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suicide
my mom and dad just died. i bearly had the strength to write this, but i am sooo sad, what should i do? I feel like i should be dead to. please, help.
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i know i probaly have no right to say this because nothing this bad has happened to me but PLEASE don't. i really dont think your parents want you to be dead to.
HOPED I HELPED AND PLEASE DONT
♥ Flaggal
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i know how you feel. my mom died and for a while i wanted to kill myself and tried to on several occasions.but you have to realize that they wouldn't want you to die with them.like i did , you have to be strong. now i don't know if you're a christian or not, but if you are i would pray about it. God helped me through it a lot. i mean she was and is still my best friend. it will always hurt but suicide is not the answer. i have come to realize this.just don't hold your feelings inside. it will tear you apart. don't kill your self. you are in my prayers.
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i am very sorry your loss. I know this sounds hard to do but you cannont just stop living life beacause people close to you are gone. Whether you believe this or not, your parents are always looking down on you from heaven and do you think they would want you to die? Or do you think they would want you to be the best person you can be? I suggest spend time with your family members and freinds. Talk this situation out with them. Also, CRY. when you cry all your emotions that you build inside will come out. Later, you can look through family photographs and think of all the good times you've had together. Please dont hesitate to ask me anything else. If you ever need to talk, my email address is: exquisite_m1zz@hotmail.com. Please reply me later to inform me how you are doing. Bye<3
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Maybe you aren't the God-believer, but I suggest you "talk" to them. You don't have to close your eyes and go "amen" or anything, unless that'll help you feel better. You could just lie in your bed and whisper to them how much you miss them and love them and everything, or just say it all in your head. Tell them about your feelings in whatever way you want to. Try to make yourself feel closer to them. Wear your Mom's pearls or have Dad's ties.
Also, think about what your parents would feel if you killed yourself for them. They would have intense guilt. Your parents would want you to live long and work hard in the future. They want to see you be successful in life. How would you do that if you die??
Being depressed is normal, but you should try to work off all that grief you have. Smell sweet-scented candles, take nice warm buble baths, eat fudge, do anything calm and relaxing that'll lift your spirits up. I'm sure your parents want you to be happy. If you're depressed, they would be too. So make them smile by accepting the fact that they're gone without tears. It'll be hard. But it's possible. =)
Hope I've helped
-Jenny C
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You have some kind of attitude... cursing someone out for trying to help you. I suggest you take anger management.
Sorry if you were an Atheist, but you don't have to believe in God to talk to your parent spiritually, you know.
Even if you're such a female dog, I'm sorry your parents died. =) Okay? Hope you get over that.
With lots o' love,
Jenny C
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I agree, you need to take the time to mourn them, there is no easy fix, no solution to bring them back and you need to accept that.
But when you consider suicide, think about this. Your parents were very important people in your life, they made you who you are so that you could grow up and be a successful, happy person. I believe that everything happens for a reason, ofcourse it's terrible that they died, but there is a reason why you are still alive. Your parents would never want you to kill yourself over them, they want you to move on with your life, remember them, but move on. You'll always be sad, and right now, don't try to fight tears, just let it all out.
I am not religious, but i do believe that there is a reason everyone is put on this earth, there is something that you can contribute before you die, some people live long lives, some live short, but that is not what matters, what matters is what they accomplished, and I know, even without knowing you that you are nowhere near ready to die.
Seek people around you who can help, who you can talk to. Don't push people away, they only want to help you.
Goodluck and be strong
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First of all, I'm very sorry for your loss. You need to take the time to mourn over your parents death because it hurts you more in the long run if you dont. I know the feeling of losing someone very close to me so I have a idea of what your going through. Just try and keep your head up and make it through the day. I can't say that time will take away the pain because it doesn't, it just numbs it.
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