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Q: i smoked weed for the second time last night, and at first it kind of scared me and then i finally calmed down. it was apparently really really strong, and i took at least 5 big hits.

i kept me all weirded out for a while, but then i got sick and threw up all over the place.

could someone tell me what might have been wrong? i doubt im supposed to throw up on weed. -.-''

thanks.

There is a really simple answer to this that doesn't have anything at all as to whether or not "your body did not like/want the drug." Marijuana is simply put, one of the safest drugs out there. The reason you threw up could be one of two things, either you ate/drank something before smoking that did not "sit" well with the drug (i have had this before after eating sushi, not such a good feeling), or you simply over-smoked. Since this is only your second time smoking marijuana (and i am also assuming that you do not smoke cigarettes, correct me if i am wrong) you very simply ingested too much THC, and had an adverse reaction to it. If this was a very potent strain, then even 5 hits could have been enough to put an inexperienced smoker over the edge. As you continue to smoke (if you choose to) you will get a better handle on how it feels to be high, and how much you can handle. Next time take it slow, find out how potent the strain of weed is beforehand, and adjust your smoking habits accordingly. Please do not hesitate to message me if you have ANY further questions, I am here to help!

Q: I'm Vice President of a club at school where we raise money for charities and become more "wordly". I would like to get "snail mail" pen pals for all the members in this club. Does anybody know how?

Ill just drop some links here for you...

http://lmgtfy.com/?q=Pen+Pal+Service

and now that Ive shown you how to do this for yourself...here are some actual results.

http://www.pen-pal.com/

and if you want to get in touch with the shadier sort of people...
http://www.writeaprisoner.com/

im sure you can find more if you use the first link.

Q: so for 4/20 im hanging out with some friends
basically im not popular but i guess i sorta am i dunno how to explain it.
anyways for 420 me and 3 of my friends are hanging out with a few reaaaaaaaally popular guys which is pretty nice.
i dont want to do drugs becasue thats gross, but maybe drink a little. but i dont wanna get drunk. so i need advice for how to act drunk
and since ive never been drunk before, what if my mom calls i probabaly wouldnt pick up but like if you were drunk you wouldnt be able to answer normlally right?
thanks!

just a little side note for the person WAAAAY below...4/20 is also pretty much a stoners BIGGEST holiday...and the anniversary of the columbine shootings.

Q: so i like to write poetry, but im not sure if im any good.
would someone read this and tell me if its okay? and i want an honest answer, im not asking because im insecure, but because i really dont know.

A group of three friends is always a risk
because someone becomes the third wheel
and though I know that this is happening,
it almost seems surreal.
it can be really hard to hurt me,
but he was my Achilles’ heel.
All I want is to numb myself,
but I cant help but to feel.

I didn’t know you loved him
but, well, now I do.
and I didn’t think he liked you
but I guess it’s true
you’ve been there for me, always
but I love him, and you.
so although I'm really jealous,
I’m happy for you, too.

I never said I loved him
but I guess I was confused.
And I know us three were great
But pairs always come in two’s.
Life would be fine if we both got him
but I know he had to choose
so though I wish I could have won
I’d hate to see you lose.

twas ok, i kno u could do better though. If you want my help then just ask. Go here (www.zenhex.com) its a poetry site. make your own profile and post poetry away...my screenname on there is BMXRider if you have any questions...or u can get me on here...good luck

Q: 15/f

okay well i know this guy let's call him "Dan". And we've made out and done some things but we weren't even in a real relationship and i told him that i wanted to be in one and that i wouldn't go any farther until we were in one. He tells me he wants to be friends with benifites and i'm all like no because i just can't stand those relationships. It's either you're with me or not. Then he tells "forget you then." And so i'm all like what ever i can find a better guy who'll respect me. Then when i was walking home he waited for me. The moment he saw me he walked towards me and was all like "sup?" I roll my eyes and walked past him like what ever. He was all like "you're just gonna walk away form me like that?" And i was all like yea.Then i just had to ask "why would you lie to me." because he said he'd never hurt me.The n he played stupid like what do you mean? and he asked if he could walk me home and i said i guess. but i was still mad. we talked and he said that he wasn't ready another girlfriend. So i'm all like ok that means we're not going to be anything. Then we went back to his house to talk somemore and he was all like we can kick it in the bathroom. and i'm all like wat? But we did and he said that his ex and him faught too much so he doesn't want commitment right now. Then i told him if we were in a F/B relationship i'm gonna get hurt again because he'll probably cheat on me. Then he tells me he swears he wouldn't and he hasn't ever since he's met me but i don't know if i can trust him.

So Please Help i don't know what to do, if i should drop him or stay with him.

Thanks!

This is coming from a guy mind you...
Like the girl before said, drop his ass in an instant. being a guy, i know what hes aiming for, and i know that you will only end up being hurt by him. if you become friends with benefits with him, then thats all you will EVER be to him, someone to mess around with. just dont do it, itll be bad for you in the long run.

Q: what does opiate of the masses mean?

An opiate is a sedative, like opium for instance. therefore an opiate of the masses is something that sedates the masses...did you hear that out of a song or something?

Q: Okay so I have a new laptop and I was wondering if there is anyway I can transfer(copy) all the songs on my ipod onto my laptop(I know Itunes doesnt allow this, so I wanted to know if there is any other possible way to get the songs off the Ipod)?

If your computer is a pc, then you should look for windows media player (the icon should be a play button with green, yellow, red, and blue sections around it) open that up and select rip from device(what the actual buttons for it are may change depending on what version you have), once youve done that you should have the songs on your computer, now just use itunes to scan your computer for the music. by the way you can also put music ONTO the ipod from windows media player by dragging the music and dropping it onto the device (ipod)

Q: im not sure weather or not to shave below .. i know ill be doing something soon becuase im kidna getting close to this boy and everytime we see each other we make out but it never got any further. but i think hes going to be going down or something and i wanna be ready .. and i dont know if i should shave all of it off.. help please ... rating

this is coming from a guy so yeah, a different perspective i think...

so yeah, personally, i prefer when its completely shaven. not because it increases my enjoyment or anything, but simply because it gives easier access, and i can make my girl happier, or make her feel better. so yeah, thats just my opinion though, but like the others said, whatever your comfortable with, do that.

Q: People make fun of me and my friends and call us "emo" just because we wear black.
They say stuff like hey emo go run home to your mommy! Its so annoying! What do I do?

just ignore em. honestly, i had the same problem not too long ago. im a christian by the way. and yeah, i go to a private christian school, and it started getting bad when i had the school actually threatening to kick me out unless i stopped wearing all black, and the schools priest actually told me that i was going to hell unless i came back to god (even though im a devout christian, its just that i wear all black all the time). what eventually happened was that i told all the kids making fun of me to back off or something bad would happen, i told the school that it was my choice which color uniform i would like to wear, and that they have no say in it as long as i wear the uniform (yes we have a unirorm), and the priest thing i kind of just let go...i would definitely NOT advise doing this...for one, even though i have all my friends by my side, the kids that are scared of me now make life a living hell (imagine being prodded into a fight every other day), and the school has basically become biased against me with the exception of a few trusting teachers...the priest still hasnt let up...so what i DO advise, is just be confident that what you do is YOU, as long as you are confident in yourself, things will eventually quiet down.

Q: i leaving for LA tomorrow. i dont wanna be a totall idiot so some fashion tips would be helpful! im 16. and uh... are short skirts still like cute??? like in LA to wear to the beach and stuff??? and i really want a vacation romance. lol so any tips there? i just want to have a good time

yeah...this opinions coming from a guy so yeah...just so you know... anyways, yeah, short skirts are still in style, lots of people wear em all the time, in fact its kind of a popular thing to wear, especially now that its summer. and with the beach, from what ive seen, you could wear a skirt with the bikini or whatever under it, thats also something lots of people do...so how long are you gonna be in la? i live just south of LA in palmdale...gonna be anywhere near there? so yeah, with the vacation romance...just be yourself, dont be shy, but dont be too stuck up...just be you and you should be fine. so yeah, let me know how everthing goes, how you like la, stuff like that...maybe if your gonna be anywhere near where i live and im not working we could hang out? well, good luck with everything...hope i helped...

Q: be prepared, its a bit long.

my boyfriend have been going out for about 5 months. he's amazing. it was actually one of those best friends for life, turned love, things er whatever. but the thing is: he has jealousy issues like no other. he always tells me that guys are flirting with me, and he doesn't like it. i admit, i do flirt with guys, but its my nature. i grew up with guys. and i dont see flirting like most people do. i know its bad, but i cant seem to get it through my boyfriend's head that i only like him. and not anyone else. i try to explain i dont mean to flirt. but he just says 'okay' in that sarcastic, i know he's lying sort of way. and to top it all off. he 'flirts' with other girls too. if he wants to say that i do. but i know he doesnt mean it.

[bt the way, "flirting" in the sense. would be me pushing a guy. or pretending to throw him in the water. or the definition of childish flirting. i'm not even talking about like, kissing other guys or anything]

..and i definitly don't want to screw things up with the one guy that i dont have any problems with [well, besdies this].

so, im asking.
could anyone give advice on how i could possibly.
try to stop "flirting" with people.
or how to get it through his head, that i dont mean to.
because i think he only partially believes me.

Let him know that hes special, and that hes something set apart from all those other guys...that doesnt mean you have to ignore all other guys, just that, say, when your kidding around with other guys and your bf shows up, or after your done talking to the other guys, go over and kiss him, or cuddle, or tell him you love him or whatever you think will let him know that even though you know other guys, that he is YOUR guy, and that hes the only one. that hes special to you. introduce him to people as your boyfriend. dont be scared to kiss him in front of your friends (guys or not). just constantly remind him that he is something special to you, and that he has nothing to be jealous of the other guys about.

Q: is it okay to swim in a pool with contacts in? or will the chlorine mess them up?

oh and if it matters...i wear O2 Optix

you should be fine as long as your not opening your eyes underwater. as a rule think of it as not the BEST thing to do, but you can do it without hurting anything.

Q: OK, well, I am in soccer, but the problem is like 5 minutes after we start I get tired because I start so fast. Well since it's off-season where I play, is there a way to get me in shape before I start playing again, so I dont run out of breath right away? Thank you so much if you could answer this!

i used to have the same problem when i was around 10, so i started working on it and now i have a full ride scholarship for soccer to one of the biggest universities in kansas. heres what i did...

1. start with a couple hundred sit-ups in the morning when you wake up. (im up to 560 a morning but you dont have to do that many)

2. after the sit-ups and a quick snack, go out and run a couple miles. the average miles each position runs in a game should be your goal.
defender - 5 miles
midback - 7 miles
striker (forward) - 3 miles(1 of those should be sprinting, not all together, but spread out periodically)

3. i eat pretty healthy, but thats not really a necessity. as long as you make sure to stay in shape, what you eat doesnt really matter (to me at least)

4. make concious decisions that dont make you lazy, for example: when you go to the mall, restaurant, grocery store, or whatever, instead of parking real close, park out where you have to walk a little to get in just THAT much excercise

5. keep yourself hydrated. i know it gets repeated a lot, and it gets a bit annoying and tiresome of hearing, but drink a lot of water. itll keep you hydrated so your body will have energy to do everything. if you dont like water, then try propel (made by the gatorade company), or gatorade itself. those have a taste to them which you might like (i LOVE propel myself)

6. run another mile or two when you get back home at least 2 hours before you sleep. stretch when your done to let your body relax and keep from cramping up

7. 200 more situps (what i do). you should start with a lot less, but however many you do, make it less than you do in the morning, and MAKE SURE TO KEEP HYDRATED and STRETCH. if you dont drink water and stretch, youll cram pup, or feel uncomfortable and you wont get a good night sleep.

hope i helped a little.

Q: My BFFL and I have been BFFL for almost 2years now. We NEVER fight which is great, so there hasn't been any problems w/ fighting but Now there is. She has another BFFL.First, we hated each other then we liked each other and now he has a g/f that he LOVES & she loves him and now we extrememly dislike each other, again. I'm at my dad's now for two weeks and I try to talk to her but shes always "busy" or with him, so she says she can't call & he's even before me on her myspace! I'm losing her! =[ HELP

its not that your losing her, its that she found a boyfriend that she really loves. thats the way things usually go, when you find someone you love, that person becomes the most prominent person in your life. your not losing her, she just has to split her time between you and him now, and shes gonna lean towards spending more time with him bcuz hes her boyfriend. and the whole myspace thing...that basically means nothing...if your getting mad over what ORDER your in on her myspace...then your WAY over-thinking things.

Q: ok i plan to do the special k plan thing

1.Does it work?
2.exactaly how do you do it?
3.will i really lose 6 puunds if i do it right?

and if i do 50 crunches in the morning and at night everyday when will i see results?

Ive never had any experience with the special K plan, but with the crunches, doing them at night might not be the best thing for you. when you excercise, then go to sleep, your body has no time to get back the energy you just used. your abs will tighten, and might even cramp when you try to sleep. id say thatthe best way to go with the crunches is to do most of them in the morning when you wake up, and only do a few at night, one hour before you sleep. and remember to ALWAYS drink water before and after you excercise. Sport drinks have caffine in them which will keep you awake and you wont get as good of a sleep as you usually might. hope i might have helped.

Q: Is god real im confused

wow...thats a lot of answers that say basically the same thing...oh well, hope mine differs...

basically, the answer to your question lies within yourself...i know, i know, i dont mean to sound all yoda-like, but thats just how it is. whatever you feel most comfortable saying, doing, and believing, is your answer. then when you decide whether god is real or not, theres the whole thing about what he/shes LIKE. with so many different religions out there, you have a pretty big choice. so, your belief in god (or lack thereof) all depends on what you feel most comfortable with.

by the way, an interesting fact that fits with this is that if you have seven people other than yourself that believe the same thing as you, you can legally start your own religion, so if none of the other religions fit what you believe, make your own!

Q: 14/f. sorry if this is realllyy long lol, ill try to keep it short.

ok so first off. i'm REALLY shy. like in school, everyone [well not everyone but some people who are really immature] tease me about "never talking" and this really pisses me off because just because i'm shy, quiet and well-behaved in school doesn't mean i never talk. infact at home and with my friends i'm so loud and talkative that they can't shut me up. =D but being shy is a huge problem for me that i can't overcome. anyone that i'm not really close to, i can hardly speak to. yeah if they say something to me i'll answer, but it's not like i'll go out of my way to ask them a question. and in school its the same way. so i'm gonna be a freshman. and like high school=new people. how can i overcome my shyness and open up to them so i can get more friends? because as of right now i have 2 best friends who i've know forever and i can totally be my true self around them, love em to death and can tell them anything. i also have a few other friends, not as close but i can still talk/hang out with them. i dont consider myself popular, even tho i think the cliques and everything are really stupid. this leads me into the second part of my question lol...

there's this boy i like. it'll be 2 years that i like him in july. he, unlike myself, is pretty popular. always flirting with other girls, hanging out with the guys, etc. now, this isnt one of those cases where the unpopular girl just like the popular guy because he's hot and everything and never talked to him before. i used to talk to him. he actually considered me his friend. he actually LIKED me. it all started in the summer before 7th grade.. when he actually wasnt as popular [this year he kinda changed and has been hanging out with a different group of people] anyway, he told me he liked me online and we talked. i started to like him, told him i did. in november of 7th grade, he asked me out [online and through my friend however]. and here's the turning point. i said NO. why ? well, he would've been my first real boyfriend, i'm really shy [as i said before].. you see, it was easy talking to him online, because it wasn't face to face. in school though, it was a whole different story

i dont know what happened. after i turned him down, we still talked for a while [which had to be really awkward for him] after a while though..he just lost interest in me i guess..and our conversations slowly got boring. and we didn't know what to talk about. and he hardly said anything. and i did most of the talking. it was the same in the summer before 8th grade. i became almost obsessive in a way. i was IMing him like everyday. and he would hardly say anything. then 8th grade started and i just said to myself "this isn't going anywhere" and i gave up. i seriously haven't talked to him online since like september or october.

but now, i'm going into highschool. and i really want to start talking to him again. do you think i have a chance left? i mean.. september was a long time ago. it would be really awkward iming him and i'd have no clue what to say. it would probably be like those days where he hardly say anything. "hey..hi..whats up..nm u..nothing..cool" and so on. that's what our convos were like. i dunno. would iming him again be a good idea? ughh there's like so much more to the story but it would prob. go on forever..what should i do? so sorry it was so longg!

ok, here goes...

the shyness thing...you get over that, its just something that highschool does to you. it brings you out of your shell. trust me, i was as shy as you could get around almost everyone. but then i stopped caring what others thought of me, and i started being ME, and people were attracted to that, because i have a lot more friends now than i ever thought i would...

the popularity thing...if you dont think about it, it isnt there. for example, while you might be intimidated by popular people, they might just have a lot of friends bcuz they are really nice. so dont be intimidated by the appearances, especially at the beginning of highschool. because believe it or not, EVERYONE is scared at the start of freshmen year, and everyone tries to ast different so they wont be rejected by others...just act yourself, and youll be fine.

With the guy, you have to act yourself, do you like him how he is now, or do you like who he used to be? if you like him how he is now, then go after it. just ask him what hes been up to since you last talked, enough time has passed that any hard feelings should be gotten over, and enough interesting stuff should have passed for him to talk about. ask him about whatever he might be interested in, sports, music, tv, whatever...the world cups a big things right now, maybe that would get him talking if he pays attention to soccer...so yeah, just tell him how you feel about everything...from experience, honesty really IS the best policy...

Q: ok well i found out that my best friend shane really liked me and he liked me like the whole year and i thought that was pretty kool and i kinda liked him to so i asked him out well then he was like wayy over obsessive and all and i didnt no wat to do so i dumped him 3 days later and now he seems really mad at me and its been like 2 weeks i wanna be his friend again so badly but he just doesnt wanna talk to me right now.. What should i do???

As the situation is with ANY relationship, no matter how you saw it, or how you thought he saw it, feelings wee involved. Im guessing that the relationship wasnt quite a life or death thing to you, but for him, for a guy to like one person, and one person alone for an entire year, he really liked you, and this most likely meant a lot to him. and to be let down in three days...thats gonna hurt, bad. its gonna take him some time to get over this. not only were you someone he really liked, but you were his friend, and the feelings of rejection (however unintentional) will take some time to get over...so my advice, after all my meaningless blabbing, is to give him some time to get over this. keep talking to him, no matter what, if you want him as a friend, make it clear (in actions, saying it straight to him can wait till later) that you still like him as a friend, but the boyfriend girlfriend thing just isnt working out. so basically, give him time, keep talking to him, and make it clear that you still want to be friends, and in time, everything should be fine...hope i helped

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names ryan, and im basically just here to help you guys out...ive been through most of the stuff you could ask about (cept all that being a female stuff) and i know how shitty life can be without someone there for you, helpin you through the tough times y'know? so yeah, ask me about anything you want to, i honestly dont care WHAT you ask me about, ill try to help you out the best i can no matter what...but yeah, i got a LOT of experience in the areas of love, depression, loss, suicide, and all that other nice stuff....well, ill be readin what you ask kk? catch ya later...