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Old Friend...New B.F?
ok i used to go to school with this guy in like grade 5 and im now in grade 12. I never spoke to him but i found his email and added him and we've been talking casually. The thing is i always remember liking him and i found we have a lot in common now that we've grown. I dunno what to do though...i know we have to meet in person and we live in the same town, but i dont know im kinda afraid lol, i dont know what to say and i would love for this to grow into more, help me and my shyness! Hes invited me to go visit him in the mall where he works and i went and i saw him but i was stupid and i didnt go in lol, i really dont know what to do or say cause im SO SHY! Help, thanks:D
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awwwww thats adorable! well its cool that you know that he doesnt think youre weird or annoying or anything because then he wouldnt want you to come see him.
take a risk. just do it and jump in head first. you might hit your head a bit but guess what? people float back up and that guy can be your lifegaurd. long analogy for ya lol
listen to a pump it up song like do somethin by britney spears or i got nerve by miley cyrus (hannah montana lol) and just go see him. he'll probably will be just as excited to see you and nervous too.
also maybe surprise him. guys like surprises.
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okay well the best thing to do is email him saying tht you are sorta shy because if you don't he will soon think your avoiding him an will like ignore you or not act the same way around as when he liked you.
then wait for his responce an try to get comfortable around him i mean you like him
he likes you (i know this because he actually wanted to meet you somewhere) and when you talk to him in person talk to him casually as if you were emailing him
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I think that you should go with a friend, and go casually into the place where he works and be like, oh I forogt you worked here. And talk abit, and see if he wants to hang with you and your friend after work, and then your friend can get "sick" and leave, and then you can just hang with im a bit.
You should plan a lot of different things to say before you go, and that way if there is one of those awkward silences where no one has any idea what to say, you can throw in one of those planned topics.
No matter how many times you think this over in your mind, it is never going to turn out the same way, so don't stress over it too much.
Don't try and move too fast, just casually flirt and stuff, and then maybe he will get the picture. If he doenst, then keep trying to build up the confidence to ask him out on a date. But for the first little while, I think that you should just try to keep it simple untill you know how he feels. Good luck with your friend. Hope I helped, If you have anymore questions, feel free to ask. Lots of love,
Angie91
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The best way that I've found to overcome shyness is to go in without expectations. Treat him as you would treat any other friend! Casually greet him as you would normally; you're giving yourself a mental complex :-) If he works in a store at the mall then there's your outlet. People normally shop at a mall, right? Just go in to do some shopping! Then casually address him in random conversation or just get him to "help you with some merchandise" in the store. Shyness doesn't have to be a fault, if you manipulate it then it can be very endearing to men.
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