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I (21/f) have a higher sex drive than my boyfriend (22/m). It started putting stress on our relationship when we moved in together at the beginning of this year. First, please don't tell me to masturbate. I do. It doesn't help. Physically, yes of course it helps, but I'd rather be with my boyfriend than with myself all the time. I don't have a problem with him masturbating, but when I think that he has, I get jealous because I feel that he isn't meeting my needs and he should have involved me since I'm the one with the higher sex drive. I know these thoughts are very selfish, wrong, and most of all, hypocritical. That's why I'm asking for help.
Things are made worse by the fact that he is the dominant one sexually and I am more submissive. He is always the one to initiate. I will always be submissive and I enjoy being so, so that's not going to change. Even so, I get so upset about things at times that I attempt to initiate, but nothing ever ends up happening, frustrating me even more. All of this makes me often feel that my boyfriend is not sexually attracted to me, which hurts our relationship further since, duh, he is.
I'm looking for a mature way to handle this that preferably doesn't involve him. I'm looking for a way to get rid of all of these inaccurate, negative feelings on my own. I don't want to threaten his masculinity and I've already tried talking to him about it. We argued for awhile, then talked about it maturely, but didn't really get anywhere. He says that he already does things for me sexually when he's not really feeling up to it himself. He told me that I was making it sound like I want our relationship to be based on sex and that sex is all I care about. That's not in the least bit true. He knows that, but I obviously didn't go about things the right way if he got that impression from me.
This isn't going to cause us to split up or anything, but it's making me moody and difficult to be around. I feel really bad for my boyfriend for having to put up with all of this.
So,
Is there a way to talk about this with my boyfriend and actually get somewhere?
How would you feel if you knew that your significant other had this problem?
How can I get rid of the inaccurate, negative feelings that this situation is causing me to have?
Is there anything that I haven't tried that might help?
I hope to get an answer from someone who has been in a similar situation. Thank you. (link)
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You need therapy.
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I just finished reading Prep by Curtis Sittenfeld. When I go to the library I never seem to be able to find a book that actually looks interesting to me. Like all the books are about 26 year old single women that work for a magazine in New York City. Does anybody know of any books kind of like Prep, more for teenage girls .. that are good? Titles and authors would be great. (link)
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K, I have plenty ;p
*HAVE TO READ!
By Stephenie Meyer
1) Twilight**********
2) New Moon**********
^best books EVER! you'll love em'
By Sarah Dessen:
1) Someone Like You
2) The Truth About Forever
3) Just Listen
4) Keeping the Moon
5) That Lullaby
By Megan McCafferty:
1) Sloppy Firsts
2) Second Helpings
3) Charmed Thirds
4) Sixteen
By Sarah Mlynowski:
1) Bras & Broomsticks
2) Frogs & Frenchkisses
By Deborah Blumenthal:
1) Fat Camp
By Louise Rennison:
-The Georgia Nicolson Series
(forget the authors):
- Life in the Fat Lane
- TTYL
- TTFN
- L8er G8er
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I need to choose a book written by an american author by friday and I have no idea what I want!
I'd like to read a good romance book (I wanted to read The Notebook but somebody else got it before me) or just something interesting, I guess. Nothing too long and nothing too obscure, because I'm going to be researching the novel and the author so if I can't find any information on them, I can't write the paper.
So if someone could give me some recommendations, that would be great. And maybe a little bit about the book you're recommending. I'm mostly looking for good romance novels but I also like mystery, thriller, whatever. Just something interesting.
Thanks! (link)
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Okay here are a few books that i LOVE and am hoping you will too:
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