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17/f i was wondering when people usually celebrate their aniversery.. is it the day of your first date or the day the guy officially asked you to be his girlfriend?

I think it would be the date yall were officially together as far as celebrating an Anniversary for it. I know I say, We've been married for 3 months and together for a year and a 1/2. So for you it would be like We've been steady for "2" months but been together for 9. You would celebrate the date on which it was made official. Hope this helps.

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how do u know if you have anemia?
what are some of the problems that can occur to you?
how can you get rid of it?

Anemia takes some time to develop. In the beginning, you may not have any signs or they may be mild. But as it gets worse, you may have these symptoms:

fatigue
weakness
not doing well in work or school
low body temperature
pale skin
rapid heartbeat
shortness of breath
chest pain
dizziness
irritability
numbness or coldness in your hands and feet
headache

How to prevent anemia:
1.Eat/drink foods that help your body absorb iron, like orange juice, strawberries, broccoli, or other fruits and vegetables with vitamin C.
2.Make sure you get enough folic acid and vitamin B-12 in your diet.
3.Don't drink coffee or tea with meals. These drinks make it harder for your body to absorb iron.
4.Eat foods high in iron like fish & chicken.

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Alrighty so i just got my tongue pierced about 4pm today. And it hurt very much but i have my belly,nose,and a bunch in my ears. I wanted to know if i should be expecting anything? I know its gunna swell,because its starting to right now. But for how long? and i cant eat anything.When will i be able to? Any tricks you can tell me so it wont hurt as much? or swell as much?(it doesnt realy hurt THAT bad, but a little) So, any ideas or anything?

Thank you soo much!

Let's see.... Mine was swollen for 3 days. After that I was good to go. It was very diffucult for me to eat the food I am used to with a swollen tounge. My advice to you? Go buy some chicken noodle soup, or some other kind. It's easier to eat that stuff and take a Tylenol every 4-6 hours. It helps ALOT at reducing swelling and or any pain you might have from the piercing.

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Ok here's the deal. Whenever I masterbate or get fingered by my boyfriend I start to have all the classic symptoms of pre-orgasm (i.e. my discharge increases, I get hot and I feel that wonderful tension). Just when I feel like i'm about to explode, the feeling ends up fading away or just plain disappearing. What's happening? Why can't I orgasm?

Stop worrying about it for starters, how are you going to orgasm if you're all stressed out. Try letting your mind float away that will help you to relax, but stopping thinking about it is a must.

Some sort of pressure building up inside you will probably do the trick, either his tongue rubbing the right place in a nice rythmic build up.

This might seem strange but alot of women actually fight the feeling. Their minds stop them from orgasaming, it takes time to relax and let yourself enjoy sex. The only other thing that comes to mind is that if there is some emotional frustration between you, it can sometimes stop you from climaxing also. Hope some of that helps you get an idea.

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My husband has planned our summer vacation every year since we have been together. With the exception of last year, we traveled out of state to my nephew's wedding. (He now says that was my turn at planning)

Usually we do things that I am not interested in, but I go along with it because I want the kids to have fun. At the beginning of this year he agreed I should plan the vacation. I planned on a fishing/boating trip. He agreed at the time, but has now changed his mind. He told our 12/yr old son (the older kids aren't going) we will go to World's of Fun and a baseball game. (without consulting me) I don't like the rides, and I don't like baseball. He won't take the boat due to gas prices, and besides we have the Missouri River out our back-door. I tried to work out a compromise, but he won't budge. I told them to go without me and I will find something else to do here.

He says now, thanks to me the vacation is cancelled, because he refuses to go without me.

I don't want to dissapoint my son. So now what?

So basically his whole attitude is my way or no way huh. That was wrong of him to up and change the plans without even talking to you or thinking about the fact that you dont even like the things he wants to do. Tell him hey Me and "max" are thinking about going ahead and planning the whole fishing thing. I want ya' to go. Maybe think about going to a camp grounds? Complete with swimming, camping, grilling out, fishing and boating. Most camp grounds provide boats so you wouldnt have to worry about that and I dont think there's a man out there that would say no to camping, grilling, fishing and boating? It's not even that expensive like $30.00 a night where I live (North Carolina). Sounds like a good suggestion to me to bring up to him. Hope I helped?
P.S. As far as him saying the Vacation is cancelled thanks to you! Tell him that's like you taking him (WITHOUT ASKING) to the makeup counter at Belks while you get a makeover. He should respect the fact that you dont have to like everyhing he does and I'm sure you have already put your foot out there to make a effort in making a vaction out of fishing and boating. Looks to me like you already went half way.

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My boyfriend and I have been talking about having sex. We've had phone sex before, but i know thats much different. He once said "I want to make you cum" and after that I got really self concious. I know Im able to cum, I can feel an orgasm, but am I suppose to actually like "cum" as in like liquid stuff? Lol. My boyfriend asked me once and he was wondering if I came alot and I told him yes, but truthfully I dont ever come like THAT. I feel it but its never like....coming out of me... Is it suppose to be? Is there something wrong with me? Im nervous becuase I think thats something that gets him really excited...I can get wet but its never like how he assumes....Im really scared about him being insecure if i dont cum like that and he thinks that its a normal thing for me. What do I tell him?

Women experience a series of involuntary muscle contractions around the vagina that may or may not produce vaginal secretion (Getting wetter) when they orgasam. So to answer your question, just because you dont actually SEE cum, like you would with a guy, doesn't mean something is wrong with you. Your quite normal. Just let him know next time the topic comes up, that you don't cum like a man would. No woman does at least none I've ever heard of (except for porno's).

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my boyfriend who ive been with for a very long time wanted to finger me today..but im on my period! hes already done it many times before so when he started to go for it and i took his hand away he was like whats wrong? i didnt want his hand to touch that he'd be DISGUSTED! so i just said"not now"but he kept trying to later on! i wear pads most of the time but even when i do wear tampons..i still cant tell him im on my period cause thatll make everything so awkward! how do you tell a guy without being embarassed and it is it gonna make them freaked out?? cause frankly, its the only thing thats stopping me from doing it and i have no idea what to say.

Periods are normal, in fact if you didnt have them, that would be weird! lol. I know it can be a little embarassing though to have to tell the one your dating your on your period, but sometimes it's gotta be done. If he gets weirded out at all about it then he is to immature for you. Here are some "cute lil phrases you can say instead of saying I'm on my period. Here's my personal favorite and one that my husband hears once a month "I'm under construction"...lmao! or here's a couple more
"I'm raggin"
"I'm temporarily broken"

Good luck to ya' and remember...Don't be embarrased to tell him. Your a woman and you should always be proud of that!~

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what happens to your body if you masterbate and come a lot?
do you get ill or weak?
and do you get white spots on your face?

Absolutley not. There is nothing wrong with masturbating. You will not get sick, break-out, or anything else you might of heard. The only bad thing about masturbating for a guy, is if he does it to much, he can surcum to Carpal Tunnel Syndrome (Which is when your hand that you jack off with goes to sleep or tingles) that is easily fixable to, which is to just not jack off as much.

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I'm a married man. I used to have a group of female friends in high school and they recently contacted me. I want to see them, but my wife would probably not want me to. Should I see them secretly, ask my wife and respect her wishes, or tell my wife and do as I please? We are just friends.

Why not just include your wife in on whatever activities yall have planned for whenever your old high-school buds come back into town? Being a wife myself, if my husband was like im going to go see these girls I went to highschool with, kay bye. Yes I would be upset. Naturally, you should want to introduce your wife to these people, not want her to sit home. So, I think if you were like baby, some of my old highschool friends want to meet up for lunch, I want you to come so I can introduce them to my sexy ass wife...lol I think she would be perfectly fine with that. But if you just want to meet these girls and leave her out on it on purpose, then yea I would be upset to. Keeping it from her is also not good. What if someone that knows you sees you together with these women and goes back and tells your wife, then you got a lot more explaining to do. Plus, a story that she probably wont even believe. I mean you saying baby I swear I wasnt seeing another woman, there were old highschool friends, then she's going to wonder well if they were just friends then why couldnt he of told me that in the first place? I dunno, I'm not trying to make this more complicated for you, I just want you to see things from her point of view. What if someone came back to you and said Hey, I saw your wife with like 3 men at such-n-such. You would be pissed. So.... answer is: talk to her and let her know. Invite her to go.

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Omg, my mom just used this new brand of very strong hair dye (from the store), and she bought the color she usually gets! Problem is, since the product is so strong, the dye is put in twice as much, so her hair is completely black! (when she bought light brown!) We called the hotline & they apologized, but said we should have got the blonde. Wtf.

ANYWAY, not the problem. My question is, is there ANY way to make her hair lighter faster? Our next door neighbor told us washing your hair with dish detergent helps strip some color, but we didn't try it yet. Any suggestions? (DO NOT say lemon juice, k thanks)

My mom's a cosmotologist and I'm fixing to enroll in school to be one so here goes, I'm going to assume that going to a salon is out of the question because they would charge about $100 to get her hair back normal again. Go to walmart and buy the color stripper (I've never used so I'm not sure how the results would look) or buy hair bleach and bleach it whitish-blond and then dye it dark blonde- which will give her light brown hair. This is something I've had to do in the past. It's acutally not the Maker's of the hair-dye's fault. Actually it's no one's. When your hair is over proccessed with chemicals, it will turn alot faster and darker than the shade on any box. Expiernce has taught me that. I just recently dyed my sisters hair and bought light brown because I knew it would turn her hair dark brown which is what we were going for and everything turned out perfect. Make sure if this is something she decide's to do that she buy's something like Aussie 3 minute miracle to help re-store her hair after the bleach and dye process.
Also, do not attempt to cover up the black with any other dye as what she will end up with is orange-brown hair.

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what are some symptoms of depression?

Symptoms of depression may include feelings of sadness, hopelessness, and worthlessness, as well as complaints of physical pain and changes in appetite, sleep patterns, and energy level.

People with major depression may feel that nothing brings pleasure and that life is so dreary and unhappy that it is better to be dead.

Treatment of depression may include medication, talk therapy, or other strategies that you (or whoever this ? is about) and your health care provider may want to try.

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What are some products I can use to clear up my pimples? I don't have like brigh red acne just alot of little tiny pimples on my forehead and chine then blackheads all on my nose.

I already use AcneFree and I`m not getting much result. ProActive is too expensive, and I`ve already tried Clean and Clear, Stridex, Biore, and Clearisile.

Biore Pore Perfect-warming anit-blackhead cream cleanser. I absolutley swear by it. I'm 24 years old and I think I would just die if I didn't have this product lol.

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is it hard to give a blow job? and if youve never done it before and you give it to a guy.. if its not good enough will they not enjoy it?

People that said giving guys a blowjob is gross are probably 12 years old. In the adult world, in a serious relationship, there is nothing wrong with it. Girls like female pleasure of that kind, so why not make your man just as happy as he makes you? No giving one is not hard. The best advice I can give you on this topic is to make sure your teeth dont scrape his penis. EVERY guy will enjoy a blowjob so long as you dont scrape him. Also, the best sensation for him obviously, is the deeper the better but our gag reflex's can put a damper on that one lol.

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I need help with finding out how to get rid of my problem...my problem is i keep dreamiing about someone i know dying. It's really scaring me plz help!

Well, there's not really much you can do here. Your mind dreams because it is bored when your sleeping, it's a way to keep it self entertained so to speak. An old wives tail, which I think is true... Is, If you dream about someone dying, it means someone you know is going to become pregnant and if you dream about someone being pregnant then someone you know will die. Centuries ago, that's what they thought. That in order for a new life to come into the world, one had to come out.

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My 12 year old son has been bullied by a boy in our neighborhood for several years now. My son has a lot of friends, but of course all his friends are around his age and scared of the bully.

The bully (Gary) is 15. A few years ago my husband and I talked to Gary's parents, because he stole a toy from my son on the school bus. Gary claimed not to have the toy, and his parents protected him--and said we were in the wrong. This only child is perfect according to them. I have given up on going to the parents. The attitude of the police is "boys will be boys" (we live in a small town).

I caught Gary in the act a couple of weeks ago. He jumped on, and broke a ramp that my son and his friends built for their bikes. I told him he was acting like a 6 year old, and that someday someone bigger and meaner will come along and "take him out". He rode off on his bike in a hurry! However now he harasses my son about telling "Mommy". Last night he threw big rocks at my son's bike, causing some damage to paint. Apparently it even makes things worse if I interfear. Usually I do leave it to my son to settle disagreements, but this boy has crossed the line.

My 21 year old son, is 6'4, 240 lbs but If I use him to intimidate the 15 year old, this would be no different than a 15 year old picking on a 12 year old. Although...I doubt Gary has paid much attention to big brother. He'd probably be scared of him, we all know Gary is a coward in disguise.

My son does not want to walk away, because this means he would have to leave his other friends behind, plus he wants to "look tough" Any tips on dealing with a neighborhood bully?

The child's parents are no help and the cops are no help, so time to take matters into your own hands. I assume you bought that bike. That would seriously piss me off whith that little spawn of satan child throwing rocks and messing up the paint on it. Next time his bike is near your son, have him throw rocks at it. To each his own as they say. That might seem childish but really what else is there? He needs to see how it feels and yes if I had another son (the 21 year old) I would def. use him at my advantage to scare the 15 year old into leaving my other son alone. If all esle fails, time to get nasty with the parents and send them a bill for any damages his son did & tell them to keep there son away from your son and your property. You may not can do anything about the boy in general but you can charge him with tresspassing if he comes onto your property. Go buy a No Tresspassing sign and put it up.

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where do i buy air conditioner filters? do i have to have someone change them or can i do it myself? how often?

You do it your self. You can buy them almost anywhere, hardware stores, Wal-mart, target... you get the idea. They cost less than $5.00, it's so simple to change that a 5 yeard old could do it. Just get familar with your ac unit and change it like once every 1-3 months.

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i think mostly my sex drive is actually pretty much the same but.... it's just that even when i'm horny i cant get, i'm just going to be bold, because i don't see any way around it at the moment- wet. i know it's vulgar, but i couldnt think of any other way to put it. what should i do??

(Astroglide, K-Y). Lubricates your vagina for several hours. Moisturizers- (Replens, Lubrin). Vaginal moisturizers help moisturize your vagina and last longer than lubricants do; they may decrease dryness for up to three days with a single application.
Occasional vaginal dryness during intercourse may mean that you aren't sufficiently aroused. Make time to be intimate with your partner and allow your body to become adequately aroused and lubricated. It may help to talk with your partner about what feels good. Having intercourse regularly also may help promote better vaginal lubrication.

Avoid certain products
Though you may be willing to try just about anything to relieve your discomfort, avoid using the following products to treat vaginal dryness, because they may irritate your vagina:

Vinegar, yogurt or other douches
Hand lotions
Soaps
Bubble baths

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Me and my friend have been friends for a while and recently she told me about her cusion. i met him and a couple months later we started going out. just last week he broke up with me suddenly because he said he wasnt ready for a girlfriend.(but i think it was someting else) then the next day he e-mailed me back saying he was stupid he did and he still really likes me a lot and misses me. now he is on vacation and he said when he comes home he will have made a decision about going out with me or not. I really really like him but if he ends up asking me out i dont want to sound easy and say yes but i really like him im just not sure if i say yes all of the time to him he is not oging to repect me. Also i've never made-out before and im dying to with him because he is the only one i would but now i dont know what to do!
help me please!
-confused-

Couple red flags in your question I didnt care to much for. Him saying he wants you, then saying when he gets back from vacation he will have decided? I would've been like, no. I'm not putting my life on hold till you get back from vacation. You either want me now, or not at all. I still would tell him this. Let him think you got other opportunities. If he thinks your willing to sit around and wait on him, it'll only get worser.

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I will turn 15 this month, and I will test for my driving permit. What does the permit test in Texas consist of? Is there an actual driving part or is it just written? And will I have to take the test again in a year when I get my license? Thank you.

Oh My God, you live where Hank & Peggy Hill lives!! lol ok you might not get that joke if you dont watch King of The Hill. Anyways, The test consits of Passing an eye exam & Passing a traffic laws and road signs test. (If you fail the test, you must wait one week before taking it again. This will give you time to study). Different states require you to take the road signs test again upon obtaining your driver license. Go to this website, You'll find it quite helpful! It's the actual test that you'll be given.

http://driversed.com/courses/dmv-permit-test.aspx

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This is the same girl who had the belly button question earlier, how much does it hurt? I don't have a fear of needles, shots don't bother me, and when I got my ears pierced it wasn't hurting me that much. Thanks again!

Different people have different pain tolerances. Me and my best friend got it done at the same time and while for me, it wasn't that bad, you would've swore she was dying. lol. Have you ever had your cartilege pierced? I would compare the pain to that. My husband is in the Marines and they sort of own this logo so to speak, but as geeky as it sounds, I repeated it to myself while I was getting it done. "Pain is weakness leaving the body" lol it worked for me, maybe you could give it a shot? It literally takes about 15 seconds to have it pierced & the belly button piercing in place. Pain is beauty right?

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