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Anyone know where I can read the entire Official Preppy Handbook for free online? A website that is completely free, and is like an eBook or something of the sort that has all or most of the book online. Thank you!

You don t ned the internet just to be preppy if u hang out with preppy people you can just ask them for help

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So I want to start being more in fashion, but still keep my own style. I love lots of bright colors, or anything black. Like hot pink or blue, I like, but I like black too. I have a jeffree star hoodie, and I love Heatherette hoodies. I live in a small town, so the mall doesn't really sell Jeffree Star and Heatherette stuff. I hate shopping with my grandmother though, and I'm 14/f. Basically, does anyone know any smaller brands that make stuff that sort of sell things similar to Jeffree Star/Heatherette. We have JCPenny's, Goody's and The Body Shop are our main stores here. And it sorta has to be below $70 or so for a hoodie, and like $40 for shirt, $60 and down for pants, if that helps at all. Thanks

there is this stor called hollister try that store

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ok I have been talking to a guy for a month now. We talk on the phone or text everyday and every weekend he is usually with me. Technically we arent dating but we are. A few weeks ago we was riding around and he was holding my hand he told me that means something if he was doing that. When I leave when I am with him we always hug and kiss each other. He sometimes get in these moods and I call or he says I will call you back in 5 mins...he fianlly calls back 3 hours later. Is that normal for a guy? And do you see us being a couple with time? I mean he has kissed and cuddled on me in front of his friends and one time on the way to his friends house he was on the phone with him and said he had his girl with him. And he also said he needs a picture of me to put in his car. So whats his deal?

Listen sometimes it seems that you are not in a relationship but you are it is making him realize that now he got a girlfriend and but the phone calls everybody do it so dont seem like he dont like because he do like you

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Do u think wear this bracelet silly?
Do u think wear this bracelet silly? if not, which kind of clothing is suitable?
see the bracelet here http://www.polyvore.com/fashion_diamond_bracelet_with_hi-intensity/thing?context_id=2716252&context_type=lookbook&id=1794274

yes it is silly

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I'm 17 and I'm going out with this kid who's my first boyfriend. He's so sweet and I'm really glad we're going out. But I'm constantly worried that one day out of nowhere, he's just gonna be like "I don't like you anymore" and dump me. I mean, I know it's gonna happen someday but I'm always obsessing over it, it's even come to the point where I'm so jealous of when he talks to other girls and I'm always asking him if he likes me or not; he assures me that he does. I think it's because I had such low confidence and thought no one liked me before we started going out; it's like I don't know what I'd do without him. Ahhhh is there any way I can stop freaking out about this?

You just need to relax and forget about it because if he say he likes you that mean you dont have to worry about him cheating and you should have high confidence. You dont know if they didnt like you but there is one person that always liked you and that is you.

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Okay this is so random and stuff but I was just wondering if guys like when girls moan. I was with my best friend and we had a 6 some. I guess you could say then she started having sex and she didn't moan at all and neither did the other girls there. I was like what? I thought guys loved moaning. None of them moaned. Why? thats so crazy i always moan. always. im confused. please explain.

that mean u was not good in bed and u need to practice more to get better

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do guys like it when a girl moans during sex?

yeah because it makes them feel like more then a man. it makes them think they got power over you. it also make them feel good about themselves. so moaning is a god sign.

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i dont know how to start conversaitions,get into them, and even just talk to people with out feeling nervous. i can talk with like 4 people,but 3 or under and its just hard to start convos. it seems like people dont find me interesting. and i have no idea how to open up and become more interesting.im soo lost. i dont even know what i like!how can i open up and start convos. also become interesting?

well you need to open up to other people dont just sit thre say something it is like me coming to a new school just be yourself ariund the people you want to be friends with dont be nervous to talk to other people it is just talking to your parnets but a little different their is just smaller people to talk to

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i am 15/M
One of my best mates told me she loves me, and i was cool with that, i didn't panic, because it happens to me alot but i did not want to lose her as a friend. Anyhow, now she's changed alot.
Before she was really nice and friendly and always had time for other people. Now she's become this mean bitch who takes the piss out of people and is quite cruel. She's become so self-centred.
I want to tell heri don't want to know her anymore...but she'll ask why not.
Should i tell her the truth ? or just cut her off ?

look i know it is hard to break somebody feelings but if you think she is self-centered just tell her from your heart and she will understand she prollay ask you can you and her still be friends but if you do believe in 2nd chance you will settle you difference together.

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okay. so my boyfriend writes songs/sings/mixes songs/plays guitar. and whenever he writes a song his away message says new music listen and then he has a link. and I honestly don't know if I should say like ohh I like this song it's so cute! or this song is awesome! or something because I don't want him to be like ew why is she judging my music she knows nothing about music. and If I don't say anything I don't want him to be like oh she must not like my music I must suck. PLEASEE HELP ME WHAT SHOULD I SAY PLEASE ANSWER ASAP!!

well i dont what others think but i think that you should tell him that you like his songs but dont say that is a cute song because he might think it is too gurly and you dont want that

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I've recently started dating this great guy. The problem is, he's black and I'm white. I'm against racism to the full extent and so is my mom, but my dad and brother don't feel the same. I know they won't accept this guy and I'm afraid to bring him home. My dad will look down on me and I hate feeling bad for liking such an amazing guy. What am I supposed to do? (18/F)

dont give a damn in what your dad might say to you or boyfriend if he cant accept that you like black guys that mean he cant accept you. he need to understand that racism is wrong. he need to get over that you dating a black guy. Just tell him that he need to get to know your boyfriend before he start to judge because the saying say that you cant judge a book by its cover.

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GUYS ONLY PLEASE!!!

15/f i'm going to list a bunch of personality traits that i have and i'd like you to tell me which ones are turn-offs and which ones are turn-ons...thanks!

shy
always smiling
smart
very organized
controlling
not very athletic
talkative around friends
caring


thanks so much for taking the time to do this =]

Turn-ons:
always smiling
smart
caring
talkative around friends


Turns-offs:
shy
very organized
controlling
not very athletic

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my friend passed away tuesday on the first day of school. i'm making a slideshow and was wondering if anybody has any idea for some good songs to put in it? thanks a lot.

I am sorry about your lost you can out this song I believe I can Fly by R. Kelly or Jesus Take the wheel by Carrie Underwood

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There's this guy that I've sorta known last year. We were kinda the people who went "hi" in the hallways and nothing more since we had no classes together.

Well, this year--I still don't have classes with him but I see him at lunch and I get to talk to him during that time just a little. And since in high school there are more school activities going on, I can talk to him at some of them. But overall, I don't get to talk with him much in or out of school. But I really like him because he's silly and funny and cute and just awesome.

At a school play, I made a rash decision and rested my head on his arm and he didn't seem to mind. And so after that he seemed a little bit more talkative to me I guess you can say.

What I'm asking is how can I get him to notice that I like him and how can I flirt with him since I don't see him very often at school?

Well i see that you really like this guy so whatever you do dont wait a long time because he might move on so i want you to go up to him and tell him how you feel about him

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im really popular now
but im so scared that im not gonna be throughout highschool.
Ive been pretty popular for a few years, im just scared
and i know its not all about being popular
but once you get used to it, then its hard to not be it.
help??

just be yourself if they like who you are it wont matter if you popular or not sometimes being popular is not so good so i am trying to sya is to hangout with other people too

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My bestfriend is incredibly shy. At school everyone thinks she looks really depressed when she actually isn't and people mention that she seems to be glaring at them, whichc she also doesn't do. I have a friend group that she doesn't really fit in with and so she will hang out with me and my friends, but never talk unless I ask her a question. Even then she just usually says yes or no. She doesn't make much of an effort because she is tired and she feels that everyone hates her.

What can she do to be less shy?

Well she can try by talking into a mirror i know it sounds weird but it will help her learn how to speak her mind and it will help her succeed to get more friends like yourself

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