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Eat out.
My boyfriend never wants to eat me out, he used to, but now he's just like "everyone at school makes fun of people that do it", and he says it's kind of gross. But I love it. What should I do?
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Tell him it's a two way street. If he ain't giving than he shouldn't be getting. Secondly, ask him what he thinks is so gross about it anyway? Let him know you find reciprocating to be a bit gross as well but you do it for him.
If he's not mature enough to handle these kind of sexual or other situations look for someone else who is mature enough.
The only problem here is if you were too sweaty, had an infection etc. affecting things then he has a right to feel like he does.
I don't know where you both go to school but the "everyone will make fun of me or it" excuse doesn't wash. What to do? Be blunt and talk to him and if things don't improve consider why you're still with him if he can't handle it maturely. Even if they did why is he sharing private details with others?
Another thing that might work if it's taste or mess he doesn't like is to get a dental dam or plastic wrap to place over your genitals. That's pretty common. He really doesn't have a leg to stand on. I mean say to him how do you think it tastes when it's your bodily fluids? Equally gros right?
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You should break up with him, and explain that you don't date little boys that let popular opinion affect their opinion of something they do in private.
Its fucked that he used to, and now its gross. Sex is messy, thats part of the fun. You obviously don't mind it, and you need a guy who doesn't either.
You know, most people don't like being covered in mud. Get someone you know who pays any attention to their appearance, cover them in mud when they aren't expecting it, and you will have one incredibly pissed off person.
Take the same person, tell them to put on something they don't mind fucking up, and tell them you have a giant mud puddle and goggles to go have a mud fight in, and they'll probably think about it for a second and go throw mud at you. I mean, seriously, who in their right mind would turn down a mud fight in scuba goggles?
That was a really random analogy, but I'm sure you can get the gist.
Its also worth pointing out that aside from the grossness idiocy, the fact that he changed because of others opinions is fucking stupid. He's an idiot and a hypocrite, I'm sure he loves the idea of getting oral sex even if he's changed his position on giving it.
You aren't breaking up with him because of sex, you're breaking up with him because he's a hypocrite and because he's so pathetic that a bunch of people who are probably mostly virgins can affect his opinions on his own sex life and sexual desires.
You don't want someone who does what is popular and treats it like gospel. Break up with the loser and find a guy who doesn't give a shit about what others think when he's with you.
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He cares what other people think more than what you think. What a wonderful boyfriend.
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Well try the wip cream thing. it should work.
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Remind him that he shouldn't care what other people think, because it's his opinion that matters. But if he's really uncomfortable with it, then don't pressure him to do it. You may love it, but it's better for you to go without than for him to do something he really doesn't want to do. Put yourself in his shoes. You probably wouldn't like it if he kept pressuring you to do something you wouldn't want to do, so if he's uncomfortable with it, don't pressure him.
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