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Another Ashley and Laura question
Okay.. I know this is gonna sound awkward.
I had sex with Ashley.
And I feel really bad about it now because I don't want to tell Laura but if I don't tell her it's gonna be on my conscience all the time until I tell her what happened.
Is there any way I can tell Laura what I did with Ashley without making her hate me? And I don't want to do it face to face because that would be really weird.
HELP!!
I know I shouldn't have done it but she asked me to and I thought maybe it was really gonna bring me and her together. I dunno. I'm stupid.
So.. HELP ME PLEASE!!!
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do you go out with laura can you please give me more information on your relationship with laura and ashley
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Well first of all you arent stupid, you just made a mistake, however, when you decide to make a mature decision as you did, you must realise that you are taking full responsibility for what you are doing, and if you arent ready for that type of responsibility then you shouldn't make those choices.
You need to tell Laura, and you probably should tell her face to face. Yeah she will probably get upset, but wouldn't you if you were in her shoes?
~I don't know the whole story, but I'm assuming that you are dating Laura and that you like Ashley in a way thats alittle bit more than friendship?~
I don't know if there is any way of making laura not be upset with you, but if you tell her exactly why you did it and how you felt(feel) about Ashley (etc.) she may understand. She will probably be upset for a while and get over it.
I know you probably feel like telling her will just make things worse, but clueing her in on everything will help you both in the long run. And if she really trusts you she will get over it in a matter of time.
Remember trust is something that takes a long time to built and takes only a second to break, so you can't expect her to get over it right away. And if she does, then theres probably reason to believe that shes doing the same thing behind your back. :s.
If your relationship is ment to be it will withstand all that is thrown at it, but first you have to decide who you want to have the relationship with. Because you cant have your cake and eat it too (have laura and ashley) sometimes you have to make tough choices, but if you think about them a lot they will make sense eventually, and the answer will be super clear. So keep an open mind, and do the right thing. Lots of luck, Angie91
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hey, well i dont think that i saw your first question about these people but anyways ill try my best to asnwer. well first of all i think it seems like your in a relationship with both? or you like both of them? well sex never brings you closer to anyone. if you keep leading them both on them your going to end up hurting one of them and in this case i think its going to be laura. there is no nice way to tell her that you had sex with ashley. i did sort of the same thing, but not at the same level. i was seeing two people, but only one of them knew. the other one didnt know anything expept that i was seeing him. so i went over the other ones house that i knew i was seeing someone else and i did stuff with him. not sex tho. i told the other one and he was heartbroken. he even almost cut himself he told me. well you have to decide which one you want to be with like i did. i told the one that i did stuff with that night that i didnt feel like this was going anywhere and that maybe in the future we could see each other again but not right now. as for the other one i told him that i was so sorry and that i hope he could give me another chance to prove to him that i really want to be with him and that he is the only one in my life that i care for. it wasnt easy but i hope it works out for you.
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