My boyfriend never wants to eat me out, he used to, but now he's just like "everyone at school makes fun of people that do it", and he says it's kind of gross. But I love it. What should I do?
Remind him that he shouldn't care what other people think, because it's his opinion that matters. But if he's really uncomfortable with it, then don't pressure him to do it. You may love it, but it's better for you to go without than for him to do something he really doesn't want to do. Put yourself in his shoes. You probably wouldn't like it if he kept pressuring you to do something you wouldn't want to do, so if he's uncomfortable with it, don't pressure him.
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I want to get my hair cut to my shoulders and pretty blonde, it's blonde already but more blonde. But how blonde is too blonde? Because I know some people are like "that girl is such a blonde, and like wow look how bright her hair is" etc...
In my opinion, if your hair is so blond it's almost unnatural looking, then it's probably too blond. However, I've dyed my hair every color of the rainbow, so if you really want to go as blond as possible, & you don't care about the potential negative reactions, go for it!
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Is there anywhere you can get that scavenger hunt
list they had... on that episode where Bloodhound
Gang are there, and they have that big scavenger
hunt.
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I found this: http://forums.comingsoon.net/archive/index.php/t-22488.html. I'm pretty sure that's it. If not, let me know & I'll see if I can find it.
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Im a 15 year old girl, turning 16 next week and I have been dating my boyfriend (hes a grade older than I am) for a bit over a month, but I have liked him for about 3-4 months and was seeing him for about a month and a half before we actually started dating.
Yesterday, I was over at his house and his parents had left for a few hours, we ended up watching a series of movies and made out for the duration of almost all the movies. Things started getting more heated, but I'm currently on my period so I stopped him from actually putting his hands down my pants. Now, my boyfriend has alot more experience than I, and I havent done anything more than make out. He said he understood, so we just kept to alot of touching and feeling above clothing.
The thing is, if I wasn't on my period I really think I would have let him. All my life I have been saying I wouldnt do anything more than make out unless I was dating the guy for a very long time and felt I was in love with him.
I dont love him but I like him alot, and hes the sweetest most caring guy ever, and me and my friends all agree I couldnt have got a better guy.
So, pretty much Im wondering if Im changing by benig more open to the idea. I always have been considered this innocent, perfect little girl, so its kinda weird knowing that in that situation I wanted to do more so bad, so now Im kind of wondering if by doing this Im going against my morals. Im deffinately not planning to do anything more then that type of thing, so no oral or actual sex or anything. I know im not ready for that.
What do you think?
It depends on what you're comfortable with. Don't do it if you'll regret it later, though, but if you really want to go through with it & you feel okay with it, go for it. I've always looked at that as kind of harmless (compared to other things). I wouldn't go all the way with him just yet, I'd wait until you were truly in love with him, but if you're comfortable with taking it a step further, then I don't see anything wrong with it. People change, too, so don't worry too much about going against what you said you'd never do, unless you're really going to regret it.
Happy early birthday, by the way!
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Before I begin, I want to make it clear that I do love my boyfriend. I'm 22, and I've been with him almost a year.
We've decided that we're ready to have sex. I'm a virgin, and I've stayed one this long only because I have wanted to save myself for the right person. Someone I love, and yadda yadda. I truly believe that it is him.
Problem? I'm petrified of the aftermath. I don't know why, but I have a feeling that things will just go down hill. I can't shake it. I have no specific reasons to display. He treats me great. I've been sick for a while, he's here anytime I need him. He's supportive of my dream to become an author, and he's kind.. Point being, I'm sure I want to do this.
But then a part of me starts questioning what's going to happen after wards. Because he's become such a close, sincere friend.. and we have a wonderful connection, I feel as if sex may make it almost too sexually intimate.. and we'd lose the best part of the relationship that I've known.
So really.. does sex help bring two closer?.. or dismantle it? And what happens if I'm not good at it, ya know? He's not a virgin. Does sex change feelings for the worse, then it does the better??
Thank you, in advance..
In my experience, sex has brought me closer with my boyfriend, but with my ex it kind of made things go downhill. It's pretty much all based on your relationship. I'm really big on trusting your gut feelings, so if you're still having doubts, you may want to try to wait a little while longer until you're sure of everything. If he knows you're a virgin, I'm sure he'll understand if you're not that great. There's really not much to do that will make you good, though. Especially when it's your first time. If you do decide to go through with it, you need to relax first & be confident. Try not to worry about being bad.
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Ok, so my cheerleading season ended for this year and I really want my toe touch to look good for next season which starts in like December so I have about 8 months to improve my toe touch. This is what I really need. I want to get my legs up higher, roll my hips (which I have no idea what that means so if someone could explain it that would be great :D), get my legs straighter, and get good hight in my toe touch. So if someone could please answer this question I would so totally appreciate it :D. Thanks
I used to be a cheerleader, so I know how hard this can be. On thing they told us to do to work on our toe touches is to try jumping off things & doing them. I would always jump off the steps or the big rocks in my yard. Or if you have a trampoline it's a good way to practice, too.
As for the rolling your hips thing, you basically kind of try to point your toes or knees towards the wall behind you. It's a little confusing, but if you practice you'll get it. Try working on them one step at a time, though. Like first practice on the rolling your hips part, then practice on height. It'll be much easier that way.
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I know you guys get sick of "Am I Pregnant?" questions, because I do too. But now I am the one in need of advice.
I am on YAZ birth control. Last month I missed the first 4 active pills. I ended up having sex regulary that month (3-5 times a week) and towards the end I started getting worried about pregnancy.
There are 4 placebo pills in the pack, and I always start my period on the 3rd or 4th one. My period is usually over by the 3rd or 4th active pill in the next pack. I ended up starting early (2nd placebo pill), but my period lasted a lot longer than usual. I didn't get off my period until I was completely done with the first row of active pills. After I started, I calmed down a little and forgot about the whole pregnancy thing.
My period was really strange though. It was heavy enough to wear a tampon the first day, but after that it was incredibly light. I only wore a liner, and some days I didn't even need it, it just lasted a lot longer.
I am now on my new pack, and I should be starting my period again in about 2 weeks. I am worried because these past couple of weeks I have been getting really sick to my stomach after eating, especially at night, I feel bloated all the time, and my urine has been on overdrive. I have also been having severe mood swings. One minute I am fine, and the next I am biting my boyfriend's head off over stupid things, and then crying about being hateful a few minutes later.
It's really strange, and I was just looking for a little bit of an input on the situation. If it can't be a pregnacy, then what else could be causing me to act like I have been?
There is a chance you could be pregnant. You might not be, but it's important to take your birth control regularly, not only to prevent pregnancy, but I know from experience that it can really mess up your cycle. If I were you, I'd stop taking the birth control for the moment (in case you are pregnant), & buy a pregnancy test to make sure.
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sorry its kinda long....
Ok so in the beginning of this year i had class with some girl named chelsea. Me and her started talking. Threw out the month me and her were bestfriends. I knew i could always count on her and i would tell her something and she wouldnt saya nything. So about 2 months later i started dating this guy for 5 months. Chelsea liked my boyfriend lets call him S. so chelsea liked S alot of people did. So towards the end of the 4th month i noticed he was acting wierd. He was ignoring me not saying i love you back or anything. (not trying to be exagerated) So [S) and chelsea had dance class togehter but i didnt have that in my schedule. People kept on telling me he was flirting with her and she was flirting back they told me that he would always pick her to be his dance partner. I didnt really say anything because i didnt wanna argue with him and plus i was getting kinda tired of him.But,yet this jerk took advantage one day i didnt go to school because,i got sick and asked her out! HE EVEN KNEW SHE WAS MY BESTFRIEND. and the little bitch said yes! even thoe i was getting tired of him they both had no reason to do it behind my back he couldve told me somehting but no! so the next day i found out because she said that she was dating someone secretly and she wasnt gonna tell anyone and she always told ME so i knew right away it was shane and she confessed to me it was [S) i liked it that she confessed but.... even thoe i was getting tired of him i got really dissapointed but,i didnt really care at the same time because, i started liking his friend (J] that same day (J] asked me out at lunch time. I said yes but i still was chelseas frriend did i do the right thing?
i kinda felt like a slut saying yes the same day but i was starting to like (J] alot! and i knew (J] was going to treat me better because,he's liked me since the beginning of the year. And hes not a player like (S] everyone was so happy for us but idk if i did the right thing by still being chelsea's friend
this only happened 1 month and a halfe ago about that time. Should i still be her friend even thoe it passed?
First off, these two sound like jerks. You didn't do anything wrong by going with his friend, in my opinion, after all the things he did to you. You deserve a lot better than both of them. If it was me, I wouldn't be friends with her, but that decision is completely up to you.
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17/F
Ever since I was in 6th grade I have wanted to own my own day care. Not the kind that you have at your house, but a seperate building and a real business. I have taken Teaching Young Children at school, I even have a job at the kind of day care I want to own someday. So what I want to know is, How long would it take to get all the certificates to do this? Do I need to go to special schooling? what would I need? Any info will help.
Thnx.
I don't think you really have to go to school for anything in childcare or anything, although it would probably help a lot. They may have some childcare classes in your area. Not necessarily in college, but some places offer community classes for things like that. If anything, you may need to take some business classes. It's not required, either, but it will help if you need to get a loan to start your daycare.
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hi, i recently moved to australia from south africa, and i'm 17, still attending school full time, but i wanted to get a job.. So i thought babysitting was a great idea because i want to study child psychology later on.. But i dont know how to start this, babysitting.. Any help? Should i hand out flyers to people in my neighbourhood letting them know i can babysit? I have never done this before formally, just did it for family friends once in a while back in south africa.
Thanks.
Fliers are a great start. Word of mouth is good, too. Tell people what you want to do & chances are if someone mentions the need for a babysitter they'll recommend you. You can also try an online ad or an ad in the paper. And some businesses (at least here, anyway), let you put signs up to advertise things, so you could try that.
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Does the guy ususally orgasm first or the girl? and if one person orgasms first does the other one keep going until they orgasm? just a tad confused
Guys usually orgasm before the girls, but sometimes the girl will first. The majority of the time the guy will first, though. A lot of women don't even have an orgasm for years, & some never have one (during intercourse, anyway). The beauty of being a woman is that women can have multiple orgasms during a short period of time, without having to take very much time to "recover" from the first one, so chances are if you had one first, you could keep going. It's a lot harder with guys, though. Usually guys have to take a little time to be able to go at it again.
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I'm trying out for a drum major position in my high school band. Part of the interview process involves the judges presenting me with a "what if?" scenario and I have to explain how I would respond to the situation. An example would be, the band director gets lost in his vehicle on the way to an away game but the band arrives on time- what would you do? Or, a band member collapses and stops breathing during rehearsal- what would you do? It's a pretty important part of the intervew because we have had situations in the past where students could have been hurt. To prepare for this, I've been looking up stuff on the internet, but I really can't find much. Does anyone have any information about things of this nature? Personal experience?
There's really not much research you can really do on this, because you could be asked pretty much anything. Plus, if you've planned your answers in your head & he asks a complete other questions, it'll throw you off guard. You pretty much just have to use common sense & instinct on this. Just think of some emergencies that could possibly happen, including the ones you've listed. Think of what you should do if someone gets hurt & things like that.
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Okay. So as my precious question. How to get my boyfriend back. I got him back. A week after he broke up with me. We got back together. Im the happiest person alive. I love him with all my heart. Its been almost a week. We spend every minute of every second possible together. But he still has his doubts that I might be talking to that guy from LA. And im not. I told him that I didn't want nothig to do with him.
But I want to know how can I prove to my boyfriend that im being faithfull and honest. It hurts me to see that he doesn't trust me. I know its only been a week or so but how can I prove that im not talking to anyone. I love him wit all my heart. And I don't plan on loosing him ever again.
Trust is an extremely important part of a relationship, & you can't expect him to fully trust you again instantly after you've broken that trust. You just have to give it time, & let him realize that you really are being honest, & only want him. There's really no sure-fire way to gain his trust back besides giving him time to realize it on his own, because regardless of what you try to do, chances are he'll still have his doubts. And I understand that it hurts you, but you have to remember that you hurt him, too.
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I am a senior and soon i will graduate, my biggest regret is that I never asked the girl I like(who is a sophmore) to the prom or a date or anything, I have classes with her but other than that we rarely make contact out of school, I am a really shy guy but I have fun talking to her and she is also easy to talk to, and trust me a shy guy like me doesn't have an easy time to talking to many people, basically I like her alot and I have a big crush on her but I don't want to tell her how I feel about her because if she does'nt feel the same way, talking to her again would be really akward, Some friends say it's too late and some say I should just walk up to her and just ask her. What should I do?
The thing you need to consider here is that you'll be graduating soon, & she'll still be in school. Unless you trust her 100%, it may not be a good idea to start a relationship with her, because she'll be away from you during the day. But, if you really like her & trust her, make your move. That way you won't have to wonder "what if" for the rest of your life. If she doesn't want a relationship, then don't let it get you down. Your life is pretty much just beginning. And if you're going to college, you'll have plenty of chances to meet other girls (even if you're not going, too).
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Ok so i have known this guy for about 5 years now but we've been talking for 3 months and when we started talking he told me that we were going to get to know each other and then see where it goes. well a couple of days ago we took that step. THAT STEP. and now he's kind of stepped back a little bit and i'm just scared that he's just going to bounce after all of this and i don't know how to approach him withoout making it seem like i'm wanting him to commit like now. but then again i do want him to commit because i do care about him alot. i just don't know what to do....
You both need to be clear with each other about what your expectations are for this relationship. You don't have to do it strongly, like tell him that he HAS to commit (not saying you would). And you have a right to know whether he wants to take the relationship further, or if he just wanted a one time thing. Just ask him where he wants this relationship to go. If he just wanted a one time thing, or he wants to commit to you. Don't be afraid to ask. And if he's a jerk about it, then forget him. That would be stupid of him to not expect you to want to know about his seriousness about the relationship.
A little more advice here: Not trying to be rude or anything, but if something like this happens again, it might be best to maybe get to know the person a little bit more before you take "the step", & maybe make your expectations known. Again, not being rude, but there are a lot of guys who just want one thing, & a lot of them will be willing to lie to you to get it.
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is it normal too discharge alot when your getttin fingred? is that considered like being wet?
Yep, that's normal. And the majority of people do call it "being wet". Nothing to worry about.
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Ok so I've had the sims life stories for awhile and I played it alot before but then I stopped and now I wanted to play it again but when I click it, it says something like "Cannot find directx 9.0 anywhere on your computer" or something like that. What should I do? I don't understand this. Thanks so much!
Try re-downloading it. I also found a free download for DirectX 10, which should work, too. Go here to download it: http://www.gamesforwindows.com/en-US/AboutGFW/Pages/DirectX10.aspx
If that doesn't work, try looking on the sims website through their help pages.
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I really want one, but how much do they cost? Also, I would have to get it at a tattoo place right? How old would you have to be? Thanks!!
You absolutely want to get it done at a tattoo shop, especially one with a good reputation, & observe the shop a little to make sure everything is clean & sanitary.
Prices are going to vary from shop to shop. The tattoo shop I go to charges $55, but there's no set price for them. Different shops charge different. You could try shopping around to find a place near you that charges the least for them, but always make sure that they've passed inspections & run a clean shop.
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Hi guys ATTENTION!!!
FAKE SPAMS have been going around and trying to get ADVICENATORS.....dont be caught in penpal spam
Young women (pretending to be from west africa like senegal or dakar) will send you emails stating something along the lines of "my father was a millionaire, my mom died and i'm the only one that survived, and now i'm in a refugee camp"
DO NOT BELIEVE THIS.
her email is julietnkaje2007@yahoo.com
here's a website where other people have had similar situations if you wanna check it out, and here's the email i got and decided to check up on.
http://www.419scam.org/419-penpal.htm
this is what she sent me
""HI
My name is Juliet nkaje ,i saw your profile today in (www.advicenators.com) and became intrested in you,i will also like to know you more,and i want you to send an email to my email address so i can give you my picture for you to know whom i am.
Here is my email address (julietnkaje2007@yahoo.com)
I believe we can move from here!
I am waiting for your mail to my email address above..
(Remeber the distance or colour does not matter but love matters alot in life) yours "
and again :
"My dear,
Am happy in your reply to my mail. How is your day over there in your country i hope you are fine? My name is Juliet nkaje ( 24 ) single and never married, i am 5.6 height 49 wight, fair in compilation nice looking understanding and sincere young girl.i am from Liberia in west Africa but presently i am residing in refugee camp here in Dakar Senegal,as a result of the civil war that was fought in my country then i found my self in UN refugee camp and i am writing you with the hope that you be a help hand to me over my situation.
My late father Mr Morgan nkaje was the one in charge of the diamond sales in Government in monrovia the capital of Liberia and he is also the personal advice to the former head of state before the rebels attacked our house one early morning and killing my mother and my father,
It was only me that is alive now and i managed to make my way to near by country Senegal where i am living now as a refugee under UN refugee camp in Senegal so .I will like to know more about you. Your likes and dislike,your hobbies and what you are doing presently you work all about you as. I will tell you more about myself in my next mail . Attached here is my picture and i will like to see your picture too, Hoping to hear from you
Yours Juliet"
Thanks for this. Same exact thing happened to me. I thought it seemed pretty suspicious, so I didn't reply to it.
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alright, let me give you a little background. in past sexual experience im used to bein dominated 99.9% of the time because of the guys ive been with, plus the fact that i used to do a lot of drugs with the guys i was with. im also used to black guys.
now im not datin a black guy, and i had a conversation with my boyfriend and he said he wanted it to be an equal thing. the thing is, though, ive been sober for a while now and im not used to the kind of guy im with. so now i kind of have to learn sex all over again.
so i have a few questions. one, when a guy thrusts in me do i thrust with him at the same time? and when im on top should i just bounce on him if you know what i mean? or 'booty pop' (which i can do when im dancin, not sure about sex) and just any tips for really good sex basically.
any help will be appreciate him, im a girl btw :)
I think you both need to talk about what feels good for each of you. There's really no set technique for it, it's all about what feels good, which can be pretty different for different people. Just experiment a little & make sure you leave it open for discussion. In my personal experience, I usually don't like to "bounce", because I think it's kind of hard to do. I just lean in towards him & slide up & down. But it's all about what feels good for both of you.
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