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he likes me as more than a friend!
ok i no this might sound stupid to some people but its really serious to me!!! and i have no idea what to do. ok so my best frined is a guy and forever we have been close. so just the other day he told people that hes liked me for three years. those people told me so i am obviously shocked! because ive always only thought of him as a friend. He doesnt know that i know. i love him as friend and absolutely nothing more. Hes been trying to get me to guess who he likes, and he also keeps trying to tell me... i can only change the subject for so long! PLEASE help i dont want to lose his friendship and i dont want things to change betweeen us not even a little.
please please dont tell me just to tell him that i like him as a friend and nothing more... cause i could have thought of myself
thanks for answering
(16 F)
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Actually your answer would help out but i would tell him that your afraid your relationship (as close friends) may change if yall go together. after telling him that he wil probly say It wont I promise.. Well thats when you tell him, your not gonnas risk it and sorry... mayeb that will work it worked for me.
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i would say the best thing to do to not hurt his feelings is to tell him that people have been telling you who he likes and to let him know that you love him as a friend. there's really not that much you can do unless you wanna hurt his feelings. or since he's a good friend you can tell him of a different guy you may like then he might just try and get over you and he will think that you never knew that he liked you.
hope this helpss.
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I know you don't want me to tell you that you should tell him, but sometimes, the truth hurts. You have to put yourself in his shoes. I know it suck, but telling him is the right thing to do, so here's how you do it, be honest with him, and tell him what you just said. He will understand. You have to realize that lying to yourself and going out with him would suck so much more than this, and leading him on is just mean. Obivously he is trying to be obvious, and get you to guess who he likes, so you would hurt him so much more if you kept putting it off. Next time you see him, pull him aside and tell him, it will hurt a bit, but give him a hug, and tell him that there are a bunch of girls out there who would love to go out with him. Think of what you would want to hear if the roles were reversed.
Then the next time you see him, have planned ideas of things to talk to him about so that he doesnt have to deal with awkward silences.
He will ache for a while, but he will get over you, and he'll move onto someone great.
I'm really sorry that I had to give you advice that you didnt want to hear, but if you don't like what I said, then think for yourself, if it were switched and he had to deal with this, what would you want, would you want to hear it right away and get over it, or would you want to wait for months, or hear something else, or hear from someone else? Well if you think of somethig that you would like to hear, or whatever if the roles were reversed, then do that. But I think that the best advice is to tell him, even though it kind of sucks and it will hurt, but you just have to do what you think is right. If you have anymore questions feel free to ask. And I really do hope I helped. I know its hard to hear, but I think that if you concider it, you"ll realize that its the best thing to do, and if not then hopefully you'll find something else thats better. Good luck, and hopefully your friendship works out okay. Lots of love,
Angie91
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put yourself in his shoes. you need "to tell him that i like him as a friend and nothing more", otherwise you'd kind of be playing a game with his feelings. Don't get his hopes up and tell him now before he only likes you more and more. the advice you could have thought up yourself is the best advice.
hope i helped
xo
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coming from someone who liked his best friend for 5 years, trust me, telling him flat out that it can never happen is the best thing you can do. guys are usualy really good about staying friends after something like this
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