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okay way long story short, i met this senior guy and he thought i was a sophomore, when i am only a freshman, but we didt talk about age, well we really ddint talk alot.we started off as just two peopple at the same parties, then over like a 2 week period of time we became very close friends, then we became VERY close friends, and i didnt know or care how old her was, i knew he went to my high school and i knew important stuf, but we still hung out and hooked up.

recently the age thing came up and we figured out that there is a four year age difference... now i know in some states its illegal for anyone over 18 to have intamite realtions with anyone under 16, but we havent had sex and he said hed still date me, even though i was 4 years younger than him.... should i stay with him until we can get more serious or should i tell him to wait, or should i just end it now, i dont want to end it cause i really really really like him....

i think that four years is perfectly fine...as long as it isnt a teacher student type thing--yuck!ha ha but i think you two should stay together if it is what both of you want...just wait for the serious stuff...you guys are still young, you got plenty of time...
-hayley

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15f.. my boyfriend is 16.
alright so ive been going out with this guy of like only a week and a half.. but im just curious if he's a virgin or not.. im not saying that im just going to jump on him.. im just like curious, and he doesnt seem like the kinda guy thats open about that kinda stuff.. and i dont want it to be totally werid if i ask him.. so is there a right time to ask that? like i dont know if he will be like freaked out and think im expecting to have sex with him right away.. so how should i ask him or when should i ask him? should i just come out and ask it randomly? ah i dont know.


oh and also im not a virgin and if he is... would that like turn him off? i dont know

I would wait, i mean you guys have only been datin a week and a half...that is more two months material i think..you dont want to scare him off...haha
-hayley

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Ok, So theres this boy and like him alot and he is rely hard to read... and a bunch of girls like him and i don't know what to do because i rely like him and i don't know who he like and were rely good friends and so i don't know if that would be akward to like him or not!! HELP ME!

your heart chooses you dont...i hate to tell you but if you like him you like him...i would just tell him how you feel...it may not work out but it also could...just remember though, a heart broken is mostly made by words unspoken...haha
-hayley

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okay i've been having a problem and i need some feedback hopefully positive?
i've been having sex with my boyfriend [protected] with the exceptions of about 3 times, but anyways, i've been having a burning feeling when i pee that kills and an urge when nothing comes out. plus my vagina has an odorey discharge
and an itchyness =/ both me and my boyfriends were virgins, and i've gotten tested for a urinary tract infection & they didnt find one, i just took monistat last night thinking its a yeast infection...help me what could it be i'm scared and cant tell my mom! and i dont wanna go to the gyno... advice?

they have this thing called a vaginal screening kit. It tells if you have an infection. You can find it at walmart.
-hayley

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my ex keeps coming back into my life... i want him to just hate me even tho it will hurt it will hurt less than hearing his voice ... you know.... how do i get over him please help

try this place

http://www.wikihow.com/Get-Over-a-Break-Up

good luck
-hayley

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I have these little white marks (like horizontal lines almost) in my fingernails. I've had them since I was little. What could they be?

I think it means you need more calcium or its just old wornout grooves. It shouldnt hurt you any.
-hayley

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so a long time ago, before i started my period, i had woke up one day and went to the bathroom. when i wiped i saw a lot of blood. it was not my period because when i peed the blood was not in the urine flow. could it have possibly been that my cherry popped. nothing happened like that for the rest of the day. i did not start my period for months later. it was just a one time thing.

Well unless you fingered yourself, used a tampon, or had sex, i dont think it was your cherry. If that was your first time started your period, then it could have very well been that. It doesnt matter if it was in the urine flow or not, urine and blood come out of two different areas. If it was your first time then i would say that the months would be normal. So i seriously think it was just your period, if you just started it.
-hayley

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15/f
Well I've never had a problem like this before so that's why I really need the advice! :)
So anywayz, here's the thing...I like this guy, but I don't think he likes me back. Well he's 1 of those shy guys so it's really hard to tell. So I need advice on if he doesn't like me how can I get him to like me??? Now I know it's wrong to pretend to be someone else just to impress your crush! but it's not like I plan on being with him forever. I just wanna get to know him...like get a chance!...I know I may sound desperate, but well I am.:p...it's just so weird 'cause I've never had to deal with this before! :p
Any advice would be great! Thanks! :)

Well i would just tell him you like him. its not a big deal just say hey i like you. Or ask him what he thinks of you. That is just what i would do. But remember you cant make someone like you.
-hayley

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what is it?

It is where you go to your OB/GYN and they open up your vagina, and then they scrape stuff off of your cervics to check for cervical cancer. Its a test that every woman needs to get after being sexually active. It is just a vaginal examination is all.
-hayley

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Alright, so this might sound really vague but maybe you'll know! Like, a year ago I was watching this show but it was only titled as Korean Drama.

I know it has a real name..
But anyway, it was about these people and in this episode they kept like slapping each others butts? But it was also serious at times.. and there was like a brown gate/fence thing in it that they went out of their house and I dunno, it's all so vague.

Do you have any idea what it could be?

I am clueless but i found a site that might be able to help you:

http://www.koreanfilm.org/tvdramas/index.htm

-hayley

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i feel so so so so bad.....

worse i put myself down because i feel exposed and embarrassed... i had two best friends.. a girl and a guy.

both just ditch me and basically cut me out of their lives....

it feels worse with the guy because he has done nothing to me but support me where as i have been annoying... i was going through the worst 2 years of my life and we met in college and we got along fast.. so i told him everything..... then things started getting worse (he is so homophobic) and when i move i made friends with a gay guy and he got pissed and though he was fine with it things began to go down hill (see my town believes gays "are going to hell" and he and my family are the same so it isn't that he is mad i moved and made friends he just thinks my values are different and i am "lower" than his level) any way so i after i'd spilled my heart and soul to him.... about my depression how my family went mad over my friendship with this guy (i am female btw! so it's not like i am "shaming" them) anyway so since i am pretty much liberal i got into this dark phase where i was on pills because i almost committed suicide...

i sent him an email explaining that that year was an experimental year (coz i tried a joint once and i know i shouldn't have i was curious) anyway so he backed of cold turkey and he doesn't talk to me!!!

i am pissed coz i feel i let him into my deepest and he flipped on me and thinks of me in an inferior kind of way...and the distance isn't helping... i am still "suicidal" according to my doc.. my parents don't know because they don't believe in therapy and i'd get in so much trouble if i told them i'm going....


anyway so thats the guy... the girl has been a bitch... i've known her since 4th grade but our parents don't know each other and just as our friendship was soooo tight between us it was that far apart with the parents (in a formal way meaning they don't know each other) anyway after i moved i got in some major trouble and got caught so i came up with a lie saying that i lied about the whole thing but my dad apparently has a secret device thing that records my fone calls and so when i called to tell her of my wild night out he flipped and i got beat for it.... anyway so i said i lied so i don't get killed (i mean i just got about 3 or 4 punches which is fine) i told them i lied to her and nothing is true... so not only did i get the punishment and lost all respect i wasnt allowed to talk to her... and i was willing to ignore that and do it anyway cause she has been the only one who stood by me..... so anyway when i told her she got mad and said how could i say something like that about her.. and she knows how i could have been killed for it or badly hurt.. i mean i know i was irresponsible and i learned from my mistake... anyway so she kept saying why me why me.. i told her because i trusted her... anyway so she ignored me.. i was cool with her cooling down but i apologized.. thats about the time when i was being locked up at home so i was becoming suicidal and cutting myself and all.. since all our communication was happening online she didn't take what i was telling her seriously.... and she stopped answering my emails and now she just blocked me from everywhere... i mean i tried and i told her i understood and i even cleared her with my parents and i told her that.... she just left me in the gutter.....


i am honestly so mad at her because i know she is mad too but she could forgive.... you know? i'm so mad at her i can't help but wanting to talk to her...but i sent a million emails so far and she ignored me.... i am hurt and feeling miserable... and counseling isn't helping anymore.. i feel so so lonely and i've lost hope in all people.. people are hypocrites.. no one really has the intention to help someone else..i can't tell my psychiatrist that i am thinking of ending it cause he may contact people and my parents will kill me... please don't tell me to talk to my family you are just wasting your time... i really need some kind of human contact... i feel so needy, self pitying, and desperate it is disgusting me but i can't solve my problems on my own.... some one help... the pain is so unbearable.. I'm sleeping so much it is unbelievable...

Just having one of those sucky days huh? I personally think that you are better off without them. They dont seem like real friends. I mean the guy, he shouldnt judge you for being friends with a gay guy. People who like the same sex, have feelings too. They breathe, they walk, the reproduce. They live. I think that you are in a right place to be friends with this guy.
And your parents, they shouldnt beat you like that. And they shouldnt "kill" you for something as stupid as hanging out with a gay guy or going to a party.
The girl just sounds like everyone else; ignorant...
But since you are wanting to make things right, try something other than email. Try talking to them in person. And if they dont talk to you, then its their fault. None of this is your fault. Dont apologize. Just talk to them, make contact. And like i said if they dont talk to you back, then you know who your true friends are.
Friends dont turn on you like that. Dont blame yourself. You are better off without them if they will just be that way...


Everyone loves to be loved and everyone needs to be needed. But dont end it. That is one of the worst things you could do. You dont need to run away from the problem. Run towards it, head on! Some people leave their families and start new lives because of things like this. I really hope you decide to keep on going. And you could tell your psychiatrist, everything you tell them is supposed to be private. If they tell they could get fired and loose their degree. Doctor patient confidentiality. If you tell him, then tell him not to tell a soul. I strongly urge it. Tell him how they treat you (your parents) its not healthy.
He will help you...
good luck
-hayley


NOTHING abosolutely nothing is wrong with you my dear...It is the world around you. Dont give into them!! Please i am begging you. Ending it would and is one of the worst things you can do. So please, please dont go through with it...I know i dont even know you, but i feel your pain, and if i could i would hug you and tell you everything would be okay...But i cant...I just dont want you to go sucidal...I already care for you..There are people out there who care...And it may not seem like it now, but those people you were talking about would probably care.

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Okay so when I stick my finger in my pussy I can't really stick my finger straight in I have something in there kind of like a tonsil in my vagina that I have to go around while I'm trying to finger myself

Its right infront of my vagina my finger goes in until my first nuckle crease until the bump is there then its real tight is that normal.

Thats your hymen (or cherry). It is what justifies your virginity. The hymen will break or fall off during your first time having sex or putting in a tampon. Something like that. When it breaks it bleeds for about 15 minutes. If you are putting in a tampon, you should be on your period so you wouldnt be able to tell if it broke. It would just hurt. So your hymen would break or your cherry would pop. If it is still there and is tight, that is normal, it still shows you are a virgin.
-hayley

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14.5/f

Okay, well this is partially another 'does this guy like me' kind of question.

I have a guy friend, and my best friend's locker is right next to his. I want him to notice me as MORE THAN A FRIEND. I've always had this issue with guys, whereas they like me as 'just a friend'. However, my problem is that I prefer having guys as friends for a couple of months or so, and then trying to get them to like me as more. My guy friend is kinda shy. I see him talking to a few girls sometimes [maybe once a week], and I'm fine with that. I had a class with him last semester, and we talked all the time. Every time he passes me in the hallway, he raises his eyebrows and says 'hey', and keeps walking. Our classes are scattered all throughout the building, so it's not like we can just walk to class together and talk. However, he had Cooking with me this semester, and my friends told me that they say him looking at me a lot. We would always joke in that class, stuff like that. Now, he transferred to another class, and he's in the class across the hall, literally a few steps away from my classroom door to his classroom door.

I mean, it's great that we're friends and stuff, and we talk quite frequently when I'm by his locker, but how do I get him to slow down and notice me? We might end up going to different high schools [we're in junior high], and I want him to look at me as more than a friend. I'm really shy, so please don't say 'just give him your number, or ask him to hang out', because I also do not want to look desperate.

In depth advice is appreciated. Please actually put some effort into your answer.

Thanks.

http://blog.worldvillage.com/family/ways_to_attract_a_teenage_guy.html

I understand what you are going through. Your happy and confused and sad all at the same time right? You think he likes you a little but something in the back of your head is saying 'are you nuts? look at him'....
Hearing the Just Friends bit sucks and gets annoying. The fact that you said he is raising his eyebrows and is saying hey, yet is a shy boy, interests me. The best way to get a boys attention is eye contact. Hold it for as long as possible. But not to long, we dont want him to think your retarded.. ;)
I will tell you a super cool trick, but it is really difficult to pick up on without looking like a idiot..Its possible but you got to be quick...when he talks to you look at the pupils of his eyes (the black part) they will dialate if he likes you.
Also you could pay attention to his eyes. When you talk does he look at your lips or lick his? that is a sign, but not only that but an invite to a kiss.
-hayley

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Where can you buy vibrators and all the other masturbation toys? Can you get them online? Oh, and I really want some toys, but what if my mom found out I was ordering things like that. Boy, i would be dead. So, any advice?

Thanks
=]]

Depending on where you are, there are stores that have sex toys, lingerie, etc. But other than that you could order them online. Take your things and hide them somewhere in your room. Like in the top of your closet, or under a floorboard, or under your bed. Somewhere you will know where they are.
-hayley

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My mom is trying to change me from being a tomboy to a stupid prep i dont want to be a prep i want to be who i am and i have been exactly that my whole life when i was 3 i would sit down at the tv waching nascar alone its kinda weird how im a tomboy i didnt grow up with a dad just my mom and sister im beautiful the way i am and i dont need to change why caant my mom make my older sister a stupid prep (if its possible to make my sister more prepy than she already is) what should i do about this my mom is making me throw away my triathilon t-shirts i cant get those things anywhere eles and all the clothes that i got from my favorite place on earth riverview camp for girls they are in the garbage what should i do about this i am the way i am

Sometimes, parents will live out the things they never got to do as a child through their own children. Maybe your mom never got to be a prep in High School and is trying to do what she thinks is best for you, but really is thinking of herself. Do you get what im saying?
I say you just take your clothes out of the garbage and put them back where they belong, then sit and talk with her calmly. Like an adult.
-hayley

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Where can I get my belly button pierced near Chevy Chase MD or Washington DC? Somewhere clean, sanitary, and not sketchy...?

here are some places i found in Maryland, although im not sure if they are near Chevy Chase:

http://www.yellowpages.com/Chevy-Chase-MD/Body-Piercing?search_mode=all&search_terms=body+piercing

and here are some for DC:

http://www.yellowpages.com/DC/Body-Piercing?search_mode=all&search_terms=body+piercing

-hayley

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Ok so i have looked everywhere and i cant figure this out. i have homecoming tonite and i cant seem to find what size curler this is here is the picture

http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=2z82gep&s=3

If you could help me as soon as possible that would be great im just not sure which size curling iron this is thanks in advance


I would use a one inch curler. Because when you think about it, curls wont stay in long if you are dancing, i dont know if you will be but we have the crowning, the game, and the dance..So i would use the one inch. They will loosen up with time, or a pic or fingers.
-hayley

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Okay so about a week and a half ago, I got dental surgery. I had 5 teeth yanked, so for the past week, I've been eating soft foods. A few days ago I started eating regularly again. But the day I started, I almost threw up. Like I had a little in my mouth and I swallowed it quickly and washed out my mouth. Today, just about 5 minutes ago, it happened again, and it tasted like the coco puffs I had for breakfast. But it still tasted bad. But what's going on?? Why do I just all of a sudden throw up in my mouth?

Maybe from where for that week you was eating soft foods, your body just got used to it. Maybe your throwing up because your stomach got so used to the soft foods. If i was you i would just stay away from bread, and try to avoid milk for a few days. Maybe try saltine crackers, or soup. Then step it up a little bit from there..
But again, it could be, (not saying it is) a reaction to the medicine they gave you before pulling the teeth.

-hayley

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There is a gum commercial...I think it's uhmm maybe dentene ice or extra or something, but the song on the commercial is something like.....
You can stop this s-s-s-stutteringggg.
does anybody know that song and who sings it, also what its called...?? any help is appreciated

Stuttering-Bens brothers...

but i think that others might have sung it too...

-hayley

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Hello,
My son is 15 and he's always been a ''rebel''.
Me and my husband are relaxed with him, so if he wants piercings, we let him get them...but we defenetly don't let him drink or smoke.
The other day I found out that he had been having sex with his two year girlfriend. It isn't like our family believes in ''no sex before marriage'' but it was kind of shocking to me because I always though that he would wait until he was (at least) 16.
He has been out a lot lately and yesterday he came home with an eyebrow piercing. I am not against piercings at all, in fact, I love them, but he didn't even tell me that he was going to get one.

It seems to me that he's not communicating with us anymore, and he sent me a text this morning, asking whether he could go get drunk with some friends. Now, I am defenetly against drinking...but I know he will do it anyway, even if I say no!
He smokes ''socially'' as he told me, I don't approve but I cannot do anything about it. He's always been a popular boy, but I want to know how I can make him talk to us more, trust us and also, not get drunk whenever he goes out!
What do you think I should be doing?
What are some punishments I could use?
And just advice how I could feel better?


Thank you.

PS! He gets mostly A's in school, some B's and he doesn't spend his time at home on the computer or playing video games...or watching TV. He spends his free time at home playing guitar, writing songs for his band and so on...so he's not a lousy student.

well you are the mother....you could do something about all of this...parents and their children will always argue its what happens. But the kids get over it and in the long run they learn from it. I say you should put your foot down. You need to let him know that with his freedoms becomes his responsibilities. It works both ways. Sit him down and talk with him. And if he starts freaking out, remember to not lose your cool. Dont raise your voice and dont let him go any where until he settles down and listens. And maybe as a punishment you could tell him that if he cant take his responsibilities to heart and know where the line is, then he cant play in his band for one week or something.
-hayley

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