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-MaRii
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what are some colors for summer (link)
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BRiGHT COLORS ARE REALLY iN FOR THE SUMMER...AND iF YOURR A GiRL...DRESSES FiT iN. COLORSS----->LiGHT ORANGE, LiGHT TURQUOiSE, PiNK, AND LiGHT GREENS. && SKY BLUE. HOPE THiS HELPSS.
-MARi
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mk. well there's this guy i guess you can say who's kinda shy. I went out with him [if you want to call it that] in 5th grade. Then again in 6th. But 7th i never talked to him and here we are 8th grade he's asked me out twice. I went out with him once. Then! he asked me out again. And i just said i'd like to be friends for a little longer. Well he's real sweet and stuff but i'm just afraid he's not gonna talk to me...and you don't always see him as the "boyfriend" type like hugging, kissing , holding hands n stuff. Formal's coming up and his friends keep telling me that he's gonna ask me and he's sweet but i really just wanna go with my best friend. lol BUT over this past weekend we talked like ALL night and i think i started to like him...and i really don't know what to do anymore...anyone have any ideas where i can figure out if i really like him or if it's just cause i don't wanna hurt him?
please and thank youu! (link)
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LMFAO! My boyfriend was the same exact way. He still is shy. But i took my chances and our relationship keeps getting better. We're goiing to the 8th grade graduation together...i think? HEE HEE. Thats the fun in it thouggh. How will you ever find out how it'll work out for you and him if you never give it a chance? Ive learned over this relationship that taking the chance is one of the best decions i coulda done. SURE, dont hug...kiss...hold hands...ect. But im happy, cuz in a way im the same way. Im absouluty sure one day we will do all those things. Take a chance. If it dont work out...e-mail me on less painfull ways to break up. Although i dont think that will be nesccery!Hee Hee. GOOD LUCK!!
-MaRii
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I want to know if anyones ever had this... Where you feel like you have a bladder infection but its not actually that bad....and when you wipe theres a little reddness. Does anyone know? (link)
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If your a girl...that would be your period.
Or if not you should tell your parnts to take you to the docter...Seriously.
If you dont know what your perid is just e-mail me.
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15/f
I kinda like this one dude (from a far away thing) I didn't really know him untill today when we were together. He kept messing with me and my other frined he would pretend to hit hit us and osmetimes really hit us. But him and and this other person got something going on like a passing note thing and She has a boyfriend so i know they don't have anything like that going on. But after I got to know him he's really fun In last preiod he would smile and make me feel better( Cause I didn't feel good.. at all -.-) But he's not the cutest thing in the world but he's really sweet and If we do end up some how dating my friends would pressure me.. "Ew he's ugly Why would you date him. Girl your weird" Until we would eventually break up. Gr.. (link)
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Im gonna keep this a simple and short. Hope it helps.
This guy seems like a Flirty type. What you can do is keep the flirting...keep the thing going.
If you do eventually date him and your friends say that...you have to stand up for urself and say " So! to me hes not ugly. I think hes cute and VERY sweet. That matters to ME, and i dont care what YOU or ANYBODY else thinks! Im the one dating him not you. So dont worry about it. I know what im doing. He's really sweet, and i grew to like him. " Somethingg like that...If you like him nothing else matters. Trust me. Some of the MOST popular girls in my school dated the nerdiest ugliest weirdos ever. But you know what...they didnt care. Thats what made them so popular. I hope you find out what you truly need to do.
SoRRY iTS SO DAMN LONGG!!
-MaRii
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17/F
ok, so i just recently broke it off with my boyfriend of a year and a half and it ended well until he said some s**t that really got to me and i was tired of nein hurrt so i want nothing to do with him.. i think. my thing is, once you hurt me my guard is up and itll take a lot for it to go back down.. then my best friend(a guy) and i have not hung out in a while so were catchin up on old times but a couple nights i had a dream that my best friend and i "did some things" that i never EVER had a thought about doin with him.. i know im starting to get feeling for him n the dream didnt help at all n i kno hes crushed on me before but i dont know what to do. i dont want a relationship right now AND him and my ex are pretty good friends now... what do i do?! please tell me something, sorry its so long (link)
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Of coarse you dont want a relationship right now...i totally understand that. Your were hurt and youu dont want to make another mistake. Also, scince your ex and your best friend are kinda friends that'll make it all the more harder. But...wut you could do is, get a "moment" alone with your best friend. Weather its at your locker while no one is watching, or afterschool helping out in the hallway. wutever. You should let him now you've devoloped feeling for him. Something like "You've been really on my mind lately...and I sort of have feelings for you...but its totally cool if you dont" you know...
But you absolutlly MUST include that you cant start a relationship right away. That you would like it if you took it slow. And that you care for him.
If any more questions just msg me. Hope it helped!!!!!
-MaRii
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I'm just going to be blunt about this. My sex life is starting to get really boring. Any ideas on ways to spice it up a little? (My boyfriend is kind of kinky, if that helps) (link)
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Let me put it this way...THE WORLD IS BIG! Everywhere you go there is bound to be a connection between you and the oppisite sex...
if your boyfriend isnt giving you what you need, you can always try online dating? I mean in your area...so you can meet with the person of course!
But be careful becuase that can be dangerous sometimes...we all know bout that. Or you can set up something romantic with your boyfriend at your place...get everythingg in the mood..you know? Talk to him about taking it to the next level. Maybe he'll get the messege...
HOPE this helped!
-MaRii
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13/f
5 feet tall
122 pounds
i need to lose 8 pounds
what are some excersizes that i can do like in my room (like not running) but anything else.
i no i need to eat less sugary,fat and low carb stuff so don't tell me stuff NOT to eat , tell me good stuff TO eat,
also, is it true that when you lose weight ur boobs go first? (link)
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An example of food you can eat is special K cereal...I KNOW, I KNOW...its nasty! Just get the ones with the red berries and eat with a bannana. I eat that. SOMETIMES. I've never actually tried doingg it for a week....but I got a little bit skinnier.
Im not sure if your boobs go first when you loose weight...but my best friend told me ...that your booty and boobs are ALWAYS FIRST. Im not sure its true...but maybe it is? Have'nt you seen the lady's that are athletes on TV, or the women who do work out videos's? THEIR FLAT A** HELL! They still got booty though...hopefully someone else can help you more with that one...
Movingg on to exersizes you can do ...examples are like ...you can put your feet under the sofa...and bend your knees...and cross your arms, holdingg on to ur shirt on each side...and crunch all the way up...then down. I do that. I think im fat...but i used to be 116 pounds...now im 110.
hope advice helpes!!
-MaRii
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13/f
ok ive been going out with my boyfriend for about a month and i want to tell him i love him, but my best friend says i should wait longer or wait for him to say it first... is she right??
thanks (link)
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I would probally wait till He tells you. What is that YOU want? would you feel akward telling him now? I agree with your best friend. Guys can be confusing sometimes...if you tell him you love him now...he might not be sure about that. Give it time... dont wrry about it. If you feel its time to let him noe...trust urself and do it.
(watch out becuase some guys want space..BUT not too much. Like dont call him ALLL day just to see wut he's doingg . This might lead him to second thoughts. But dont let him TOO free either.)
hope advice helped
-MaRii
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There are my friends, people I just know, and random people and then theres me. I feel somewhat disconnected with the people around me. I don't know whats wrong. Sometimes I think they think I'm retarded. I dress differently from everyone (there wear tight fiting T-shirts or theses realy nice clothes) I only wear jeans and 3 different hoodies which I rotate. For some reason I don't find anyone 'ugly' either. Everyoen is nice looking in there own way (even the guys). Its hard to talk to people because I feel like they juge me (except for a few people I know well.) and it makes it hard to go up and talk to people. I want to open myself up to making more friends, but it seems so hard. I mean even when I see theses supposive 'emo' girls or boys which I might think would have some of the same feelings about things I do I feel that they make fun of me? How can I open myself to making friends or just stop feling so akward? (link)
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You can try going out more. Plan new and fun events for you and a certain clique of people every weekend. This should keep you in touch with just about everyone! Open up to them wher you go. Tellt hem how glad you are they came, an how much they mean to you. Tell them you havnt really felt "in the conversation latly" and tell them...if you posiblly did something wrong?
goodluck, hope advice helped!!!
-MaRii
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on that newest episode of the hills, they say Jen and Brody hooked up. does that mean make out or have sex in their case? (link)
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You can never know for sure...because they didnt show...only that they went to brody's condo....
im guessing they only kissed...because at the end of the episode heidi comes to laurens apart. and ...Lauren asks heidi if Jen told heidi that Brody and her made out. And hiedi said yes. then thats wen lauren said "b****"
making out is kissing with tonge....hooking up could be either sex or making out...u can never noe for sure...unfortunatlly.
hope advice helped!!! i tried.
-MaRii
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when girls wear a perfume?
and what perfume is the best to turn a guy on? (link)
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When girls wear perfume? Well, i wear perfume right before big major event. Make sure you put some on, but not too much. You could try putting some on slightly under your ear. This is good because whenever you greet someone with a hug or a cheek kiss...they'll be sure to smell it!!
If you want to go for stong perfumes that wil be noticed no matter what, and last longg... i would go with Curve (chill) thats the one i wear all the time. Its white...with pinkish letters.
But if you waant somethingg thats not TOO stong, but wont let you down ...(i use this FOR SPECIAL occasions..) I would advize...the Jennifer Lopez ( LIVE) Its pink with green letters. Now i got these on sale for christmas at Marshalls i think? They may not be the cheapest. But theyre defenatly worth buying.
Hope advice helped...
-MaRii
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Is it true that when you're really mad or stressed often that you get bald?
I've been depressed for several years but I'm getting bald but I can't make it out if it's the family thing, that myth, or because I always pull my hair! (link)
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Well, i used to have the same problems. I was sooo stressed out because my boyfriend cheated on me...that i would eat a S***load. I would constanlly cry. And in that process every time I would take a shower, when i would take the shampoo out my hair...i wud take out clots of hair with it!
i know, crazy huh? Well anyway, i went to school and told my frineds and they had the SAME EXACT problems. Weird huh? Well, i didnt get any bald spots on my head or anyyhting(but if you do, i would advize going to your docter.) but i would constanly see a LOT of hair on my brush wen i would comb it. After a while, i stopped thinking about my ex, and i forgot all about my hair problems...i dont even pay attention to how much hair im loosing. Then i started noticing, i DONT loose hair anymore. No more s***loads of hair on my comb.
I think it happens when your stressed and depresed like you say. But for me NOW A DAYS, it happens when im NERVOUS. Just dont think about, put your head to somethingg else. Think ahead. If your depressed, Get out more with your frineds , have a good time. Get your mind of the problems. Maybe then you wont get bald.
SORRY IF IT WAS LONG!!
hope advice helped. My best wishes...
-MaRii
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is kissing ur bf like kissing ur dad? (link)
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um? NO! would you kiss ur dad on the lips...and feel passion through it? I think not. Kissing your boyfrined from my perspective is like something that cant be judged. It should be LOVE. Kissing your dad should be the other kind of LOVE. The love you feel because he's FAMILY. Not because you feel that undeniable passion from him.Every person is diffrent. So think about it.
hope my advice helped,
-MaRii
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I found out a few hours ago that my grandma isn't doing very well. She had a surgery on her hand the other day and since then she has passed out, felt dissy and felt really sick. Everytime I think about it I want to cry. I am so scared something really bad is going to happen to her. What should I do? (link)
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AWWW! Readiing yourr question...only made me wanna cry! My advice to you would be think postitve. You could pray for your grandma...annd hope she feels better...you can also take huge breaths wen u wanna cry. Think about somethingg else. Spend as much time with your grandma as posible. Give her cards. Give her stuff. So next time you want to cry... think about how cool it'd be if you were able to see her agian. Do everythingg possible to help her. If she needs anything let her know your there and that you love her very much !!! Dont worry about it! She'll get better dont worry. Im sure she will. Ill pray for her as i hope you do too!
=) give her a (get well soon hug from me!!)
-MaRii
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13/F
O.K. so I really like this one guy. Hes really sweet & cute. The only thing is he is like so quiet! I mean, he will talk to people and all, but hes not the type to talk out in class or anything, && I am. Im really loud & outgoing & stuff. I mean, he will talk to other kids if they talk to him first, and he will always talk to me and he flirts with me, but I cant tell if he likes me.
Well the real question is do quiet guys make good boyfriends? I mean he has never had a gf before (or atleast this year) and I dont know if he would know how to treat one. Like if he would hold my hand or anything. (link)
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Actually they do. My best-friend went out with one. It turns out the guy was real deep. Theyve been going out for a while now and are STILL together. Based on what my best friend told me...he really opens up to her on the phone. Talk to this guy. (on tha phone) Flirt. Talk. OPEN UP!!
then once you have under your spell...and you like feel comfortable with him. Tell him how he would feel holdingg hands and all. He should be honest about it. And talk to you about it.!!
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so basically me and my ex broke up about 4 weeks ago i think ha. Well i have not spoken with him in about 2weeks. We had a fight and i told him i was over him and he said he just wanted to get in my pants. We havent talked since because being friends with him was always a competition. He still is calling my friend for i duno what reason it is getting really old. Now he called me the other night on a withheld number, normally i do not pick up but i forgot about him. He started pressing a bunch of buttons and what have you, then i hang up and he calls back and makes up some stupid prank phone call line. I told him to grow up. Then he didnt call. This is an 18 year old here. I am trying to get over him i even found a new love interest, but it is so hard, he was my first love and i had sex with him. Now it makes it even harder that he keeps calling me and being extremely immature. As of now ive been ignoring it, Should i confront him about his actions? But, im afraid if i do that he will think i want him again. Should i just keep ignoring it? Why do you think he is acting like this? I mean he is back with the girl he dated before me. HELP. (link)
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He's obviouslly actingg like this because he wants a booty call. I mean by reading what you wrote. You got ina fight because he wanted to get in you pants? Thats retarded! Hes back with this other girl and WHO KNOWS wut he does with her. Your right! He is actingg immature...I wouldnt ignore it ....because it'll only make it harder to face it?! Change your number or something. Make sure he gets the messege that you are worth more than just a bootycall. I say you move on. There a tons of HOTT, SWEET , HONEST, and MATURE guys out there. You make sure you say that to your ex!!!
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She is everywhere. Won't let me breathe, all the time we have to be together. Do everything together, all the time! AHG! It's driving me crazy! I've tried telling her, but I couldn't do it, I'm like her only friend! I've given her hints but she's not picking them up or she is just ignoring them. What can I do? I am actually ahsamed of being seen with her! I'm got a good friend, she's really nice and all and she desevres a friend who can give her all she wants but I'm not that friend.....But I still don't want to call it an end to our friendship, seems a bit drastic. And, we hang in the same gang so she's 100% unavoidable!!! She wants to be BFF's and I just can't do that! She's driving be crazy, alll the time she needs to prove to everyone that we are close friends and I'm sick if it because we're not! I really like her and all but it's just way too much! What can I do without huring her feelings?? I have one plan in mind and that is to come drunk to school! yes! That is a good plan! She hates people who drink, and yes, i party from time to time even though "she doesn't approve"...sooo If I came to school drunk, she would stop hanging out with me! Right? Does that sound like a good plan?? (link)
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I agree with Depressed poet. Comeing to school drunk could get you in major problems. I think you should let her know you need space. Also ...if you dont wanna be her bbf....find her one that will! Yes that right...i said it. Find her a friend whos just as annoying as she is. Anyone! a cuzin or a friend. Introduce them to eachother...either at a certain place...at school....or on the phone. If she doesnt get the messege that she got someone else. Bring her up to her al the time. Talk about her all the time to her. She'll get into her after a while. If that doesnt work buddy...i think you should go with Depressed poet's advice. It good!!
-MaRii
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ok well my best friend thinks she's fat but she isnt she's about 5'6" and weighs about 110 pounds and all she has been eating for the past week is celery becuase you burm more caleries than you gain! Is this a problem!?!?!
and if soo what should i do cuz im really scared?!?! (link)
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Im guessing your best friend is between the ages of what 13-16. If she its not REALLY REALLY serious. If shes older ...you have serious problems. But if shes 13-16....it could be a crutial matter. Teens throughout the U.S have eating disorters. 8,000,000 or MORE of them have it. and 90% of them are WOMEN! You need to talk to your best friend...WHICH IM GUESSINGG IS A GIRL!! Let her know shes sexci in a special way. And that she NOT fat!
always MaRii
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I have blue sofas and my boyfriend doesn't want to throw them out.
But we're redecorating so im gonna have to work with them.
I have no idea what colour (for the walls) that will go with the sofas.
We have hard wood flooring. And I don't really want any bright colours.
Does anyone have any suggestions? (link)
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If it helps...i once read in a magizine...that blue and green..are colors that make you feel very energized. That they help you be awake. And not lazy. I know, i KNow...How the heck is this going to work? its not like magic. But i tried it in my room, and it helped me sleep better. Just like it said in the magizine " it helpes you be bright eyedd in the morning!" Now i know yo said you said you didnt want any bright colors. So get a dark green. Another great form of advice is a brownish color. That wuld look very nice!
(i got the energie colors from the magizine 'seventeen')
i hope my advice had helped!!!
always MaRii
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15/f. i'm sorry if this is long, i'll try to keep it as short as possible...between all of my friends there has been so much drama lately and it seems to all be about me. i don't think i'm doing anything wrong, but maybe i am and i just don't realize it. i have two really good friends katie and nicole and now we are like breaking apart. me and katie are still really close but nicole is becoming really rude and ignoring us all the time. but i know that katie and nicole have been friends FOREVER so they will always be friends no matter what. katie tells me that nicole says mean things about me to her when i'm not around. i kind've believe katie but i can't believer her 100% because she might be over exaggerating. i don't know who to trust anymore! like nicole called me to talk to me about what katie told me and was really nice about it. and she was saying that she would never say things like that because were friends. but then katie says she did! this is just so confusing! i know that nicole must have said something to katie about me, because katie wouldn't just make up a fake thing just to get me mad at nicole, katie isn't like that.
so basically what can i do? it seems like i can't trust anybody anymore. and please don't tell me to get new friends, because i can't. (link)
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i agree with the person who wrote below...You need to meet up. Somewhere where you guys can 'TALK'.
Talk about things. Thats the only way you'll get your friends back. Talk to them! Tell them that if they said anythingg...it'll all be forgoten.
And if theirs anythingg you did wrong...for them to let you know. Work things out. Make it work!!
Overall..tell hem you love them. And that you would NEVER replace them!!! They'll understand.
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