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what does sex with no strings attached mean? and please don't give me a link...
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Sometimes a woman or man are friends with a deep connection to one another but do not want to be in a relationship. These individuals may decide to have sex one time only without any expectations that they would become lovers or remain friends afterwards.
That is what no strings attached means as both people walk away afterwards and remain friends who never date or have sex with one another again or just walk away from any kind of relationship period. In other words it's a way to have sex with someone you know and not be attached afterwards.
The term also usually refers to one night stands with someone you know or you do not know where you are free to leave in the morning without the other person having any expectations you will be around or associate with them ever again.
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what does getting and giving head mean? (link)
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It is a slang term for a woman performing oral sex on a man.The term is usually considered vulgar and to some people can be taken as offensive. What it really refers to is the act itself and the head of the penis which is stimulated.
I hope that answers your question. You might want to look the phrase up on urbandictionary.com to see how it originated and where it comes from and how/why people use it to mean oral genital sex.
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Alright, well, my Dog is a Golden Doodle, hes about 10 months old, and has black, longish curly hair. well, we broke the faucet outside, but hes an inside dog. but when we put him outside, and then let him back in, and its like he comes in and drinks too much, and throws up. well, thats what we assumed at first, it was a good theory at first, but we've been keeping him inside, and he just keeps throwing up. well, we live at the border of a park, and theres these big trees, and they drop these pods, I think its a popular tree, the seed pods, teh insides are sticky, and tehy stick ot his fur. my mom thinks hes chewing them out of his fur and eatting them, and getting him sick.
can somebody tell me whats wrong with him??
i'm really worried!! thanks! (link)
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Did your family by the dog from a professional breeder of Golden Doodles? If you bought the dog from an actual breeder who knows what they are doing and everything about Golden Doodles you are in good shape.
I would phone them and tell them what is going on with your dog and ask them if they know of anything that would cause it to vomit that much and if these seeds you saw could be what is causing it.
Your hunch as well as your mothers assumption could be right about the poplar seeds. Mention it to the breeder and keep him in doors. Your pet could be in serious trouble though as vomitting like this is far from normal.
Call the breeder first and then look in the phone book for a 24 hour emergency animal clinic and wrap the dog in a blanket and get him there a.s.a.p. You might just save its life. The worst case scenario is that the vet can determine what is causing the dog to vomit and tell you how to make it stop.
You should not wait until morning but rather head there now. Waiting might lead to its death and nobody wants that. If you did not buy the dog from a breeder you should log onto http://www.goldendoodles.com and check out the articles and info there as well as try and get live help from the web master or forum participants if you can. But the safest avenue is going to the emergency clinic.
You might also want to log onto this site with a list of U.S. breeders for Golden Doodles. Contact one nearest to you and let them know while you did not buy the dog there that you're in dire need of advice and help. They should be able to help you as they're animal and Golden Doodle lovers
Here's that link http://www.breedersclub.net/html/breeds/goldendoodle.htm
Make sure the animal sees a vet immediately as that's going to be the only real way to help and or save it. The breeders and links can only give so much help. The vet is the one who can tell you exactly why the dog is violently ill and restore it to health if they can. They can also help you keep it from being exposed to the source causing this problem in the future.
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Yesterday I lost my virginity to my boyfriend. I didn't bleed and it didn't really hurt (but then, I WAS drunk.) I ride horses a lot, I use tampons, and I DO masturbate. He asked me seriously if I was a virgin before that and I told him yes, but I don't think he believed me...Is there any way I can convince him? (link)
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You cannot convince anyone of anything ever. They always will end up making up their own mind even with facts or statements like this. If he doesn't believe you you really cannot fix it.
All you can do is tell him what you told us. It's that old saying "you can lead a horse to water but cannot make him drink." You cannot make him believe what he doesn't want to I'm afriad.
However, the fact he thought you were experienced is really kind of a compliment here. Also, he's believing a MYTH and a giant one at that about virginity. Girl's do not bleed all the time or sometimes not at all during sex.
The only reason they do is if their hymen is being stretched for the very first time. Most times the hymen has long ago been stretched by tampon use or masturbation. So, he's ill-informed about that and you should point it out to him it hasn't a thing to do with virginity.
You cannot prove if someone has had sex before either even by looking at genitals etc so how would he know? Take it as a compliment that he thinks you know exactly what you are doing with him. Obviously, he isn't complaining ;) You're doing something right.
You can tell him again that you were being truthful and tell him about the myth about a girl needing to bleed but beyond that if he doesn't want to believe you nobody can make him.
Also, I don't want to lecture you but please, please, please never have sex again while drunk. This is how someone can take advantage of you without your consent or you can get pregnant. I know you're with a guy you trust but even still when you are drunk you cannot make sound decisions about anything important such as sex.
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My worst fear EVER is throwing up. I can't listen to it or see someone throw up, or throw up myself without crying. And whenever someone feels sick I avoid them. My brother has been in the bathroom throwing up for about a half hour now and I locked myself in my room and started crying my eyes out. I am 13! I thought if you face your fears you can get over them, but when I throw up myself and face it, it doesn't help, just makes me scared I'll throw up again and I refuse to eat for the rest of the day. (link)
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You are suffering from a psychological condition (read phobia) that millions of people have. It has an actual name Emetophobia. The good news is there's support for it. There's a whole community on the Internet of people supporting each other with various degrees of it as well as FAQs and tips.
This site here http://www.emetonline.co.uk/ has all kinds of resources and book recommendations. If you and your family search under emetophobia online on Google or Yahoo you'll find oodles and oodles of information.
My tip to you is to do what you have done by removing yourself from the area where the other person is vomiting to calm down and relax. Think of something pleasant, play music, watch TV etc as that indeed works. I had the same problem as you do.
When it comes to vomiting yourself you need to know that it's natural and the sound etc and act of vomiting is okay. It cannot harm you at all. Although it's unpleasant know that it has to be done in order to feel better. Actually, the longer you cry, try to hold it back etc etc. the worse it's going to be and the longer it will take.
I had to learn to just let it out as for years I had this issue until I vomited every day for a week straight awhile back when I had a problem. The first thing to do when you feel like puking is to get green tea or cranberry juice into you. Gatorade also is good. My doctor told me this and it cuts down on the puking as it soothes your stomach and you can go about things normally.
Also if you are vomitting a fair deal have someone go to the drugstore and by Gravol pills which are aailable without a prescription that will make it so no vomit can come up your throat no matter what.
If you seem to get sick and in this situation a lot you ought to visit your family doctor. There's a prescription drug they can give you that you can take 30 minutes before eating twice a day and or when you think you just can't be free of it.
I hope the link helps you as you are far from alone. The tips I gave should help you as you did the right thing by leaving the area where your brother was. Just remember about the pills, beverages etc as well if you find yourself feeling sick.
The biggest thing you need to remember is to know it's okay and you won't get hurt or die etc if you need to do it. Always, always. always let it out as if you cry, or try to hold it back it will be ten times worse an experience.
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I told my mom I was going to see this movie with my boyfriend but really when over to his houe and......you know. Anyways, she, my dad, and my bro saw 300 the next day. Well, today my bro started talking about it and asked my fav. part. I said it was too bloody for me and that i didnt like it. he started talking about a rino and stuff so i just played like i knew what he was talking about. then, he asked me how it started out and i kinda paused and said i dont remember exactly, well of course, he pretty much knows that i didnt see it now. My brothers a total snitch. Can someone tell me how it started, ended, and details from the movie, and YOUR fav part?? im scared my mom will aske. PLEASE HELP!! (link)
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I don't believe in lying to one's parents but I would bet they bought your explanation that it was too bloody for you and your going along with what your brother gave them no cause yet for suspicion for now at least. There's a good chance they'll never raise it as a topic of discussion again.
The best thing you could possibly do is confess before your brother nails you. When parents come down on a child after a sibling already ratted it will be much more severe. They probably know the truth but even if they don't telling them what you did and taking the punishment will show them you can be trusted.
Tell them that nothing happened etc. if it didn't and that you use protection if it did. They may blow up but anger doesn't last long as people forgive and forget. Believe me your father and mother were probably both in your shoes as teens with a similar situation. You might find them understanding.
If you don't decide to tell them the truth you had better head to the movie theatre and actually see it. Why? It's great for one thing but more importantly if you are reading someone else's review or summary important parts are always left out as is any significant details that lead to the ending.
There's no way you can fake it here. You have to see the movie itself as all reviews and summaries are slanted from the point of view of the writer. See the movie as soon as possible and then look at the reviews and summaries as you'll see that so much is missing so as not to spoil the flick.
The best reviews from all over the world for 300 are all organized on Rotten Tomatoes Web site by critic, paper or TV program. I have no tie to them other than telling you the truth that reviews can be found there. I just hope you tell your parents the truth or see the movie before accessing them.
You need to learn something here about lying about where you were and what you were doing. Had there been an emergency and you could not be found where you said you were than that's bad. Your parents must always depend on you.
I think you should tell the truth and be open with them and talk about being with your boyfriend but using birth control and protection. They may not like this at first but you might be surprised how much freedom they will allow you to come or go. At any rate you are likely to get made here by your brother if he hasn't already told.
Your parents could also be testing you if your brother told them or they figured it out. They might want to see if you lie further or go directly to them. You'll earn more respect by elling them where you were and where you truthfully will be and with whom in the future.
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she never eats around me and our other friends. we never ever see her eat. she's constantly drinking coffee or tea or water or chewing mint gum or smoking. she always seems a little shaky or sleepy or vague. it seems like she's been losing weight. what could be going on? i'm really worried...help? (link)
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I think what you should do is go to your teacher in confidence and mention all of these things you have noticed. Tell them that it scares you and you think it's signs of an eating disorder (which it sure does look like as this behavior is almost always typical).
Ask the teacher to come to the lunch room area one day and just walk in, take a look at what she's doing and exit. The teacher can then confront her on his own and bring in her parents. This is the best way to do this so she never thinks you're a rat etc. even though you may be saving her from tragedy.
There's some secrets we keep and others we cannot. You need to tell someone about this. If your friend is always shaky and out of it she's heading for big trouble if she isn't already in it.
If you feel you cannot talk to your teacher or guidance counsellor tell your mother or father. They can then approach her parents and tell them that she seems very shaky and not alert and that she doesn't appear to be eating much. They'll ask them to have her checked out.
Regardless of what happens with your friend possibly lashing out telling an adult about what you have noticed is of the highest importance as she could be in big trouble. As long as she's consistently doing the things you mentioned it's cause for mentioning it to an adult.
Only a rotten friend would keep this to themselves. She'll thank you in the end believe me. It would also help too if your other friends told adults that they knew the same exact thing as well as your teachers in private. Go approach them as a united group as that's the best way to get action for a pal who is indeed in some kind of trouble.
We just don't know what and at what level but her behavior isn't normal and is cause for concern if she's shaky and not with it half the time. She could also have a drug problem or another health concern as well. At any rate raise the issue with adults as it's the responsible and moral thing to do.
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Okay so this is a little hard to explain. I kind of have a crush on a guy I don't know. He works at my local coffeehouse and we've talk a few times (other than the mandatory, 'what would you like today?') He's a few years older than me.
Basically, I just want to be his friend, for now. I don't know how I could do this, though. Could anyone give me suggestions on how you would go about befriending someone like that?
15/f
If you need more information to give me advice...
AIM = christine iii
MSN = maroulisfan@gmail.com
Thanks a lot. :) (link)
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You have to understand he's just a normal person like anyone else. Treat the situation (speaking with him) like you would do with a friend you already have. Ask him about his interests the next time he comes in and you have a moment to spare from your work.
Tell him you find your conversations very interesting and ask if he would like to hang out some time when you aren't working. Give him a slip of paper with your e-mail, phone info etc and press it into his hand. Then you wait. See what happens.
This is the easiest way to become his friend or someone he dates without being rejected or feeling heartbroken. He might just have a girlfriend so this way of finding out isn't messy.
What you could also do is tell him a group of friends are going to a movie or hanging out and that you feel he would really fit in with you or you pals. See how he responds to it.
You could even approach him at work if he's sitting down and tell him you appreciate his views and for talking to you. Ask him what he would think of being pals outside of work.
The fact of the matter is guys are just as petrified about doing any of this as you are. Even if he rejected you he would appreciate your guts. The problem is you need to make a move as he might not and if that happened you would never know.
My hunch is he likes you back but is still evaluating what to do. Trust me, most guys might be nice to their coffee server as they make a drink but few will stop and actually have a conversation that drags out more than once.
He's probably testing the waters wih you and likely single. Unless I'm interested in a girl who works at the local coffee joint all I'm going to do is buy coffee and get out of there. There's something he likes about you or he wouldn't bother.
Just approach him like any other friend you have and start talking again and ask if he can hang out or wants to be friends as you like being around him. Odds are both of you will feel releaved after and will be friends if not more.
Hon, if you want something like this you have to go after it and just do it! There's no other way as you cannot bank on him approaching you first. Just be the same girl he's always chatted with and follow the ideas above.
I guarentee you that if you do that nothing bad will happen. You've heard the word "no" before from people so unless he's a jerk all he can react is yes or no.
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Even though this is long will someone read this especially and adult and give your opinion.
I got into the college of my dreams my senior year but was unable to go because of the cost. But now i got readmitted and i feel i am still gonna be a little short on money so i feel i can go and commute see i know a girl that was looking for a roommate who attends spelman college and she put it up on the college campus website i had access to it because i was supposed to attend and i kept her as one of my facebook buddies and everything so i was thinking i could go up there and pay for the house with her and commute but i know my parents wouldn't go for that but if i were to do it any way would i be wrong. I will be 19 then and although i'm not grown to them i want to grow up and i want to go to atlanta i only have one life. I just don't want it to blow up in my face because everything i do goes down the drain. What do you think. (link)
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Nothing is going to blow up in your face here. If you cannot make the tuition payments on your own you ought to phone the school and ask how to apply for a student loan. Your state and or province (or school itself) would be more than happy to loan you the money you need to go to school.
They will also pitch in most of the time for an out of town student's living and food arrangements. Before panicking call the college's financial aid department and tell them your story. It could be as simple as that for having the money you need to attend and ive.
You have to be bloody careful when it comes to roomates on campus or off that you do not know. The person could be into drinking, drugs and partying and it could be impossible for you to study. You might be miserable as well if you two just aren't compatible.
If she moved out because of this you'd be stuck with making her half of the rent too as both your names would be on a lease. If you want to talk to her about the apartment take your parents to meet her as mom and dad can sniff out a bad influence or bad dea better than you can.
I think you need to approach financial aid at the school, ask for help getting an apartment or dorm room assigned to you (there should be a student residence unless the place is real small) and go about things that way.
Finally, if you can commute back and forth safely each day and it's not too far do it. You are 19-years-old and an adult. If you don't start caring for your own self or moving out when you have the ability to you won't later on. If you move out on your own the school can indeed give support financially there too.
So, to reiterate step one is to relax and step two is call finacial aid. Don't dispair as you will get there. You might have to find a job to support yourself and your dream as a worst case scenario or wait until next year.
If you had to wait until next year and withdraw from the college this year at least you would have time to earn more money. That's not going to happen though as I'm sure your situation will resolve if you make the call.
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Does any one else find fingering someone/ getting fingered totally repulsive??
I dont see the pleasure in having someone's finger shoved up your vagina.
I dont know if that is odd, like if getting fingered is like sex...everyone just likes it.
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It's not odd at all. Some people are comfortable with fingering and others are not. If it's something you aren't interested in or feel repulsed by that's okay. Fingering just isn't for you then. It's normal to like it or not want to do it etc. Your feelings towards it are perfectly fine and normal.
Also if a guy is shoving his finger up someone's vagina it's no wonder they would hate fingering. The guy is clearly doing it wrong in that case. Most people focus on clitoral stimulation as pleasure is taken from that. The key is communicating with whomever is doing this to you exactly what you want and get pleasure from.
All fingering really amounts to is masturbation being done on a female by a male partner. Some people do have vaginal pentetration when being fingered but that's not what happens in most cases. Those who do that must make sure the girl's vaginal area is lubricated as it will indeed hurt.
So, to reiterate your opinion of fingering is valid and not odd as there are a lot of females who feel the same way as you do. It's all about what you feel comfortable doing or having done to your body by someone else.
Perhaps, the information I just gave you might make you think differently or help you see your reaction is quite typical among girls your age. Not everyone is doing it, and not everyone likes the idea of it. Both are normal.
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what feels better. being fingered or having sex? (link)
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This is really a question that has no answer to it. Nobody here can answer that for you in all honesty. Why? Each girl is different and gets turned on sexually by different things.
Some girls may enjoy fingering while others may find the stimulation too intense or not satisfying enough. When it comes to sex many girls complain of discomfort or mild pain the first time and others don't. Each girl's body is different and will react in a different way.
The bottom line is only you and you alone can determine for yourself what feels better sex or fingering? I'm sure you will find all sorts of different responses from girls/women on this one about what they feel is more comfortable.
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Yesterday, I went to the grocery store and bought tonssssss of healthy foods. Today, I woke up at 10:00 & here's what I ate.
Breakfast- apple & apple juice
Lunch- Turkey sandwich on wheat bread, about 10 grapes, about 15 sunchips and hot sauce. To drink I had water.
Snack- chips and hot sauce and apple juice
Supper- pepperoni lean pocket
snack- more sunchips
I eat alot!! I'm trying to lose weight (just belly fat and thighs) but i eat wayyy too muchh.. i ran up and down my street a little.. and did like 20 crunches. what are some other excersizes/tips/etc.
Thanks ALOT in advance! :) (link)
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The truth of the matter is that you can east whatever you would like to but in moderation and proper portions. Before you begin any diet what you need to do is calculate your body mass index rate and how many pounds you should be around to see if you are within a healthy range already or not.
You mentioned you wanted rid of baby fat and wanted better thighs. You might be in your healthy weight range already but might need only to work out to get your thighs the way you need them and your stomach a wee bit flatter.
You need to see your family doctor. They will give you a check up and tell you what to do to successfully diet and reach your goals safely. They may also determine you to be at the proper weight for your height and may not want you to diet just to lose a pound or two.
While you meet with your doctor ask him/her about healthy food portions, trans fat etc. and what you should be eating and how much. If you are the type of person who eats a lot but burns all of it off you should be okay. The doctor can also link you up with a nutritionist who can make the proper diet plans for you that you can stick to.
Before going on any diet for safety sake see your physician. I have a few tips for you below.
You can have pizza but you have to knock off completely the pepperoni and sausage. Focus on veggies as toppings and do not put any extra sauce or cheese on it. In fact you want the lightest amount of cheese on it possible. You will want to order vegetarian pizza or hawaiian usually.
The sandwhich is fine, whole wheat bread is excellent for you as are the grapes. Forget the hot sauce and above all drink lots of water which you are indeed doing. You need 4-5 bottles of spring water for a whole day to be peoperly hydrated anyway.
You need to check the ingrediants of the sun chips and figure out if they have any trans fat, bad oils or ingrediants as your doctor and nutritionist may in fact tell you that they are among the worst things you can snack on.
Try rice cakes instead, and when it comes to cookies always choose digestive cookies or those that contain no sugar such as diabetic cookies (they taste good trust me).
Now when it comes to exercise you need to talk to your doctor again as they will be able to help you develop the right exercise plan for you based on your health. Do not try to attempt setting one up fopr yourself on your own as it may not be safe. You could be doing too much of something or could hurt yourself.
An example of that is lifting weights unsupervised or too much or doing areobics or contact sports like boxing etc. when your body simply cannot take it. Dieting and being successful at it all deponds on what your health is like going in.
Also, a word of advice don't ever apply the words "I can't' to anything you are trying to acheive. If you get in the habit of believing you are incapble of doing certain things even when you have the natural abilities to do them you'll never acheive anything as that statement will defeat you and make it near impossible.
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I want my vagina to look great, but im not sure how it SHOULD look, with hair and all. Please don't tell me not to do something because it's unhealthy or it hurts, i just want to know: how thick should the pubic hair be? how long? not whats healthy, but what looks best. Also, which looks better: hairless or some hair? (link)
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Like the last person said it's all about preference and what you feel comfortable with. I thought you might want to read this article from Wikipedia about pubic hair and how it normally looks on a female and the different ways people can trim it or style it for that matter. If this article doesn't answer your question fully or give you options and ideas nothing else will :) http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pubic_hair
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Is masturbating healthy? like do you get any diseases from it if you wash your hands a lot.
Any Pros and Cons? (link)
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It is completely 100% healthy and safe. Aside from abstaining from sex it's the only safe sex there is. You shouldn't feel any guilt over doing it either as they say 90% of males do it and 78% of females. Those who don't either have religious or other reasons not to. Do
Doctors have even said that it is normal. Men, women, children, seniors etc all do it and its natural. The only con is if you are doing it far too much to the point it's all you want to do and socializing goes out the window in favor of masturbating. As long as that is not happening enjoy it.
If you don't feel right about doing it know that that feeling is okay too and you can stop. I would relax though as this is very common with teens of both sexes and adults.
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well, you know that joke "does anyone know where the nearest vet is? " (the person says no) *you hold up you musels and say "cause these pythons are SICK." well,i need more funnny jokes like that. or really funny videos. i really want to entertain myself,and my friends.so any websites or jokes you know,anything, of jokes,that you could share with me?i've pretty much run out. kayy,thanks. :D (link)
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Since you asked for a joke I'll oblige. I heard this one from a politician actually. A guy owns a parrot that has embarassed him to no end by uttering all kinds of profanity.
Finally fed up with the bird he puts it in the freezer to kill it. He hears a ton of flapping about and feels guilty. He makes a deal with the parrot for it never to cuss again which the parrot readily accepts. It says to the man can i ask one question though? The man says sure. The parrot asks "So, tell me what did the turkey do?"
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well my boyfriend is really sweet the best boyfriend i have ever had.=D i am really happy with him. Im in love with him. But suddenly he seems kinda like wanting to have sex with me like when he comes over he takes off his shirt n my. like were about to do it but im not sure if i want to yet. Is not that i dont love him i do a WHOLE LOT. What should i do. just stop him all the time. should i just do it. i kinda want to sometimes but im scarde im still a virgen. pleasee help. (link)
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There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with being a virgin at any age. It's not a race or a competion. You have to ready for sex emotionally, physically and mentally. You really must know what you are doing and all the consequences of it first.
If you aren't communicating how you feel about the idea or on sex itself with your boyfriend you aren't ready for it yet. What you need to do next time your boyfriend whips his shirt off or tries to get you to have sex is say "I love you very much but I'm just not ready for that yet.
Tell him that he may in fact be "the one" but not now. If you are serious about having sex with him in the future ask him to start researching it and birth control options with you now. Be sure you are well read on the subject and plan it out.
Always remember that there is nothing wrong with saying "not for me, not right now" or "no" to anyone at all. It's about what you feel is right for you. There's no shame in being a virgin as I stated at any age. It's all about being ready and being with the right person.
Take your time with this or you'll regret it later for having sex when you were not ready emotionally and physically for it. After all, you will want to remember the experience for good reasons and not bad ones.
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Ok I have really bad stagefright I can barely sing in front of one person yet I found a way to sing in front of Rae who is in charge of the play for our school. She gave me a part singing. The play is in front of the whole school and I need to fiure out how I can sing without dying in front of all those people. I have always been a good singer but only few people know that but I want a real music person to tell me if im good thats why I tried out for the play cause someone might be there that kind of is a recoding person and i have always imagined this happining in my dreams but i never thought it would. So please help me get over my stage fright
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When you are singing on a stage you have to remember how much higher the stage is than the seats in the auditorium. At best all you would see if you looked towards the audience is the first row at best as those lights are going to affect your view of anything directly in front of you.
When you remember that and can actually see one or two people think to yourself that they are the only ones there. block everything else out and focus on the lyrics, the melody, dance etc and pretend you are all alone in front of the mirror.
Just sing for those to people and think in your head that these people are really dying to see you sing and are on the edge of their seat. Just sing as if it were for one person and focus on them.
This often works as when you're up there you can't really see people in their seats. Treat it like an empty room with only you there off in your own world. This is EXACTLY what professional singers do like Barbra Streissand who is terrified of being on stage and a couple other big names that escape me.
The good part is that once you do this you will be able to continue doing it and the confidence level will go up inside you. Also, remember that the person who cast you did it for a reason. They KNOW you can sing.
So when you get up there instead of thinking Oh shit, I'm going to bomb what do I do now etc think to yourself all these people know I'm capable of this and have talent and every last one of them supports me up here. Then it's easier.
I'm not just saying this either as I'm done community theatre and public speaking as a teen and still do now. You can do it but you won't if you do not believe in yourself and your abilities. That's the only thing that can mess this up for you--not believing in yourself. So, with that in mind break a leg!
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My Mom and Father were divorced when I was 3 yrs. I have 3 other siblings. We never revieved any contact throught our growing up years from out
Father. And just out of the blue he contact each of us and wants to have a relationship. I am hesitent. My Mother pass away 4 years ago. Each of us have had a brief phone conversation with he and to my sister and I he asked us to call him DAD... I was polite and said that I would stick with Sir for now. He has 1 other child that is in his 30's and is on drugs is not in contact with him. My Father has just recently retired at the age of 67. He did say the he was sorry to hear about Mom's death. I have mixed feelings and thats what I need help with. (link)
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Mixed feelings about this issue are perfectly normal. You don't know the man from Adam really and all you have to go on is what you have been told about him.
Although you never said it outright in your letter I read between the lines and sense that there's something about him beyond never contacting you all these years that just adds to you not wanting a part of him.
I believe each person deserves another chance. You should meet with him but tell him this does not in any way mean you want a relationship afterwards. Tell him you have some hard questions as do your siblings that he must agree to answer face to face or to forget contacting you further.
You must show him how pissed off and emotionally scarred you are from him leaving and never having anything to do with you until now. Ask him flat out why he thinks he should be allowed to return all these years, be called dad and have a relationship with you and your siblings.
Tell him all of this before consenting to a meeting as you don't want to put yourself through anymore BS and pain again. I think he will unserstand this.
I have a feeling he genuinely wants to know you and your siblings. He may have had a good reason for divorcing your mother and she may have been the one to never let him near you for certain reasons. There's some secrets here that need to be solved.
There's a reason he wants to see you and it's because he knows something was screwed up and feels the guilt. I would meet with him but let him know politely that he might not ever have a relation ship with you after and that you will not call him dad ever because he was not the person who raised you.
I think you ought to hear the man out and find out why he suddenly wants to be part of your life. At 67-years-old he may have finally realized he made a HUGE mistake etc. etc. or he may have a terminal illness. You just dont know by some kind of suffering has led him to you again.
Your feelings are perfectly natural and he needs to be aware of them. It's up to you ultimately if you see him or have a relationship with the man but I think you owe it to yourself to at least get answers to some burning questions.
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okay so ive had sex for the 5th time already. the first time was march the 5th okay. well we did it twice that night. then a day after we did it 3 more times. and it still really hurts and im not getting any pleasure. can u please tell me whats wrong or should i see a doctor i mean what should i do? what could it be? (link)
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Your problem is you have been having sex too often in a very short time span. You need to spread things out so that you do it once or twice a week. It's no wonder you feel sore and your vagina hurts you.
The amount of thrusting etc will do that if you're having sex multiple times in a 3 day window. Once or twice a week and (one time each day) is healthy and fine. It will keep you from hurting and getting sore and or bored with it.
The only reason you are not getting pleasure from it now is that you have been doing it much too often. Your ability to feel pleasure from it will return after you guys give it a rest for a couple of days. This will allow your body and vagina to recover.
Another key thing is to tell your boyfriend to be really gentle and not be so vigorious with thrusting. This is one other reason your vulva and vagina will feel sore. Hope this helps you.
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I have the urge to have sex all the time. It is so hard. I don't have a boyfriend. Well I have had alot of boyfriends but my boyfriend just broke-up with me and now im single. And all the boyfriends I have had were to good to have sex. How do I stop these urges? (link)
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Do not dismay as what you describe in your letter is 100% normal for both guys and girls your age. To explain it the easiest way your hormones have kicked into warp speed which occurs during puberty in both sexes.
This as you know is what is behind making you so well, horny for lack of a better term. When you are in a relationship and don't want to have sex french kissing, teasing eachother, petting etc should help matters as long as you know and he knows that thngs stop short of intercourse.
For some people oral sex and or fingering is considered fooling around--for some it's not. Many people use that to get a handle on their sex drive and deal with hormonal surges.
You said you were single in your note. I don't know how you feel about masturbation but if you are single it's one of the ways you can deal with these feelings and releaving yourself of them. You undoubtly know this but I should reiterate that it's very common with both sexes, natural etc.
Above all, it keeps you safe from disease, pregnancy or sexual situations with random people you might date. I applaude your decision to stay a virgin (I think you implied that) and hope this answer helps you out.
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