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Am I going against my morals?
Im a 15 year old girl, turning 16 next week and I have been dating my boyfriend (hes a grade older than I am) for a bit over a month, but I have liked him for about 3-4 months and was seeing him for about a month and a half before we actually started dating.
Yesterday, I was over at his house and his parents had left for a few hours, we ended up watching a series of movies and made out for the duration of almost all the movies. Things started getting more heated, but I'm currently on my period so I stopped him from actually putting his hands down my pants. Now, my boyfriend has alot more experience than I, and I havent done anything more than make out. He said he understood, so we just kept to alot of touching and feeling above clothing.
The thing is, if I wasn't on my period I really think I would have let him. All my life I have been saying I wouldnt do anything more than make out unless I was dating the guy for a very long time and felt I was in love with him.
I dont love him but I like him alot, and hes the sweetest most caring guy ever, and me and my friends all agree I couldnt have got a better guy.
So, pretty much Im wondering if Im changing by benig more open to the idea. I always have been considered this innocent, perfect little girl, so its kinda weird knowing that in that situation I wanted to do more so bad, so now Im kind of wondering if by doing this Im going against my morals. Im deffinately not planning to do anything more then that type of thing, so no oral or actual sex or anything. I know im not ready for that.
What do you think?
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I love how people tell you to make sure to wait until you know its the right time, and never give you clues as to how you'll know.
Honestly, the right time is when you say "Fuck it" and go ahead. Or, we'll say its the right time, because you're going to make this decision whenever you make it, and not a minute sooner.
The only constant is, the longer you wait for sex the more information you have to make your decision with.
Everyone else thinks of you as this innocent girl and you wonder if you're going against your own morals.
Sweetheart, you don't have any morals, you just have everyone else's expectations and have no idea how to measure what you want with what you should do.
You aren't going to be innocent forever. Thats a given. That doesn't mean now is the right time for you, you've got some reflection on what kind of person you think you want to be before you're ready for anything serious.
In all honesty, you should be focusing more on the like vs love question than the sex question. Sex will come if you're together long enough, but love is something to figure out if you're leaning in that direction.
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Don't hold back because you think you are expected to, or because soceity says it's wrong. If he's truly not a player, and you really see a future with him, and you can see yourself loving him, then do it when YOU'RE ready. But so many girls make the mistake of giving in when they are learning. Just make sure it's the right choice.
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It depends on what you're comfortable with. Don't do it if you'll regret it later, though, but if you really want to go through with it & you feel okay with it, go for it. I've always looked at that as kind of harmless (compared to other things). I wouldn't go all the way with him just yet, I'd wait until you were truly in love with him, but if you're comfortable with taking it a step further, then I don't see anything wrong with it. People change, too, so don't worry too much about going against what you said you'd never do, unless you're really going to regret it.
Happy early birthday, by the way!
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