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Hey! First off, i'm going to start by saying I came here on this site to give people advice. Some people actually don't know the real meaning of advice. They think its the answers they want to hear. But i'm not here for that. I'll give you advice, and it might be something you don't want to hear. But deal with it! You may take my advice or not, its completely up to you and you are not gaurnteed a correct solution.

Ok so now that's clear, I'll talk to you more about myself. Hence the username... I play volleyball. It is my passion and basically my life since I've played for about 7 years. Most of my friends say i'm 50/50 tomboy and girly girl. I LOVE sports!! I play volleyball all year round, and then I go to the park during free times to play some soccer, football, hockey, basketball or baseball with my friends. But then again, I could be inside trying on my new Sephora makeup i'd just gotten, or reading the latest Seventeen magazine or even arranging my clothes for school tomorrow.

You can ask me just about anything and i'll be happy to answer it. You can count on a full and detailed answer.

Oh and another thing... I love getting feedback! Even if its a negative comment. It tells me what I need to work on or even what I did correct.

-Volleyball2150



BODY EXERCISES AND WORKOUTS! my way or the highway

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Is there any good way to deal with feelings of embarassment? When something embarassing happens to me, everytime I think about it even weeks after it happens it just kills me. I feel terrible about myself.

ha ha... EVERYBODY does something embarrassing once in a while. Instead of looking at it in a bad way, think about it as a joke. LAUGH about it. Even if you are embarressed on the inside, don't let it get to you on the outside. Just laugh it off.

Nobody is perfect... we all make mistakes and embaress ourselves. The best way is to laugh about it.

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i want to be really skinny, and nothing will work! so i decided to be anorexic, how do i become anorexic? like, how do i start, i know that ussually it an illness but it just seems easey! please help! :D

DONT BECOME ANOREXIC.... I SWEAR TO GOD... DON'T!!!!!!!!

my friend was anorexic until she fainted and had to go to the hostpital. The doctor said she was about 10 minutes away from death because she hadn't eaten anything in about a week. Do you want to risk your life?????????? I will be sooo mad at you if you become anorexic. even if i don't know you, please please please don't do something this stupid.

If you truely want to become skinny, anorexia and bulimia is NOT the way to go. Do something healthier like exercising and eating good foods.

DON'T eat foods that have lots of sugar in them, and fatty substance foods.

Eat fruits, vegetables and such.

There is so much of your body weight that is just water and muscle.

Take up Pilates or Yoga to loose weight! Just by running 1 mile takes off so much calories.

PLEASE... think about what you are risking. YOUR LIFE!! Do you seriously want to end up like my friend, in the hostpital so close to death?

Sure, it seems easier... but its NOT HEALTHY!

please consider what i'm saying.

God bless you, and if my advice doesn't help... please see a counselor or somebody about this.

-volleyball2150

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i'm really scared, i'm going to florida with my soccer team and i doubt we'll have time to go swimming but i really don't want my period that day but i think i'll get it. i wanna wear tampons but what if when im playing it comes out or something? i really need desperate help putting one in can anyone tell me anything please? i've tried before but like, how hard are you supposed to push it cause i don't wanna break anything? and where are you suppose to put it in and how? omg im soo confused pleasee helpp! thanks soo much.

Alright. The main thing to concentrate on is RELAX!! if you don't relax, it'll hurt. the first time I tried tampons, it hurt like crap because I was sooo scared. but you get used to it after your 3rd time.

Ok so if you buy a box of tampons, theres a list of instructions in there. If it helps (it did for me) use a mirror to see your vagina. there's a hole down there and that's where your blood comes out. You stick the tampon in there.

There's 2 parts of a tampon, there's the applicator (you push into the vagina... make sure almost the entire applicator is inside the vagina, otherwise you'll feel discomfort.) and there's the trigger.

You push in the applicator in the vagina in about a 45 degree angle (which is the tip is facing your back and the trigger towards you), then when the applicator is almost all the way in, you push the trigger into the applicator (which releases the tampon inside of you). then you just take the trigger/applicator (which is now 1 item because they are inside of each other) and throw it away. The tampon string should be outside of you.

Try walking around and if you feel discomfort, you probably have too big of a size or not all the way in. take it out and try again. Practice makes perfect.

If it helps, use Playtex Sports, because they are comfortable and have the no-slip-grip.

Hope Everything goes great!
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Well I have light brown hair/medium brown hair, and I want to dye it a dark brown, maybe close to black. But I want semi-permanent dye, not permanent, because I want to try it first to see if I like it. Are there any good brands you recomend?? I want dark brown or black semi-permanent hair dye, thats easy to use. THANKS!

Clairol is a good brand. It is level 2 so it's semi-permanent and it works good. It washes out in 28 days... so yeah

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If doing push-ups is for your chest muscles, will your breasts get smaller? Or less... flabby... as weird as that sounds.
Yeah, I am small on top, and I want to be smaller. That's probably a surprise to hear on Advicenators. So if I strengthen my chest muscles will they be smaller? Will doing push ups help? What are some other exercises?

If not, which muscles... which exercises?

push-ups do not work out your chest... they work out your biceps and triceps. Honestly, there's no exercise to make your boobs smaller... it's just natural the way it is. Some people are born with smaller or bigger breasts. Since you are 13, you are going to be developing A LOT. there's absolutely no way to make your boobs stop growing or get smaller. Sorry kid, that's life

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I've worn contacts during the day, every day, for about 3 or 4 years now. I only wear my glasses at night, when i take my contacts out. But I have an infection in my eyes and I cannot wear my contacts anymore. It may sound like a ridiculous question, but I have honestly noticed I get way more attention without glasses (not to sound all snobby) and ever since I have had to wear them lately, people give me strange looks. I'm not saying I care what everyone thinks, but everywhere I go I just feel weird, simply because I am not used to glasses at all. My question is, for those of you who wear glasses or anything, how do you make it appear that your not like insecure, like I dont want to seem as if since I have glasses that I am self conscience? Also, where I work I have a lot of friends (hot, guy friends :P)and I just honestly dont feel as pretty anymore. Please dont answer my question and just go on and on about how shallow I may be sounding, I dont mean any of this rudely or dissing people with glasses. They are just not for me and hard to get used to. Thank you tons in advance!

Hey

I wear glasses too. =D
Don't worry, I feel the same way. Glasses are just not my thing. But here's how I just forget about them. I just focus on something else. Keeping focus on something else (like work) will take my mind off of it and just be me. Right now, you are insecure about yourself. Just relax! BE YOURSELF!!! just laugh and have a good time. Trust me, it feels like everyone is staring at you... but they're not. Forget about it and leave it in the past. Keep reminding yourself that you have more important things to pay attention to.

You may not imagine this, but some guys are attractided to women with glasses. tell yourself that! Maybe that one special hottie who works with you, secretly loves you even more since you are wearing glasses. who knows??? CHANGE IS A GOOD THING!! Don't tell yourself that you aren't pretty enough and that you are insecure. Instead, tell yourself that you are the most beautiful women on the planet and that you are couragous enough to take a risk and wear glasses out in the real world.

Have Courage in yourself!
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during lacrosse season (april) i got hit in the nose with a lacrosse stick.
it started bleeding on the outside, and within the next week it turned into a scab.
i had an itch on my nose and accidently picked off my scab.
now it's a scar, that is pretty visible.
what cream can i use to help it go away?
and how long will take for it to go away?
and how often should i apply it?
thank you !

Mederma! It's a scar cream and it really works. There's instructions on the inside. You can buy it at almost every local store.

http://www.walgreens.com/store/product.jsp?CATID=100592&navAction=jump&navCount=0&id=prod392827

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okay im a 13 yr old girl theres this boy i really like and im pretty sure he dosen't like me. i mean im not exsatly popular or girly im more emo...no boys really like me. but how do i get him to notice me without useing looks. I have his msn and phone number cause he gave them to me. but i never know what to say i seem like such a boring person. sometimes hes soo cold to me but then sometimes he makes me laugh...my friends say he flirts with me but i don't notice and i don't wanna start beliving them because if he dosen't like me I will be crushed. I just suck with the whole flirting thing so can anyone help in sort of getting closer an stuff

thanks so much x

ok well if he gave you his msn and phone number, then why don't you use them?!?!

Go on msn and just talk to him about normal things. Say something like "i really want to see this movie. It sounds cool"

ASK QUESTIONS!!! that way, he HAS to answer. Get to know him more. Ask him what his favorite food is, or band.

When you see him, make sure you make eye-to-eye contact with him for about 3 seconds. Then quickly look away. Laugh at ALL of his jokes, even if they are stupid ones. Lol. Twirl you hair when you talk to him, bite your lip, fix your hair. Oh and this is hilarious.... when you are talking to him, be so into the conversation and when there's an interruption, be all like "aghh what do you want?"

guys think it's so cute when girls are just themselves. No guy ever wants a girl who causes drama. they want girls that are exciting and risky.

more importantly... BE YOURSELF!!!!!!! don't do anything stupid just to get a guy to like you. If you change yourself, he might fall in love with the fake you... and you won't be happy.

I hope I helped!
-volleyball2150

PS: be a social butterfly! It helps to get more attention

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ok so im sick of my hair color. like i have a really ugly color blonde. its like a really dirty blonde. and it looks like i bleach it but its all natural. and its just disgusting. I HATE IT! and im always getting teased liek ohh your so blonde. but really i dont care about that. thats not the thing that bothers me. but like i really want to dye it. but my mom keeps saying my hair is gorgeous nad all this stuff. but like ireally dont like it. its disgusting. how can i make my mom let my dye it. and im also sick of people saying ohh your too young to dye your hair. but i dont care! so many people have died their hair already and then when i say that oh you only want to do it because everyone else is...its not true! i want it done. but how cna i let my mom understand. i hate my hair. my dad says its fine. but my moms like aadshfjkasd! urrg. i have tried sitting down with her but hten it jsut gets in a fight. help!

OMG... i went shopping like 20 minutes ago and i convinced my mom to buy hairdye. LOL i can DEFINITALLY help you with this one.

What I did was I went up to my mom, strong and couragous. (if you go up to her, scared, you'll never get anything you want) I told my mom that I was so bored and sick of my hair. I WANTED CHANGE. I said that very loud. I told her what kind of hair I wanted and I looked into her eyes and said "please mom?" and I put on the biggest smile. She said no... so i took it to the next level by saying that I will only dye my hair that's non-permanent and that it was just for fun. She was stuck in between yes and no, by now.

Then I told her that it was summer vacation and i never get to do anything risky, and that I wanted to do this so badly. She said OK as long as it's not permanent and gone by the time school starts.

So we left about an hour ago, we debated on colors (she kept saying it was too dark for my hair) but I didn't care.

Just make sure that you tell her that this is for YOU. Not for her. YOU should be happy about your hair, not her.

I hope I helped!!!!!
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Can I wear tampons for my whole period, or do I have to alternate using tampons, then pads, then tampons? I only have tampons, so would it be dangerous if I only wore tampons the whole time, and just changed it every few hours? I have liners too that I wear at night though.

I don't think it'll be a problem during the daytime... just at night you CANNOT wear tampons to bed. and Pantyliners arn't that strong (in my opinion at least) so try wearing pads at night, tampons during the daytime.

don't forget to change tampons every 7 or 8 hours!
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how do i get rid of razor bumps and how do i minimize them in the first place

put lots of lotion on and aloe vera.

to make them not even come up, just put Aloe Vera Gel on the spot where you shave and it'll so much smoother and less razor bumps. If you don't have aloe vera, you can subsitute it for Conditioner or shaving cream. make sure you shave slowly so it doesn't irritate the skin and cut it.

I hope I helped!
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so my best friend got arrested for shoplifting from jcpennys and theyre suing her for $800 and she cant come up with the money so theyre like gunna put her in juvie (shes 16), and every month is only $100, and theres NO way her parents can come up with the money.. is there anyway to keep her outta jail? cuz i love her so dearly and her court date is july 2nd. im really scared for her cuz shes one of those gorgeous girls and i dont want her to be hurt in jdc or anything..

Ohh... thats sooo sweet of you!!

Well anyways, what I think you should do is raise money for her. Since its hot outside, make a carwash or a lemonade stand. Do a carnival or pasta night to raise money for her. Do extra chores, go knocking on peoples door and say its for a worthy cause. I know 800$ is a lot, but it's not really that hard if you just have fun while doing it. My school did a carwash for 4 hours for a save Darfur, Sudan thing and they raise almost 1,000 dollars. So yeah... you CAN do it!! (they charged 5 dollars per car).

Ask volunteers to help you out. What you can also do is take all of your old clothes and sell them at a store. (platos closet?) or just have a plain old garage sale. (maybe have 2 or 3 garages mixed into 1 sale...so thats double the items)


I really hope everything goes great.
-volleyball2150

PS: what you are doing is sooo nice for your friend. If I was her, I would thank you a billion times without a pause. She's greatful to have a friend like you. =D

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i was wondering what simple hair styles are in that i could do i loove loove loove that hump everyone does even different ways to scrunch your hair or whatever i wear my hair the same everyday just about its so boring helppp thankksss websites would be nicee

www.geocities.com/mka_wonderland

that website has a bunch of really cool and neat hairstyles. just go there and click on the tab that says HAIRSTYLES.

I hope I helped!
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Okay, well i like this kid named Ben. And i babysit his little sister, so I get to see him a lot. Well she knows i like him, and im almost 100% sure he likes me back. But, i was filling a myspace survey out and it asked if i was single, and i said yes and she gasped and i was like what, and she was like you and Ben. And i was like well i date someone that doesnt like me back, and that we arent really dating just because i like him. And she was like but he likes you. And i was like no he doesnt, and she says yeah he does, hes just not going to tell you because he knows im going to tease him, and so i was like yeah then how do you know, and shes like im his sister i think i would know more then you. So I want to know how do i get him to tell me he likes me? And do you think he told his sister he likes me? Because two weeks ago i was over there house and we were all sitting in the living room and me and Ben were kind of staring at eachother, and she was like he likes you. So i know he does, but how do i get him to tell me without being shy, or having me have to tell him i like him?

Sorry its so long.

You can just flirt with him when you see him. That'll give him a hint that you're interested too and he won't be so shy. Or you could also talk to his little sister and say "talk to Ben for me and tell him that i like him and tell him that he shouldn't be so shy around me"... or something along those lines. If you don't want to do that, you can just act casual around him and be like " I heard a rumor saying that we are the next hottest couple. have you heard it?"

yeah so just act casual but still in a flirty way to get him to see that you're interested too.

I hope I helped!
-volleyball2150

PS: sometimes you have to make the first move if you want things to go faster...

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could you please click on the link below and tell me (without being harsh, please) how fat I am?

like would you classify me as super obese fat chick, fat, average, sexy, etc. (or whatever words you choose)

http://i113.photobucket.com/albums/n210/LovelyBoylan/howfat.jpg

I really don't want to hurt your feelings... you are NOT super obese fat chick... lol but you're also not average. I HONESTLY don't want to hurt your feelings. I think you may be a little overweight. Try exercising more and eating healthy foods like Fruits and vegetables. Try to lay off greasy and fatty foods and try to eat about 5 small meals a day.

I hope I helped!
-volleyball2150

PS: don't change yourself just to make people happy. People come in all different shapes and sizes. Be happy for who you are.

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when you 1st had sex ?
I feel like I can trust you because I play volleyball too !

i am still a virgin. I'm glad that you can trust me. Remember, never do anything that you feel uncomfortable with. It's your decision and I hope you make the right one. I'm lucky and waiting until i get married to have sex. I choose abstinence. Don't get pressured to do anything you dont want to do.

If you have any more question, feel free to ask. I"m always here to help

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THank you so much Volleyball2150. You really helped because I was really starting to feel like there was no hope. So what happened???? Did you get the bump removed or just got your ears pierced again in a different spot? I'm going today!

Well I was in Europe at the time when I got my ears re-pierced and we went to a very special doctor who inspected my ears. He said that I did have a bump on my left earlobe and all he did was just rub it around. He cleaned my ears VERY well and just pierced it in the same spot. He said I should clean it about 3 times a day with a special spray. You are supposed to spray this stuff on each side of the earring and then twist it. I did exactly what he said and It worked!! It didnt hurt at all. I dont know what he did with the bump but he just squeezed it and moved it around. weird.... just dont worry about it

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I am going to a really fancy wedding soon. and i need to get a dress for it. It needs to be at least knee length and not as fancy as a prom dress or anything but still pretty close. does anyone know any stores that i might be able to fine in a mall that sells dresses like this. websites or photos would be great. budget is about $100. thanks!

try DEB

http://www.debshops.com/Fashion/ViewInCat.asp?CatID=120

they have really nice dresses but arn't as fancy as prom dresses

or you can try looking at your local online stores.

I hope I helped!
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ok well i'm going to my brothers graduation today and i was wondering what you're supposed to wear to a high school graduation, any help would be appreciated and i kind of need it asap , thanks a ton

to my brothers graduation, I wore black pants, a fancy top, and just a white button-up sweater. casual, but not too fancy.

Or if you want you can wear a spring type dress with a pair of flats.

have fun!
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I have the best husband in the world i love him so much.....but there is one BIG problem he abuses me....he hits slaps pulls my hair elbows me pushes me....but there is another problem i love him to much to leave him i love him so much so leaving him is not an option....what should i do?
Broken hearted and torn

OMG!! no relationship has to suffer abuse! it's just wrong! If he loves you, why would he hurt you? he should be protecting you. I honestly think that you 2 don't make a great couple. It just doesn't make scence to love a guy, but the guy just hurts you. Why would you love him? I would be soo mad at the guy because she would be abusing me!

CONTACT THE POLICE! this is a serious issue and you do not want it to get any worse. Why risk your life for this guy? It could get soo much worse. Call 911 or contact a friend and see if you can spend the night there and think about your relationship.

I hope you make the right decion. You shouldn't have to live like this.

-volleyball2150

PS: i know i wouldn't

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