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Should I or Shouldn't I
15/f
okay well i know this guy let's call him "Dan". And we've made out and done some things but we weren't even in a real relationship and i told him that i wanted to be in one and that i wouldn't go any farther until we were in one. He tells me he wants to be friends with benifites and i'm all like no because i just can't stand those relationships. It's either you're with me or not. Then he tells "forget you then." And so i'm all like what ever i can find a better guy who'll respect me. Then when i was walking home he waited for me. The moment he saw me he walked towards me and was all like "sup?" I roll my eyes and walked past him like what ever. He was all like "you're just gonna walk away form me like that?" And i was all like yea.Then i just had to ask "why would you lie to me." because he said he'd never hurt me.The n he played stupid like what do you mean? and he asked if he could walk me home and i said i guess. but i was still mad. we talked and he said that he wasn't ready another girlfriend. So i'm all like ok that means we're not going to be anything. Then we went back to his house to talk somemore and he was all like we can kick it in the bathroom. and i'm all like wat? But we did and he said that his ex and him faught too much so he doesn't want commitment right now. Then i told him if we were in a F/B relationship i'm gonna get hurt again because he'll probably cheat on me. Then he tells me he swears he wouldn't and he hasn't ever since he's met me but i don't know if i can trust him.
So Please Help i don't know what to do, if i should drop him or stay with him.
Thanks!
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hey i know it might be hard ofr you but i think you should just drop him i dont think you deserve a guys that would just treat you the way he wants you to be treated. yeha he wants to be your friend with benifits and all but me might just want one thing and i sure u might know wat im talking about so my thing is i tyhin you should just drop him ok good luck :)
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This is coming from a guy mind you...
Like the girl before said, drop his ass in an instant. being a guy, i know what hes aiming for, and i know that you will only end up being hurt by him. if you become friends with benefits with him, then thats all you will EVER be to him, someone to mess around with. just dont do it, itll be bad for you in the long run.
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OMG! you did such a good thing! standing up to him like that! im so proud of you! ANYWAYS....... if he isn't for a relationship and he just wants F/B , dont give in! your doing the right thing you really are! dont give into temptation whatever you do DONT GIVE INTO TEMPTATION IF HE'S NOT READY FOR A RELATIONSHIP THEN HE ISN'T READY FOR FOOLING AROUND EITHER! HE JUST NEEDS TIME TO HIMSELF! THE BREAK UP ISN'T THAT HEARTBREAKING FOR HIM OBVIOUSLY IF HE'S LOOKING TO MAKE OUT!
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Well I think that you should go with your first instinct. If you don't think that f/b is a good idea, then it probably isnt. You need to trust your heart, and you are right. There are probably a billion guys out there who would like to go out with you for who you are. If he can't commit, then that shows a lot about him. And I don't think you should cave so easily. You were doing so well telling him that if he wasnt going to commit, then he wasnt going to get anything from you. Those relationships work for some, but for most, they end up turning out badly. It's probably best if you try to find someone who actually wants a girlfriend. And if you don't find someone, then let him do whatever he needs to too commit, and then come and date you. It's good to have standards, and you shouldn't lower them for a guy!
Good luck, and I hope I helped, if you have any other questions feel free to ask.
lots of love,
Angie91
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Ive been in that kind of relationship dont do it because technically its not cheating on you because right now you are a booty call and i think you and "dan" should be friends for a while and maybe then you can become more than tht
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I would drop his ass in an instant.
If he's not ready for commitment, I don't think he has the right to your benefits, if commitment is what you want.
If you weren't looking for commitment either, that would be one thing, but you seem to want a boyfriend. Don't settle for less.
Even if he suddenly decides he is ready for a relationship, I'd be weary about being intimate with him early on. It doesn't exactly sound like he's concerned with you so much as he is with his own sexual desires.
But ultimately, it's up to you. If you can live with a friends with benefits relationship and be HAPPY, then it's your decision to make.
Just don't settle. You're better than that.
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