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should i tell my boyfriend..
I recently gave a ride home to my ex-boyfriend and he invited me into his house to show me something. While we were joking around, he started hitting on me. I didn't think anything of it until he pinned me down on his bed and tried to hook up with me. I told him no because I love my current boyfriend and I can't cheat on him. He then told me it wasn't cheating because we were just having fun and we're teens. It doesn't mean anything and he really misses kissing me and feels empty inside. I left his house and i left him really upset but i couldnt stay there anymore.
What scares me more is that part of me really did want to hook up with me and I feel in a way I cheated/was disloyal to my current boyfriend. MY friend told me its just a thing with ex's and sometimes she feels that way around hers even tho she wouldn't do anything.
I don't know if I should tell my boyfriend about it and how much I should tell him. I'm losing sleep over it because its bothering me so much but I don't want to ruin what I have with him now.
Please help
17/female.
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Hey darlin..
what a situation, eh?
First things first, you need to get your priorities stright. do you have feelings for you EX? if so, more than for your current BF? you obviously have some feelings or you would not have wanted to kiss him..
also, lieng to your current BF is not healthy at all.. you need to decide which one you prefer..
why did you split with your EX in the first place? does he just want you now for a fling?
secondly, confess all for you BF. if he does really love you, he will understand that you pushed him off because you love your BF.
HOWEVER, i dont really understand why you went to ur EX's house in the first place? to show you something? now come on girl :0 where not silly..
you must have feelings for him to fall for that..
confess all..
most importantly..
dont lie to yourself
if you need help girl just ask
:)
good luck
x
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First things first. If your ex started fooling around with you, and it wasn't ok with YOU, it is SEXUAL HARASSMENT. You didn't cheat on your BF because you told your ex to stop. It's not your fault he wouldn't listen to you. I believe you should tell your boyfriend, confidentially, about this. He should know that your ex is still after you. Your ex may even start to stalk you, as scary as that sounds!
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ok well i was in a similar situation only instead of it being my ex it was my boyfriends friend.. and i felt i was doing the right thing by telling him and i didnt think anything of it but my boyfriend freaked out and accused me of cheating and stuff even though i never did nor would, so if you tell your boyfriend there is always a possibility of him thinking the worse, but i still think you should tell him i see it as if nothing happened then you have nothing to hide(even though i did that and my boyfriend still accused me) but maybe and hopefully yours wouldnt. but its all up to you, do what you think is right in your situation.
hope everything works out.
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Well your boyfriend should be very proud of you because you left the house without acting, even though you may have wanted to. I think you should let your boyfriend know, because relationships are built on trust and without it they will crumble. Tell him that you went in and he tried to make a move on you, but you refused him and told him you loved your boyfriend. I'm sure your boyfriend will probably be pissed at your ex, but he will be so happy that you turned him down and told him that you loved your boyfriend. Tell him if you want to though, do what you believe is best.
Hope I Helped.
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