Hey!
I live in Canada and I'm teen. I've been through a lot of stuff with my friends over the last few years and I always try to give my insight into their problems (sometimes even when they don't really want it lol).
I've realized that over time I have accumulated a lot of questions about moving on, so if you have a question about that, lay it on me!!
I don't think that ratings matter, and that you should choose someone to trust your question with, that will answer it with care, but show you what the world really is and wont sugar coat it.
I hope you guys find my advice helps, hope to talk soon!! :D
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Okay.. I know this is gonna sound awkward.
I had sex with Ashley.
And I feel really bad about it now because I don't want to tell Laura but if I don't tell her it's gonna be on my conscience all the time until I tell her what happened.
Is there any way I can tell Laura what I did with Ashley without making her hate me? And I don't want to do it face to face because that would be really weird.
HELP!!
I know I shouldn't have done it but she asked me to and I thought maybe it was really gonna bring me and her together. I dunno. I'm stupid.
So.. HELP ME PLEASE!!!
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Well first of all you arent stupid, you just made a mistake, however, when you decide to make a mature decision as you did, you must realise that you are taking full responsibility for what you are doing, and if you arent ready for that type of responsibility then you shouldn't make those choices.
You need to tell Laura, and you probably should tell her face to face. Yeah she will probably get upset, but wouldn't you if you were in her shoes?
~I don't know the whole story, but I'm assuming that you are dating Laura and that you like Ashley in a way thats alittle bit more than friendship?~
I don't know if there is any way of making laura not be upset with you, but if you tell her exactly why you did it and how you felt(feel) about Ashley (etc.) she may understand. She will probably be upset for a while and get over it.
I know you probably feel like telling her will just make things worse, but clueing her in on everything will help you both in the long run. And if she really trusts you she will get over it in a matter of time.
Remember trust is something that takes a long time to built and takes only a second to break, so you can't expect her to get over it right away. And if she does, then theres probably reason to believe that shes doing the same thing behind your back. :s.
If your relationship is ment to be it will withstand all that is thrown at it, but first you have to decide who you want to have the relationship with. Because you cant have your cake and eat it too (have laura and ashley) sometimes you have to make tough choices, but if you think about them a lot they will make sense eventually, and the answer will be super clear. So keep an open mind, and do the right thing. Lots of luck, Angie91
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15/f
okay well i know this guy let's call him "Dan". And we've made out and done some things but we weren't even in a real relationship and i told him that i wanted to be in one and that i wouldn't go any farther until we were in one. He tells me he wants to be friends with benifites and i'm all like no because i just can't stand those relationships. It's either you're with me or not. Then he tells "forget you then." And so i'm all like what ever i can find a better guy who'll respect me. Then when i was walking home he waited for me. The moment he saw me he walked towards me and was all like "sup?" I roll my eyes and walked past him like what ever. He was all like "you're just gonna walk away form me like that?" And i was all like yea.Then i just had to ask "why would you lie to me." because he said he'd never hurt me.The n he played stupid like what do you mean? and he asked if he could walk me home and i said i guess. but i was still mad. we talked and he said that he wasn't ready another girlfriend. So i'm all like ok that means we're not going to be anything. Then we went back to his house to talk somemore and he was all like we can kick it in the bathroom. and i'm all like wat? But we did and he said that his ex and him faught too much so he doesn't want commitment right now. Then i told him if we were in a F/B relationship i'm gonna get hurt again because he'll probably cheat on me. Then he tells me he swears he wouldn't and he hasn't ever since he's met me but i don't know if i can trust him.
So Please Help i don't know what to do, if i should drop him or stay with him.
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Well I think that you should go with your first instinct. If you don't think that f/b is a good idea, then it probably isnt. You need to trust your heart, and you are right. There are probably a billion guys out there who would like to go out with you for who you are. If he can't commit, then that shows a lot about him. And I don't think you should cave so easily. You were doing so well telling him that if he wasnt going to commit, then he wasnt going to get anything from you. Those relationships work for some, but for most, they end up turning out badly. It's probably best if you try to find someone who actually wants a girlfriend. And if you don't find someone, then let him do whatever he needs to too commit, and then come and date you. It's good to have standards, and you shouldn't lower them for a guy!
Good luck, and I hope I helped, if you have any other questions feel free to ask.
lots of love,
Angie91
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ok i no this might sound stupid to some people but its really serious to me!!! and i have no idea what to do. ok so my best frined is a guy and forever we have been close. so just the other day he told people that hes liked me for three years. those people told me so i am obviously shocked! because ive always only thought of him as a friend. He doesnt know that i know. i love him as friend and absolutely nothing more. Hes been trying to get me to guess who he likes, and he also keeps trying to tell me... i can only change the subject for so long! PLEASE help i dont want to lose his friendship and i dont want things to change betweeen us not even a little.
please please dont tell me just to tell him that i like him as a friend and nothing more... cause i could have thought of myself
thanks for answering
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I know you don't want me to tell you that you should tell him, but sometimes, the truth hurts. You have to put yourself in his shoes. I know it suck, but telling him is the right thing to do, so here's how you do it, be honest with him, and tell him what you just said. He will understand. You have to realize that lying to yourself and going out with him would suck so much more than this, and leading him on is just mean. Obivously he is trying to be obvious, and get you to guess who he likes, so you would hurt him so much more if you kept putting it off. Next time you see him, pull him aside and tell him, it will hurt a bit, but give him a hug, and tell him that there are a bunch of girls out there who would love to go out with him. Think of what you would want to hear if the roles were reversed.
Then the next time you see him, have planned ideas of things to talk to him about so that he doesnt have to deal with awkward silences.
He will ache for a while, but he will get over you, and he'll move onto someone great.
I'm really sorry that I had to give you advice that you didnt want to hear, but if you don't like what I said, then think for yourself, if it were switched and he had to deal with this, what would you want, would you want to hear it right away and get over it, or would you want to wait for months, or hear something else, or hear from someone else? Well if you think of somethig that you would like to hear, or whatever if the roles were reversed, then do that. But I think that the best advice is to tell him, even though it kind of sucks and it will hurt, but you just have to do what you think is right. If you have anymore questions feel free to ask. And I really do hope I helped. I know its hard to hear, but I think that if you concider it, you"ll realize that its the best thing to do, and if not then hopefully you'll find something else thats better. Good luck, and hopefully your friendship works out okay. Lots of love,
Angie91
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ok i used to go to school with this guy in like grade 5 and im now in grade 12. I never spoke to him but i found his email and added him and we've been talking casually. The thing is i always remember liking him and i found we have a lot in common now that we've grown. I dunno what to do though...i know we have to meet in person and we live in the same town, but i dont know im kinda afraid lol, i dont know what to say and i would love for this to grow into more, help me and my shyness! Hes invited me to go visit him in the mall where he works and i went and i saw him but i was stupid and i didnt go in lol, i really dont know what to do or say cause im SO SHY! Help, thanks:D (link)
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I think that you should go with a friend, and go casually into the place where he works and be like, oh I forogt you worked here. And talk abit, and see if he wants to hang with you and your friend after work, and then your friend can get "sick" and leave, and then you can just hang with im a bit.
You should plan a lot of different things to say before you go, and that way if there is one of those awkward silences where no one has any idea what to say, you can throw in one of those planned topics.
No matter how many times you think this over in your mind, it is never going to turn out the same way, so don't stress over it too much.
Don't try and move too fast, just casually flirt and stuff, and then maybe he will get the picture. If he doenst, then keep trying to build up the confidence to ask him out on a date. But for the first little while, I think that you should just try to keep it simple untill you know how he feels. Good luck with your friend. Hope I helped, If you have anymore questions, feel free to ask. Lots of love,
Angie91
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Ive been going out with this guy thats liked me for A LONG Time and we were like REALLY good friends for a long time and then i liked him but he didn't like me, well finally he like loves me and things are going good for about 6 days but he said "we should slow down" and then i said what do you mean and he said like no more making out, its not FUn its BORING! What is THAT supposed to mean! SINCE when is MKAING OUT BORING!! He says thats all we do but thats not true! IS making out REALLY that boring or is there some other reason to this? (link)
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It soudns like he is mature. I mean, making out might be really fun for you, but for him it's just too immature. It doesnt mean that he thinks you're immature, but maybe he wants to spend more time doing things that don't involve the two of you with your tongues in each others mouths. Just try hanging out with him in a non sexual way for a while, and try making him feel comfortable. Of you get too bored, then maybe you two arent right for each other at this point in your lives, you're young, life will go on, and maybe you can date when you are older. But to try and let him make all of the moves for a while. And just because he doesnt want to make out it doesnt mean he doesnt want to show you affection. try and kiss him on the cheek once in a while, and hold his hand and stuff.
If you're really worried, then talk to him, he may actually have something he's hiding that he's too afraid to share with you. So try and get him to open up. I don't know if this is exactly on the right track, but I hope I helped abit. If you have any questions feel free to ask!
Lots of love,
Angie91
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Okay im looking to go on a diet. like not one where you dont eat and stuff but like a programmed one like theres the atkins diet cranberry juice diet grapefruit diet. i love to eat fruit and i searched google for diferent diets and i didnt get any good ones i dont like that whole slimfast diet or south beach diet i like ones where i dont have to buy there food. can someone please tell me some or send links i rate high. =] (link)
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I don't think that you should go on a programme diet just yet. If I were you, I would start off just eating right. If that doesnt get the results you want after a few months, then talk to your doctor about going to a nutritionalist.
Here is an example of a good diet without going to the extremes and eating all grapefruit, and btw, don't go on an all juice diet, because that will just make you hungry, and probably make you gain pounds inthe long run.
Breakfast:
1 peice of toast or bowl of healthy cereal
1 glass of milk
1 fruit
1 glass of juice (optional) (juice; don't get a "beverage" because basically that means that it's juice with a bunch of sugar added.)
Lunch:
1 Sandwich (bread{if you get a whole wheat o other healthy bread it would be even better}meat{if you buy some turkey or another lean one from the deli, it should be healthier, or you can ask the deli people} cheese {dairy is good for you, but not always great for a diet} and vegetables {like tomatoes or lettuce})
1 vegetable {carrot sticks, cucumber slices, pickles if you like them,}
1 Fruit {an apple, an orange, anything like that)
1 drink (water or juice, water is great because it has no caloires, AND flushes out your system, which is really great, because that will help you lose some weight, you should buy a large reusable water container and plan to drink a full one a day. -or- drink a juice box, for lunch, water is great, but juice is god too, one thing to make sure of while taking a diet, is that you do not limit the sugar intake each day, because sugar is important as well, becuase if you don't have enough, your blood glucose level will go down, and you could faint or something. So be careful)
Dinner:
Try and find some recipies online that are healthy and unclude, a meat, a vegetable and a carbohydrate.
snacks:
Vegetables are great for a snack, as well as friuts, but remember the greener the vegetable, the healthier it is. So if you get a cucumber or celery thats healthier than a carrot.
Those are some simple guide lines that you will probably find in every diet, but if you really into getting off those pounds and you don't mind counting every calorie in every bar of yucky granola bars thats great but otherwise its probably best to keep a watchful eye on what you're eating, but don't obsess. Try to limit your snacks, and don't skip meals. I hope I gave you some ideas. And good luck with your diet. Lots of love,
Angie91
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yea so i just got dumped yet again theres something seriously wrong with me ok but yea on to the question
ok well she dumped me cuz she said she thinks might be a better friend then a bf but like an hour before that we were laying in my bed making out but she also says that she is still gonna call me and stuff like everyday and she still wants to be friends
1)is this an excuse
2)if not an excuse do i still have a chance at getting back together with her ...i really really like her
3)what should i do?
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Well first of all, there is nothing wrong with you. You are probably way too good for her lol. Maybe shes amazed by your awsomeness, and she is like scared to be around you jk lol. But anyways, I don't know if it's an excuse, she probably just wants to date someone else, and didn't want to hurt your feelings. It's cheap and mean, but that's how girls are sometimes, we hate dealing with confrontation. But you probably do have a chance at getting back with her, but maybe you shouldnt. If you spend all of your time trying to get back together with her, then she will just think less of you. I think you should move on and find a really great girl who wants to be around you in a way that is more than a friend. And if you don't find one, don't worry about it, there are tons of great girls out there and you'll find one soon. If she does ask for you back, think of how you feel. Don't go back to her because it's easier, go back to her because you like her, and if you move on and realize that she isn't worth it, then don't go back to her, you should only be with her, if you think that you two are good together.
As far as what to do, only you can find the best thing to do. It's your life, and you have to do whats in your heart, but if she doesnt seem too interested, I would just back off. I don't know, thats just me, but I think that if she wants her space, then she wants her space.
I hope you find someone great to go out with, and just remember, it doesnt matter who date or for how long you date them, the important thing is who you are, so don't feel upset that she dumped you, you're way too good for her! Hope I gave you some enlightenment. Lots of love,
Angie91
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19/F
I have to do my Christmas shopping soon, but I was wondering something.
I haven't got my boyfriend's present yet, and I have no idea what he got me, so I can't use that as an indicator.
How much should I be spending on him? We've been together for 3 months, but we were friends for a year before that, and we're really close.
Keep in mind that I AM a university student, so I can't spend an exorbitant amount.
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The present does not matter how much you spend. However you can't buy him something at a cheap store for like three bucks and have him buy you something for 100$. I think you should go out and find something that would suit him and make him feel like you really care. Then you could make him a card, and bake him some cookies or something and that will add to the present without haveing to make you spend alot. Only spend what you can afford, and don't worry about over or under pricing it. It's not that big of a deal. You've only been dating a few months, and he shouldnt get upset if you buy him something fairly small. I hope I gave you an idea of what other things you should concider when finding a gift for your boyfriend. Remember, money isnt everything, and if it does matter to him,t hen you shouldnt be dating him because he's alittle bit shallow. Christmas is about sharing time with the person you love, and if you try your hardest to find something that really shows you care, he'll love it. No matter what it is. Good luck shopping, and I hope you find him something perfect. Lots of love, and happy holidays from Angie91
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Right above my finger nail there is always skin peeling. Every season every day.. do you know why, and what i can do to change it?
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It's called your cuticle. Usually you can use a nail kit and push it down so that it doesnt bother you. It sounds like, a cuticle at least, but if it isnt, then maybe you should get it checked out. I think everyone has them, and the only way to get rid of them is to push them down. If that doesnt work, you could try clipping it with a finger nail clipper, and and that might help, But I'm not sure what you could do. If it's really bad, you could talk to a manicurist or something like that. Hope I helped. I'd you have any other questions, feel free to ask me! Lots of love,
Angie91
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okay, sorry this is a little long and confusing.. but anything will help!
anyways, okay well me and my ex boyfriend had dated for a little over a year and a half on and off. then i broke up with him because he was a jerk and while i was dating him, i started liking this other kid, lets name him john.and john started hanging out with me and my two best friends and thier boyfriends. and i broke up with, lets name him nick, and about two days later john asked me out. i said yes and yesterday was two months.(by the way, i'm 12/f and both nick and john are 13/m, and year above me in school if that does anything..) but lately, me and nick have started talking again and i discovered i still have feelings for him. don't get me wrong, i still like "john" alot, but i don't love him like i do a little still, nick.i mean, "john" treats me better than i've ever been treated by a guy really, and "nick" didn't treat me NEARLY as well but yet i still have feelings for i him. well last night i asked nick if he had feelings for me and he said no.and my friend talked to him and told him i still have feelings for him. and he promised he wouldn't tell anyone and told my friend that he doesn't have feelings for me right now.but then last night i had a dream that "john" cheated on me with my friend at school right in front of me and stuff and i punched him and ran off crying and then went into a hotel thing that everyone from school was staying at ( remember, this part was just a dream) and one kid said that john said he wasn't going back inside until i did. and so on... but the point is, cheating. i feel bad becuase john promised me awhile ago he would never cheat on me and i feel like the word cheating is coming in play... from me. i don't know what to do.i mean, i didn't tell nick that i loved him or anything and everything that was said to him was online and i don't know. i'm so confused. and i feel even WORSE because "john" didn't do anything wrong and yeah. someone please give me advice! thanks so much in advance! (link)
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I think that because you are dating John, you shouldn't cheat on him, and use him to get over Nick. Be true to him, and don't jump to conclusions. Until he actually cheats on you, theres no reason to break up with him. Especially since Nick doesnt have feelings for you anymore. Just continue dating John, and if for some reason things between the two of you don't work out, and you want to date Nick again after that, then go for it. But life is better if you try to make the least conflict possible, and if you didnt like dating John then life would be much different, but if you are happy, then life is good. Just keep on dating John and see where that goes, you don't want to have regrets for dumping him do you? I hope I helped alittle bit, if you have any other questions, feel free to ask! Lots of Love,
Angie91
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In my opion I think I sing good. But sometiems my voice gets like raspy and I can't sing very good. Whata re some good voice excersises. Or foods or drinks I can eat so my voice can get better. I have a vocie audition next week so I need help please help! (link)
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Herbal tea is a really great drink. I have never used it, but I'm in musical theatre, and my friends and I were talking and they say that it is best to drink herbal tea or other warm teas for at least 4 days before a big event.
S far as signing excersizes, make sure you warm your body up first, do some sholder rolls, and head turns and stuff to get your neck and back ready to sign. Breathe though the diaphram, and relax your shoulders.
Sign arpegios, scales and other warm up songs and try and practice with a key board or piano, because then you will hit the right pitch.
Don't fret about the audition, the coachs are going to be looking for someone who is ready to learn how to make their voice develop, and grow, and your range can be extended (so you can hit higher and lower notes) but teachers are looking to hear what your range is before any work is done, so they can pick songs that are good for your talents.
Good luck with the audition, hope you get the part! Lots of love,
Angie91
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Okay so I have a bestfriend, and we're dating these two guys ( who happen to be best friends) works out perfectly huh ? So anyway.. we've been talking about christmas and we all decided to meet at my house the weekend before to exchange gifts. We when we started talking the guys said NO GIFTS ( meaning we cant get them gifts..but they'll get us gifts). This bugs me, Its just I have no idea what to get them + they apprently dont want us to. However I cant take a gift without giving one in exchange. Well we all started arguing me & my bestfriend against our boyfriends.. and now we've called the whole thing off. I really need help, and if we do get them gifts what the heck do we get? WE've been dating for about 5 months and Im f/14 (link)
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Well, Guys for some reason dont like getting gifts. I'm not sure why. They just like being macho you know. Anyways, I think you should make him something. Buy him a frame and put a picture of you in it. That would be really cute, or you could just make him a card. Then you are listening to his wishes, but still doing something to let him know that you care. Just find something small, and cute and sentimantal and then he wont be too upset that you bought him something, but you are still showing that you care.
You can make him something special, or think of something that he needs in his room, like a picture or poster for the wall. Or something else that he needs to decorate his room. Or heres one thing you can do. Get together with your female friend, and make like 7 dozen cookies for christmas and make up two plates to give to your boyfriends. Then they can eat them, and its not that big of a deal. also, that way you can say you didnt buy them anything, you just want to hang out and stuff that day, and that way they'll come, and they can eat their gifts and watch a movie with you guys.
If you are creative and do something small theyll like it, and hopefuly wont get too upset. Happy holidays lots of love, from:
Angie91
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i saw eraserhead and thought it was badass...it has inspired me to start watching more good under the radar movies...where should i start? i'm thinking of watching dead or alive next...throw your suggestions and reviews at me!!! thanks in advance :) (link)
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Well I'm not really sure what kinds of movies you are looking for, but if you go to www.imdb.com they have a list of pretty much every movie, and most of them have reviews, so you can hear from experts, and normal people about different movies. It's good if you know what movie you want to see and then search it but if you know you want to see a movie with a certain actor, you can search the actor and find all the movies he's in, same with a producer etc, and they have lots of different pictures, comments and chats. So you can compare movies with others. Hope I helped. Love,
Angie91
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13/f.
So once its Christmas time I will have been dating my boyfriend about a month and a half. I know its not very long but I wanna get him something for Christmas. I know he is going to get me something and I always feel bad if I have nothing to give in return to people, so any ideas? Thanks. (link)
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Well when you have only been dating him a little while, it's harder to buy for him than if you had been dating him for a couple of months but I'm sure we can figure out something.
If you had been dating him a long time I would suggest making something for him, but I don't know if thats a good gift for only a month and a half. I would suggest getting him a cd, but I don't know, maybe you could burn him a cd with a bunch of songs you know he'll like.
You could get him something like a magnet for his locker that is cute and has a picture of you in it or something. You could also frame a picture of you and him or just you with a really cute frame that matches the colour of his room. Boys arent good at picking out artwork or things to decorate, so if you notice that his room is missing anything thats boyish and artsy, then try and find something like that.
Boys like food. So you could spend like a whole day with your friends baking cookies, and make him up like a huge plate of christmas cookies with santa shapes and red and green things. That'd be pretty cute. Or you could buy him some mistletoe. Thats super cute, and hang it over his doorway.
You could also buy him something that'd he'd enjoy. I don't know what he's into but like a poster for his room of his fave b-ball player or something for instance. Or you could buy him a video game or a dvd that are inexpensive and he'd enjoy.
You know what else is cute, if you were into making something for him (I have been suggesting crafty things because its often cheep and shows that you are dedicated and that you care, but it depends how confident you ae in the replationship) you could go out and buy a calander, but change all the pictures to pictures of you or you and him, or his friends, and stuff for important days that he has to remember. Like say your birthday is in May, cover over the may picture with a colage of pictures ov you. And say his friends bday is in August, you could get some pics and put them in, if you do that one, find some fun facts like say he likes b-ball, find out micheal jordan's bday or something. and write it in. It shows that you care and that you are super creative.
I gave you some basic Ideas, you don't have to use one of those, but there are lots of other ones that you can try if you use you imagination. He wil love anything you give him, but the more creative and energetic it is the more he'll love it. If you need more ideas don't hesitate to ask. Lots of love, and Happy holidays from,
angie91
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i dunno wat to do. im using ecstasy and im really scared that it's out of control. i feel pressured by my friends to be part of it. also media sorta influences me to do it. when im high i forget all my problems and school. i quit all my sports teams n i'd do anything i can to get money for my e. i dunt think i cud quit wat should i do? (link)
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Addictions are a serious matter, and I think that you need to talk to someone. You need to tell your parents. You can't worry about getting in trouble. You need to tell someone so that you can get help. Adults have your best intrests at heart, and they will try their hardest to keep you safe. So you need to tell someone who cares about you so that you can get some help.
It is very good that you are realizing the seriousness of this addiction, and you are finding resources, however, I am only fifteen and I don't think that I am qualified to council you on this.
Please get help, I wish you the best of luck, and I hope that you get sober and go back into sports and everything you love.
Angie91
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i just got out of a bad relationship with my ex. and i met this amazing guy. hes really sweet. but come to find out, his sister is my best friend. and i wonder what our friendship would be like if her brother (elliot) and i were together. i dont want to lose our friendship or have it be ackward. any ideas? (link)
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Ok I think the first thing you should do it talk to the sister. Tell her how you feel (both about Elliot, and the friendship thing) see how she feels and if shes okay with it talk to him. It is to be expected that at first it will be awkward, but if you push past it, it will prbably turn out okay.
She will have to deal with girls dating her brothe rin the future, so she might as well get used to his girlfriends possibly being her friends. The only thing that I would worry about is if things are rocky in the relationship, and the two of you break up. Because then the two of you may also have some conflict, and you could lose your bf and your bff in the same week or whatever. So there are some pros and cons about dating a relative of a friend. But if the pros outweigh the cons then I say go for it! Good luck, I hope I helped.
Lots of love,
Angie91
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Ok I know its not a question or anything, but I just wanted to say thanks it really helped, Sarah.
Actually there is something on my mind, my friend keeps asking me if i am mad at her and i'm not sure what to say b/c she has already apollogized 4 not telling me,and she is always telling me that he chose me and that there is never going to be a right guy 4 her b/c they all come to me first.How do I boost up her confidence in finding that right guy? (link)
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Well, you should tell her not to worry about dating right now. I know you told me you were fifteen, so I'm going to gues shes about the same age. And you know for some people, dating comes when you are 12 or 14 or 17 it doesnt matter. It happens when you are ready, and if you rush it then you arent going to enjoy it. I'm fifteen, and I havent had a boyfriend yet, and I don't reallycare. Mostly it's just a status thing and it's all about numbers, like, ohh I got my first kiss when I was 13, that kind of thing, it shouldnt matter what age you are, because it doesnt when you get older, life will go on if you are fifteen and you havn't had six boyfriends yet. So just tell your friend that she needs to wait until the time is right, and she'll find the perfect guy. Yeah sometimes it sucks watching your friends holding hands or your crushes being taken away by their girlfriends, but thats life, sometimes you don't get exactly what you want when you like it, but if you accept the fact that thats the cards you got dealt sooner or later, you will find what, or who, you are looking for. I know that none of that aplies to you because you have a boyfriend, which is really great, and I'm glad it works for you, but if your friend feels that way, then you should just tell her that the best gifts are those you had to wait for.
As far as her being worried about you being upset, tell her that you could never be upset with her over something like that, and that you're bestfriends, and if you were upset with her you'd let her know. Tell her that it sucks that she kept that hidden from you for so long, and that you want her to tell you these things, thats what best friends are for, right?
I hope that I gave you some ideas on helping with your friend. Good luck and I'm here if you need me! Lots of love,
Angie91
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hey guys im 17 years old and ive been with my boyfriend for a year now! and i have no idea on what to get him for christmas..any ideas? i want it to be something like special that reminds him of me or something like about us...not just like a video game and stuff you know?! thankss (link)
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Well if you really want to get him something specail you should try and make him something, like learn how to knit and make him a scarf, or make a colage of things he likes that he can put on his bedroom door. If you make something then he will like it much more than just buying him a video game. It you are really not artistic, and would feel stupid making something, then you should just go window shopping for like four hours one day and write down a bunch of ideas of things you could get him. And then go home and sleep on it, and go back the next day and buy one. Then you can think about the perfect gift.
Alot of people have trouble figuring out what to get their bf's for christmas, but you know he'll love it whether it's a video game that he'll actually use or a weird, technicolour scarf that he'll only wear when he's around you. If you think of something that he'd really enjoy, it'd be great, but if you think of something that he'll treasure it's even better. I hope you think of something that will make him smile and be thankful he has a great girlfriend like you. Happy holiday season! Lots of love,
Angie91
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okay so theres6 of us. i make pretend names . so theres melissa, kait,ashlee,haley,sammy,(me)
and we all are good friends until melissa and kait decided they didnt like haley and that she was really annoying.and they used to be best firends. anyways, they pull alot of pranks on her and made her cry at lunch. she was in my next class so we talked about it. but i dont know what i should do . mellisa and kait will turn there back on me if i try to make haley feel better.ohh i dont knoww!
SOMEONE HELP ME
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wooried about having to lose a friend (link)
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Okay, I have been through this exact situation before and I have made alot of mistakes, so I am going to help you to not mka ethe same mistakes I did.
This situation isnt about which friends you like better, its about who needs you more. From what you have described, it sounds like there are a bunch of people ganging up on one girl. Which, no mater what form it is in, is bullying. Now I don't know what your take is on bullying, but bullying is wrong. And the more people who stand by and watch it happen, the worse it will eventually get. So you have to stand by Haley no matter what happens. And when ever you see it happening step up and help change things. Sometimes girls will get mad at other girls just to be mean, and that is not fun.
If they keep bothering her at lunch, either talk to a teacher, or if your teachers are like the ones we have at my school... talk to your parents, and see what they would do. But no matter what happens between you and the group doing the bullying, don't become a part of it because that is a mistake that I made, and I couldnt go back after I had hurt my friend. And now I have some enimies, that I wouldnt have had if I had stood up. So if you have a good friend who is being hurt (whether there is reason or not) stand up and don't fight back, because that will just make it worse. Eventually things will escalate, then they will forget and stop, you just have to ride it out. If there are any specific situations that you need help dealing with let me know, and I can help give you a hand. Good luck to you and Haley, lots of love,
Angie91
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Hi my name is Cooper, and I live in Texas.My girlfriend and I have been dating for a while and now I find out that her friend has liked me for over a year now.What should I do? (link)
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Hey Cooper, finding out that someone likes you is always pretty awkward no matter who they are, but when it's your girlfriend's bff its even harder. I think that you should pretend that ntohing has happened, and that you don't know, when you see her next time. Just act natural, and soon she will pretend that it never happend too. Make sure that the next time you see her, you don't leave any room for awkward silences, and try your hardest to bring up things that the two of you would usually talk about.
Make sure that your girlfriend talks to her, and finds a way to help her friend deal with it.
As far as "what should you do?" There isnt that much that you can do. Just smile and let her know you arent feeling as weirded out as you do. If the situation changes and you need more help, feel free to ask.
Hope I helped,
Lots of love,
Angie91
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