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14 with long hair, naturally straight and layered, no bangs and thick. i need some hairstyles for my hair and if it has anything to do with curling or scrunching it then take it step by step because my hair is EXTREMELY hard to curl. btw i don't want any styles that i gotta go to a salon for like a perm. thanks in advance!!
There's a new shampoo out from Garnais I believe that makes your hair get a little poofier appearance. The commercial where the girl stuffs her hair when her boyfriend comes over, lol. anyway, generally, if your hair is thick it's pretty hard to curl but once you do it stays longer than the people with thinner hair. and what you cant curl crimp it or something. add more life and excitement! theres also a moose called aquage for your hair and it's GREAT! you lather it in your hair only like an inch and lather it al over your head in the morning (after you wash it of course) and it stays with you until you wash it out. but dont put too much cuz it'll get all sticky and goopy and icky. hope i helped good luck!
okay so my boyfriend and i have been together for about two months now. This past saturday we had sex , my first time and i gave myself to him because i love him and as he tells me he loves me in return. We did it all w/out protection which i realize is a great risk. Now i am in fear of pregnancy. I didnt mention this to him yet but i told two of my close friends, only one knows him and i do not think she told him. The last time i talked to him was monday which i find rather strange, its getting me worried. Is it that he is ignoring me? Should i talk to him about my fear of being pregnant?
thankyou!
Girl, you need to confront him about his awfully rude behavior. Because it sounds like he just used you for sex. Not cool! If you know what I mean. As I was saying, if you trusted him enough to have sex with him you should trust him enough to talk about your insecurities with him.
Hope I helped
would it be rude if i broke up with someone in a letter?
Personally, I think you should take the time to see him/her considering he/she is your girlfriend/boyfriend. If you're afraid they'll become violent with you don't be afraid to text-message, email, IM, call,send a letter or whatever your heart desires to break up! But other than that, you probably should be with him the minute it's really over. It's your last minute together as girlfriend&&boyfriend. You should cherish it.
Hope I helped
ok so me and my best guyfriend were at a concert last weekend and he was making fun of this girl and she heard him, and i turned around and saw that she was a girl that goes to my school. i was like "oh god that girl goes to my school what am i supposed to do now" and he was like "just tell her we're dating"
how will telling her we're dating solve anything? is he trying to hint something to me or what?
Hehe. Aww that's sweet of him.
i have a really scratchy throat and i feel like my nose is all snotted up and so is my throat. like there's a lot of really bad drainage only its thick so i can't breathe as well.
WHAT SHOULD I DO? this can't be strep. it doesn't feel like it.
If your nose is clogged up and there is bad drainage something that REALLY helps me, and i mean REALLY HELPS! It does miracles within 10 minutes. nasonex is the brand of the nose spray, you could pick it up at a drug store or like CVS, rite-aid, stores like that. it's good for allergies too. for your throat, drink LOTS of water that's luke warm because it loosens up your vocal chords. trust me it works really fast! or to numb the pain try one of those things you spray in the back of your throat...the commercials with the guy that goes "tell you throat to just chill!" you know that one? well they taste bad but i hear good feedback. good luck and hope i helped!
my boyfriend says he loves me but he was checking out some other girl at school i don't know if i should breakup with him or not?
female
13
Well you haven't said much about it but from what you've said he sounds like a playa. Not loyal and won't be there for you. Most likely he's checking out a lot other girls or maybe he isn't. But you know, it sounds like you need someone to be checking out YOU and only YOU. Someone COMPLETELY ONLY into you and not interested in someone else. Bottom Line:
Talk to him first and if this behavior continues when you're around or when you aren't: break up with him. I really hope I helped and let me know if there's anything else I can do!
Theres this girl and her mum and they come by our house when they need help with money, food, babysitting,etc. I don't mind but recently it's been often and they only come when they need help.
Today she came and asked us to keep her daughter..and I told mom enough is enough and not to keep her (she as=lso bothers me ALOT). And she owes us $240.
Should I change my mind/
This is the time where they need you most, but it sounds to me like they only come for help and stay away whenever given the chance. Not so friendly! Why can't they just ask a relative or friends? But be there for them because if you ever have a problem they will come through for you! Life has its rewards and God will reward you someday. So this decision is really all up to you but my opinion is to keep helping out. Good luck and hope i helped!
16/female i feel extremely oddly shaped, one of my vaginal lips(labia minora) is like 2 inches long and it hangs down like a turkey gobble the other one is normal and is like a centemeter and it isnt viewable, is this unusual? i want to get it fixed because im afraid my bf will think im weird, i know there is labiaplasty for this.. but like do alot of other girls have it?
Don't worry you're just a normal girl! This is common, I've heard in a lot of girls and many are very self-concscience about it and question their wellbeing. But there is no problem with it--you're healthy. I've heard about tons of other people like that, and they're completely normal. But just to be sure, talk to a doctor maybe and she/he could tell you how to get it fixed.
anyone please this is not that long and i really need help. Sometimes my parents can be complete IDIOTS. im not allowed to go skiing because My dad SAYS that im going to get hurt. I cant do an article for school on RAPE because my mom doesnt like it and now i have to stay up to research another one AND memorize it. (btw im 13/f) These stupid choices of my parents are making me depressed and i even cut myslef because of it. I cant have a boyfriend untill im 17, i cant wear a tampon yet, MY MOM DOESNT ACCEPT THAT IM GROWING UP. IVE TREID TALKING TO HER ABOUT THIS BUT SHE WILL NOT LISTEN. Seriously, My dads decision about skiing. I mean COME ON. IM GONNA GET HURT WTF. i know my parents care about me but they need to let go! They will NOT listen to me when i tell them all this. I cry all the time and i dont know what to do. Sometimes my life is perfect and sometimes i want to die. What i really want to ask you guys is what can i do now? Ive talked to them, that doesnt work. I know a note wont work and they WOUDL NOT go to a counseller or anything. I honestly feel that if i sucide myslef, they might learn something. (Also, im indian if that helps). Is anyone can help me PLEASE do so.
First of all about the skiing, it's reasonable that he's afraid you'll get hurt. That's just something parents do. No boyfriend until you're 17!? That's insane. They might just be afraid you aren't responsible enough or you'll go off and have sex. Which I'm sure is not the case. Ask your mom when she had her first boyfriend, and she'll tell you and if it's younger than 17 it may just be because she made a mistake and she doesn't want you to make the same one. But try talking to them and tell them "Please listen. This is important. I won't be here forever, so listen to me now. I know you're afraid of me having a boyfriend for whatever reason, maybe because you don't want me to make a mistake you might've made in your past. But I won't make the same mistakes. I'll make my own. I need room to make a big mistake, or I can never learn. Let me do this, I'm growing up and I love you but this is getting serious. I cut myself recently and I'm getting very depressed. I need some freedom." But remember to say it calmly, and respectfuly! But keep in mind that, you could have it worse. Much worse. I once watched this show where a mother wouldn't let her daughter walk in her neighborhood alone and she was about 15. Hope I helped
I like this guy at school but the problem is he's black and my granny is really prejudiced and he asked me out and i said yes so we are going out but my entire family wants me to break up with him just becouse of the color of his skin what should i do?
This whole racist thing gets me very angry. If you really like him, DON'T BREAK UP WITH HIM! They do not have the right to make you break up with him due to the color of his skin! That's just not fair! He can't help it! If they do not approve, too bad. This is your life, your relationship, your boyfriend, and your decision. They just influence you and guide you through, but it sounds to me like their opinions of the situation are just not fair. Hope I helped.
my cousin traci and i are always getting into fist fights and she usually hits me first for no reason like today she played a trick on me and i told her mom my other cousin and she got mad at me so she hit me and bit me and i fought back in self defense How can i stop my cousin and i from getting into fist fights all of the time?
please help me
This is serious. She has a violence problem and she needs help. I really don't know much about the problem but you should tell her to see someone or get therapy. It's not fair to let her live her life punching people, it's not fair to you either to be the victim! Hope I helped.
My school's valentines dance is coming up and I asked this guy I like if he would go with me. He told me that I was the 4th girl to invite him and he'd get back to me cuz he hadn't decided yet and he wanted to see how many girls would ask him. I aske dwho the other 3 were and he said he never gave names. I know this is a lie because when I asked him to the last gc dance he told me who was taking him. Do you think he was lying to make me jealous or to give him an easy out if someone else did ask him?
No offense, I really don't mean to be rude but...if he likes you he probably wouldn't try to make you jealous after you just asked him to the dance. However there's still a chance he wants to go with you so don't worry!But since he said he was waiting to see who else asked him, that's not complete rejection. But it makes it sound like he's waiting for a different girl...But if that's true, don't worry he's not the only fish in the sea! If I were you, I wouldn't wait for him to decide, you should find a guy who can decide who he likes the most right on the spot. Because, you could be wasting your time waiting for him while there's someone that likes you more than him. And after all that waiting he could say no. Hope I helped. good luck
okay im 14//f, but i havent gotten my period yet. like i know its usually until 16 that i have to worry about but, ive had like hair down there for 3 years..and its weird how i havent gotten it yet. my breasts have grown too, butn ot completely. Is there something wrong? Will i ever get my period?
Most likely you will get your period. But however, some people don't have fallopian tubes so they are not able to have their eggs fertilized. Which means they won't get their period. If you don't get it within the next two years, you should talk to your doctor since you're worried! Most likely there is NOTHING wrong, but just to be sure. It doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you even if you don't have them.Hope I helped!
I would like some advice on what I should eat because I'm planning on going on a diet... I know some things I should avoid already like junk food, which isn't a problem. What else can I do to not slow down my metabolism and possibly gain more energy? I'm planning to lose maybe 20-30 pounds and I already have a way to exercise. I just need to know what things I can or should eat. Thanks in advance.
Well it all depends mainly on your height, age, and weight. If your doctor has mentioned the fact that you are over-weight here's a good diet plan...
-Eat 1700 calories a day if you are between the ages of 11-18
-Exercise for about 30 minutes a day on a treadmill etc. (just an alternative if your other exercise doesn't work out) Maybe take walks outside on the sidewalk or whatever
-Instead of watching tv for an hour, call up a friend and see if she/he wants to go to a mall or hang out at an amusement park or something
-Instead of avoiding foods with carbs avoid all the fat calories. The carb diet is a much more dangerous diet and is more difficult. With the cutting down on calorie diet, you'll get healthier. But remember...keep in mind that you need meat unless you're a vegetarian, get protein to stay healthy! And you need SOME calories just not over-loading a day.
-And finally...once a week everyone has a cheat day, the day in your week that is cut out for eating normal again like around the Holidays. So feel free to pig out on those days just not too much! And don't try to lose like 6lbs a week because it will come back and it's dangerous. Don't ever starve yourself. Don't EVER! ever. ever. Also, grapefruit raises metabolism it burns about 10 calories each one you eat. And keep in mind that 1lb is 3500 calories. Good luck hope i helped!
I know dreams do not mean much, and they just help you deal with your waking life, but I can usually interpret why I had a dream, and what they mean... but this one, I have no idea why I drempt it:
It started out in a regular car, and someone [I don`t know who] was driving it. My brother was in the passanger, and my friend and I were sitting in the back. The music was blasting and we were all having a good time. Then all of a sudden the driver dropped us off at Petco [lol weird, right?], and he ran in to get something. well my brother dissapeared and my crush turned up. we were there waiting for the guy to come back to bring us somewhere, and we were showing a lot of affection for each other, and he was hugging me from behind & all that stuff. Well the guy came back and my brother showed up out of no where and once my brother showed up, me & my crush barely looked at each other.
Any ideas?? thanks.
Alright...lemme check my dream dictionary...
A car symbolizes-Your motivating drives;sex drive;ambition;sense of failure. You are trying to get somewhere in your life.
Music symbolizes-self expression;expressing our essential self which might be overlooked in generl activies.
Store-Something we are looking for;love;want;need
Hope I helped
I really like this guy D. He has a bestfriend, M, which is a girl and I likes him and he told me that he has a little feelings for her, which I don't believer I think he likes her alot. Well D is a big flirt and all the time with me, also he is bery nice. I really want to get with him, I gave him a note telling him how I feel about him, and he lost it. SO what do you think I should do? Tell him straight up, or give him another note, or what?
Don't tell him straight up. It will make him think you're desperate. Be mysterious, make him want more of what you have! Don't try to act better than the other girl because then he might see it as a turn off especially if they're already just friends. Just talk to him a little more, that's how it all starts out. Act natural though. But remember there's nothing you can do to make him change his feelings about her. But if he only likes you as a friend right now, you could change that by hanging out more. Just whatever you do, be yourself! Don't act like her because he likes her. That's probably a turn-off to him, good luck! I hope things work out. Hope I helped
i've had sex maybe three times and once i shaved my pubes and then i got these red bumps that are too small to look like razor burns where i shaved...there aren't any of these bumps near the inside of my vagina but i have three red bumps towards the top part of where the pubic hair is...
i'm scared that they're herpes or some other untreatable infection. they don't itch and i'm scared to go to my doctor...would i have to a specialist?
any idea what it is and what i can get to treat it like creams and what not?
please help...
I'm pretty sure it's only from shaving your pubes unless you have had sex recently and the bumps showed up immediately (as in a day) after or sooner. I don't have much to tell you about herpes but visit the website coolnurse.com it might explain the process and tell you how to prepare yourself and what to be expecting. Don't worry! I shave my pubic area too and I get a couple of bumps occassionally and when the pubes grow back it tends to get a little itchy. Don't worry, but you should still talk to a doctor. There is no substitute! I hope everything works out, and don't get too worked up about things. You could have herpes but I don't think you do. They haven't come out with a cure yet that I know of, and I think it stays with you your whole life. I'm sorry to hear it if you have herpes, I hope everything goes well! Good luck!
I hope I helped
Okay I'm about to ramble so get ready...
My problem, what is it? I'm not sure. I think I have more than one but i'll tell you all the symptoms now.
I feel it's extremly neccesairy to be happy at all times...for myself? No. So that I don't get others sad. I feel like its my job to keep people happy. Well...at times. At others I think it should be all about me getting attention and pity and being depressed. At those timees I feel the world has to be about me.
The thing is I feel as if it's 2 of me. I...I doubt im have some split personality disorder but I just feel...maybe? Like whenI look at things I wrote...emails notes ect sometimes I tell myself "you didnt write that...it wasnt you". Now obviously I know it was but...I just don't remember it and I feel I wouldnt have wrote it like that.
Now not remembering it is another problem...I have terrible memory...not like occasional "Where did I put my keys" but like I can almost never remember where most of my stuff is what I didi with is ect but I feel thats because im always daydreaming. I always feel out of it not realising the world. Thats what I blame short term memory on. But my long term memory is terrible also. Well...chosen memories.
I can remember a bunch of times I cried at school...I can remember feeling guilty after being a jerk and saying something stupid in class. But I can't remember my first best friend or anything happy. If I can I have to try reaaaaaaaly hard and most of the time im pretty sure I "remember" them because we got them on tape and watched them recently. And when I remember stuff its from a thrid person view...is that normal? I'm not too sure. I doubt my sanity all the time then reasure myself but I dont know...
I'm very strange when it comes to social situations...I can sing in front of 100's of people and not be shy at all but when it comes to asking a teacher for a homework I lost it terrifies me. I hate school do to this. I am very unorganised and the daydreaming doesnt help. It's not that im afraid of the people themselves its just if I say something stupid and they give me that look...that "You're kidding right?" look it just burn a hole in me ...it shatters me to peices...I know its stupid but it does.
So I hang around with alot of girls but barely any guys...yet i've only had one girlfriend my whole life...I dunno...I feel lonely because of that though...I feel like I need someone to love me but I think thats the "wants attention" side...
Well if you survived that...tell me...what do you think is wrong? What should I do...what?
P.S. I am a very confused 15 year old boy
OK, well first of all with the personality extremes, you don't have to make others feel happy, unless you've caused their sadness. It's not your responsibility to make people happy. and when you feel like it should be all about you when you're sad I think it's because you've done all you can do to make others happy because you felt like it was your job, and you think others should do the same for you. Which makes sense. Now, with the lack of remembrance, and that you can only remember the negative things...I think that's because you need more self-esteem. Like, the fact that you do all you can to make others happy, not everyone does that! Think of everything positive about yourself and you might remember better things about yourself instead of the times you were ajerk in school. Now for the emails, it's probably because you felt differently about it then, than you do now. You might've been in a different mood, and people your age go through having lots of mood changes and different opinions of the world, because you may not know who you are yet and it takes time to figure it out. So you try to look at others' points of view of things.
Hope I helped
It's an expansion pack. If I download it to my computer, it will be just as if I bought it, right? And then I dont need the CD every time i play the game, right? Just the actual disc for Sims 2. Also, can you make your sim a young adult when your making them? Once you have the university thing.
I'm pretty sure that you have to insert the disk like with most CD-Roms but I could be wrong. I don't have the university game but I do have other sims games and on Bustin' Out and sims2petz you can make a young adult. good luck hope i helped
-lauren
13/f. I'm not really scared of the dark or anything, but here latley i've been getting really scared. see, since it's been christmas break i've been staying up until around 3:00a.m. because i don't have school the next day (yeah, you all probably new that, but oh well, hehe! jk). so, when i'm about to go to bed, i put my dog up, and turn off all of the lights. but i practacly (sp?) run to my bed because i'm really scared. and before i go to bed and i'm on the computer and stuff, every little sound i hear i get soooo scared. for example, i was in the tonight brushing my teeth and i swear i heard loud foot steps going by the door. i don't think it was my parents because they never get up in the middle of the night, but it could have been one of them. but when i heard "footsteps" i got sooooooooooooo freaking scared. should i like stop watching scary movies? or go to bed eariler when my parents do so i don't have to stay up by myself? i don't know what to do, but i'm getting really tired of getting scared all of the time. i really need some help! thanks ppl!
Don't worry this is normal! Sugar makes you a little hyper and will give you nightmares, etc. if you've been having a lot of that. What I like to do, is listen to music, or watch tv and I fall asleep quickly. Sometimes I do my laptop for a while and it makes my eyes tired (dunno why) so I fall asleep quicker. Or maybe read a book. Maybe stop the horror movies for a month and see if it improves. Hope I helped, ask me anything!