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The name is Leah. I live in Cincinnati, OH. I really love to give advice! I have been here since November of 2004. But prior to joining here, I was always been seeked for advice. Still to this day, my primary concern is always helping someone out in need.

I am likely not the best columnist here, but I can quarantee I am very dedicated and concerned when I answer a question. If I answer a question you're not satisfied with, I will ask why, so I can try my best to change my answer. I only give people information that I know; not information that I might know. And if I notice a columnist giving you a wrong answer, you'll know I'll be correcting their response!!

I do allow everyone and anyone to ask a question. I may have listed favorite categories, but I really have no preference. I do love making new friends!! It's no problem to contact me by e-mail or IM. I do have a Myspace, and I will gladly give it out if asked! If you ever need advice, if you feel like ending it all, if you feel like no one cares, I am here!! Talk to me.. I will listen and I will help you!!

♥Leah

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I like this guy but I have heard that he may be gay is there any way of telling ?
please give me some answers

Well usually you can't obviously decide whether he is gay or not. You could ask him, yet if you don't like the idea, I do have some tips:

As a note aside, I am not against homosexuality by any means, so if these tips offend you or anyone else on this site, nor being "stereotypical" I sincerely apoligize but I will make this is neutral as I can:

From what I heard (not from me)..

*Some homosexuals walk differently. Not all; just some. They may walk like a girl or just walk how straight guys wouldn't walk.

*Their personality. As a stereotype, many people think of homosexuals as "metrosexuals" or "feminists". Not necessarily true in all homosexual men. They may have more feelings than a guy would. They may be more expressive, and more open to things than straight guys.

*Some homosexual men do flings with women. Some times for fun, and some times from peer pressure. And then there are some who rarely or never date at all. They may hang out with more women than men. They don't have to be a pimp or player, but some homosexual guys do that.

*Their voices. Many people give me that their voices just mean everything. I don't agree to this but 95% of the guys who have
high-pitch voices, tend to be homosexual. I know many guys who are homosexual and have the lowest-pitch voices possible.

*How they act around different genders. Does he flirt with other guys (that you suspect of)? Does he just hang out with girls as "friends"?

*Also how some dress. A lot of homosexual men dress in clothes straight men wouldn't be caught wearing. They may have tight clothing on, bright-colored shirts (but since this is widely popular in men it's hard to give that out as a hint).

But personally in my opinion, you can never really find out what his sexual orientation is just by looking at him and tuning in with the rumors that people give out. He may dress weird, or act weird (hypothetically) but all people are like that at some extent, so it's hard telling..

So your best bet is to personallty ask him, even you would feel uncomfortable with it. Let him know that you can be trusted with this, too if he ever admit to his sexual orientation (whether homosexual or staight).

And stereotypes aren't very accurate, so don't completely go by them when trying to tell what his orientation is.

Hope I helped =]

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ok. my hands get very sweaty. and its annoying. im very like self consious about it or whatever because i hold my boyfriends hand so before im always drying it on my pants. but its really annoying. how do i stop this?

In mild cases, sweating in palms can be caused by nervousness or anxiety. So when you get self-conscious you start sweating. Which in most cases is normal because a lot of people go through that, too. But, if you are getting sweaty palms for no apparent reason, the person below me is right.. "hyperhydrosis" is a common skin condition that makes you sweat. If you really think it's a problem and you want to get rid of the constant sweaty palms, see your family Doctor and tell him/her about the problems you are getting.

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how am i supposed to get bigger bobs mine jus wont grow and im getting older and nothing is there any natural at home way icould.. mmake my boobs bigger?

Growing breats only comes naturally. Using those so-called "miracle breast creams" and other OTC medication is just plain bogus. It only takes time. In fact, my friends had small breasts until they turned like 25. They went from a cup A to a cup C.

However, when you are old enough, (like 18) or if you are able to, you can try getting plastic surgery, or use padded bras that give you not only another cup bigger but more comfort.

Hope I helped =]

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Can you ger arrested by using Limewire. Are there any examples?

I really don't know any particular people that got arrested from using LimeWire, however I did hear that the Government is tracking those who are sharing the files rather than downloading them. Every LimeWire user has the risk of getting into trouble but you want to make sure you are not sharing illegally-made music, videos, or pictures (hence Piracy).

Hope I helped =]

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I hope i picked the right category for this. Anyway,I got my eyebrows waxed, and all of a sudden I got these little tiny bumps on my eyebrows! This never happened to me before and I don't know what to do. Does anyone know what caused this and how I can get rid of them? Thanks

It's normal.. all it really is, is a minor irritation. You can treat it by applying hydrocortisone cream on it, which is a cream that reduces irritations, rashes, or any other inflammation. And in most, usual cases, it goes away within a day or two.

Hope I helped =]

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Does anyone have any infornation or sources of information that would be useful in applying for a job in a preschool.
I am a 15 year old male, In a health and Child Care program at my high School

Try asking your teacher for any thing she/he may have to start on your career. Also look for offers around the community.

To get you started, here is a link as a 'guidance' to your profession: http://www.khake.com/page15.html. I really think this site gives you more insight on the job you want, and it includes job offers nationwide.

SnagAJob.com is merely for teens who seeking a job in pretty much any catagory: http://www.snagajob.com/default.aspx?ref=gTeenJobs

Another search site in finding your career catagory and job: http://hotjobs.yahoo.com/

The catch is, you may have to have some degree in child care, and/or at least 18 years of age, unless there are volunteer work you are able to do (which actually helps you getting a real job in child care later on)

Hope I helped! =]. Good luck!

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lately the past like 3 times i've gotten my period (i've only had it like 4 or 5 times though) it's been like REALLY heavy, and lasts like a week. it's sooo annoying, especially in school.. and it is always getting on my underwear and ugh it's just bad. what should i do?! how can i make it shorter and lighterrrr. ugh i have it now and it's really bad. in school i always feel like it's going through my pants and everyone can see it :( what should i do?!

I know the feeling. There is really nothing you can do about the flow of your period, except contacting a Gynocologist to recommend you on Birth Control, which can regulate periods, making them lighter.

In the meantime, use extra-heavy feminine pads, or use an extra-heavy tampon supplied with a pantiliner (or a regular pad) as backup. That usually helps!!

Hope I helped =]

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ok so one of my best friends (14/m) is bi. he keeps falling for straight guys and will call me crying. i have no idea what to tell him. if theres anyone expierence in this subject from any side please help! i want him to be able to talk to me about this stuff, but i dont know what to say becasue im strait.

thanks!

Tell him that are you there for him no matter what. Support him and be there for him. I have friends are bisexual and homosexual. I understand it's hard to reply back to someone that is not straight but you are.

Like I said, support him. Tell him to think wisely before he falls for someone. You both have your differences but you can easily work them out if you two are there for each other when at times it's needed.

Being bisexual can be an issue. Understand people who are bisexual or homosexual are hard to be accepted to some people and are big stereotypes. But let him know it's OK to be bisexual, and that you are OK with it. Tell him to be self-confident with his sexual orientation.

I hope that answers your question. If not, I can always change it. =]

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Does anyone know where I can get the code to get rid of my 'Extended Network' and Blog secion of my myspace?

For example:
(Click the link)

http://i11.tinypic.com/2iqiwr7.jpg

You can to www.eatcrack.com. They have several codes to get rid of certain parts of your Myspace.

Also, mygen.co.uk has them, as well!

Hope I helped =]

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so my parents are cutting back alot on christmas this year. one of my friends said that they were still spending alot on us but i dont think they are. i want to see what parents normally spend on christmas. i honestly dont want a bunch of rich kids anwsering because we all know that you guys get spoiled (no offense, i do too thought)if it helps theres 3 kids in my family. so i just want a rough number of what your parents normally spend.

My parents spend roughly 400-500 dollars on my sister and I. We aren't rich but we are moderately wealthy.

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i know everyone has exams to worry about right now, but some advice would be really helpful.

wednesday i have an ap calculus bc and an ap chemistry semester exam that i am going to do so badly on. does anyone have any tips on how to study?

thursday i have apush as well ap literature, which is a practice exam that i always do really poorly on. any tips?

any study tips on how to prevent distractions, or how to get motivated would really help. thanks in advance

I recently answered a question similar to this, so I copied the answer and put in more answers to your questions. =]

As with distractions, study in a quiet area, where it's not messy. Listen to some classical music, since it's proven to get you to concentrate more. To help you study better, study for a full 45 minutes and take a 15 minute break to stretch, grab a snack, or something to drink, then sit back down for another 45 minutes. Well really you don't have to do 45 minutes but whatever you feel is better. But take breaks. Don't study for long periods of time. Your brain can get exhausted and you can forget the material you read over either within minutes or by tomorrow.

1) Read over notes. Go over ONLY the important main stuff, and the stuff you know will be on the test. Even if some small things will be on there, you can lose little points compared to if you miss major materials, and you can miss many points. So concentrate on important stuff; forget the little stuff. If you're not sure what will be on the test (which can happen) go over what you think is the most important. Take hints from what the teacher told you in class. Think about what the teacher went over the most or hearing your teacher say, "this might be on the exam", keep that in mind.

2) Try to find a few extra minutes, and make flash cards. Use step one and make flash cards to write down only the important stuff. Writing it down, and writing helps you subconsiously remember the material later. This is also an advantage when you are in a rush.

3) Don't stress over it! Get a good night's sleep. Eat a nutritious breakfast (especially foods HIGH in protein which is "brain food" boosting memory in the brain) You can find protein in meat (ham & cheese bagel sandwich or some fish) Poultry like eggs has a significant amount of protein, so make some eggs in the morning. Avoid caffeine and sugar; stick with OJ, water, or milk.

4) If it's possible, brink a bottle of water with you, or chew some gum. This keeps you alert and awake during the test.

Hope I helped! Good luck with the exams! =]

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I'm not quite expecting an answer but I feel so depressed all of a sudden and I think I need some kind of help.Well at school there's this girl I like and no one knows about it.Well I'm a freshman and new to my highschool.I wanted to tell her how I feel but some how I couldn't. She's my MySpace friend along with some new ones I got. But then everything changed...she was absent for like a week and I was concerned but then today I heard she is transferring and being home schooled for now on. I don't know what happened but I heard from my art teacher she wasn't happy here and also from a student people were making fun of her well cause she was bisexual.She was in only 3 of my classes and I barely got a chance to know her.And I don't care what she is just as long there is happiness.But mine is..gone. Now I'm never gonna see her anymore or even get a chance to talk to her. I don't know what's wrong with me I'm sad,heart broken and some how mad. Why would anyone want to make fun of a person like her anyways?!?(A-hole idiots..)I also can't believe something like this happened...And she's like the only one for me I do see other girls that are way hotter than her but I don't have any interest in them she is like the one for me but now it's not going to happen.I miss her already even though I don't know her. I just don't know why though. I feel a pain in my heart and my head hurts...I'm not really good with feeling emotions. I...just can't believe it...

It sounds to me you care for her a lot, which is a good thing to have, even if you barely even knew her. I can understand the hurt you are feeling in this situation. You are upset and hurt that she wasn't happy with how people was treating her so she chose to be home-schooled.

People can be jerks. I really don't understand why people make fun of other people. It's great to see unique, different people out there. But know you can't stop other people from doing things. It's life.

Since she has a Myspace, try messaging her. Even if it would seem extremely awkward. You can start by asking how she is doing, and life is going for her.

I know you are not expecting an answer, but I was really concerned with what you were going through so I decided to respond to it.

I am really sorry for what has been going on. People can be mean, but as long as you believe she is a great person that's what matters. It really does..

I wish you the best! =]

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well i have this boyfriend, and he is older and more experienced then i am. He says that he loves me and he wants to be with me I love him soo much. He says that he wants to take it to the next level. Where im from alot of the girls my age arent virgins and dont care bout sex or nethin. Im young but veryy mature for my age, i dont know what to do, I feel that im ready but i dont know.

When you are ready, you will know it. If you are unsure, you most likely are not.

Think about yourself in this situation. Think about questions such as "If I give up my virginity to him, will it be worth it?" or "Am I sure we will be together for the rest of our lives?" or "Is this what I want or what he wants?"

Have self-respect and make the choice for yourself and not him. If you feel that you two shouldn't take it to the next level, he should respect that. But if you really feel you should, that is up to you. Don't let him manipulate you.

However, this is up to you and only you in this situation, but you two should negotiate if this is what you both want as well. Think it through first and then make the choice. I am not saying not to or encouraging you to do so. My point is to think is through and ask yourself questions before you make that decision. Because only you know if you are ready -- not your boyfriend, not anyone else.

And don't let peer pressure interfere with your decision. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin. Please note that. Nor is there anything wrong with losing your virginity. As long as you feel it's what is right and that you are ready to.

Hope I helped! =]

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howdy,
the video on my myspace profile was deleted by it's artist- how do i put a new one up? thanks.

You can simply search for that artist in the music section, or find a music website that can offer a music code for it (videocure.com is good).

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i have a big test tomorrow, and i unfortunatly procrastinated. ive hardly studied at all, and here i am on the internet..
does anyone know of any ways i can learn alot of stuff in a short period of time...???
-thnx

I do this a lot. It's hard crumble your memory and cram it all in one night. It really is. It'll be a struggle, but you'll do fine if you follow these tips:

1) Read over notes. Go over ONLY the important main stuff, and the stuff you know will be on the test. Even if some small things will be on there, you can lose little points compared to if you miss major materials, and you can miss many points. So concentrate on important stuff; forget the little stuff. If you're not sure what will be on the test (which can happen) go over what you think is the most important. Take hints from what the teacher told you in class. Think about what the teacher went over the most or hearing your teacher say, "this might be on the test", keep that in mind.

2) Try to find a few extra minutes, and make flash cards. Use step one and make flash cards to write down only the important stuff. Writing it down, and weiting helps you subconsiously remember the material later. This is also an advantage when you are in a rush.

3) Don't stress over it! Get a good night's sleep. Eat a nutritious breakfast (especially foods HIGH in protein which is "brain food" boosting memory in the brain) You can find protein in meat (ham & cheese bagel sandwich or some fish) Poultry like eggs has a significant amount of protein, so make some eggs in the morning. Avoid caffeine and sugar; stick with OJ, water, or milk.

4) If it's possible, brink a bottle of water with you, or chew some gum. This keeps you alert and awake during the test.

Hope I helped! Good luck with the test! =]

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So i have a paper due tomarrow on Tears of a Tiger Analaysis and I wanted to know what are ways to right less but still in size 12 font? are there any bigger fonts or anything? I also need help finding slants in the book. Thanks ALOT

I am a big procrastinator, myself. What effectively helps me are these tips:

*Set up the essay as 1.5 or double-spaced between the lines. This is not only helpful to you, but helpful to the teacher when he/she reads it.

*Summarize but put it in specifics. If I only knew that (example) Maya Angelou was a Civil Rights Activist, I would ramble on, saying how she supported black women, and giving them rights, etc..

*Describe the main problems that occured in the story; not the small insignificant details. Doing this will make the essay go faster, and putting in bigger parts of a story can fill the paper up pretty fast.

* Use a header and footer settings (like put in the page number, the date, your name, teacher, etc). Doing this already takes out a few lines. And even after using this plus title and spaced out lines still makes the essay longer than it actually is.

Hope I helped! =]

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What is a good way to attract people to subscribe to your youtube site??

Advertise it. Link the site to your myspace, xanga, myyearbook, tagworld, AIM, etc..

And also making a lot of clips can attract some people, and also to try to get a really good rating on it so it will become popularized being on the list for top videos.

Hope I helped =]

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i dont no how to make out help me!!!!

It comes natural, trust me.

When the moment came for me, I was clueless how to do it. But once it happened I turned out fine.. just follow his/her lead and do what he/she does.. then follow it. There's really no 'instructions' to do it since people go at it differently their first time.

Please go with me 100% on this; you'll be fine.

Just as a note, be prepared for the moment and bring mints with you (I know this is totally off but this makes a big difference!)

I really hoped I helped =] Good luck!! You'll do fine!!

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okay i am a virgin, so i haven't had experience with guys pleasing me "down there". i am getting married next month and i know it is something that will come up soon, so i want to know how i could make sure that it is fresh. so it doesn't smell or taste nasty. thank you:)

Eating fruits can make your "down there" smell better. Eat more fruits, especially apples, bananas, and especially strawberries.

Also, you can also use scented douches or feminine wipes if you have little or no time. Especiallly if it goes into one of those "unexpected moments".

But eating healthy maintains your vaginal hygiene.

Hope I helped =]

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I stumbled across this site by accident. I seriously doubt many of you have the qualifications to give real people proper advice. After reading some of your responses to people's inquiries i was quite astonished as to how teenagers find they are able to give quality advice and information to real people in need with such little life experience. If you ask me you are not in a place to give your "personal opinion" when people truly believe you are giving them the right answer simply because you claim "people think i give really good advice". (eg. i am still at a loss as to how a 17 year old girl thinks she can give advice to someone regarding conceiving a child) I know you try to come across as a "godsend" to poeple who are in some sort of personal crisis and need a fast easy answer but the truth is, in the cases where it really counts, there rarely is one; at least not from you.

I respect your point of view, however, your response makes me feel like I have no reason to give advice to people on this site.

I love giving advice. I am 16 years old. But because I am a teenager does not mean I merely suck at giving advice.

I can see your point. It annoys me when people give those uneducated responses that contain no corrent grammer or spelling. Along with responding to the question completely out of context.

However, I see so many people younger than me giving out so much better advice than I ever thought! I respect all people regardless of age, gender, race, disability, social or family status to retrieve helpful advice to those who need it.

Also, I have seen people feeling suicidal about themselves, and when people respond to those messages, giving them hope and encouragement, it really makes a big difference in their lives. I love seeing that. I love making people smile from the advice I give out.

And you are right about this, "i am still at a loss as to how a 17 year old girl thinks she can give advice to someone regarding conceiving a child." It upsets me when people respond to questions they don't even have much knowledge on. But.. there are 17-year olds who have conceived. Think of that before you say that again.. respect those who have made mistakes but be grateful to those who are willing to warn others not to make the mistakes they made. It's great to know that people are willing to do that.

I have observed many situations on this website. People feeling depressed, stressed out from a boyfriend/girlfriend, heartbreaks, school, work, or just everything. And seeing so many people would try giving out their time and effort to try to help them out is precious. Some people can't even get that in this world. It saddens me when some people are left uncared for. But when I see people trying so hard to help out, no matter what it takes, it cheers me up. People helping people is such a gift and I am sure God is proud of each person on this website that gives out advice to people who need it. Devoting their time to help out and make a difference is a way to get you to heaven. (no offense to anyone who is not Christian).

I also agree with you that not all people here are college-educated advice experts with a Masters Degree, but I can assure you that you should never underestimate someone and their abilities to give good advice. I've seen wonderful advice, and I feel you would too if you take the time and look harder.

And personally in my opinion, many of these questions require more opinion than fact to successfully answer the question.

For example, someone could ask what brand of soap is better. You can go by opinion, stating which one smells better, or by fact stating which one has vitamins and antioxidents.

Please excuse me for trying my best to give [maybe not the best advice] but advice that gives effort. I give props to those who sacrifice their time to answer any questions I ask. I always see those few that give no effort to it, like they could say "who cares; go die" doesn't even deserve to be here. But people giving thoughtful and respectful responses are the kind of answers I would like.

I apoligize for your arrogance regarding to the people's questions and answers. I sincerely hope you change your mind and think about it again.

Have a lovely day!

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