing happened to me in 8th grade. I am now in 11th grade and that guy is still not as close to me as he used to be. All you can really do is talk to him and let him know that you can accept the fact that he has a girlfriend, but that you would still like to be friends. You shouldn't let the fact that either of you have other people in your lives break up your friendship, especially since it sounded like such a great one.

I suggest txting him or talking to him in person and letting him know all of your feelings. Tell him that you miss your friendship, that you would rather have him as a friend rather than not at all. Tell him everything, he will most likely respond to that. If not be understanding, his life is changing, he has a girlfriend and is trying to figure out who he is. It will happen to you later and you will grow apart from friends, so your best bet is to tell him then be understanding.

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Q: Well i met a guy recently who is really sweet and hilarious. I am into like studying astrology because it is very interesting and sometimes accurate but in this case it seems that i would not usually be attracted to his sign --a cancer, when i am a sagittarius. But despite that i feel this connection with him, like when we talk i dont have to pretend to be someone im not. I mean most guys i have met i end up having some make-out session with and i never get to talk to them. But in the little time i have spent with this guy we mostly talked and he kissed me once. So i hear that he wants to ask me out this weekend, but i don't want to rush into this because in the past i have rushed into relationships and they end really fast. But i also don't wanna tell him that i dont want to go out with him right now. Im not sure what to do but maybe some advice would help =D
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You can go out with him and still take it slow. When you start dating him let him know that you really like him, but that you want to take the relationship slow. I'm sure he will understand. I think it's great that you have a connection with him and that you want to move slow with life. Having a connection with someone is very important when having a relationship and when you find this connection grab on to it and see where it goes.

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Q: okays well im 14 and a female. theres this guy i really like, and im pretty sure he likes me. we talk all the time. and flirt. his friends are telling him to ask me out and my friends are tellin me to ask him out. im thinkin aobut askin him out, but what if he says no. our friendship would be weired. but i think we should give it a chance by going out. i think we would make a good couple. do you think i should take the chance and ask him out??? or wait for him too???
thanks :]

You can show him that you like him and are interested without asking him out. Flirt around alot and even joke about you dating and if you feel after a few days you feel like you want to move it to the next level ask him if he likes you and then let him know you like him. Then if you still feel like you want to move up a level ask him out. I know it's hard to ask a guy out and let him know you are out there, it is very difficult to put yourself out there that close to rejection, but the worst he can do is say no and if he does then well you can move on. I'm pretty sure he won't say no if he really likes you as much as you say he does. Things will work out fine.

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Q: Ive been in my current relationship for 2 and a half months.Don't get me wrong i really like my boyfriend a lot, like a lot.The problem is, every time i see my EX it's like my heart skips a beat and everything plays in my head that we went through, and its like all i see is him.. I dated him for almost a year, he lived with me and i lost my virginity to him, I was in love with him. Part of me thinks i still am. The reason we broke up was I Found out he cheated on me with my cousin.I forgave her and him since its been about 6 months since thats happen.I want to forget about him. I want to stay with my current boyfriend but i cant help these feelings when i see him, when i don't see him its another story i feel like my current boyfriend is all i think about. How do i get over these feelings for my EX i feel so guilty. What should i do? I am lost.

It is very normal for you to miss him, considering the fact that he was your first love and basically your first in everything. You will probably always feel that connection with him, but that doesn't neccessarily mean that you are IN love with him anymore. You are always going to love your first love and the boy you lose your virginity to, you just have to realize that they are gone and now you have to look to the future. It sounds like you love your current boyfriend alot and you want to stay with him, just focus on him.

It is also normal for you to think about your ex when you see him, it brings all that stuff gushing back to you. Maybe you could try being friends with your ex and that could help you decipher whether those feelings are simple old love or if your flame is still burning. If it is then maybe you should give it another try, but if you realize that its not there then stay with your current. You will now when it comes down to it whether or not you love him or your ex.

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Q: My boyfriend and I dry hump a lot with our clothes on...at the beginning he would always ejaculate very early..and then he decided that he would listen to take his mind off of ejaculating. Then he moved off of music and he can now control his ejaculation. My question now is lately we have been dry humping and well he gets tired and then his penis goes down...i'm wondering is this me? Am I turning him off? Is there anything we can do? Or I can do? Does he not think I'm attractive? I'm really worried and I don't know what to do. Please help me!

I'm pretty sure that this has nothing to do with you, he is probably just getting more used to the things you do and when you get comfortable with something I guess it just doesn't make you get off that fast anymore. The only thing I could say to do is maybe change it up a little, do some different things to keep him on his toes. You don't have to have intercourse or anything, even just talking to him about sex could be a big turn on. Or you could even ask him about it, ask him what turns him on and let him know what turns you on. Staying in control is often a huge turn on for guys.

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Q: first off im 16/f and okay so ive been going out with my bf for almost 6 months, hes like in love with me and everything but i feel like im not totally in love with him. Like i only started going out with him because i love his personality, but physically im not too attracted to him and i feel like maybe there should be more to it if i was in love with him, you know? like he says im the one for him and he wants to like be with me forever, but the truth is, hes my first bf, idk who i want to be with forever, im just experimenting with relationships and i guess maybe im not ready for a fullout commited relationship and im scared to disapoint him and say anything. but then theres this other guy who ive just started becoming good frinds with and hes like extremelyyyyy hottttt and hes nice. and like im physically attracted to him and he likes me. and im soo tempted to be with this really hot guy. and like i feel like with my boyfriend im restrained. well i guess thats what happenes when u have a bf but i feel like i wanna be able to see other people, but i dont want to break his heart and i still wanna be good friends with him, i dont know what to do. im sorry this is so long, but if you could help me that would be awesome and it would make you feel good to let you know you helped someone and possibly helped me make a great choice and guide me into the right direction. thank you again

Well you are young and it makes since for you to want to experiment in new things. There does have to be some physical attraction for a relationship to work. Tell your boyfriend that you are young and you aren't sure if you are ready for that much of a commitement right now. You need to get out there and see who is out there before you know who want to be with.

I think you should go for the new guy. It seems like you are attracted to him and you aren't really that crazy about your current so why not. I mean you shouldn't worry about hurting this guy he should understand that you really want to experiment with other people. Go with your gut and your attraction. It will show you the right way to go. In the end you have to do what is best for you.

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