Greetings people! Name's Greg, I'm 27 years old and a very proud member of the United States AirForce. I am currently stationed at Peterson AFB here in Colorado Springs, CO. but originally from Mississippi. I can offer fantastic advice on most any subject, but I'm particularly good with relationships (in any capacity), cooking, and social settings. Any questions are welcomed!
E-mail: greg.yarbrough@peterson.af.mil
Gender: Male
Location: Colorado Springs, CO
Occupation: Airfield Management, United States Airforce
Age: 27
Member Since: December 12, 2006
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I have a great job & my supervisor is amazingly nice. She has a younger brother who also works in our store (he's 19, i'm 18) and me and him have become close. He recently told me he wants to be more than friends and I was excited. My supervisor is actually supportive about all of this. The thing is, I'm scared of what would happen if we broke up and weren't on good terms. I don't want to jeopardize my job and my supervisors opinion of me but I really like this guy. (link)
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27/M here. Generally it's not a good idea to date within your job, and 9 times out of 10 I would advise against it. Having said that, however, I fell victim to your situation when I was a sophomore in college, and the end result was bearable but a little awkward. If you two are into each other, and your supervisor has no problems, then it may be okay but that's up to your discretion. Should you two break up while you still work together, come to a mutual understanding and maintain a professional working persona so there won't be any tension in your work environment. As for your supervisor, be careful. It's true that you can't be fired for personal indifference, but they'll be prompted to find other ways to give you the boot legally. Date the guy and be happy, but deal with a possible break-up professionally, not personally. Take care!
Flannl_bxrs
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I am almost positive that one of my professors is changing our answers on tests so that we get better grades. Let me start from the beginning....
After the class took the midterm exam, I was looking over my answers and I noticed that some of the writing was kind of funny. I thought, geez I must have been really tired when I took this test, and I let it go. Then, some of the other people in the class started whispering about it. Apparently someone had changed some of our answers to the correct answers before the tests had been graded! We all assumed that a student aid or graduate student had done it.
What's the problem then you might ask. I got a better grade so I shouldn't complain, right? Well, I try my best to be a good person and the fact that that had happened made me feel sooo guilty. It stressed me out to no end. I don't need to get a great grade in the class. With the corrections my score had been boosed from about a 70 to a 90. I didn't need the extra points. All I have to do is pass the course.
I didn't want to be the tattle tale and ruin everyone's day by possibly making the entire class take the midterm over again, but I couldn't deal with the dishonesty I was feeling. Later in that day I went to talk to the professor about what had happened. I liked her and I thought that telling her was the right thing to do. She seemed very understanding and told me to just keep working hard and that she would take care of it. I felt so good after I did it and knew that it had been the right choice. Well, nothing was done about it and I began to wonder.
We took another test and when I was handed my test back I got a "Great job!". When I noticed that the same thing had happened I almost cried. Nobody else in the class seems to mind, but it is tearing me apart. Now everyone is almost positive that it is the professor that is doing it. It's almost the end of the semester and I worry now that we'll all have to take the whole course over again. I can't afford to do that! I have just enough time to fit all the classes in that I need to graduate.
I think I know the reason why she does it (if she does). She isn't allowed to make her own tests or assignments for us. It has to be the same for everyone that is taking the class. The head of her department makes everything and she is often confused on what to teach us and what to tell us to study. I think that this is terrible and that a professor should be able to teach the way they want. Boosting our grades like she does (or allowing it to happen) is her way of giving us a curve.
It makes sense and it seems like a good thing, but if it's supposed to be the same for everyone taking the class, then my class is getting a very unfair advantage! Yeah, there needs to be some change, but it should be done in an honest way! There are so many better ways to have handled that. I believe that the professor is retiring after this semester so I don't think it would affect much in her life if she was found out.
Should I tell? I think I probably will anyway. I don't want to have to live with this for the rest of my life. If I do, who should I go through? The head of the department or someone higher in the college? She doesn't let us keep the tests and I have a feeling that if she were being investigaed for this that they would mysteriously go missing. With no proof, can anything really be done?
I give a lot of advice, but now I need some myself. I have no idea how I would answer this question if it were asked by someone else. Am I doing the right thing? I doubt anyone has gone through something similar to this and can offer an experience based answer. I shouldn't have to deal with this, I'm a student! I should be the one that's cheating if anybody! HELP!!
~sizzlinmandolin, (20/f) (link)
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Dear sizzlinmandolin,
May I give you congrats on your honesty, it's very refreshing. I'll be straight hun, I don't quite know how to respond to this but I'll try and help as much as possible. Morality issues within a college environment need to be elevated up the hierarchy to the appropriate personnel, and this is a very touchy subject because it deals with real people's (the students) futures. I'm 27, graduated college and been in the real world, and I've seen people's careers and lives been destroyed by situations such as this. If it were me, I would keep quiet and let the woman retire in peace. However because it's affecting you emotionally, I think you should confront your professor once more, but be more stern and pro-active. Don't elevate this up the chain just yet; force an answer out of her, albeit very professionally and politely, and maybe warn her that you're willing to take this up the heirarchy if necessary. Best of luck to you.
Flannl_bxrs
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I'm a 28/f.I used to always tell my ex that I never wanted to go back to school. This is mainly due to low self esteem as a direct cause from his abusive behavior. I do have a job just not a high paying one. Well we broke up about 6 months ago because he was being a complete jerk. This last couple of months I've been working on my self esteem and I'm even going back to school to be a personal trainer! I have not seen or talked to my ex in all this time. Well recently one of my ex's friends paid me a visit. He was asking all sorts of questions like how the job was going. I told him entuisiastically I was going to school to be a personal trainer and he got this shocked; almost worried look on his face. I have no idea why- but I wouldnt be suprised if my ex is getting him to get info on me. What do you guys think? And why would he look worried? (link)
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27/M here (I'm gonna start opening with my age since there are so many teenagers here). I'm no psychologist, but I have seen a trend in men our age that links with abusive behavior being that some men use abuse to belittle and subordinate women to make themselves feel better and in control of the relationship. Now that you two aren't together anymore (and good for you!) he's probably sending his henchmen out to check on you to make sure that you're not progressing with your life and he's still in a "better place" than you are. The worried look from his friend, I would imagine, comes from the fact that you're taking control of your life, getting into school and progressing well. That's certainly not something an abusive ex wants to hear.
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My fiance just received his orders and he will be heading for Iraq in early 2007.
I know it's probably nothing compared to what he's feeling, but I'm terrified. I've remained composed over the phone with him (he is currently stationed overseas) and tried to make him think that I'm okay and cheer him on. Make him feel like he'll be okay and he'll come back home to me just fine.
I absolutely cannot tell him how I'm really feeling inside. I can't cry to him because I don't want to worry him any more than he is already.
I've tried to talk to friends but no one understands. They all tell me "Well you knew it would happen!" Knowing it will happen doesn't make it any easier to take when it does.
I'm a nervous wreck. I cry all the time. And I don't know what to do. I don't know how to cope and he isn't even there yet!
I'd just really like a friend who understands. Does anyone know of an online support group for this kind of thing? Or has anyone here gone through it who could offer some encouraging words?
Thanks (link)
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I can personally relate to your predicament, and I'll be happy to give you ANY further support beyond just what I'm about to say here. I am active duty military (AirForce) myself, and I'm being deployed to Iraq in May '07 as well. I won't feed you the insensitive "You knew it was going to happen" remark because nobody fully understands the gravity of being deployed unless you have been or about to be. Your best support, and I know you're not considered a dependent because you're not married, is to talk with his First Sergeant or a Chaplain. It's entirely confidential and they are actually very, very helpful. By the time one becomes a First Sergeant or a Chaplain (Chaplains are typically captains or above) they've already been deployed several times, so they can relate as well. I may be in a different branch than your fiance, but it's the same among all military. Again, if you need anything else or just somebody neutral to talk to, you get in touch with me.
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OK, my question is simply this: How do you get a guy outta your head? Now, believe it or not, I am 30 years old! I have a huge crush on this guy that I possibly can't have, but, he is all I think about constantly. How do ya just get over it & stop liking someone? Thanks. (link)
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I would have to reinforce BitsandPieces' fantastic answer; try and occupy your thoughts and time with something else. I, like Bits, am closer to your age (27) so I can completely relate and empathize with your predicament. And who's to say that you can't have this guy in the first place? Women tend to have a built-in fallicy that some men are out of their league, so to speak. The truth is, most of us want the "everyday girl" who's down to earth and well...normal! I can't stress enough, men give bonus points to women who aren't afraid to approach us, who knows, the flattery may impress him and you can work from there! Take it from me, courage is a very large turn-on...not to mention it saves us the trouble :)
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f/21. OK, so I have this friend (m/34) I met on a forum. He was fun and all in the beginning, so we started IMing. What started to bug me about him is that he started posting really stupid things on the forum. There is this girl there that he likes, and they were IMing too, and decided to meet each other. She wasn't really impressed with him, but she was very polite, and even on the forum she said that last Friday she had a great company. Of course, that was meant only for him to understand (OK, I understood too because he told me that they met.) But he also told me that she was not talkative and she looked bored. And later when he called her she kept telling him how busy she is, she can't IM him, she can't meet him and so on. You get the picture. Now he started posting sexual innuendos about the two of them on Friday, and now everyone knows that they met! I think she'll be pissed off, and she has right too! I mean, why post such stuff if you already think that she was disappointed by your appearance?! Oh yes, and he's not provoking her or something, he actually wants her to like him. He told me he hopes things will work out for them eventually! Does he think his comments are funny?! And another problem is that he makes himself look really unattractive, he's always moaning about what a loser he is, how long it's been since he was in a relationship, he posts some really pathetic comments (worse than you would expect from a girl!) and so on. I can't break contact with him because he is so depressed because of this girl's reaction, and he was totally broken when another e-friend he had stopped talking to him. But his behavior really annoys me so much that I would gladly never talk to him again! (And his IMs aren't any better, he actually uses babytalk?!!! I mean, come on!)I'd really like to stay on that forum, but every time I'm there he IMs me, it's so frustrating! What should I do?
Sorry I made you read my rant, but at least that gave you a picture how pissed off I am! (link)
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You poor girl! Given the fact that he's 34 years old and behaving like he is doesn't speak so well of him as a person. I would imagine he's trying to play the "pity card" with his comments and saying that he's a loser and whatknot, so you can take one of two avenues here: either completely ignore him and he'll eventually lose interest, or tell him straight up that his comments are unappreciated and immature. This guy needs to get his life together, and it's not your problem. Is there any way you can block him on your IM? These are my suggestions if you just want to completely get rid of the guy. Good luck to you!
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me and my boyfriend have been together for a little over a year and sex is starting to get old. we dont really have any fore play at all anymore. just a few kisses and then straight to sex and then like 5 minutes later he ejaculates and goodnight. are there any new things we could try to spice things up or just to get his attention. btw, i already talked to him about it and he agreed that we need to figure out new stuff. 23/f. thanks (link)
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This is a question better suited for somebody who is a good deal more experienced in this area than a teenager (no offense Nathan). Foreplay is extremely important, so try to incorporate that back into your relationship with your boyfriend. Try different sexual positions; there are many that reduce the sensation for males, therefor making it last longer than just a lousy 5 minutes. For instance doggy-style is one such position. The two of you should look up different positions on the internet together, or even a self-help book at a bookstore could work for you. Also, be spontaneous. Nothing excites a guy more than a random "jumping" lol.
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I listen to a lot of Tool, A Perfect Circle, The Smashing Pumpkins, etc. Anyone know any similar bands I should give a try? (link)
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Yup, try Stonesour out. They have a very cool new single "Looking Through the Glass" out now, and on the previous album "Bother" was their big hit. These are the mainstream songs that everybody knows, but the rest of their stuff is great, too. Also give Hurt a try, they're a relatively new band with some good stuff. I just saw Tool in concert a few weeks ago here in Colorado...fantastic show!
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what does it me when someone says "hes whipped"
thanks (link)
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Dear whipped,
What this means is he's helpless or under his girlfriend's control. This is actually the G-rated term, but the typical saying is a good deal more graphic, and pardon my language: p***y (female anatomy) whipped. In other words the case may be that he has had sex with whomever has him "whipped" and now she's in control of the relationship.
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Hello
My daughter needs to get surgery
She only has a 50% chance of surving the surgery
My husbands uncle is a surgeon and offered to perform the surgery
I am having second thoughts because if my daughter does not make it through the surgery i dont want my uncle - in - law to feel the blame for her death
I could have the surgery performed at a hospital 4 hours away
My question is . Do I let my uncle - in - law perform a life threating surgery on my daughter or have someone not related to me perform the surgery? (link)
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Generally I find that having relatives perform such a critical surgery is not a very good idea. The reason being is because emotions will inevitably get in the way and cloud his judgement. As I'm sure your uncle-in-law is very capable of performing the surgery himself, I'd advise to have the other hospital you mentioned take it in their hands. I speak from experience on this matter because a friend from college had surgery done on his nasal cavity, and his dad is a surgeon but wouldn't perform on his own son for this very reason. You and your daughter have my thoughts and prayers, I wish the best of luck to you both. Keep me updated with the results.
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15/f
Is there any way to make me look more feminme?
I have issues with my appearance. I want to look like a GIRL.
I want to feel confident. But I don't think I look like a girl.. Every other girl looks beautiful. To me, I'm not a girl but I'm not even a boy. I have no gender in my eyes?
People have said that short hair fits me perfectly but I don't think my face.. would work with it. I have a boyish features yeah?
Pictures--
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I'm growing out my hair.
I just want a new look but I don't know what to do.
Nobody calls me ugly or that I look like a boy (they did before- due to uberrrr short hair)
It's just me.. (link)
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Girl, I see nothing boyish about you! You have a very beautiful face, good complexion and full lips, and the comment made by tinkerbell_7141 about your eyes is absolutely true. I'm a guy so I know nothing of make-up or fashion, but I do know natural beauty. I do like the first picture with your shorter hair, it frames your face really well. I'm not really offering any advice, but I am giving you a strong compliment!
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I'm a guy and I just turned 18. I'm basically afraid of getting drafted, and so are my parents. They said they would do anything to get me out of it if I ever did get drafted, like move me to a different country or make me handicapped or something.
I just want to know how likely it is for a draft to happen. (link)
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Worry not my friend, the chances of the draft coming back are HIGHLY unlikely. I am a member of the U.S. military (AirForce) and the truth is that there are going to be military cut-backs nationwide, more specifically over 40,000 military members will be forced to separate by 2009. Essentially, if more and more of us are losing our jobs due to the fact that there are too many of us, there's really no need to innitiate another draft. So don't go about moving to Canada or breaking your legs or cutting a finger off just yet! Happy birthday!
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Well, what things to boys like, like just playin around.. but not antyhign to do with giong in their pants or antying. .For example things on the line of kissin their neck and lickin their stomach.. any other things that they really like without going inside their pants? =] (link)
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Guys (like me, at least) like various different things that aren't necessarily sexual, such as nibbling the ears, kissing the neck, and simply being affectionate in general. I really enjoy just being held by a woman. Be aware though that there are some guys who aren't that affectionate, and there's really not much you can do to change that. Look up "errogenous zones" on the internet to find different pressure points and external stimulation that's not directly related to sex, I'm sure you'll find what you're looking for that way.
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14/F
okay, so, i'll be blunt. i want a boyfriend....no, wait, scratch that, i NEED a boyfriend. There are many guys i'm interested in my school, but they don't seem to be interested in me. I don't know what to do. I'm shy, short (link)
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Aww, you're more than welcome! I'm very happy that I can help you! Thank you for the "your advice is amazing" comment you left me, that really makes me feel good. If you ever need ANY more advice or just need to talk for whatever reason, I'm here for ya! I try to make myself available for anybody who needs an ear. Take care hun!
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guys what pshysical features do u like in a girl... give example of types ionno like straight hair or curly hair.... blond or brunett... ionno eye color body type.. stuff like that
and also what qualities do u like in a girl like personality
thanks a bunch (link)
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It's cliche, but beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You can't put a label on physical attraction, but it's a common misconception that the first thing we look at are breasts and/or butts. Entirely not true (for the most part). Eyes are important and believe it or not, hands. The condition of a woman's hands is a sure sign of if they take care of themselves. As for personality: fantastic sense of humor, loyalty, intelligence, and above all, honesty are key.
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ok...so i know what physicly turns guys on about a girl...but theres not much i can do about that. In a personality, what is it that guys look for. Only in a personality, Because i know the physical stuff.
Thanks!
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Personally, I am attracted to women who have an incredible sense of humor and quick wits. If a woman can make me laugh then that's the biggest turn-on, even above physical attractiveness. Secondly, being decisive is very important. If I ask "Where would you like to go out to eat tonight?" don't reply with "I don't know, where would you like to go?" Loyalty is very important as well. Finally, and most importantly, is honesty. If a woman wants to blow off a date with me to have a girl's night, tell me just that. Don't say "I have to work late" or some other lame excuse. Men are much more appreciative and forgiving to women (and I'm sure vice-versa) who are honest.
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I'm 13/f. But my boyfriend was 16.
1. My step father had started sayig saying That if me and him had sex then that would be statitory rape, consensual or not.
Is it possible for him to get into trouble for having sex with me?
2. My parents put a restraing order against him. Once I'm not a minor anymore is it possible for that restraining order to count like would he get in trouble for being with me again?
--Sid (link)
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It depends on what state you're in and in accordance with state law. Your boyfriend, being 16, can be considered "of age" but you being 13 certainly falls under statutory rape. Furthermore, and I'm not trying to be critical, you should reconsider sex at your age. It's an emotional and oftentimes traumatic experience, especially when you're so young. Women aren't able to legally consent until the age of 16 in most states, anyway. Take care of yourself :-)
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Has anyone ever had a Pita Bread Sandwich? Or alteast knows what goes in it? If you know, it'd be a whole lot of help. thanks. (link)
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Pita bread is a typical Greek cuisine, so try things like lamb, feta cheese, olives, chicken, eggplant and a homemade Greek vinaigrete. Enjoy!
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I stopped playing volleyball a year ago. I still work out when I'm not working. I notice I am gaining love handles and a little bit of a gut. What are some easy exercises I can do at home that can reduce these? Thank you =] (link)
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This is the best advice I can give you on this matter. I am a member of the US military, and the tecniques we use in bootcamp are extremely effective and very simple. Basic sit-ups are severely underrated. In 6 weeks of bootcamp my waist dropped from a 36 to a 31 just by doing as many sit-ups you can in one-minute intervals. As for love handles, nothing helps get rid of those faster than running. I know running sucks and nobody wants to do it, but trust me it works.
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15/f
K, well I've liked this guy named Jeremy for about a year and a half now. We are really good friends, but nothing happened between us at all for about a year because he had a girlfriend. I noticed a change right away in our relationship once he broke up with his girlfriend. He flirted with me a lot more, and just gave me more attention.
Anyways, at the beginning of the year, I told him I liked him and he told me he liked me back and thought I was cute. Well, that same weekend he went and made out with 2 girls. Ever since then, he's been known as this big partier. I have gone to a couple of parties with him, and I know that he just wasn't in the mindset for a serious relationship.
Then, as we got even closer in the last few weeks, he told me that he was ready for a gf and that he wanted to hook up with me in my hot tub this weekend. Now, I've always imagined making out with him so of course I was all ready to say yes.
But now, I wonder ... he might just be leading me on again, and telling me he wants a relationship so that I am more willing to fool around with him. I don't want to just be his make out buddy. So -- what do I do? Do I risk being used and just have fun this weekend, or do I tell him that's not such a good idea? (link)
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Guys that age can be ambiguous about how they approach relationships. They are either really loyal and serious or they are prone to cheat and be players. I know, I've been there! Eh, actually we're like that at any age, but no matter. Given what I know of his history with women from what you've said, the fact that he told you he's into you and then hooks up with two other girls and THEN comes back to you doesn't speak very highly of his intentions. It's your call on how you want to deal with this, but be very careful and don't expect much. Take care of yourself first.
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