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My X-gf
16.m
i had a gf that lasted over one year. she said she just didn't want a bf anymore so i was cool with it. i also asked her, if there was another guy. she swore there wasn't.
i kid you not, 2 weeks later,she kissed my best friend, and told another one of my friends she liked them. both like her back.
i have no idea what to do with myself. i want to stop talking to her, because i hate her SO MUCH.
yet, everynight i still call her out of habbit and we talk like nothings wrong, i mean, it's almost like we're going back out, kinda talk.
but then the next day always come and i find out she's hanging out with 1 of 2, or BOTH of my best friends and is cuddling with them, and carrying on. and she still has the nerve to tell me she loves me, and cares about me.
i'm so frustrated, so mentally drained, so stressed it's ridiculous.
i know things will get better in time, but right now, everything just sucks.
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I know what you're talking about.. Don't kill me but I've been in her position before (I'm not like that anymore though!). I don't know this girl, but I can tell you a little bit from her perspective.
It seems like she can't commit and only cares about herself right now. She likes the attention and can't decide on just one person. She only tells you that she loves you and cares so she can keep you around. She's basically manipulating you.
What you need to do is tell her how she makes you feel, and never talk to her again. She'll only hurt you more if you keep talking to her. I know that calling her out of habit makes you feel better, but you need to think about this: If she truly cared about you, then she wouldn't be running around with your friends, would she? And it's not like she's dumb, she knows exactly what she's doing and how it makes you feel.
Anyways, things will only get better if you do something about it. Save yourself the stress and just let her go. If something causes that much negative impact on your life and even your health, it's not worth it.
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Just because she is interested in other guys doesn't mean that she still doesn't care about you. She is comfortable with you and feels close to you which is why you both still talk to one another and say I love you. You dated for almost a year so you can't just expect to drop her, it is very hard to get over someone and live without them after that long. Even if you do move on you still miss their company and talking to them.
My ex and I dated for 3 years then broke-up and to this day we are still good friends. Being friends helps alot because neither of us have to give up that connection an relationship we had. Yes, its different but at least we can still talk and that makes everything alot easier. I think you should talk to your ex and let her know that you are uncomfortable with the whole situation. Tell her that you think you should kind of grow apart while she is talking to these guys. Unless you feel like you want to continue the relationship it would probably be easier to let go for a while.
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im really sorry to hear that.
i know how you feel, i havent been in your shoes exactly, but this one guy who i was really close to felt the same way as you do because of my stupid decisions.
all i can say is that its hard to get over someone who you really care about and you were so close to. heartbreak is the worst.
all i know is that it takes time, its not going to go away instantly thats for sure.
if your ex is still calling you and telling you she loves you then either shes not completely over you either, or shes being really insensitive and only cares about herself right now. it may very well be both of these things at the same time.
all i can say is to just try really hard to strain yourself from making any kind of contact with her for a while. you need time away from her to clear your mind and focus on other things.
i know this might be hard for you to do since you were in a relationship with her for a long amount of time, but whenever she calls you or texts you, dont respond.
you need to show her that you are hurt from her actions, and if you keep coming back to her like nothing ever happend, she wont ever learn that what she did was wrong.
you need to take some control and make her realize that what she is doing truely hurts and angers you. no one deserves to feel like you do, so make her see that.
good luck (:
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