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I just feel so disconnected ...
There are my friends, people I just know, and random people and then theres me. I feel somewhat disconnected with the people around me. I don't know whats wrong. Sometimes I think they think I'm retarded. I dress differently from everyone (there wear tight fiting T-shirts or theses realy nice clothes) I only wear jeans and 3 different hoodies which I rotate. For some reason I don't find anyone 'ugly' either. Everyoen is nice looking in there own way (even the guys). Its hard to talk to people because I feel like they juge me (except for a few people I know well.) and it makes it hard to go up and talk to people. I want to open myself up to making more friends, but it seems so hard. I mean even when I see theses supposive 'emo' girls or boys which I might think would have some of the same feelings about things I do I feel that they make fun of me? How can I open myself to making friends or just stop feling so akward?
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Everyone goes through those uncomfortable stages in their life at some point. Some go through them at a young age, some people not until they are adults. People sense how you feel about yourself and pick up on those vibes, so if you are feeling insecure they may view you as insecure. If you want other people to believe something different about you, you first have to believe in yourself. Think about all you have to offer as a friend and list on paper some of your best qualities. Confidence will build as you live what you know to be the best about you. Don't worry about pleasing or getting close with everyone. No one can or should do that. Everyone is different and relates in their own way and time. If you begin to light up from within and have something about you that you feel good about, you will attract others to you. Whenever you start getting scared or nervous, shift your concentration from yourself to the other person. Be a good listener and you will find yourself among friends before you know it.
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You can try going out more. Plan new and fun events for you and a certain clique of people every weekend. This should keep you in touch with just about everyone! Open up to them wher you go. Tellt hem how glad you are they came, an how much they mean to you. Tell them you havnt really felt "in the conversation latly" and tell them...if you posiblly did something wrong?
goodluck, hope advice helped!!!
-MaRii
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